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Three years ago there was this girl at my college who showed a ton of interest in me. I haven't seen her since then but just found her on Myspace. She now lives out of state. This girl made me feel like I was some sort of celebrity the way she would act around me. Every time she would look at me it was either with a big smile, pupils dilated, or like a deer caught in headlights. I never smiled at her once even though I really liked her. We didn't know each other but we often saw each other in the hallways.
One time I was sitting by myself in the hallways reading my notes when all of a sudden I noticed her and her girl friends peaking at me. It was one of those moments where you just felt like you were being watched but i wasn't sure. Then all of a sudden she walks by from a bit of a distance but it looked like she was smiling in my direction. The professor for her class wasn't there yet so she shouts out "lets go down here." Her and her girlfriends come over and she then jumped up on to a wall about 6 - 8 feet away from where I was sitting. I was very shy at the time and I was in a relationship and wasn't thinking about making a move. After about a minute of her being there I look in her direction and she's glaring at me. I looked away quickly being the wuss that I am. A few minutes went by and the teacher finally showed up and they left. She didn't look in my direction as much after that but a few times we were in the same area she did things that made me think she was trying to make me jealous like tell other guys they are sexy. The very last time I saw her she was staring at me like she was sad and confused.
I found her on myspace while browsing other profiles just recently. I haven't seen her in 3 years but I decided to send her a message telling her that I wanted to talk to her then but I had a girlfriend at the time. I apologized for ignoring her. I said many nice things about her too and they weren't about her body or anything. She is completely ignoring my message. No response at all. I thought she would've been happy to talk to me and happy that I apologized and let her know that I liked her then. Why is she ignoring me? Is she ignoring me because I ignored her and now she's getting even? Does she just not like me now for whatever reason? Did I come off as creepy by finding her on myspace?
please any serious feedback will be appreciated
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it's been 3 weeks since I sent her the message so it's not like she's away or anything plus I can see she has logged in just about every day since then
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Um... you've moved on and so has she... Next.
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Three years ago there was this girl at my college who showed a ton of interest in me. I haven't seen her since then but just found her on Myspace. She now lives out of state. This girl made me feel like I was some sort of celebrity the way she would act around me. Every time she would look at me it was either with a big smile, pupils dilated, or like a deer caught in headlights. I never smiled at her once even though I really liked her. We didn't know each other but we often saw each other in the hallways.
One time I was sitting by myself in the hallways reading my notes when all of a sudden I noticed her and her girl friends peaking at me. It was one of those moments where you just felt like you were being watched but i wasn't sure. Then all of a sudden she walks by from a bit of a distance but it looked like she was smiling in my direction. The professor for her class wasn't there yet so she shouts out "lets go down here." Her and her girlfriends come over and she then jumped up on to a wall about 6 - 8 feet away from where I was sitting. I was very shy at the time and I was in a relationship and wasn't thinking about making a move. After about a minute of her being there I look in her direction and she's glaring at me. I looked away quickly being the wuss that I am. A few minutes went by and the teacher finally showed up and they left. She didn't look in my direction as much after that but a few times we were in the same area she did things that made me think she was trying to make me jealous like tell other guys they are sexy. The very last time I saw her she was staring at me like she was sad and confused.
I found her on myspace while browsing other profiles just recently. I haven't seen her in 3 years but I decided to send her a message telling her that I wanted to talk to her then but I had a girlfriend at the time. I apologized for ignoring her. I said many nice things about her too and they weren't about her body or anything. She is completely ignoring my message. No response at all. I thought she would've been happy to talk to me and happy that I apologized and let her know that I liked her then. Why is she ignoring me? Is she ignoring me because I ignored her and now she's getting even? Does she just not like me now for whatever reason? Did I come off as creepy by finding her on myspace?
please any serious feedback will be appreciated
The answer is cut and dry. You snubbed her off back in college when she liked you so she moved on. It was all bad timing. You had a GF so you respectfully couldn't make a move. Sometimes its just like that. Accept it and move on. Surely after snubbing her off you can't expect her to come running back to you. She probably lost interest and is seeing other guys. Move on. There are lots of girls out there.
PB
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Three years ago there was this girl at my college who showed a ton of interest in me. I haven't seen her since then but just found her on Myspace. She now lives out of state. This girl made me feel like I was some sort of celebrity the way she would act around me. Every time she would look at me it was either with a big smile, pupils dilated, or like a deer caught in headlights. I never smiled at her once even though I really liked her. We didn't know each other but we often saw each other in the hallways.
One time I was sitting by myself in the hallways reading my notes when all of a sudden I noticed her and her girl friends peaking at me. It was one of those moments where you just felt like you were being watched but i wasn't sure. Then all of a sudden she walks by from a bit of a distance but it looked like she was smiling in my direction. The professor for her class wasn't there yet so she shouts out "lets go down here." Her and her girlfriends come over and she then jumped up on to a wall about 6 - 8 feet away from where I was sitting. I was very shy at the time and I was in a relationship and wasn't thinking about making a move. After about a minute of her being there I look in her direction and she's glaring at me. I looked away quickly being the wuss that I am. A few minutes went by and the teacher finally showed up and they left. She didn't look in my direction as much after that but a few times we were in the same area she did things that made me think she was trying to make me jealous like tell other guys they are sexy. The very last time I saw her she was staring at me like she was sad and confused.
I found her on myspace while browsing other profiles just recently. I haven't seen her in 3 years but I decided to send her a message telling her that I wanted to talk to her then but I had a girlfriend at the time. I apologized for ignoring her. I said many nice things about her too and they weren't about her body or anything. She is completely ignoring my message. No response at all. I thought she would've been happy to talk to me and happy that I apologized and let her know that I liked her then. Why is she ignoring me? Is she ignoring me because I ignored her and now she's getting even? Does she just not like me now for whatever reason? Did I come off as creepy by finding her on myspace?
please any serious feedback will be appreciated
YOU BLEW IT PAL!!!.....................THE BEST THING THAT WAS EVER GOING TO HAPPEN TO YOU WAS HER
(just kidding ;D )
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Although you may have felt that you had her in that moment back then....because in never came to be....it never was. Make sense?
