Does being a funny guy automatically put you in a girl's "friend zone"?

[mahg]

I was rejected yesterday by a girl who has said I "make her laugh", am "hilarious" etc. I thought it meant she could be interested, since she clearly stated in her blog she wants a guy who is "intelligent", "able to hold a conversation", "make her laugh". I am nothing if not those 3. 

So what's the deal? Why can't I catch a break? Perhaps it has something to do with my height and looks even though women always say "looks don't matter". 


Side rant: It's funny that all these douchebags who just want to have sex with a girl and be done with her get all the tang they want and then avoid the girl. I am one of the "good guys" who wants a commitment, who will stay, yet we can't catch a break in this fucking world!  Guys that don't give a shit about women always get them, maybe that's what I should try to  be? 

[danielson]

I was rejected yesterday by a girl

No way!

[ripitupbaby]

I was rejected yesterday by a girl who has said I "make her laugh", am "hilarious" etc. I thought it meant she could be interested, since she clearly stated in her blog she wants a guy who is "intelligent", "able to hold a conversation", "make her laugh". I am nothing if not those 3. 

So what's the deal? Why can't I catch a break? Perhaps it has something to do with my height and looks even though women always say "looks don't matter". 

Side rant: It's funny that all these douchebags who just want to fuck a girl and be done with her get all the tang they want and then avoid the girl. I am one of the "good guys" who wants a commitment, who will stay, yet we can't catch a break in this fucking world!  Guys that don't give a shit about women always get them, maybe that's what I should try to  be? 

mahg honey, if you are one of the good guys, then you will get one of the good girls.  Be patient.   

How old are you?  DId you say you were 16?  And what's this about your height and looks?

And NO, being a funny guy does not automatically put you in a "friend zone" forever. 
Humor and intelligence are extremely attractive qualities....not to mention that some of the best and most successful relationships start in the "friend zone."

 

[trab]

Now that you MENTIONED height, Im courious... If you'd just come across as 10ft tall and bullet proof w/ self-condidence (not Arrogance) nobody notice your size......

Women dont want a guy that treats them like crap (Not any women you want to spend time with)
Funny's got me girls... Listening to them, and knowing what they like and feel does to.

Are (were) you dealing w/ her onLine? If so, get flirty in person everywhere you can.....
She Dont have to be beauty queen. Just learn to get women to respond to you in the store, street, gym,
While they are working.... It dont cost anything, and its fun.... WTF....

How were you trying to get her attention or to go out w/ you?

[windsor88]

Yep the friend zone.  These women cry about what they want and when it is right in front of their face they want something else.  You will find the right one but it does take time.  Just don't change who you are because when you try to change then the game changes.  If ass is all you want then yes I would be an outgoing semi-asshole.  For some reason a better part of the female population likes that shit.  I really do not know why.  Now there will be rebuttals coming I am sure but I am old enough to have seen it many many many times. It's not like I am the only one who knows this either.  Some woman call it confidence but I call it being a self conceited jerk.  I have been married for 10 years and have never had any drama.  Only cuz I waited for the right one. 

Good Luck and don't turn homo.

[windsor88]

OMG..I just read that you are 16?

That changes things.  Get drunk and party and you will definitely find a hookup.

I thought you were an old dude like myself.

[ripitupbaby]

OMG..I just read that you are 16?

That changes things.  Get drunk and party and you will definitely find a hookup.

I thought you were an old dude like myself.

hahaha I may have made up the part about him being 16, I can't remember. 

I wouldn't say I necessarily disagree with your advice, but it depends on how old he is. 

[windsor88]

hahaha I may have made up the part about him being 16, I can't remember. 

I wouldn't say I necessarily disagree with your advice, but it depends on how old he is. 

lol  Oh well.  I am sure he will release his venom one way or another.   

BTW..who changed the b-word I had to women?  That's funny.

[knny187]

3 rules......


being nice won't get women


being a phallus won't get women








being an ASS gets you women


 

[ripitupbaby]

lol  Oh well.  I am sure he will release his venom one way or another.   

BTW..who changed the b-word I had to women?  That's funny.

haha  I didn't see your original post.  Someone's on the ball tonight!   

[DIVISION]

I was rejected yesterday by a girl who has said I "make her laugh", am "hilarious" etc. I thought it meant she could be interested, since she clearly stated in her blog she wants a guy who is "intelligent", "able to hold a conversation", "make her laugh". I am nothing if not those 3. 

So what's the deal? Why can't I catch a break? Perhaps it has something to do with my height and looks even though women always say "looks don't matter". 


Side rant: It's funny that all these douchebags who just want to have sex with a girl and be done with her get all the tang they want and then avoid the girl. I am one of the "good guys" who wants a commitment, who will stay, yet we can't catch a break in this fucking world!  Guys that don't give a shit about women always get them, maybe that's what I should try to  be? 

Most women will say they want a "nice guy" but those guys get f***ed over all the time.

It's the guys who are edgy with a badboy steak that get the women they want.

