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feeling depressed. I could do anything with my life but im paralyzed by the choices available, and none of them really seem appealing.
mood is everything.
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feeling depressed. I could do anything with my life but im paralyzed by the choices available, and none of them really seem appealing.
mood is everything.
If you live your life based on your emotions at any given point, then your life will have no focus.
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keep yourself busy and you wont be as depressed,make goals & accomplish.
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Is going back to school an option? being exposed to many new views and opportunities... along with being forced to stop working/tv/etc and just think about your options... helps many people
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I could do anything with my life but im paralyzed by the choices available, and none of them really seem appealing.
Don't worry too much about it... your choices aren't really all that important. In 80 years (or less) you'll be dead, and probably no more than 60 or so years after that everyone you have ever met will also be dead.
Hope this helps.
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so your reponses suggest that I should just stay the course and my feelings will pass. Well you're probably both right. That is what I'm doing. I haven't made plans to join a monastery etc. BUT it doesn't feel that way now. I feel like that talking heads song: how did I get here, and I find myself with a beautiful wife, and a beautiful house, as these days go by. You know the one I'm talking about. I just ended up where I am by not making decisions, by just taking the path laid out for me. I have a chance to change course, but I have no idea what to do, or even how to go about changing. I don't know if I'm willing to make the sacrifices necessary to change.
I would really just like a little bit of magic. Somehow for things to work themselves out for me. I know that's not how the world works. That's just what I would like.
oh and berzerk fury, that does seem kind of appealing. I wont do it though not in my character.
240 Going back to school could be an option, I think the wife wants me to keep earning though. She likes to watch the savings accounts grow. So I would have to fight against that. Basically just deal with disappointing her.
goatboy I hope to live long enough to live forever...to achieve actuarial escape velocity so to speak.
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"keep movin' forward, that's how winning is done!"
Rocky Balboa
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"keep movin' forward, that's how winning is done!"
Rocky Balboa
lol I always loved rocky (well 5 was pretty bad). It's funny but that really does make me feel better. thanks
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rofl beserk, its time to end your life my friend shapes...Nobody hear will comfort here only encourage you to self terminate.
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are u married with kids and all that. If not, just take off and do what you want, regardless of money. Live your life by your rules. I do that now. I live in a place for like 3 months, if I dont like it I move along. Ido the jobs I want and if I dont like them I quit and find something else. I'm shit ass poor, but I am the happiest I have ever been. And I've had a sick high paying job, sports cars, warehouse condo, the works. I wouldnt take that back for anything, it sucked. I love life the way it is now.But also, I am considered a pretty weird dude for this. Hope this helps.
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Find something that gets you excited and go for it...I'm sure the guys are gonna take what I said all kinds of places it was never meant to go but anyway, get excited about SOMETHING!
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What if shiftedShapes is a liberal? ;D
if that is the case, then it's most likely the reason why he's depressed, liberals are generally very angry, pessimistic&unhappy individuals.
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I just ended up where I am by not making decisions, by just taking the path laid out for me.
Sorry bro, but if you not making decisions yourself, decisions will be made for you, and since they are not yours you'll always be left dissapointed.
But check this out: in universal scope life is actually pointless: Nature's way is for organisms to be born, feed, grow, regress, and die. Thats it!
However, in each specific case its up to the individual (you!) to figure out what your purpose is and explore it! Some people figure it out early, some late, some never do. But then again, some people don't even look for that purpose, they just eat, sleep, shit, and watch TV.
The fact that you are wondering about purpose already makes you different from them. Maybe your purpose is to search for purpose? ;)
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are u married with kids and all that. If not, just take off and do what you want, regardless of money. Live your life by your rules. I do that now. I live in a place for like 3 months, if I dont like it I move along. Ido the jobs I want and if I dont like them I quit and find something else. I'm shit ass poor, but I am the happiest I have ever been. And I've had a sick high paying job, sports cars, warehouse condo, the works. I wouldnt take that back for anything, it sucked. I love life the way it is now.But also, I am considered a pretty weird dude for this. Hope this helps.