Guys are alot more acceptable to say a cordial "hello" back if the same exact role was reversed. Girls tend to simply "move on" especially being 3 years. It may seem difficult to reason..but just accept it. Girls tend to express feelings & emotions differently than guys & they also "pack them up" alot differently than guys when it's been a few years. Also, your message (to you) may have been a simple "hey hello how's it been?"....but go back & reread it word for word. Most likely, you may had said a little too much feelings about the past. If she's moved on & even has a life with someone, she may look at it as being a weird "stalking" type situation.
There's a very small chance she's nervous to reply...but I place this in less than a 1% chance.
BTW...small advice....by stating she's been logging on every day for the last 3 weeks shows that she really has no interest. You contacted her....you made the move. The ball is in her court...she's not picking it up to play. Game over.
Chalk it up as a lesson in life.
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Um... you've moved on and so has she... Next.
I didn't try to get a date with her or anything with her being in another state now. I just said hello and apologized for ignoring her back then. Why can't she atleast say something back?
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The answer is cut and dry. You snubbed her off back in college when she liked you so she moved on. It was all bad timing. You had a GF so you respectfully couldn't make a move. Sometimes its just like that. Accept it and move on. Surely after snubbing her off you can't expect her to come running back to you. She probably lost interest and is seeing other guys. Move on. There are lots of girls out there.
PB
That's the thing my intention by sending her the message wasn't to get with her. She lives in another state. Why doesn't she have the decency to atleast say hello?
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YOU BLEW IT PAL!!!.....................THE BEST THING THAT WAS EVER GOING TO HAPPEN TO YOU WAS HER
(just kidding ;D )
that is a possibility and it tears me up inside >:( :'(
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Although you may have felt that you had her in that moment back then....because in never came to be....it never was. Make sense?
Guys are alot more acceptable to say a cordial "hello" back if the same exact role was reversed. Girls tend to simply "move on" especially being 3 years. It may seem difficult to reason..but just accept it. Girls tend to express feelings & emotions differently than guys & they also "pack them up" alot differently than guys when it's been a few years. Also, your message (to you) may have been a simple "hey hello how's it been?"....but go back & reread it word for word. Most likely, you may had said a little too much feelings about the past. If she's moved on & even has a life with someone, she may look at it as being a weird "stalking" type situation.
There's a very small chance she's nervous to reply...but I place this in less than a 1% chance.
BTW...small advice....by stating she's been logging on every day for the last 3 weeks shows that she really has no interest. You contacted her....you made the move. The ball is in her court...she's not picking it up to play. Game over.
Chalk it up as a lesson in life.
It says single in her profile but yeah i'm sure she's been with quite a few guys since then. Back in college she was always the type that had tons of guys talking to her. I was the guy that never flirted with her at all yet she showed tons of interest in me. I thought she would've wanted to say something back. About the stalker thing yeah I was definitly worried about that but I felt I had nothing to lose by sending a message. Her profile is still public so I wouldn't think I creeped her out that much.
Also two days after I sent the message i noticed one of her guy friends wrote on her wall saying "you texted me needing advice about such and such yesterday, I'll talk to you on the PM." Being that it was two days after I sent the message I think maybe she asked for advice about me. That guy had several wall comments on her page and they now are all gone. Does that mean they are no longer myspace friends?
I'm so confused, when I sent the message I had no idea how she would respond but I never thought she wouldn't respond at all.
thanks to all who had some insight
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That's the thing my intention by sending her the message wasn't to get with her. She lives in another state. Why doesn't she have the decency to atleast say hello?
Because either she's currently with someone else or you pissed her off by sunbbing her off in college that she wants nothing to do with you.
PB
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Because either she's currently with someone else or you pissed her off by sunbbing her off in college that she wants nothing to do with you.
PB
It says single in her profile. I apologized, I explained that i had a girlfriend and didn't feel right about talking to other attractive girls. Why does she have to hold a grudge? I would rather her respond back and call me an ugly loser than ignore me altogether.
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It says single in her profile. I apologized, I explained that i had a girlfriend and didn't feel right about talking to other attractive girls. Why does she have to hold a grudge? I would rather her respond back and call me an ugly loser than ignore me altogether.
Regardless, she might still be dating someone and she hasn't updated her profile. If she really wanted to contact you, believe me she would. Just move on.
PB
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It says single in her profile but yeah i'm sure she's been with quite a few guys since then. Back in college she was always the type that had tons of guys talking to her. I was the guy that never flirted with her at all yet she showed tons of interest in me. I thought she would've wanted to say something back. About the stalker thing yeah I was definitly worried about that but I felt I had nothing to lose by sending a message. Her profile is still public so I wouldn't think I creeped her out that much.
Also two days after I sent the message i noticed one of her guy friends wrote on her wall saying "you texted me needing advice about such and such yesterday, I'll talk to you on the PM." Being that it was two days after I sent the message I think maybe she asked for advice about me. That guy had several wall comments on her page and they now are all gone. Does that mean they are no longer myspace friends?
I'm so confused, when I sent the message I had no idea how she would respond but I never thought she wouldn't respond at all.
thanks to all who had some insight
Honestly...I'm not surprised at all she didn't respond.
It's one thing if you 'felt' she liked you...it's another if you actually had feelings with her. Since you never took the time to figure that out back then, you'll never know. Since you were in a relationship back then..it's understandable.
Just move on. If she wants to respond...she will.
Heck...whats the chance she has no clue who you even are?
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Honestly...I'm not surprised at all she didn't respond.
It's one thing if you 'felt' she liked you...it's another if you actually had feelings with her. Since you never took the time to figure that out back then, you'll never know. Since you were in a relationship back then..it's understandable.
Just move on. If she wants to respond...she will.
Heck...whats the chance she has no clue who you even are?
