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Title: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: Awesomo on March 02, 2009, 09:57:32 AM
Ok so my buddy has been dating this girl for a couple months and they are just getting serious now. She tells him that about 2 years ago she got raped by a guy she knew, they were in grad school together at the time. It was one of those drunk at a party, go back to his room, make out, and then he wouldn't stop when she told him to. She did not report it to the police or anything. This guy still lives in the general area here. My question is now as this girl's boyfriend is he obligated to beat the hell out of this guy. My thoughts are yes, but only if he fully believes her story is 100% accurate.

Thought?
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: Man of Steel on March 02, 2009, 09:58:52 AM
If she were raped why wouldn't she report it?   Sounds suspect to me.
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: The Showstoppa on March 02, 2009, 09:59:22 AM
Ahhhh, the infamous date rape scenario....
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: Awesomo on March 02, 2009, 10:00:00 AM
Ahhhh, the infamous date rape scenario....

Exactly, can he believe she is telling the complete truth.
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: cyp200la on March 02, 2009, 10:00:54 AM
kick the shit out of him!!!
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: The Showstoppa on March 02, 2009, 10:01:32 AM
Exactly, can he believe she is telling the complete truth.

Very tough.  But if he really doesn't 100% believe her, why is he even dating her?
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: The Wizard of Truth on March 02, 2009, 10:01:43 AM
I found myself in similar situation...A girl I know claimed a guy locally raped her,I threatened him,he denied it and said she made up the story,I asked one of my cop friends if it'd been reported,he said no,apparently the bitch made up the allegation against this guy and another guy at a different time...She isnt my friend anymore
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: Awesomo on March 02, 2009, 10:02:48 AM
Very tough.  But if he really doesn't 100% believe her, why is he even dating her?

I think if he assumes it is true he needs to atleast threaten the guy and hear his side of the story.
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: dyslexic on March 02, 2009, 10:04:10 AM
Beating up the boyfriend at this point in time does absolutely nothing to ammend the situation. If anything, it will make things worse.

Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: The Showstoppa on March 02, 2009, 10:04:29 AM
I think if he assumes it is true he needs to atleast threaten the guy and hear his side of the story.

If he really does believe her, he needs to stomp the guys ass, IMO.
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: The Wizard of Truth on March 02, 2009, 10:04:51 AM
I think if he assumes it is true he needs to atleast threaten the guy and hear his side of the story.
That what I did and the truth came out
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: Method101 on March 02, 2009, 10:05:43 AM
my thought is he should stop dealing with damaged goods, that bitch is clearly fucked up in the head, she just has a grudge with that guy and is making up shit to get back at him. He probably fucked her and she went along with it 100% then after he didn't stay for cuddles and fucked off. ;D
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: G o a t b o y on March 02, 2009, 10:06:09 AM
Ok so my buddy has been dating this girl for a couple months and they are just getting serious now. She tells him that about 2 years ago she got raped by a guy she knew, they were in grad school together at the time. It was one of those drunk at a party, go back to his room, make out, and then he wouldn't stop when she told him to. She did not report it to the police or anything. This guy still lives in the general area here. My question is now as this girl's boyfriend is he obligated to beat the hell out of this guy. My thoughts are yes, but only if he fully believes her story is 100% accurate.

Thought?


No.


1)  Who the fuck knows if she's telling the complete truth about what happened?

2)  If she's encouraging him to "beat the guy up" for a two-year old thing she didn't even report, that's fishy as hell. 
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: The Wizard of Truth on March 02, 2009, 10:07:31 AM
ALL rapes get reported
Un-reported rapes are dates that went a bit salty
This was not a rape
She has a vagina
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: Awesomo on March 02, 2009, 10:09:42 AM

No.


1)  Who the fuck knows if she's telling the complete truth about what happened?

2)  If she's encouraging him to "beat the guy up" for a two-year old thing she didn't even report, that's fishy as hell. 

No she just told him in confidence one night. Now he is wondering if he should fight the guy or not. She didn't asking him to and wouldn't want him to. He had to pry the guys name from her.
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: Method101 on March 02, 2009, 10:09:45 AM
If he really does believe her, he needs to stomp the guys ass, IMO.
Please look at this picture of the one and only "Showstoppa" before you take advise from him
(http://media.ebaumsworld.com/picture/Realnessmess/wigger.jpg)
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: The Showstoppa on March 02, 2009, 10:11:19 AM
Please look at this picture of the one and only "Showstoppa" before you take advise from him
(http://media.ebaumsworld.com/picture/Realnessmess/wigger.jpg)

haha, that guys arms are twice the size of mine...and why the hate, did I bitter you in another thread?   :-*
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: Samourai Pizzacat on March 02, 2009, 10:13:32 AM
he need not do anything.

