Point being...as you ask what steps I've taken to get BBers to not use rec drugs, etc...it's the same as trying to get a good friend of yours to stop being "in the game"...try as you may, it's a wasted effort...and they ultimately do what they want anyweay, knowing full well the consequences of their actions.
I did have several conversations with him about it, and tried to discourage him, but it didn't make a difference, and I was just an acquaintance, hardly a close friend that supposedly you and Tom were.
I'm not saying you could have changed Tom's ways, but judging from your posts on here, you never bothered to talk to him about his demons, and could have cared less. ........Then again correct me if I am wrong.