After all the things she did she would have to be a complete nutjob to not like me back then. The very first time she made eye contact with me she raised her eyebrows like she was saying "I like what I see." Plus don't forget all the things I mentioned in my first post. I don't think a girl forgets a guy that caused her to do all those things and a girl like her isn't used to getting rejected. You always remember the ones that rejected you. I specifcally mentioned the time where she sat on the wall in the message I sent her. I can't imagine having a memory that bad where she would actually forget that.
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Can you give us the link to her My-space page?
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Some possibilities (some are repeats of above posts):
1) You were mistaken that she had a crush on you.
2) She doesn't remember you.
3) She had a crush on you, and remembers you, but you ignoring her hurt her/made her mad enough that she wants you to feel some hurt.
4) She was so hurt back then that she wants to forget the hurt.
5) She is too busy to respond.
6) She is in a relationship.
7) She liked you then but you would not be her current "type" and she doesn't want to encourage you by responding.
8 ) She is a nutjob that you are better off not being involved with.
I'm not that familiar w/myspace, but is it possible she didn't receive your message? If that is not a possibility, I wouldn't contact her again. As others have stated, it's time to move on. Do not let this occupy your brain so much. There are literally approximately 3 billion other girls out there. You did the right thing by apologizing....now it's up to her. Sorry you're having a bad time right now :( but it will pass! :)
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Can you give us the link to her My-space page?
Oh oh...your going back to the dog house if Cheri see's this :)
PB
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Can you give us the link to her My-space page?
sorry but i'm sure soembody here would send her the link to this thread
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Oh oh...your going back to the dog house if Cheri see's this :)
PB
Just trying to help you out player.................. ............ ;)
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Just trying to help you out player.................. ............ ;)
Well you are right...less is better.
PB
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Some possibilities (some are repeats of above posts):
1) You were mistaken that she had a crush on you.
2) She doesn't remember you.
3) She had a crush on you, and remembers you, but you ignoring her hurt her/made her mad enough that she wants you to feel some hurt.
4) She was so hurt back then that she wants to forget the hurt.
5) She is too busy to respond.
6) She is in a relationship.
7) She liked you then but you would not be her current "type" and she doesn't want to encourage you by responding.
8 ) She is a nutjob that you are better off not being involved with.
I'm not that familiar w/myspace, but is it possible she didn't receive your message? If that is not a possibility, I wouldn't contact her again. As others have stated, it's time to move on. Do not let this occupy your brain so much. There are literally approximately 3 billion other girls out there. You did the right thing by apologizing....now it's up to her. Sorry you're having a bad time right now :( but it will pass! :)
1.) after all the things I listed how could I be mistaken? who does those things to somebody they don't like?
2.) how do you completely forget someone 3 years later when they clearly knew you existed?
3.) that's a possibility I think
4.) that's a possibility I think, remember the last time we saw each other she was staring at me looking pretty sad
5.) she logs in every day and nobody is too busy to type out a simple paragraph
6.) it says single in her profile and she's updated 3 times since I found her page
7.) I guess that's a possibility but how do you go from acting like somebody is your exact type to not liking them at all? See made me feel like I was Brad Pitt the way she looked at me. I've leaned out somewhat since she last saw me and everybody says I look better. Unless she has a thing for chubby cheeks I don't know, i can't imagine anybody thinking I looked better then.
8.) I think she may be a nutjob. Remember I said it seemed she was trying to make me jealous. It's kind of stange how she walks right by me with another guy and she says to him "you're sexy" what a coincidence ::) and she didn't just say it she practically shouted it, also i would think a normal person would reply with some sort of response after somebody says nice things about you. If some girl I thought was completely unattractive said the same to me on myspace I would atleast thank them and try to find something nice to say about them.
I actually don't use myspace often either but I created another profile just to send my message to see if it worked and it did work. The message i sent her is also in my "sent item" folder. I know I should move on but it's easier said than done. She honestly was one of the most physically attractive girls i've ever seen and I can't say i've seen many girls as good as her since then. I haven't had much luck with the ladies since then and not getting a simple response from her is very disappointing and confusing. I just wanted to communicate with her that's all, she moved thousands of miles away so I didn't make it out to her like I wanted to get together with her soon.
Thanks for your input
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3 years is plenty of time to forget about someone & move on.....especially for women.
I have a couple of questions.....
(a) How old are you?
(B) what kind of "SUBSTANTIAL" conversation did you share or physical contact? (other than eye contact).
The reason why I ask is that it's in my belief that most guys really have no idea what constitutes a serious "I like you" from a girl unless she clearly states it...or physically does something like kiss you.
Girls like to flirt....but I wouldn't necessarily would say that means they "like you". Girls, just like guys like to flirt & be friendly. I can give you some own personal experience where a girl is flirting & a friend will observe & tell me later "she really likes you". I usually reply..."no...she's just flirting...there's a difference". I used to know a girl that would flirt with almost every guy they come across. I asked them why & she replied "because its fun". "So how does a guy know when you really like them"? She replied "oh...they will know because I'll let them know or tell them."
So what I'm trying to get to is...How do you know she really liked you? Maybe you just misunderstood her flirting. Since you never inquired on it (3 years ago) & she's not replying to you....I would say the answer is quite clear. Honestly...I usually think "first" that when a girl is flirting...they're just being friendly. It's never more that that in my mind unless something more substantial is in play.
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3 years is plenty of time to forget about someone & move on.....especially for women.
I have a couple of questions.....
(a) How old are you?
(B) what kind of "SUBSTANTIAL" conversation did you share or physical contact? (other than eye contact).
The reason why I ask is that it's in my belief that most guys really have no idea what constitutes a serious "I like you" from a girl unless she clearly states it...or physically does something like kiss you.
Girls like to flirt....but I wouldn't necessarily would say that means they "like you". Girls, just like guys like to flirt & be friendly. I can give you some own personal experience where a girl is flirting & a friend will observe & tell me later "she really likes you". I usually reply..."no...she's just flirting...there's a difference". I used to know a girl that would flirt with almost every guy they come across. I asked them why & she replied "because its fun". "So how does a guy know when you really like them"? She replied "oh...they will know because I'll let them know or tell them."