The type of women who go for me typically don't go for nice guys, and I make it clear that I'm not that type so they know what they're getting in to.

On a side note:  Once you are in that "friend zone", your chances of getting out are slim.

Good luck, baby mahgs....


DIV

[freespirit]

  Guys that don't give a shit about women always get them, maybe that's what I should try to  be? 

I don't give advice. But, isn't it obvious that these wannabe tough guys who treat women like shit always end up with women who want to be treated like shit? It's not that they can get the best sort of women. And I don't consider these 'guys' as 'the top of the food chain'.

I like a woman with confidence. Insecure women don't do it for me. Physical appearance isn't all that matters to. There has to be a certain 'click', I don't know how to tell it in English language.

Most women find it difficult to decide what to think of me. I don't fit in any category. Fun loving guy I am mostly, but also sharp as a razor-blade when attacked. I'm not a bad guy nor a good guy, to say it simply.

Just be true to yourself.

[Quickerblade]

Seriously if the girl is hot and i get in the friend zone i rather not be friends, thats why i generally come on to them pretty quick to avoid the friend zone ( I know it sound crass), i dont need a "Girl" Friend unless she loves watching Entourage we really dont have much in common.

[trab]

NIce Guy? Or weak and allows (expects?) a woman to be in control?
I maintain even the most aggressive self-made women are usually uncomfortable w/ that situation.
Actually, They more so that more passive girls... But it manifests in strange ways...

You have to be respectfull, and considerate of her, But I truly feel most women want (Genetically NEED)
a guy who makes them feel secure.  And that aint some mushy nut-less worm who cant make a decision and follow thru.
Women want a guy they KNOW is going to stand up for them and their child, regardless of the situation.

Is being a "Nice guy" not standing up for yourself when she starts to claim a little more of the relation than is fair?
    If so - You just failed the test. Your Prize? A MISSERBLE MARRIAGE/ RELATION at best.

But Respect needs work in both directions.

Treating Gals like crap will simply score you - Gals who like to be treated like crap. Not my type.

[freespirit]

Treating Gals like crap will simply score you - Gals who like to be treated like crap. Not my type.

That's the truth. 

[mahg]

I seem to have this knack of getting in every girl's friend zone. This shit sucks. Being the intelligent funny guy doesn't get the girl. I'm like on MSN WASTING MY TIME yapping with her for 10 hours every night , being the nice smart funny guy she claims she wants, trying to plant some seeds, yet she just wants to complain to me that the guy she loves, wants another girl.

I'm like WTF, HELLOO HELLOO YOU'VE GOT A GUY RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU WHO WORSHIPS THE GROUND YOU WALK ON, WHO MEETS ALL YOUR SUPPOSED "CRITERIA". WHY AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR U, damit I'd make her happier than that other f guy.  I WOULD LIKE DO ANYTHING FOR HER MY WHOLE LIFE WOULD BE ABOUT MAKING SURE SHES HAPPY.

I am going to DUMP THE FRIENDSHIP. I AM GOING TO DUMP HER FROM BEING MY FRIEND. I NEED TO GIVE SOMEONE MY LOVE AND I NEED TO BE LOVED BACK HELL. I HAVE PLENTY OF LOVE TO GIVE AND WANT TO RECEIVE PLENTY OF LOVE BACK    I WANT A COMMITMENT I WANT YOUR HEART I WANT YOUR LOVE.

I KNOW, MELTDOWN, IM DRUNK, FUCK. IT NEVER HAPPENS FOR ME. THIS SHIT SUCKS. 

[Quickerblade]

Dont be down man, keep talking to gals

[trab]

Unless you know for a FACT she lives close to you, your wasting your time on MSN.
Get off the computer and get to the mall or whatever.

Women like a guy thats aggressive, but not rude. They got to know/ feel that you think they are sexy and are interested in them for that reason or your wasting your time.

If your not getting inviting feedback/ approval from your subtle sexual innuendo - She ain't interested. Move on.
Hell, then your basically like their "Perfect Gay Guy Friends" that so many of them like, If you LET that be the situation.
Sounds like your creating that.

Conversely, you cant make her feel that ALL you want is Sex. I find it works best if you 1. Get them talking/ interested in you, but don't even let on that you think shes sexy till she starts to signal insecurity that shes not attractive to you. (This SHould happen quickly)
(Women are used to guys staring at their tits and such, If you DONT do that at first (Talk directly to her eyes) - until you get the unspoken invite that its OK with her (Touching you, Positioning herself vulnerable, hair games etc), it gets her all up in a mental quandary, as well as insecure about her attractiveness...
THEN - You casually let her know, YES she's VERY attractive TO YOU, but thats not ALL your interested in.
This is a  whole lot easier to do if you've been around, and scored a lot of women.

If your allways labled "Nice Guys/ Freind" to them, you may need be more aggressive. Not a rude ass, or abusive, but you may be surprised how physical and aggressive many gals are. 

