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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #50 on: March 16, 2007, 09:42:59 PM »
ah.....I am going on a limb here.....but you don't get a lot of girls.....do you?



question....last girlfriend you had.....

(1) how long were you together?
(2) why did you break up?



How did the inside edition post make you think that?  I date every once in a while but haven't had a girlfriend since the one that I had during this time.  I dumped her, we were together for a year.

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #51 on: March 16, 2007, 09:43:59 PM »
You actually think the hurt a woman feels over being ignored is in any way shape or form comparable to that which she experiences from being raped? You're an idiot!  >:(

Read my post again I didn't say they were the same thing. My point was that people don't always forgive when given an apology.

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #52 on: March 16, 2007, 09:45:22 PM »
Stalker...................................................................................................alert

lol come on man I just wanted to talk to her, many people message other people on myspace.  At most I might try to friend her and if that doesn't work that's it.  We won't get together but many couple have gotten together through the guy being persistent even when the girl keeps saying no.  She hasn't said no ;D

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #53 on: March 17, 2007, 09:16:01 AM »
How did the inside edition post make you think that?  I date every once in a while but haven't had a girlfriend since the one that I had during this time.  I dumped her, we were together for a year.

ok....answer my question

"why did you break up?"

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #54 on: March 17, 2007, 11:07:31 AM »
ok....answer my question

"why did you break up?"

She started to smoke again.  She refused to quit.  I still liked her but I hate kissing an ashtray.  If you cringe when you kiss somebody there is no point in being in a relationship with them.

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #55 on: March 19, 2007, 01:09:33 AM »
Three years ago there was this girl at my college who showed a ton of interest in me.  I haven't seen her since then but just found her on Myspace.  She now lives out of state.  This girl made me feel like I was some sort of celebrity the way she would act around me.  Every time she would look at me it was either with a big smile, pupils dilated, or like a deer caught in headlights.  I never smiled at her once even though I really liked her.  We didn't know each other but we often saw each other in the hallways. 

One time I was sitting by myself in the hallways reading my notes when all of a sudden I noticed her and her girl friends peaking at me.  It was one of those moments where you just felt like you were being watched but i wasn't sure.  Then all of a sudden she walks by from a bit of a distance but it looked like she was smiling in my direction.  The professor for her class wasn't there yet so she shouts out "lets go down here."  Her and her girlfriends come over and she then jumped up on to a wall about 6 - 8 feet away from where I was sitting.  I was very shy at the time and I was in a relationship and wasn't thinking about making a move.  After about a minute of her being there I look in her direction and she's glaring at me.  I looked away quickly being the wuss that I am.  A few minutes went by and the teacher finally showed up and they left.  She didn't look in my direction as much after that but a few times we were in the same area she did things that made me think she was trying to make me jealous like tell other guys they are sexy.  The very last time I saw her she was staring at me like she was sad and confused.

I found her on myspace while browsing other profiles just recently.  I haven't seen her in 3 years but I decided to send her a message telling her that I wanted to talk to her then but I had a girlfriend at the time.  I apologized for ignoring her.  I said many nice things about her too and they weren't about her body or anything.  She is completely ignoring my message.  No response at all.  I thought she would've been happy to talk to me and happy that I apologized and let her know that I liked her then. Why is she ignoring me?  Is she ignoring me because I ignored her and now she's getting even?  Does she just not like me now for whatever reason?  Did I come off as creepy by finding her on myspace?

please any serious feedback will be appreciated



you know i dont visit this board often but i feel bad for this kid so let me throw in my thing,,erase it when hes done reading ;)

wanocki my friend
do you remember when your girlygirl jumped on the wall? that was your time to get her,,even shy guys can talk to pretty girls when the pretty girls do a first move,, and she did MAJOR first moves,,you seemed to not show interest and made her  feel like you are out of her leage,,it works my friend,,it works well,,pretty girls cant read your heart,,they dont know you were shy and was intimidated by their looks,,most of them dont know they look that good to begin with,,

if you wanted her that was your time,,to get a chic like that you most likley would have had to touch her pretty fast after initial introduction,,you always get a girl by eye contact and touch,,it was out of your character at that time,,

she wont get with you,,in her head she is less than what you want,,no internet words will be able to fix it unless you met her and talked to her face to face and touched!!!! her ,, even then 99% it wont work,,move on and learn for next time as much as it hurt

pretty girls are not aware of  how pretty they are! ,,remember that for next time and do the move
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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #56 on: March 19, 2007, 02:00:52 PM »
Although you may have felt that you had her in that moment back then....because in never came to be....it never was.  Make sense?