So what I'm trying to get to is...How do you know she really liked you? Maybe you just misunderstood her flirting. Since you never inquired on it (3 years ago) & she's not replying to you....I would say the answer is quite clear. Honestly...I usually think "first" that when a girl is flirting...they're just being friendly. It's never more that that in my mind unless something more substantial is in play.
Obviously she has moved on but I can't imagine her forgetting me, lets not forget she is looking at my pics on myspace. I am 24 and we had no conversation. Like i said this girl just couldn't seem to keep her eyes off of me. Trust me i'm always pessimistic when a girl talks to me or look at me. I'm not the type that thinks "she glanced my way once or twice she must like me" she did it far too often for her to not have some sort of interest. If she wanted to just flirt with me than why didn't she say anything? Why would she jump on to that wall? Why would she smile at me numerous times without knowing me, even when i didn't smile at her once? Why did she stare at me like a deer caught in headlights numerous times? Why did she seem to try and make me jealous after I ignored her when she was on the wall? It was after that when she would stare at me like the deer caught in headlights, she only did it once before this incident. Why did she stare at me like she wanted to cry when she last saw me. Also another time I didn't mention she stared at me like a tiger about to attack it's prey when I walked by her when she was sitting in the hallways one time. That was before she would've felt rejected by me. I never stared at her or smiled at her once, i was too insecure to do that. For her to just have been trying to get me to give her some kind of attention after all of those things she would be beyond crazy and needs serious mental help.
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Also if she is dumb enough to actually have forgotten me I would think that I refreshed her memory with my pics and me bringing up the time she jumped on to the wall. How do you forget a guy snubbing you in front of your girl friends? It was a small school with less than 2000 people. I basically saw the same people every day and i'm sure it was the same for her.
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I didn't try to get a date with her or anything with her being in another state now. I just said hello and apologized for ignoring her back then. Why can't she atleast say something back?
Because that's how women are... They are just "different".
No crime in saying so.
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Obviously she has moved on but I can't imagine her forgetting me, lets not forget she is looking at my pics on myspace. I am 24 and we had no conversation. Like i said this girl just couldn't seem to keep her eyes off of me. Trust me i'm always pessimistic when a girl talks to me or look at me. I'm not the type that thinks "she glanced my way once or twice she must like me" she did it far too often for her to not have some sort of interest. If she wanted to just flirt with me than why didn't she say anything? Why would she jump on to that wall? Why would she smile at me numerous times without knowing me, even when i didn't smile at her once? Why did she stare at me like a deer caught in headlights numerous times? Why did she seem to try and make me jealous after I ignored her when she was on the wall? It was after that when she would stare at me like the deer caught in headlights, she only did it once before this incident. Why did she stare at me like she wanted to cry when she last saw me. Also another time I didn't mention she stared at me like a tiger about to attack it's prey when I walked by her when she was sitting in the hallways one time. That was before she would've felt rejected by me. I never stared at her or smiled at her once, i was too insecure to do that. For her to just have been trying to get me to give her some kind of attention after all of those things she would be beyond crazy and needs serious mental help.
So....she just stared at you?
To me....that was not enough. Maybe you were just entertaining....& now she's over it.
Honestly...she was 20 at the time? Do you realize how many 20 year old girls (or around that age) that know what they really want? Three years later...she might find you repulsive...seriously.
Staring is not enough.....sorry.
How many times did you stare at a girl....liked her so much that you just went up & talked to her?
or
How many times have you seen a girl walk up to a guy?
Thats what usually happens when someone likes somebody. Just sitting there staring at you is really not enough.
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Also if she is dumb enough to actually have forgotten me I would think that I refreshed her memory with my pics and me bringing up the time she jumped on to the wall. How do you forget a guy snubbing you in front of your girl friends? It was a small school with less than 2000 people. I basically saw the same people every day and i'm sure it was the same for her.
When did you bring up the time she jumped on to the wall?
On her myspace account?
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So....she just stared at you?
To me....that was not enough. Maybe you were just entertaining....& now she's over it.
Honestly...she was 20 at the time? Do you realize how many 20 year old girls (or around that age) that know what they really want? Three years later...she might find you repulsive...seriously.
Staring is not enough.....sorry.
How many times did you stare at a girl....liked her so much that you just went up & talked to her?
or
How many times have you seen a girl walk up to a guy?
Thats what usually happens when someone likes somebody. Just sitting there staring at you is really not enough.
But she stared so many times all throughout the semester. There was one time early in the semester about a week after she first saw me she said something. I was standing against a wall staring down at people just walking down the stairs. She walked by and gave me a big smile and stood about 5 feet from where I was. I looked away quickly being the gutless turd that I am and then when i looked back she was staring at me. SHe said "so is this the cool place to stand." I said something like "uh yeah it's a nice place to stand just watching people go by." When I said this she was slightly smiling looking at the ground. She then said "I just want to see someone trip and fall" and she just smiled but wasn't making eye contact with me. Then some guy friend of hers came by and she started complaining to him about some teacher of hers. I didn't bring that up before because I never took it as a big sign of interest, she seemed like the type that made conversations with people. I thought the deer in headlights stare was much more of a sign.
I don't know how I could've been entertaining. I appeared more muscular at the time when in clothes but reallly I was just overbulked. The average person thought it was muscle but it was alot of fat. Looking at pictures of me back then i can't imagine she would think i looked better (chubby face) and I don't see any overbulked guys on her myspace friends list. Despite the possibility of her thinking i'm disgusting now, I would think she would atleast say something back.
And she did walk up to me in a way, remember I said she jumped up on to that wall with her girl friends standing by and I snubbed her. Also I think she did more than what girls normally do when they like a guy. From what i've seen girls give signs and the guy sees the signs then he approaches. I don't know any guy that actually had a girl ask him out. The guy initated everything.
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When did you bring up the time she jumped on to the wall?