First, it's not his business. She will have to deal with it in whichever way she feels best, your friend can suggest reporting it.
second, he does not know the full story.


Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: chainsaw on March 02, 2009, 10:16:30 AM
You 3 will meet in a public place at one time or another.
give the guy a look, if he give s dirty or suspicious look back
blacken his eyes,
otherwise,
leave it alone.
don't be a hero,
it'll kill ya in  the end game!
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: Samourai Pizzacat on March 02, 2009, 10:17:29 AM
ALL rapes get reported
Un-reported rapes are dates that went a bit salty
This was not a rape
She has a vagina

Bullshit, I don't know where you get your info from but you are horribly misinformed.
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: G o a t b o y on March 02, 2009, 10:18:38 AM
No she just told him in confidence one night. Now he is wondering if he should fight the guy or not. She didn't asking him to and wouldn't want him to. He had to pry the guys name from her.


He needs to let it go.  She wasn't his girlfriend when it happened (did he even know her then?), and as someone else said, it's none of his business.  She obviously didn't feel the need to report it.  If he goes after someone swinging for something that allegedly happened two years ago, he'll just get himself in trouble, and probably make the situation worse.
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: The True Adonis on March 02, 2009, 10:18:45 AM
I think if he assumes it is true he needs to atleast threaten the guy and hear his side of the story.
Threatening someone with physical harm is a crime.  
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: dr.chimps on March 02, 2009, 10:20:04 AM
Please look at this picture of the one and only "Showstoppa" before you take advise from him
(http://media.ebaumsworld.com/picture/Realnessmess/wigger.jpg)
Nice pair of skis on the wall, Showstoppa. Jean Claude Killy signed sports memorabilia?  ;D
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: 240 is Back on March 02, 2009, 10:24:54 AM
she should post about her experience on getbig.  Lots of therapuetic follks here.
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: Method101 on March 02, 2009, 10:33:24 AM
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: Tapeworm on March 02, 2009, 10:40:37 AM
If it was a reported, documented rape and the guy got away free because of some legal loophole that would be one thing.  This is something else.  Did she ever tell anyone at all?  Who were her friends at the time?  Did they at least notice her going through any sort of crisis?  Did she seek any sort of counseling to help her cope?  If the answer to all of these is no... hmmm.

She didn't feel the need to report it back then but she feels the need to bring it up now and see what he'll do about it?  If she's been a level headed woman for awhile then she gets some slack, but if she has a history of manipulative behavior or if this relationship is new and her answers to my questions raise eyebrows, I'd consider this the last straw.  Women like that belong elsewhere.
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: jethro on March 02, 2009, 11:22:14 AM
take your chance and throw a length yourself. if it took her 2 years to make it up this time, chances are you won't be mates with that  dude in your 2 year time scale.  happy days
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: tommywishbone on March 02, 2009, 11:26:26 AM
Pic of the raped girls tits or she does not exist.
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: Sexual Mustard on March 02, 2009, 11:38:03 AM
it was before you met her and it's none of your business.  Her problem, not yours.  So no need to play the tough, white knight for someone you're already starting to fall too hard for....

my .02 cents

Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: jtsunami on March 02, 2009, 02:46:41 PM
Ok so my buddy has been dating this girl for a couple months and they are just getting serious now. She tells him that about 2 years ago she got raped by a guy she knew, they were in grad school together at the time. It was one of those drunk at a party, go back to his room, make out, and then he wouldn't stop when she told him to. She did not report it to the police or anything. This guy still lives in the general area here. My question is now as this girl's boyfriend is he obligated to beat the hell out of this guy. My thoughts are yes, but only if he fully believes her story is 100% accurate.