Avesher and Buff. I wish I could follow your advice. I am married but not with kids. My wife and I are on the career fast track and I think I might want off. I don't think she's ready to step off though. She would like us to move towards financial stability and have kids in 5 years or so. I think I want it to some extent too, but it really is not making me happy. At the very least I'd like to take a few months and contemplate my situation, but I'm afraid to step off the track because maybe I won't be able to get back on.
Matt C I'm more of a libertarian than a liberal, oh and 240 I thought 9-11 was an inside job from the very beginning.
d-bol, you're definitely right, most people don't stop to think. Maybe my purpose is to be the first person to get super huge off myostatin inhibitors.
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search your feelings and join the darkside.
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search your feelings and join the darkside.
yes it is tempting to wall myself off inside a thick layer of muscles. To feel the power course through me like gay wild horses through a field of daffodils.
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seriously though. I look in the mirror and don't even see a myself. I see a person that I've been watching my whole life. What will he do next. Should I, the viewer, even care.
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Stop fucking whining and change yourself then, clown. You're the only one who has any control over your life, so stop being a pussy and do something about it. Live with no regrets.
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seriously though. I look in the mirror and don't even see a myself. I see a person that I've been watching my whole life. What will he do next. Should I, the viewer, even care.
have you tried shifting shapes??like moving your couch from one room to the other.that would fill your day up and trust me you won't get bored..lol
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Go put on a Nirvana album and cry yourself to sleep you pantywaste.
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Go put on a Nirvana album and cry yourself to sleep you pantywaste.
hahahahahaahhahaha...i think he should listen to kevin federlines album ;D
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Stop fucking whining and change yourself then, clown. You're the only one who has any control over your life, so stop being a pussy and do something about it. Live with no regrets.
I would like to. Really. There is something that I love to do, but I would make next to no money doing it, at least at first, and maybe forever. As it is I do it as a hobby. maybe If I do it as a career it won't be as enjoyable. To get what I'm saying think about the difference between working out for fun and health, and doing it as a career. To do the later you need to basically pimp yourself. Well i'm not interested in being a pro BBer, I'm just pointing ou that making a career out of a hobby can sour it.
Also, I'm noticing an advantage to this depressed mood. I already have nasty voices in my head so belligerent responses don't agitate me as they normally would. They just seem like external projections of the constant brow beating that I'm inflicting upon myself.
Brain X which one should I play? I liked the song lithium, maybe I should take some of that.
shadow I think kev's album has probably been pulled from stores, that is one dude who is more depressed than me. Went from thinking he would be the next j timberlake, to just being a laughing stock
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Stop fucking whining and change yourself then, clown. You're the only one who has any control over your life, so stop being a pussy and do something about it. Live with no regrets.
harsh, but true...no one can change anything for you but yourself....
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harsh, but true...no one can change anything for you but yourself....
yeah it's tough being an adult. It just kind of creeps up on you. That's the weirdest part. I can do whatever I want really. I just have to decide what. I guess just thinking about it is part of the solution, but in this mood I don't see the eureka moment coming.
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Okay all your whining is pointless. Get a "pocket pussy" and masturbate...
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Okay all your whining is pointless. Get a "pocket pussy" and masturbate...
hey babe wazz up :-*
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"keep movin' forward, that's how winning is done!"
Rocky Balboa
Damn dude that was good even made me fool good, ha
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Find something new to do. Maybe give hetrosexual sex a try?
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hey babe wazz up :-*
I don't know...Just relaxing after a brutal leg workout....
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I don't know...Just relaxing after a brutal leg workout....
i'll message your legs :-*
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Shifted Shapes,
I will help you out. Remember what we talked about a few months ago? Want to help make it happen?
I could use a good mind like yourself. At least you will never have to work again in your life. Can you deal with that?
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Shifted Shapes,
I will help you out. Remember what we talked about a few months ago? Want to help make it happen?
I could use a good mind like yourself. At least you will never have to work again in your life. Can you deal with that?
