How do I permantly turn a guy off that keeps trying to come back like a boomerang? Last year in march I briefly dated a much younger guy and then dumped him when I realised he was wrong for me and not experienced enough in life. He contacted me several months later and I told him I was not interested and that he was a douch. Fast forward to Saturday and he sends me a message on Facebook saying that he's not being creepy but he saw me today and I looked great. I said thanks and he said that's okay. Now hes messaging me asking me what I am doing. I said I am cooking dinner and he's asking is it anything nice. In other words small talk. How do I turn him off for good? I have been quite mean to him last time he tried this even telling him I had zero feelings for him and that he doesn't know how to satisfy me. It worked for a while but now the boomerang has seen me. And all I was doing was shopping with a girlfriend and having lunch dressed in my gym clothes.
You are reasonably attractive and in decent shape for your age.
Trouble is, the fact you are single at this age and have been for some time will raise major alarm bells for any male that you consider to be a "catch".
How many times have we seen this guys? One of your mates comes along and describes the perfect woman.. "No kids, looks great, works out, own house & car, single and 35 but looks 25" -a good friend will always come back with "what's the catch" but it gets ignored & we all know how it works out - you & your mate 6 months later in the pub and him telling you about whatever psychotic event she just put him through.
So I think you have to get to grips with the fact that this is as good as it's going to get for you. You need to lower your expectations. You have kids too which is another strike against.
I think you should count yourself lucky with the guy above and marry him immediately.