Guys are alot more acceptable to say a cordial "hello" back if the same exact role was reversed.  Girls tend to simply "move on" especially being 3 years.  It may seem difficult to reason..but just accept it.  Girls tend to express feelings & emotions differently than guys & they also "pack them up" alot differently than guys when it's been a few years.  Also, your message (to you) may have been a simple "hey hello how's it been?"....but go back & reread it word for word.  Most likely, you may had said a little too much feelings about the past.  If she's moved on & even has a life with someone, she may look at it as being a weird "stalking" type situation.

There's a very small chance she's nervous to reply...but I place this in less than a 1% chance.



BTW...small advice....by stating she's been logging on every day for the last 3 weeks shows that she really has no interest.  You contacted her....you made the move.  The ball is in her court...she's not picking it up to play.  Game over.

Chalk it up as a lesson in life.


Ditto

You were very nice to apologize to her.  I am sure she feels happy to have that closure in her life.  However, she isn't obligated to respond to you.  You should move on too and the next time a pretty girl flirts with you when you are in a relationship, tell her "sorry, but..."  That way you don't dwell on it for too long.

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #57 on: March 19, 2007, 02:12:01 PM »
Ditto

You were very nice to apologize to her.  I am sure she feels happy to have that closure in her life.  However, she isn't obligated to respond to you.  You should move on too and the next time a pretty girl flirts with you when you are in a relationship, tell her "sorry, but..."  That way you don't dwell on it for too long.

Cham....where have you been?

Good to see you on

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #58 on: March 20, 2007, 10:06:07 AM »
Cham....where have you been?

Good to see you on

Hey Kenny! How are you?  Just living life....Joe's on here enough for the both of us.   ;)

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #59 on: March 20, 2007, 12:03:14 PM »
Hey Kenny! How are you?  Just living life....Joe's on here enough for the both of us.   ;)

true...just haven't seen you on much.

glad to see Joe sharing the computer - lol

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #60 on: March 20, 2007, 09:58:20 PM »
Hey Kenny...

She is right I guess it is a fulltime job for Joe checking out to see what men chamwhoreita is emailing aside from you while he is working all day.

Play your cards right, kenny... she'll be with a jar head like you in no time.

: )

Peggy, I thought you were going to play nice from now on.  I guess not!

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #61 on: March 21, 2007, 06:10:46 AM »
Ditto

You were very nice to apologize to her.  I am sure she feels happy to have that closure in her life.  However, she isn't obligated to respond to you.  You should move on too and the next time a pretty girl flirts with you when you are in a relationship, tell her "sorry, but..."  That way you don't dwell on it for too long.

Nail on the head! There was never anything of a 'formalised' contact, you never even talked, so there's no moral obligation for her to respond, a response would be a bonus in this case. It seems you, Wanocki, are much more occupied by the situation than she is.

Carpe diem, and 3 years ago was clearly not the right diem, so off to new adventures.....

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #62 on: March 21, 2007, 09:09:06 AM »
wow...didn't expect all that

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #63 on: March 21, 2007, 09:58:03 AM »


You were very nice to apologize to her.  I am sure she feels happy to have that closure in her life.  However, she isn't obligated to respond to you. 

I would think a nice girl with class would respond.  If somebody did the same to me I know I would, even if it was some girl that I thought was completely unattractive.  I guess she isn't as good of a person as me. Thanks to all who have given their insights.

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #64 on: March 21, 2007, 10:07:31 AM »
I would think a nice girl with class would respond.  If somebody did the same to me I know I would, even if it was some girl that I thought was completely unattractive.  I guess she isn't as good of a person as me. Thanks to all who have given their insights.

I think Cham is being a little nice with her reply.


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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #65 on: March 21, 2007, 10:48:12 AM »
I think Cham is being a little nice with her reply.