Thought?

bwhahahah are you fucking kidding me!?  God knows girls make this shit up for pity, and also when you go back to a room after drinking and start to fool around with a guy, it's victim participation and is almost impossible for the guy to get in trouble.  Also I wouldn't be suprised if she just hates this other guy for breaking up with her and she is trying to get back at him and makes up this lie so some dumbass believes her and goes and does this, NO fuckin way should he do this, break up with the bitch she is trouble.

jt
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: muscularny on March 02, 2009, 06:41:04 PM
if you interview most men in prisons and ask them why they are there most will start their story with something like "about 3 years ago i met this girl"

dont do shit, listen, show you care and thats it
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: ManBearPig... on March 02, 2009, 06:49:34 PM
i can't think of a single scenario of you getting involved that would "right" things.

like "muscularny" said, just hear her out, show you care and move on.

if you see him in an alley fight down the line getting his ass kicked, feel free to stomp his head in, but don't go out doing anything stupid.  don't be a bigger gorilla than him.

was he black?
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: jtsunami on March 02, 2009, 08:16:07 PM
i can't think of a single scenario of you getting involved that would "right" things.

like "muscularny" said, just hear her out, show you care and move on.

if you see him in an alley fight down the line getting his ass kicked, feel free to stomp his head in, but don't go out doing anything stupid.  don't be a bigger gorilla than him.

was he black?

Why the fuck would you do that, you are taking her word and not hearing his side of the story and ready to commit a crime over it?  What a fuckin simp ass move...

jt
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: Jizzacked on March 02, 2009, 08:28:46 PM
I would say a majority of women claim to have been "raped" at one point or another.... very rarely does it fall into what we automatically envision when we hear the word. 

most of these women have obscene amounts of baggage as well.
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: HTexan on March 02, 2009, 08:39:43 PM
she can and should still report it.  >:(
then, take it from there.
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: jtsunami on March 02, 2009, 10:14:24 PM
she can and should still report it.  >:(
then, take it from there.

actually it would look bad on her, like she is trying to get vengeance, the guy won't get in trouble, no physical evidence and such a long time ago, there is completely no point to that and will waste tax payer dollars.

jt
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: BatistaSL on March 02, 2009, 11:59:35 PM
my thought is he should stop dealing with damaged goods, that bitch is clearly fucked up in the head, she just has a grudge with that guy and is making up shit to get back at him. He probably fucked her and she went along with it 100% then after he didn't stay for cuddles and fucked off. ;D

Totally agree..She is just using him
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: HTexan on March 03, 2009, 05:34:51 AM
actually it would look bad on her, like she is trying to get vengeance, the guy won't get in trouble, no physical evidence and such a long time ago, there is completely no point to that and will waste tax payer dollars.

jt
i disagree, it would look like she is telling the truth. Yes, the guy wouldn't get in trouble, unless he would confess.
Justice and vengeance are 2 different things ;)
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: DK II on March 03, 2009, 05:39:50 AM
One hint:

NEVER, never never never date a girl that got raped. NEVER. It's not worth it.

She will be a mess some day, the sex may turn into horror, and you're not her psychologist.

Stay away from women that heve been raped, you wouldn't eat a burger someone has spat on as well, even if the burger still looks ok.
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: HTexan on March 03, 2009, 06:05:24 AM
One hint:

NEVER, never never never date a girl that got raped. NEVER. It's not worth it.

She will be a mess some day, the sex may turn into horror, and you're not her psychologist.

Stay away from women that heve been raped, you wouldn't eat a burger someone has spat on as well, even if the burger still looks ok.
I had a girlfriend that was raped. She wasn't mess up.  ::) Being that 1 in 5 women are raped, there is a good change you dated a chick that was raped as well. ;)
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: DK II on March 03, 2009, 06:09:01 AM
I had a girlfriend that was raped. She wasn't mess up.  ::) Being that 1 in 5 women are raped, there is a good change you dated a chick that was raped as well. ;)

who said i didn't speak out of experience?  ::) ::)
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: muscleforlife on March 03, 2009, 06:10:34 AM
she can and should still report it.  >:(
then, take it from there.

I totally agree.

Why would you confess something to someone you just met if you can't report it to the police?
In some cases where it goes unreported the "victim" would like to pretend it never happened and would not speak on it EVER!