TA, Quit trying to do the " backside hamstring massage" Leave the poor dude alone to suffer in his own quagmire...
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Shapes, take a few months off and go somewhere you've always wanted to go, with or w/o the wife. Do what you feel you need to do, get your head right, and live deliberately.
Maybe try a shrink if you think it would help, it works for Tony Soprano.
Fvcking college girls is always good therapy too. It works for Tony Soprano.
Get your wife into bdsm and hang her from the rafters on wed nights, maintenance spanking other nights.
Go skydiving.
Streak a televised sporting event (paint SS on you so we know it's you).
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Oh, and a little shoe polish under the nose. The first "Hitler Streak" in history - who says there's nothing new under ther sun?
Hang in there Shapes.
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Maybe you could sit down with a pen and paper and write the pros and cons of your life, or simply write things that you're unhappy with. Once you've got a few things down, work out how to fix these problems to make your life better and happier.
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Maybe you could sit down with a pen and paper and write the pros and cons of your life, or simply write things that you're unhappy with. Once you've got a few things down, work out how to fix these problems to make your life better and happier.
You have to be female, or a really gay male. Either way ,you're cool
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Also, I'm noticing an advantage to this depressed mood. I already have nasty voices in my head so belligerent responses don't agitate me as they normally would. They just seem like external projections of the constant brow beating that I'm inflicting upon myself.
"Hello darkness my old friend"
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Life isn't short. Life is long. ANd REALLY f'ing long when you are unhappy.
Budget it out, get a stafford loan, go back to school and learn what you really wanna do. If you're happier, the wife will be okay with the initial $ hit.
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just lookin at the animated picture below the youandme's nickname reassures me that life isn't pointless... :P
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yeah it's tough being an adult. It just kind of creeps up on you. That's the weirdest part. I can do whatever I want really. I just have to decide what. I guess just thinking about it is part of the solution, but in this mood I don't see the eureka moment coming.
man, it might not sound pleasant, but maybe its your wife?
One can get really dull livin w/ same partner for long time, and unfortunately merriges often fail
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man, it might not sound pleasant, but maybe its your wife?
One can get really dull livin w/ same partner for long time, and unfortunately merriges often fail
Personally, I think the fact that he doesn't want to take a leap out of the norm and explore something different because his wife wouldn't like it says something about him. I picture marriage to be something blissful. You're with your to-be life partner; there should be no comprimises. That's one thing he should asess right there, but maybe my view of marriage isn't typical.
Life's hard, but dealing with things that are dragging you down will only make it harder. Get rid of those things and your life opens up.
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only 940 posts? no wonder you're depressed. when you reach 5 stars your whole life changes.
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Monster New Years meltdown resolution
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Don't worry too much about it... your choices aren't really all that important. In 80 years (or less) you'll be dead, and probably no more than 60 or so years after that everyone you have ever met will also be dead.
Hope this helps.
just use these words of wisdom and what could possibly be that important? It helps. Remember, no one gets out alive.
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feeling depressed. I could do anything with my life but im paralyzed by the choices available, and none of them really seem appealing.
mood is everything.
How you think and feel is.... Figure out what you need to do, put one step infront of the other, have faith and confidance and do it! Once you get started, other ways of accomplishing your goals will rear their head, but not until you just get started.
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You sound like you're lacking a sense of purpose and that you need to belong to something. Something that's bigger than yourself and that will give your life real meaning. You need to join a team. TEAM ARVILLA!!!
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Just follow your heart.
I've been a night club singer with The Glass Menagerie, I've been a gymnast, an ice skater, a Kansas City Athletics professional baseball player, and married to a heroid addict.
Life takes many turns. I saw a man they called the "Dog" when I was 20, and have since devoted my life to hunting his heart.
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feeling depressed. I could do anything with my life but im paralyzed by the choices available, and none of them really seem appealing.
mood is everything.
It seems a Lot of people have that feeling this time of year. Keep your head up, think positive, and go get em tiger.