On her myspace account?
When I sent her the private message on myspace. I said there was a time when she jumped onto a wall that I was sitting by and I didn't say anything because I had a girlfriend. I apologized to her for completely ignoring her and said I wanted to say something but it didn't feel right due to my girlfriend at the time.
thanks for contributing to this thread btw
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Maybe she has moved on and doesn't want to be reminded of that time. Maybe it was humiliating to be ignored. It's possible that if you made references to ignoring her, not responding etc in your last note to her... she may have been reminded of how you insulted her. :) Could be a simple case of payback. Maybe you should have just gone the "hi how are you, remember me?" route and not gone into details of the past. Could also be that she has a whole new life and doesn't want to go back in time. Maybe, even though she's single... is dating someone and thinks you're making a play.
I think you should just forget about her and move on.
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Maybe she has moved on and doesn't want to be reminded of that time. Maybe it was humiliating to be ignored. It's possible that if you made references to ignoring her, not responding etc in your last note to her... she may have been reminded of how you insulted her. :) Could be a simple case of payback. Maybe you should have just gone the "hi how are you, remember me?" route and not gone into details of the past. Could also be that she has a whole new life and doesn't want to go back in time. Maybe, even though she's single... is dating someone and thinks you're making a play.
I think you should just forget about her and move on.
I thought it would be a possibility of me bringing back a possible painful and disappointing past. I just didn't know how to go about sending the message. I really wasn't sure if she would remember me if I just said "hey how are you" and not much else with me looking thinner in my pics and her not knowing my name.
Yeah she has a whole new life in a different state and yeah i'm sure she is dating but she isn't in a exclusive relationship. I told her I wanted to communicate with her, with her being in a different state she shouldn't think that I'm making a play. I don't know why she just can't say something. I even said if you don't want to talk to me just say you don't want to talk to me, still no response.
thanks for the input
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When I sent her the private message on myspace. I said there was a time when she jumped onto a wall that I was sitting by and I didn't say anything because I had a girlfriend. I apologized to her for completely ignoring her and said I wanted to say something but it didn't feel right due to my girlfriend at the time.
thanks for contributing to this thread btw
again dude....
3 letters....
TMI
(to much information)
Just should have say "hi....do you rmember me...we went to school together"
Left it as that.
Anyways...I don't want to sound like I'm repeating the same thing over & over...but I almost feel you like her more than she liked you. I will be that she wasn't 'staring' at you like you thought she was or you had in your own mind...made it more than it was.
just let it go.
I don't see one person on here that has said..."keep going for it"
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Dude, I don't know you from Adam, ...but just reading your posts on the subject is creeping me out.
I'm not trying to be mean, that's just the impression I'm getting ...like chewing gum stuck to your shoe.
My best advice, let it go and move on, ...before restraining orders become a part of your future..
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again dude....
3 letters....
TMI
(to much information)
Just should have say "hi....do you rmember me...we went to school together"
Left it as that.
Anyways...I don't want to sound like I'm repeating the same thing over & over...but I almost feel you like her more than she liked you. I will be that she wasn't 'staring' at you like you thought she was or you had in your own mind...made it more than it was.
just let it go.
I don't see one person on here that has said..."keep going for it"
Yeah I guess I over did it in the message. I mentioned that to refresh her memory in case she didn't recognize me in the pics. I don't think it was all in my mind or anything. No other girl in my lifetime did anywhere near the amount of stuff she did, atleast when it came to girls I didn't know. If I liked her more than she liked me than why did she come to me? I didn't go to her, didn't smile at her, and didn't stare at her. She did those things. I'm the type that goes for girls that like me, i was never turned on by girls that ignore me. I probably overrate her only becuase she gave me alot of signs of interest. If she didn't do any of those things I would hardly ever think of her.
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Dude, I don't know you from Adam, ...but just reading your posts on the subject is creeping me out.
I'm not trying to be mean, that's just the impression I'm getting ...like chewing gum stuck to your shoe.
My best advice, let it go and move on, ...before restraining orders become a part of your future..
I was worried about that but I would think that she would've put her profile on private if I creeped her out. In the message I sent her I even mentioned that I was sorry if my message weirded her out.
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Yeah I guess I over did it in the message. I don't think it was all in my mind or anything. No other girl in my lifetime did anywhere near the amount of stuff she did, atleast when it came to girls I didn't know. If I liked her more than she liked me than why did she come to me? I didn't go to her, didn't smile at her, and didn't stare at her. I'm the type that goes for girls that like me, i was never turned on by girls that ignore me. I probably overrate her only becuase she gave me alot of signs of interest. If she didn't do any of those things I would hardly ever think of her.
you're like the person that see's a cute puppy in the window & the puppy is all excited to see you wagging it's tail & all. You go home...realize the puppy is something you must have, but by the time you return...it's gone.
I've come to a point in my life.....if I second guess something....I really didn't want it. I may feel like it when it's gone...but it's the feeling of not having it...not really wanting it.
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you're like the person that see's a cute puppy in the window & the puppy is all excited to see you wagging it's tail & all. You go home...realize the puppy is something you must have, but by the time you return...it's gone.
I've come to a point in my life.....if I second guess something....I really didn't want it. I may feel like it when it's gone...but it's the feeling of not having it...not really wanting it.
The only reason I second guessed myself back then is because I had a girlfriend. I always liked her but I got the impression that she liked me more than I liked her. That actually increased my attraction toward her. Growing up I didn't get chicks so playing hard to get didn't work for me. I'm thinking maybe I should try and friend her on Myspace. If she doesn't friend me I'll let it go and assume she doesn't like me for whatever reason.
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Wanocki, where do you live? ...and would you ever consider relocating to London?
There might even be a girl there who's just PUUUURRRFECT for you. It could even be a match made in heaven?
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Wanocki, where do you live? ...and would you ever consider relocating to London?
There might even be a girl there who's just PUUUURRRFECT for you. It could even be a match made in heaven?
Ohio, why do you say this?
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Ohio, why do you say this?