Yeah I know, what is your point?  The girl on Myspace isn't being nice.

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #66 on: March 21, 2007, 10:53:27 AM »
I would think a nice girl with class would respond.  If somebody did the same to me I know I would, even if it was some girl that I thought was completely unattractive.  I guess she isn't as good of a person as me. Thanks to all who have given their insights.
Not necessarily. Maybe she just doesn't like you or want anything to do with you. Maybe your reading that situation wrong and taking it a tad to far. Move on already.  ;)

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #67 on: March 21, 2007, 11:06:20 AM »
Not necessarily. Maybe she just doesn't like you or want anything to do with you. Maybe your reading that situation wrong and taking it a tad to far. Move on already.  ;)

PB

Yeah i'm getting that impression now but if she didn't like me back than that means she was fucked in the head.  You don't do those things unless you like someone.  I would respond to a fat chick that said nice things about me.  I will move on, this is just a topic for discussion.  I don't like her as much as I once did for alot of reasons.

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #68 on: March 21, 2007, 12:34:01 PM »
From your explanation, it seemed like she WAS into you, guy.  However, you gave her nothing back.  I am sure she came to the conclusion that you had no interest and you didn't want to play her game.  She probably is giving you a taste of your own medicine and giving you back what you gave her...NO RESPONSE.

It was bad timing and she seems like she doesn't want to go back. 



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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #69 on: March 21, 2007, 12:44:36 PM »
Every time she would look at me it was either with a big smile, pupils dilated, or like a deer caught in headlights.  I never smiled at her once even though I really liked her.  We didn't know each other but we often saw each other in the hallways. 


 so........ 3 years ago she smiled at you in a hallway, and you never ever smiled at her, nor did you two know each other and you wonder why she isn't hopping on this opportunity of you acknowledging her?

   dude, get over nothing all ready. 




         

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #70 on: March 21, 2007, 03:03:47 PM »
From your explanation, it seemed like she WAS into you, guy.  However, you gave her nothing back.  I am sure she came to the conclusion that you had no interest and you didn't want to play her game.  She probably is giving you a taste of your own medicine and giving you back what you gave her...NO RESPONSE.

It was bad timing and she seems like she doesn't want to go back. 




yeah I think that is most likely


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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #71 on: March 21, 2007, 03:04:31 PM »

 so........ 3 years ago she smiled at you in a hallway, and you never ever smiled at her, nor did you two know each other and you wonder why she isn't hopping on this opportunity of you acknowledging her?

   dude, get over nothing all ready. 




         


why not I would hop at the opportunity :)

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #72 on: March 29, 2007, 03:58:20 PM »
you know i dont visit this board often but i feel bad for this kid so let me throw in my thing,,erase it when hes done reading ;)

wanocki my friend
do you remember when your girlygirl jumped on the wall? that was your time to get her,,even shy guys can talk to pretty girls when the pretty girls do a first move,, and she did MAJOR first moves,,you seemed to not show interest and made her  feel like you are out of her leage,,it works my friend,,it works well,,pretty girls cant read your heart,,they dont know you were shy and was intimidated by their looks,,most of them dont know they look that good to begin with,,

if you wanted her that was your time,,to get a chic like that you most likley would have had to touch her pretty fast after initial introduction,,you always get a girl by eye contact and touch,,it was out of your character at that time,,

she wont get with you,,in her head she is less than what you want,,no internet words will be able to fix it unless you met her and talked to her face to face and touched!!!! her ,, even then 99% it wont work,,move on and learn for next time as much as it hurt

pretty girls are not aware of  how pretty they are! ,,remember that for next time and do the move

good post I agree

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #73 on: March 30, 2007, 03:43:42 PM »
Here's an update.  Last week I sent her a friend request.  For the last few days the request was pending which I guess means she was considering it.  Well I just checked today and my request was DENIED.  I guess that's the end of that :(

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Re: ladies please explain this chick to me
« Reply #74 on: March 30, 2007, 03:55:20 PM »
Here's an update.  Last week I sent her a friend request.  For the last few days the request was pending which I guess means she was considering it.  Well I just checked today and my request was DENIED.  I guess that's the end of that :(

Looks like it.


Maybe you should make a dummy or new account & try it again