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feeling depressed. I could do anything with my life but im paralyzed by the choices available, and none of them really seem appealing.
mood is everything.
'We all have the power to choose. But no one has the power to escape the necessity of choice'
'Hugh Akston'
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Dance as though no one is watching you
Love as though you have never been hurt before
Sing as though no one can hear you
Live as though heaven is on earth
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Life's a garden, dig it. 8)
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feeling depressed. I could do anything with my life but im paralyzed by the choices available, and none of them really seem appealing.
mood is everything.
move...its that simple...
if i were ever homeless and depressed i'd somehow find my way to hawaii..
being homeless in hawaii would be better than any other place no...
there r always options..
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so your reponses suggest that I should just stay the course and my feelings will pass. Well you're probably both right. That is what I'm doing. I haven't made plans to join a monastery etc. BUT it doesn't feel that way now. I feel like that talking heads song: how did I get here, and I find myself with a beautiful wife, and a beautiful house, as these days go by. You know the one I'm talking about. I just ended up where I am by not making decisions, by just taking the path laid out for me. I have a chance to change course, but I have no idea what to do, or even how to go about changing. I don't know if I'm willing to make the sacrifices necessary to change.
I would really just like a little bit of magic. Somehow for things to work themselves out for me. I know that's not how the world works. That's just what I would like.
oh and berzerk fury, that does seem kind of appealing. I wont do it though not in my character.
240 Going back to school could be an option, I think the wife wants me to keep earning though. She likes to watch the savings accounts grow. So I would have to fight against that. Basically just deal with disappointing her.
goatboy I hope to live long enough to live forever...to achieve actuarial escape velocity so to speak.
Are you a fucking girl!!!?
Pull you finger outta your ass and get on with life! Set a course and piss down it!
If we all sat around crying like a fag all the time we'd get nowhere!!! If I ever I get to the point where I need to come here to get help then you are in need of a good hard slap, my dear boy you are at a low ebb!!!.
Coming to Getbig for a boost!! Now that is a Dichotomy if ever i saw one!
ta ta
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measure flex wheelers bodyfat level, in a body fat raid
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so your reponses suggest that I should just stay the course and my feelings will pass. Well you're probably both right. That is what I'm doing. I haven't made plans to join a monastery etc. BUT it doesn't feel that way now. I feel like that talking heads song: how did I get here, and I find myself with a beautiful wife, and a beautiful house, as these days go by. You know the one I'm talking about. I just ended up where I am by not making decisions, by just taking the path laid out for me. I have a chance to change course, but I have no idea what to do, or even how to go about changing. I don't know if I'm willing to make the sacrifices necessary to change.
I would really just like a little bit of magic. Somehow for things to work themselves out for me. I know that's not how the world works. That's just what I would like.
SS,
This sounds like your ordinary midlife crisis. Let me guide you Iron Brother. You're thinking about cheating on your wife with that hottie from the gym. Don't do it. Jerk off using her as your fantasy and see how you feel afterwards. Alone with nothing but a dirty tissue. You'll feel worse if you actually do her. Alone with nothing but a dirty whore. Don't take chances like that. Instead, plan on making the trip to the Arnold Expo where you can bang fitness chicks and are immune from spousal prosecution. Aside from the 100-mile rule and the outside-state-lines rule, there's also a little known "fitness chick" rule that offers catch-all protections. Just don't give out the home or cell numbers. Instead get a disposable prepay-as-you-go phone. These are great for extramarital activities. Leave the phone in the office or the gym locker. You can check messages from a regular phone but still have that caller-ID number that chicks need so they can feel they can safely give it up. Go on lots of business trips. Expos and trade shows are great. If you can swing the porn convention in Vegas, that is worthwhile. You need to spice it up but don't want to resort to begging or lame happy-endings from Thai hookers posing as Spa specialists. I hear ya brother.