I was hoping you lived in London. :'(
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sorry but i'm sure soembody here would send her the link to this thread
HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAH That would be sooooooooooooooooo funnny! :)
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Like Deedee already said, you blew it by apologizing/explaining.
Makes you look weak, women are NOT attracted to it, and it wasn't even necessary in this case. You've given her the impression that you were an asshole and she's been hurt by you. In reality you did nothing wrong.
You should have started with something casual/original and went from there.
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Damn I guess I should've asked for advice before I sent her the message. My original thinking was she might not recognize me from the pics so I felt I should explain how we knew each other. In my mind just sending her a message that only contained the words "hey how's it going we used to go to school together" would've been weird. I thought that would've confused her more and would've made her less likly to respond thinking it was just some random myspace guy sending her a message. I felt I should apologize because I really felt like I did something wrong but yeah unfortunately some people do see it as weakness when someone admits to being wrong. My goal wasn't to get with her, I knew that wasn't realistic at this point and I made that clear to her. I just wanted to communicate with her. I'm thinking of maybe trying to friend her on Myspace. If she doesn't accept I'll move on and forget about it.
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Damn I guess I should've asked for advice before I sent her the message. My original thinking was she might not recognize me from the pics so I felt I should explain how we knew each other. In my mind just sending her a message that only contained the words "hey how's it going we used to go to school together" would've been weird. I thought that would've confused her more and would've made her less likly to respond thinking it was just some random myspace guy sending her a message. I felt I should apologize because I really felt like I did something wrong but yeah unfortunately some people do see it as weakness when someone admits to being wrong. My goal wasn't to get with her, I knew that wasn't realistic at this point and I made that clear to her. I just wanted to communicate with her. I'm thinking of maybe trying to friend her on Myspace. If she doesn't accept I'll move on and forget about it.
yeah...or just stop & put a little more thought & little less words into it
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I just went with what I felt was right. My gut feeling. It's easy to say now that I should've done things differently but maybe nothing would've worked.
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I just watched Inside Edition. There was a story about a man who was in alcoholics anonymous and he got to step 8 or 9 where you have to apologize to every person that you felt you did something wrong to in life. He raped a girl 20 years ago in college and sent the girl a letter apologizing. The girl didn't accept the apology at all and took the letter to the police. That guy is now going away for a few years. Not that me ignoring a girl compares to rape but it just goes to show that saying "I'm sorry" doesn't make people forgive you if you hurt them in any way.
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ah.....I am going on a limb here.....but you don't get a lot of girls.....do you?
question....last girlfriend you had.....
(1) how long were you together?
(2) why did you break up?
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You actually think the hurt a woman feels over being ignored is in any way shape or form comparable to that which she experiences from being raped? You're an idiot! >:(
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ah.....I am going on a limb here.....but you don't get a lot of girls.....do you?
question....last girlfriend you had.....
(1) how long were you together?
(2) why did you break up?
How did the inside edition post make you think that? I date every once in a while but haven't had a girlfriend since the one that I had during this time. I dumped her, we were together for a year.
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You actually think the hurt a woman feels over being ignored is in any way shape or form comparable to that which she experiences from being raped? You're an idiot! >:(
Read my post again I didn't say they were the same thing. My point was that people don't always forgive when given an apology.
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lol come on man I just wanted to talk to her, many people message other people on myspace. At most I might try to friend her and if that doesn't work that's it. We won't get together but many couple have gotten together through the guy being persistent even when the girl keeps saying no. She hasn't said no ;D
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How did the inside edition post make you think that? I date every once in a while but haven't had a girlfriend since the one that I had during this time. I dumped her, we were together for a year.
ok....answer my question
"why did you break up?"
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ok....answer my question
"why did you break up?"
She started to smoke again. She refused to quit. I still liked her but I hate kissing an ashtray. If you cringe when you kiss somebody there is no point in being in a relationship with them.
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Three years ago there was this girl at my college who showed a ton of interest in me. I haven't seen her since then but just found her on Myspace. She now lives out of state. This girl made me feel like I was some sort of celebrity the way she would act around me. Every time she would look at me it was either with a big smile, pupils dilated, or like a deer caught in headlights. I never smiled at her once even though I really liked her. We didn't know each other but we often saw each other in the hallways.
One time I was sitting by myself in the hallways reading my notes when all of a sudden I noticed her and her girl friends peaking at me. It was one of those moments where you just felt like you were being watched but i wasn't sure. Then all of a sudden she walks by from a bit of a distance but it looked like she was smiling in my direction. The professor for her class wasn't there yet so she shouts out "lets go down here." Her and her girlfriends come over and she then jumped up on to a wall about 6 - 8 feet away from where I was sitting. I was very shy at the time and I was in a relationship and wasn't thinking about making a move. After about a minute of her being there I look in her direction and she's glaring at me. I looked away quickly being the wuss that I am. A few minutes went by and the teacher finally showed up and they left. She didn't look in my direction as much after that but a few times we were in the same area she did things that made me think she was trying to make me jealous like tell other guys they are sexy. The very last time I saw her she was staring at me like she was sad and confused.
I found her on myspace while browsing other profiles just recently. I haven't seen her in 3 years but I decided to send her a message telling her that I wanted to talk to her then but I had a girlfriend at the time. I apologized for ignoring her. I said many nice things about her too and they weren't about her body or anything. She is completely ignoring my message. No response at all. I thought she would've been happy to talk to me and happy that I apologized and let her know that I liked her then. Why is she ignoring me? Is she ignoring me because I ignored her and now she's getting even? Does she just not like me now for whatever reason? Did I come off as creepy by finding her on myspace?
please any serious feedback will be appreciated
you know i dont visit this board often but i feel bad for this kid so let me throw in my thing,,erase it when hes done reading ;)
wanocki my friend
do you remember when your girlygirl jumped on the wall? that was your time to get her,,even shy guys can talk to pretty girls when the pretty girls do a first move,, and she did MAJOR first moves,,you seemed to not show interest and made her feel like you are out of her leage,,it works my friend,,it works well,,pretty girls cant read your heart,,they dont know you were shy and was intimidated by their looks,,most of them dont know they look that good to begin with,,
if you wanted her that was your time,,to get a chic like that you most likley would have had to touch her pretty fast after initial introduction,,you always get a girl by eye contact and touch,,it was out of your character at that time,,
she wont get with you,,in her head she is less than what you want,,no internet words will be able to fix it unless you met her and talked to her face to face and touched!!!! her ,, even then 99% it wont work,,move on and learn for next time as much as it hurt
pretty girls are not aware of how pretty they are! ,,remember that for next time and do the move
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Although you may have felt that you had her in that moment back then....because in never came to be....it never was. Make sense?