Sandra
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: Cap on March 03, 2009, 06:13:44 AM
A girl I dated claimed the same story as the OP and her dad is a cop.  At first I believed it and wanted to stomp the guy but then I got to thinking that the story was messed up.  Why would she not report the rape?
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: Awesomo on March 03, 2009, 06:17:06 AM
Yeah i mean if it is true then it is definitely her fault for not reporting the rape. The guy didn't know her at the time so he couldn't convince her to do anything. He only found out because she got really upset when he made a "rape" joke. You know just messing around and she got really upset and then finally told him the truth. I guess the question is if he eventually marries and fully believes her, now does he do it since she is his wife.
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Post by: Tapeworm on March 03, 2009, 07:14:16 AM
Yeah i mean if it is true then it is definitely her fault for not reporting the rape. The guy didn't know her at the time so he couldn't convince her to do anything. He only found out because she got really upset when he made a "rape" joke. You know just messing around and she got really upset and then finally told him the truth. I guess the question is if he eventually marries and fully believes her, now does he do it since she is his wife.

I can tell you've put a lot of thought into building this 'scenario' mah man.  Props.
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: SaltShaker on March 03, 2009, 10:43:14 AM
Ok so my buddy has been dating this girl for a couple months and they are just getting serious now. She tells him that about 2 years ago she got raped by a guy she knew, they were in grad school together at the time. It was one of those drunk at a party, go back to his room, make out, and then he wouldn't stop when she told him to. She did not report it to the police or anything. This guy still lives in the general area here. My question is now as this girl's boyfriend is he obligated to beat the hell out of this guy. My thoughts are yes, but only if he fully believes her story is 100% accurate.

Thought?
if it didnt happen under your watch, then you shouldnt worry about it. What next, your gonna go find the driver who rear ended her 5 years ago? if she was that stupid not to report it, the fuck her, its her fault... and its begs the questions, why the fuck would she tell a guy shes seeing now, and not tell the cops?

again, if it didnt happen under your watch ( when you were seeing the girl), then just let it go...
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: bigkid on March 03, 2009, 11:01:49 AM
Dump the skank
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: jtsunami on March 03, 2009, 08:26:35 PM
I had a girlfriend that was raped. She wasn't mess up.  ::) Being that 1 in 5 women are raped, there is a good change you dated a chick that was raped as well. ;)

Most women don't know the definition of rape
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: G o a t b o y on March 03, 2009, 08:32:36 PM
Most women don't know the definition of rape


He didn't cuddle with her for a sufficient amount of time afterwards, therefore it was "rape".    ::)
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: Jizzacked on March 03, 2009, 08:34:21 PM
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Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: CT_Muscle on March 03, 2009, 08:38:55 PM
she is full of shit
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: wes mantooth on March 03, 2009, 08:45:34 PM
 Why would she not report the rape?

would you report it if a few dudes took your butthole in the supermarket parking lot?


not every crime gets "reported'. there are many factors in which a victim of a sexual crime feels as though it is their fault, feels disgusted with themselves, believe that they can make it just go away by burying it....

rape is about power, not sex. its psychological warfare with a penis.....
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: BatistaSL on March 03, 2009, 09:09:47 PM
would you report it if a few dudes took your butthole in the supermarket parking lot?


not every crime gets "reported'. there are many factors in which a victim of a sexual crime feels as though it is their fault, feels disgusted with themselves, believe that they can make it just go away by burying it....

rape is about power, not sex. its psychological warfare with a penis.....

And most of the things which goes unreported ,are not crimes ;D
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: HTexan on March 04, 2009, 12:09:21 AM
would you report it if a few dudes took your butthole in the supermarket parking lot?


not every crime gets "reported'. there are many factors in which a victim of a sexual crime feels as though it is their fault, feels disgusted with themselves, believe that they can make it just go away by burying it....

rape is about power, not sex. its psychological warfare with a penis.....

wtf dude? you're in prison?
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: gracie bjj on March 04, 2009, 12:12:28 AM
he should find the guy and rape him,eye for an eye
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: jtsunami on March 04, 2009, 12:12:59 AM

rape is about power, not sex. its psychological warfare with a penis.....


women need to feel powerless sometimes
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: wes mantooth on March 04, 2009, 02:09:32 PM
wtf dude? you're in prison?

LOL naw....im out now ;) ;) ;)

cant log onto getbig from the clink....so i had to break out!
Title: Re: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought
Post by: jason_deluxe on March 04, 2009, 02:29:16 PM
This shit is fishy.

Your "friend" (aka YOU) needs to get a posse together and brutally gang rape this guy balkan style and videotape it for your girl.

Anything less makes you a pussy.

Hope this helps.