Its been 5 months with my baby girl and I can honestly say I've never been so happy in my life. This is coming from a guy who was very much on the fence about having kids at one point.
While I can completely understand, and totally get it, when people say "they don't want kids".... because it is life changing, and it is hard hard hard hard ass work.... I can honestly say I wouldn't trade it for the world. Yes you do feel like you've given up a lot to have kids, you lose freedom, you lose time, you lose sleep, you lose money, etc.... but the unconditional love you feel from your child and for your child is really something out of this world. I mentioned to you in another post that I went through a lot of changes all at once, in the span of 1 month, I had a baby, defended and finished my phd, quit my family business, and got a new job that required me to move from Florida all the way to California! (Actually my baby came on the same day I had the interview for this job - this is a crazy story on its own)... so it was very very very intense for a while there. Timing for a lot of these events was not really ideal.
But today I went out to lunch with my wife and my baby, and at one point my baby was in her stroller and she caught a glimpse of me (scarfing down a burger like a fat ass) and gave me this huge smile when she noticed me looking back at her, it just made me feel like nothing else in the world mattered.
If any of you are thinking of being parents, feel free to shoot me any questions or concerns that you may have, I'll give it to you straight and won't sugarcoat anything.....
And if you choose that this is not for you... I don't judge you, and I totally understand. Just like marriage, Kids are not for everybody, if you're happy in your life as is, then more power to you.
Yes I was happy before I had a baby... I was VERY happy actually... but now I'm feeling a different type of happiness.
- Living the dream!