Guys are alot more acceptable to say a cordial "hello" back if the same exact role was reversed. Girls tend to simply "move on" especially being 3 years. It may seem difficult to reason..but just accept it. Girls tend to express feelings & emotions differently than guys & they also "pack them up" alot differently than guys when it's been a few years. Also, your message (to you) may have been a simple "hey hello how's it been?"....but go back & reread it word for word. Most likely, you may had said a little too much feelings about the past. If she's moved on & even has a life with someone, she may look at it as being a weird "stalking" type situation.
There's a very small chance she's nervous to reply...but I place this in less than a 1% chance.
BTW...small advice....by stating she's been logging on every day for the last 3 weeks shows that she really has no interest. You contacted her....you made the move. The ball is in her court...she's not picking it up to play. Game over.
Chalk it up as a lesson in life.
Ditto
You were very nice to apologize to her. I am sure she feels happy to have that closure in her life. However, she isn't obligated to respond to you. You should move on too and the next time a pretty girl flirts with you when you are in a relationship, tell her "sorry, but..." That way you don't dwell on it for too long.
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Ditto
You were very nice to apologize to her. I am sure she feels happy to have that closure in her life. However, she isn't obligated to respond to you. You should move on too and the next time a pretty girl flirts with you when you are in a relationship, tell her "sorry, but..." That way you don't dwell on it for too long.
Cham....where have you been?
Good to see you on
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Cham....where have you been?
Good to see you on
Hey Kenny! How are you? Just living life....Joe's on here enough for the both of us. ;)
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Hey Kenny! How are you? Just living life....Joe's on here enough for the both of us. ;)
true...just haven't seen you on much.
glad to see Joe sharing the computer - lol
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Hey Kenny...
She is right I guess it is a fulltime job for Joe checking out to see what men chamwhoreita is emailing aside from you while he is working all day.
Play your cards right, kenny... she'll be with a jar head like you in no time.
: )
Peggy, I thought you were going to play nice from now on. I guess not!
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Ditto
You were very nice to apologize to her. I am sure she feels happy to have that closure in her life. However, she isn't obligated to respond to you. You should move on too and the next time a pretty girl flirts with you when you are in a relationship, tell her "sorry, but..." That way you don't dwell on it for too long.
Nail on the head! There was never anything of a 'formalised' contact, you never even talked, so there's no moral obligation for her to respond, a response would be a bonus in this case. It seems you, Wanocki, are much more occupied by the situation than she is.
Carpe diem, and 3 years ago was clearly not the right diem, so off to new adventures.....
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wow...didn't expect all that
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You were very nice to apologize to her. I am sure she feels happy to have that closure in her life. However, she isn't obligated to respond to you.
I would think a nice girl with class would respond. If somebody did the same to me I know I would, even if it was some girl that I thought was completely unattractive. I guess she isn't as good of a person as me. Thanks to all who have given their insights.
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I would think a nice girl with class would respond. If somebody did the same to me I know I would, even if it was some girl that I thought was completely unattractive. I guess she isn't as good of a person as me. Thanks to all who have given their insights.
I think Cham is being a little nice with her reply.
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I think Cham is being a little nice with her reply.
Yeah I know, what is your point? The girl on Myspace isn't being nice.
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I would think a nice girl with class would respond. If somebody did the same to me I know I would, even if it was some girl that I thought was completely unattractive. I guess she isn't as good of a person as me. Thanks to all who have given their insights.
Not necessarily. Maybe she just doesn't like you or want anything to do with you. Maybe your reading that situation wrong and taking it a tad to far. Move on already. ;)
PB
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Not necessarily. Maybe she just doesn't like you or want anything to do with you. Maybe your reading that situation wrong and taking it a tad to far. Move on already. ;)
PB
Yeah i'm getting that impression now but if she didn't like me back than that means she was fucked in the head. You don't do those things unless you like someone. I would respond to a fat chick that said nice things about me. I will move on, this is just a topic for discussion. I don't like her as much as I once did for alot of reasons.
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From your explanation, it seemed like she WAS into you, guy. However, you gave her nothing back. I am sure she came to the conclusion that you had no interest and you didn't want to play her game. She probably is giving you a taste of your own medicine and giving you back what you gave her...NO RESPONSE.
It was bad timing and she seems like she doesn't want to go back.
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Every time she would look at me it was either with a big smile, pupils dilated, or like a deer caught in headlights. I never smiled at her once even though I really liked her. We didn't know each other but we often saw each other in the hallways.
so........ 3 years ago she smiled at you in a hallway, and you never ever smiled at her, nor did you two know each other and you wonder why she isn't hopping on this opportunity of you acknowledging her?
dude, get over nothing all ready.
(http://www.getbig.com/boards/index.php?action=dlattach;topic=2118.0;attach=97650;image)
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From your explanation, it seemed like she WAS into you, guy. However, you gave her nothing back. I am sure she came to the conclusion that you had no interest and you didn't want to play her game. She probably is giving you a taste of your own medicine and giving you back what you gave her...NO RESPONSE.
It was bad timing and she seems like she doesn't want to go back.
yeah I think that is most likely
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so........ 3 years ago she smiled at you in a hallway, and you never ever smiled at her, nor did you two know each other and you wonder why she isn't hopping on this opportunity of you acknowledging her?
dude, get over nothing all ready.