[danielson]

Mahg, You are sounding weak. "Your whole life would be about making her happy?" No girls wants to date a seemingly weak man, you need to have the attitude that her life should be about making you happy. Do you have any really ugly girls around where you live? It sounds like you have champagne taste on a beer budget, or in other words you are trying to get some girls that are way out of your league. If you could get over the drooling, I think maybe you should find a girl.

[trab]

You are sounding like a pussy. "Your whole life would be about making her happy?" No girls wants to date a big pussy, you need to have the attitude that her life should be about making you happy. Now I know, I saw your pics and God obviously fucked you over in the looks department, but thats still no reason to act like such a bitch. Do you have any really ugly girls around where you live? It sounds like you have champagne taste on a beer budget, or in other words you are trying to fuck some girls that are way out of your league. If you could get over the drooling, I think maybe you should find a girl with downs syndrome or some other type of deformity, sounds like normal bitches are just too frustrating for you.

WhooHoo..! Take it easy Dan.. I bet I could school the kid how to score WAY out of his League...
Regardless of his appearance..

BUT - Your right... Too "nice" is not becoming to women... Nature favored guys that protected their women and kids, not
"Nice Guys".

If a young guy thinks all women allways want a tender-gentle-warm-feelings guy -  Wrong!
       Ive known women that'd have HIM calling 911...   "       

[mahg]

WhooHoo..! Take it easy Dan.. I bet I could school the kid how to score WAY out of his League...
Regardless of his appearance..

BUT - Your right... Too "nice" is not becoming to women... Nature favored guys that protected their women and kids, not
"Nice Guys".

If a young guy thinks all women allways want a tender-gentle-warm-feelings guy -  Wrong!
       Ive known women that'd have HIM calling 911...   "       

Then school me trab. I want to score WAY out of my league and make her jealous. Its not even looks, I have fallen hopelessly in love with her personality. See, she cuts herself. She's miserable. She has so many problems. She's funny. She's crazy. That is such a turn on to me for some reason, I want to be the guy that takes away all her pain and suffering. But she doesn't want me back. 

[trab]

Then school me trab. I want to score WAY out of my league and make her jealous. Its not even looks, I have fallen hopelessly in love with her personality. See, she cuts herself. She's miserable. She has so many problems. She's funny. She's crazy. That is such a turn on to me for some reason, I want to be the guy that takes away all her pain and suffering. But she doesn't want me back. 

#1. TOTALY Forget anyone who cuts themself (unless its a family member or old dear friend) you are just throwing your life down the toilet. Get as much space between them and you ASAP. Im DEAD SERIOUS.
If you want to be a social worker, go get a degree in it and leave that shit at work when you punch out.
Get involved w/ that will destroy you.

Can I ask how old you are?  Life takes time...
When your young, you just need to learn to relate to women. As you age, yours and their personality, wants, needs etc will also change.  What you want/ Value at 20 is much different than 30, and again at 40...

You will find women are not so different than yourself. Just try to relate to them like that. But, you ARE looking for a
mate for a long term relation, correct???  Well, she need understand that pretty quick.

There is a major distinction between making a woman feel good about herself (Sexy, desirable etc) and being
a slobbering, weak little worm totaly at her mercy if she so chose... They dont want that, its repulsive.
Acting all stunned by a Hot womans looks is the best way to make sure you never get busy w/ her..

Need to relate to her as a person, but make her feel special. Listen to the stuff she talks and pick out little things she likes and surprise her...... The fact you pay close attention is the thing...

Need feel a lot of selfconfidence and never miss a chance to get touching going on ASAP. The way you sublty touch at first, and Hold total eye contact is real important... This is somthing need learn by trial and error...

I'll make coment about a piece of jewlery or clothing and let my hands wander to a safe area and  run Mr finger down a arm or ear or  ... This done right gets you closer to her modling her wardrobe collection 4 you..
A firm enough hand grip at the right time also goes a long way...
They like us for what they are not... Strength etc.

Seriously forget that girl thats carving on her body. Thats a disaster to get involved in. You cant save the world, worry about yourself...
 

[ToxicAvenger]

I am one of the "good guys" who wants a commitment, who will stay,

some good looking american gals need you to be an ass...they mistake an ass with an alpha male..i'm gonna get chewed out by a lot of single gals for this 

either change and learn how to be an ass till she falls for ya...once she's fallen then you can go ahead and be nice..but not to nice...

OR you could simply avoid the whole mess by dating european girls...the non americanized ones..

[trab]

some good looking american gals need you to be an ass...they mistake an ass with an alpha male..i'm gonna get chewed out by a lot of single gals for this 

either change and learn how to be an ass till she falls for ya...once she's fallen then you can go ahead and be nice..but not to nice...

OR you could simply avoid the whole mess by dating european girls...the non americanized ones..

Naughty Naughty referance to "americanized" you in trouble now...

[windsor88]

I have fallen hopelessly in love with her personality. See, she cuts herself. She's miserable. She has so many problems. She's funny. She's crazy. That is such a turn on to me for some reason, I want to be the guy that takes away all her pain and suffering. But she doesn't want me back. 

Danny wheres his PIC?  Get that in archive dude cuz this guy could be a stalker.