Despite your temptations, don't do any of the following:
"Peterson" your wife a/k/a "Smoke her in the midst of a mid-life crisis and get the death penalty"
"Murphy" your wife a/k/a "Knock her up knowing full well you're halfway out the door and adding to your future child support payments"
"McNeill" your wife a/k/a "Get caught cheating and then a shotgun blast in the face"
"OJ" your wife a/k/a "Divorce her and then get jealous of her banging a 25-year old waiter and then 'Peterson' her"
"Tommy" your wife a/k/a "Bang a porn star knowing full well word will get back to your wife within the hour"
"Bobbitt" your wife a/k/a "Make her so angry and miserable that she hacks off your penile unit while you sleep"
Here's your solution: Score some gear, clomid, proviron and gh. Find your wife a hobby that keeps her out of the house or tell her your salary was cut in half and make her get a job. Bang some younger and hotter chicks according to the House Rules. Buy an awesome sports car and declare that Saturday is "My Day" so you can do whatever the fudge you want without having to live the boring and mundane existence you currently have.
Good luck Iron Brother!
Special "Dr. Ruthless" Ed
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feeling depressed. I could do anything with my life but im paralyzed by the choices available, and none of them really seem appealing.
mood is everything.
join the army. It'll give you a sense of pride and purpose. I did and I'm happier than ever.
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yes it is tempting to wall myself off inside a thick layer of muscles. To feel the power course through me like gay wild horses through a field of daffodils.
HAHAHAH funny as hell.
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Life isn't short. Life is long. ANd REALLY f'ing long when you are unhappy.
Budget it out, get a stafford loan, go back to school and learn what you really wanna do. If you're happier, the wife will be okay with the initial $ hit.
"School" is quite overrated in the grand scheme of things.
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"School" is quite overrated in the grand scheme of things.
Why do you feel this way?
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Avesher and Buff. I wish I could follow your advice. I am married but not with kids. My wife and I are on the career fast track and I think I might want off. I don't think she's ready to step off though. She would like us to move towards financial stability and have kids in 5 years or so. I think I want it to some extent too, but it really is not making me happy. At the very least I'd like to take a few months and contemplate my situation, but I'm afraid to step off the track because maybe I won't be able to get back on.
Matt C I'm more of a libertarian than a liberal, oh and 240 I thought 9-11 was an inside job from the very beginning.
d-bol, you're definitely right, most people don't stop to think. Maybe my purpose is to be the first person to get super huge off myostatin inhibitors.
If you're happily married then that's a logical goal to shoot for. There's your purpose right there if you needed one. Why would you want off the fast track? I assume you're not rich or wealthy. In this country, barring any can of inheritence, you need to work to make a good life for yourself. Whether that work is back breaking or within the confines of a comfy office, you need to put yourself out there to make a good life for you and your family. Quit whining, dude. Don't be afraid. Your life is a constant state of evolution. You either ride the wave, or the wave rides over you and leaves you in the fucking dust. You will have a hard time getting back on track once you step off.
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"School" is quite overrated in the grand scheme of things.
I disagree.
http://www.getbig.com/boards/index.php?topic=95502.550
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I feel where your coming from and I have been dealing with this bullshit for 4 straight years now....sometimes worse than others but it is a constant struggle.
The problem with me is that it feeds off of itself....I will get to feeling bad and then when i feel bad my interaction with others suffers tremendously. I am simply not able to function well at all when i'm feeling bad.......and all that leads to is more bad feelings.
The lucky thing is that it is almost 100% in your/my head. Life is how you see it. What seems to help me is to, when you are feeling bad(with me that is 80% of the time recently) just do the right thing, don't do anything that will puch you further down, and try to set the wheels in motion for positive outcomes...anything, it doesnt matter, just positive outcomes. I am by no means over it and will always deal with depression but trying to manage it is all you can do and just remember that nothing is worth it....
I hope this helps
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Sounds like you need a change. Take a holiday and think about what you really want to do with your life then do it.
You've only got one life. Dont waste it being unhappy.
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if your wife sniffs this pussiness on you, she'll cheat on you.
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wtf is this thread about?