(http://www.getbig.com/boards/index.php?action=dlattach;topic=2118.0;attach=97650;image)
why not I would hop at the opportunity :)
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you know i dont visit this board often but i feel bad for this kid so let me throw in my thing,,erase it when hes done reading ;)
wanocki my friend
do you remember when your girlygirl jumped on the wall? that was your time to get her,,even shy guys can talk to pretty girls when the pretty girls do a first move,, and she did MAJOR first moves,,you seemed to not show interest and made her feel like you are out of her leage,,it works my friend,,it works well,,pretty girls cant read your heart,,they dont know you were shy and was intimidated by their looks,,most of them dont know they look that good to begin with,,
if you wanted her that was your time,,to get a chic like that you most likley would have had to touch her pretty fast after initial introduction,,you always get a girl by eye contact and touch,,it was out of your character at that time,,
she wont get with you,,in her head she is less than what you want,,no internet words will be able to fix it unless you met her and talked to her face to face and touched!!!! her ,, even then 99% it wont work,,move on and learn for next time as much as it hurt
pretty girls are not aware of how pretty they are! ,,remember that for next time and do the move
good post I agree
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Here's an update. Last week I sent her a friend request. For the last few days the request was pending which I guess means she was considering it. Well I just checked today and my request was DENIED. I guess that's the end of that :(
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Here's an update. Last week I sent her a friend request. For the last few days the request was pending which I guess means she was considering it. Well I just checked today and my request was DENIED. I guess that's the end of that :(
Looks like it.
Maybe you should make a dummy or new account & try it again
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Maybe you should make a dummy or new account & try it again
I don't understand. ???
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I don't understand. ???
Well....she now knows your myspace account......
so Make a new one & try to gain contact.
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Well....she now knows your myspace account......
so Make a new one & try to gain contact.
I still don't understand? She always knew my myspace account. When I sent her a message she could click on my profile. What would making a new one accomplish?
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I still don't understand? She always knew my myspace account. When I sent her a message she could click on my profile. What would making a new one accomplish?
A chance to chat with her.
Don't put your picture up....put someone else's
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A chance to chat with her.
Don't put your picture up....put someone else's
Do you really think she would want to talk with a guy she never saw before? She seemed to drool when she saw me in person and now 3 years later wants nothing to do with me. I don't know why she would talk to some other guy she hasn't seen in person. What could i ask her without her knowing it's me. I wanted to ask her a few questions about school 3 years ago. You know like what her intentions were when she jumped on to that wall. I would've thought she wanted me especially since she brought her girl friends with her. I would've thought she brought them for comfort, and she would'nt have needed friends for comfort unless she was intimidated by me in a sexual way. i don't know :-\
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Just ask to be a 'friend' on her page & see what happens.
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I guess I wanted an ego boost from her. I was expecting her to reply back and thank me for the kind words and then say kind words back. I even thought there was a great chance she would say that I hurt her and embarrassed her in front of her friends. I would've gotten a little ego boost from that too to be honest. Instead she did the worst thing possible which is ignore me. The same medicine doesn't taste so good ;) :-X
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Just ask to be a 'friend' on her page & see what happens.
I don't think it will work. Also I noticed since I found her page that she had about 140 friends and now has about 100 so she seems to be deleting friends and is only keeping people that she likes or keeps in touch with. I guess it's worth a shot but all the questions I have are related toward school 3 years ago so I don't know.
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Trust me....she wants nothing to do with you....
you have a better shot at being a total stranger
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Trust me....she wants nothing to do with you....
you have a better shot at being a total stranger
Ok but I don't know how I could ask the questions I want to ask. Also why do you think things have changed so much with her? Do you think it's a revenge thing or what?
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I think you are probably wasting energy on something that isn't worth it. Just let it go. You sound like a nice guy, but quit making excuses for this girl.
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Ok but I don't know how I could ask the questions I want to ask. Also why do you think things have changed so much with her? Do you think it's a revenge thing or what?
what's so important about the questions....
wouldn't you rather be chatting with her?
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what's so important about the questions....
wouldn't you rather be chatting with her?
Yeah I would like to get to know her but really it was mostly about getting an ego boost seeing as how she lives 1000's of miles away now. I wanted to hear what she thought about me 3 years ago. Maybe that is part of the reason she doesn't want to talk to me. Since i'm so far away now she figures why bother getting to know me.
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I think you are probably wasting energy on something that isn't worth it. Just let it go. You sound like a nice guy, but quit making excuses for this girl.
Yeah you are probably right. It just helps talking about it I guess. I would be ashamed to talk about this in person lol.
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Yeah I would like to get to know her but really it was mostly about getting an ego boost seeing as how she lives 1000's of miles away now. I wanted to hear what she thought about me 3 years ago. Maybe that is part of the reason she doesn't want to talk to me. Since i'm so far away now she figures why bother getting to know me.
there you go...make a fake account that lives local & try saying "hi"
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there you go...make a fake account that lives local & try saying "hi"
I don't think it will work. I won't have myspace friends and no comments on my page. Why would she talk to a guy she doesn't know with just a pic and a blank page?
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well than make up a few more gimmicks (not hard to do) & add them as frineds.
Make sure you add a lot of girls that are friends.
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well than make up a few more gimmicks (not hard to do) & add them as frineds.
Make sure you add a lot of girls that are friends.
;)
Sounds like alot of work and it probably isn't worth the trouble. I just wanted some sort of response from her. Happy or angry it didn't matter. Doesn't look like that will happen. She will always have the message I sent her unless she deletes it but I don't know why she would. Why delete a message like that? I say there is a 1 - 2% chance she will someday respond :)
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you know....you're not as nuts as I was beginning to believe
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you know....you're not as nuts as I was beginning to believe
lol yeah i would've felt like kind of a loser for making a fake profile just so i can talk to a chick I won't see in person again. Am I really nuts for messaging a girl I used to see 3 years ago that looked at me like I was a celebrity?