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I'm still all for you killing yourself. Let me know how it goes.
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You bitches want me to play kumbaya for you?
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I'm still all for you killing yourself. Let me know how it goes.
haven't worked up the balls yet.
some good advice from the rest of you.
BigWyte you obviously know what I'm dealing with. Basically I have been taking concrete steps to improve my situation and just hoping that my feelings turn around eventually. I feel a little bit better with each step I take.
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feeling depressed. I could do anything with my life but im paralyzed by the choices available, and none of them really seem appealing.
mood is everything.
stop doing drugs! u'll be fine after that... ;D
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Just sign your life over to the army. let them figure out what to do with it
worked for me
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go buy the book or DVD of "the secret"...Or goggle "Law of Attraction"...
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shift how is your faith? Are you semi-religious?
We all have been or will be at the point you are at atleast once. Some decide to deal with it and some don't and are unconscious or don't understand it and choose to ignore the feeling and some see this as a moment to do something about it. You should embrace this moment and reach out for guidance from your strong character and your faith to get you past these dire times. Not asking you to become a holy roller bible (or whatever) thumper, just confess your sins, problems, insecurities..etc in your faith and accept his/her mercy and forgiveness. The only thing left is for you to take things day by day and pray for serenity to accept what you don't understand and have the courage to work on yourself.
The funny thing about these times are you are probably like I was at like 90% full potential and just needed that extra kick to get that "it" or whatever I was missing BUT you don't seem to know what "it" is to complete you and make you whole. Turned out I needed to have a piece of mind in certain aspects of my life where I wanted to "understand what I couldn't control" Once I did that, I was all good man. You know who you are better than anyone on here or even your family, you just are at a stage where you are wondering where or how do you reach your full potential in life. Which direction should you go. This way or that way. I've been there.
The fact of the matter is you have to begin with you and what is surrounding you. Once you have been granted mercy the rest is up to you and you only. You have to avoid pessimistic (sp) negative people, try to surround yourself around optimistic people while you remain optimistic..in every single aspect in life...all corners bro.
Stay busy when you have down time. If you have to call a friend and take them to lunch to fill a slot when you aren't doing anything..do it. Clean your crib, get some new gear, don't lay around the house like a slob..throw on some gear turn the music on and enjoy, get a new supplement and work out harder. Sign up for competitions, 15k's whatever..just do something to compensate when you know you will have a lot of time to think.
It's a day by day process, but humble yourself and take the high road on EVERY situation in life from here on out and I promise you that full potential will come full circle through the grace of your superior of your religion of choice. The funny thing is you know what it is about you that you are holding inside and want to change, but you may feel like you will lose a part of yourself if you do. Go ahead and lose that part of yourself and everything along with it because that "it" is what's holding you back from coming full circle homie.
I could be way off here, but take what you can out of my words.
;)
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"School" is quite overrated in the grand scheme of things.
true, if you're lucky enough to know what you want, have good exposure to various experiences, or find your calling early.
For many, those 4 years of soul searching and hard work make the following 60 years much more fulfilling.
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shift how is your faith? Are you semi-religious?
We all have been or will be at the point you are at atleast once. Some decide to deal with it and some don't and are unconscious or don't understand it and choose to ignore the feeling and some see this as a moment to do something about it. You should embrace this moment and reach out for guidance from your strong character and your faith to get you past these dire times. Not asking you to become a holy roller bible (or whatever) thumper, just confess your sins, problems, insecurities..etc in your faith and accept his/her mercy and forgiveness. The only thing left is for you to take things day by day and pray for serenity to accept what you don't understand and have the courage to work on yourself.
The funny thing about these times are you are probably like I was at like 90% full potential and just needed that extra kick to get that "it" or whatever I was missing BUT you don't seem to know what "it" is to complete you and make you whole. Turned out I needed to have a piece of mind in certain aspects of my life where I wanted to "understand what I couldn't control" Once I did that, I was all good man. You know who you are better than anyone on here or even your family, you just are at a stage where you are wondering where or how do you reach your full potential in life. Which direction should you go. This way or that way. I've been there.
The fact of the matter is you have to begin with you and what is surrounding you. Once you have been granted mercy the rest is up to you and you only. You have to avoid pessimistic (sp) negative people, try to surround yourself around optimistic people while you remain optimistic..in every single aspect in life...all corners bro.
Stay busy when you have down time. If you have to call a friend and take them to lunch to fill a slot when you aren't doing anything..do it. Clean your crib, get some new gear, don't lay around the house like a slob..throw on some gear turn the music on and enjoy, get a new supplement and work out harder. Sign up for competitions, 15k's whatever..just do something to compensate when you know you will have a lot of time to think.
It's a day by day process, but humble yourself and take the high road on EVERY situation in life from here on out and I promise you that full potential will come full circle through the grace of your superior of your religion of choice. The funny thing is you know what it is about you that you are holding inside and want to change, but you may feel like you will lose a part of yourself if you do. Go ahead and lose that part of yourself and everything along with it because that "it" is what's holding you back from coming full circle homie.
I could be way off here, but take what you can out of my words.
;)
Well put, K-1. We all need to put faith in God and try to do as much good as we can in this world in His name. Lives focused on material success and pursuing base gratification are the worng paths. Rather, they leave you unfulfilled and searching for something more . . .
(http://biblia.com/christ/images/jesus-ascension21.jpg)
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Its 50/50 that if you kill yourself, all that happens is you move into another dimension...
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Its 50/50 that if you kill yourself, all that happens is you move into another dimension...
what do you mean?
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I think I figured it out...its called CLOMID BLUES!!!
well bro, post-cycle therapy is a must so deal w/ it ;)
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true, if you're lucky enough to know what you want, have good exposure to various experiences, or find your calling early.
For many, those 4 years of soul searching and hard work make the following 60 years much more fulfilling.
Yeah and school is never a bad thing actually it is very good of course to have that piece of paper. I have to say I hope my doctor went to lots of school oh and those guys who play around with nukes and other stuff.
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i havent had time to read the whole thread, but if you use recreational drugs, stay away from them at this moment in time. I am going through a similar time, and i have foundthat when i take recreational drugs or get totally blind drunk, everything seems even 10 times worse when you are suffering the comedown. Keep the strate and narrow for a while bro
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i havent had time to read the whole thread, but if you use recreational drugs, stay away from them at this moment in time. I am going through a similar time, and i have foundthat when i take recreational drugs or get totally blind drunk, everything seems even 10 times worse when you are suffering the comedown. Keep the strate and narrow for a while bro
this is definitely good advice that I'm following. I'm even cutting out my venti coffees before leg days. The last thing I need right now is the starbucks cracked out feeling.
apparently a lot of people here can relate to feeling depressed. Good to know I'm not alone
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Yeah and school is never a bad thing actually it is very good of course to have that piece of paper. I have to say I hope my doctor went to lots of school oh and those guys who play around with nukes and other stuff.
school is good for some and a waste of time to others
i been to docs who have a wall full of diplomas and they were shit, and otherwise - guys who dont appear to have alot of college degrees who gave me much better advise, same in every industry
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i think it also (for me anyway), has alot to do with being in a stable loving relationship that makes you happy. I married in my twenties and divorced in my twenties (dont even ask), but at that time ( i was with my ex-wife about 6 years), life seemed to have purpose, saving to go on certain holidays together, doing thngs together at wkends, etc etc. But when we split, i went off the rails a bit and started doing alot of recreational drugs, banging alot of bi tches that i knew i didnt even want to be with half the time, then all of a sudden i satred thinking "what the f cuk is the point in my life". I have made it a new yrs resolution to get myself back on track and cut out alot of the bad sh it, coke, e's weed alcohol etc, as it was becoming an every week thing and i think that was to escape the reality of it all but as i said in an earlier post, in my experience the depression of the comedowns makes things 10 times worse, especially when you get your later 20's!
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BUT it doesn't feel that way now. I feel like that talking heads song: how did I get here, and I find myself with a beautiful wife, and a beautiful house, as these days go by. You know the one I'm talking about. I just ended up where I am by not making decisions, by just taking the path laid out for me. I have a chance to change course, but I have no idea what to do, or even how to go about changing. I don't know if I'm willing to make the sacrifices necessary to change.
You have a good job, a loving wife, a nice home. But you are not satisfied because perhaps you feel the day to day activities and there is nothing what you crave - satisfaction, little tidbits of happiness, etc. You achieved level one, but cant get to level too.
I wish I could follow your advice. I am married but not with kids. My wife and I are on the career fast track and I think I might want off. I don't think she's ready to step off though. She would like us to move towards financial stability and have kids in 5 years or so. I think I want it to some extent too, but it really is not making me happy. At the very least I'd like to take a few months and contemplate my situation, but I'm afraid to step off the track because maybe I won't be able to get back on. seriously though. I look in the mirror and don't even see a myself. I see a person that I've been watching my whole life. What will he do next. Should I, the viewer, even care.
Start with the little things that will keep you satisfied, or make you happy. Before you just chuck a career, see if you have enough money to cover what you want to do. You don't have kids at the moment, so you and your wife can have fun - go out at nights, take lots of vacations to various places, do what you want before you think of having kids. Sit down - make some goals. Where will you go in 2007 to visit. Go to another country for a week or so, check out some places you have heard about but havent been. As for you, you feel meaningless right now. You need to find something you want or like to do. Take some pictures, write a blog or article about life, bodybuilding, read a book - do something that give you some happiness in the mundance world of career fast tracks.
Personally, I think the fact that he doesn't want to take a leap out of the norm and explore something different because his wife wouldn't like it says something about him. I picture marriage to be something blissful. You're with your to-be life partner; there should be no comprimises. That's one thing he should asess right there, but maybe my view of marriage isn't typical. Life's hard, but dealing with things that are dragging you down will only make it harder. Get rid of those things and your life opens up.
Marriage is all about comprimises - you have a partner when you are married, and sometimes, things you want to do you just cant. But you knew that when you got married. The joy of both of you doing things together, and build a life together isnt easy all of the time - you have to work at it. But you have to have goals - to do things. Things she wants to do and you are cool with it, and things you want to do. Have a guys night out also, at least once every few weeks.
What makes you happy? And not in the grand illusion of things - but small things, that you can do on a daily basis or every few days. Start with small steps befire leaping...
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Ron, I think he just likes to suffer (emotionally). I've seen people like that, who just like to feel pity for themselves all the time and hear motivational seeches from others.
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Ron, I think he just likes to suffer (emotionally). I've seen people like that, who just like to feel pity for themselves all the time and hear motivational seeches from others.
u are trully a retard...mark my words...
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sevastase, ok I'll check in to mental institution next week, thanks for enlightening me :-*
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sevastase, ok I'll check in to mental institution next week, thanks for enlightening me :-*
the guy is going through some tough times and the least we can do is share simmilar stories and offer some encouragement.
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sev he's been offered more advise and encouragement here than he would get from a month of consultation with a shrink...yet he keeps braggin about how depressed he is...read the thread!
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I don't think he brags...he's just looking for a direction...oppinions..e tc.
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i actually am feeling better guys. Part of it is due to me trying to do things to get my life back on track, and part of it is the encouragement I have gotten on the board here and from friends and family. It was really nice to see how many people could relate to my situation here and tried to push me in the right direction. Anybody who says getbig is all negativity needs to check out this thread.
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u probably had the blues because it's winter time... i'm sure u'll be ok when it's summer and chix every where half naked~ :)
glad 2 hear ur better
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feeling depressed. I could do anything with my life but im paralyzed by the choices available, and none of them really seem appealing.
mood is everything.
if your family was murdered tonite you probably wouldnt give a shit about whatever it is that has hurt your feelings
smarten up >:(
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Start drinking and smoking weed and you'll be fine.