Author Topic: Messed up scenario - Opinions sought (Read 7757 times)

Awesomo · « **on:** March 02, 2009, 09:57:32 AM »

Ok so my buddy has been dating this girl for a couple months and they are just getting serious now. She tells him that about 2 years ago she got raped by a guy she knew, they were in grad school together at the time. It was one of those drunk at a party, go back to his room, make out, and then he wouldn't stop when she told him to. She did not report it to the police or anything. This guy still lives in the general area here. My question is now as this girl's boyfriend is he obligated to beat the hell out of this guy. My thoughts are yes, but only if he fully believes her story is 100% accurate.

Thought?

Man of Steel · « **Reply #1 on:** March 02, 2009, 09:58:52 AM »

If she were raped why wouldn't she report it? Sounds suspect to me.

The Showstoppa · « **Reply #2 on:** March 02, 2009, 09:59:22 AM »

Ahhhh, the infamous date rape scenario....

Awesomo · « **Reply #3 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:00:00 AM »

Quote from: The Showstoppa on March 02, 2009, 09:59:22 AM

Ahhhh, the infamous date rape scenario....

Exactly, can he believe she is telling the complete truth.

cyp200la · « **Reply #4 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:00:54 AM »

kick the shit out of him!!!

The Showstoppa · « **Reply #5 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:01:32 AM »

Quote from: Awesomo on March 02, 2009, 10:00:00 AM

Exactly, can he believe she is telling the complete truth.

Very tough. But if he really doesn't 100% believe her, why is he even dating her?

The Wizard of Truth · « **Reply #6 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:01:43 AM »

I found myself in similar situation...A girl I know claimed a guy locally raped her,I threatened him,he denied it and said she made up the story,I asked one of my cop friends if it'd been reported,he said no,apparently the bitch made up the allegation against this guy and another guy at a different time...She isnt my friend anymore

Awesomo · « **Reply #7 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:02:48 AM »

Quote from: The Showstoppa on March 02, 2009, 10:01:32 AM

Very tough. But if he really doesn't 100% believe her, why is he even dating her?

I think if he assumes it is true he needs to atleast threaten the guy and hear his side of the story.

dyslexic · « **Reply #8 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:04:10 AM »

Beating up the boyfriend at this point in time does absolutely nothing to ammend the situation. If anything, it will make things worse.

The Showstoppa · « **Reply #9 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:04:29 AM »

Quote from: Awesomo on March 02, 2009, 10:02:48 AM

I think if he assumes it is true he needs to atleast threaten the guy and hear his side of the story.

If he really does believe her, he needs to stomp the guys ass, IMO.

The Wizard of Truth · « **Reply #10 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:04:51 AM »

Quote from: Awesomo on March 02, 2009, 10:02:48 AM

I think if he assumes it is true he needs to atleast threaten the guy and hear his side of the story.

That what I did and the truth came out

Method101 · « **Reply #11 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:05:43 AM »

my thought is he should stop dealing with damaged goods, that bitch is clearly fucked up in the head, she just has a grudge with that guy and is making up shit to get back at him. He probably fucked her and she went along with it 100% then after he didn't stay for cuddles and fucked off.

G o a t b o y · « **Reply #12 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:06:09 AM »

Quote from: Awesomo on March 02, 2009, 09:57:32 AM

Ok so my buddy has been dating this girl for a couple months and they are just getting serious now. She tells him that about 2 years ago she got raped by a guy she knew, they were in grad school together at the time. It was one of those drunk at a party, go back to his room, make out, and then he wouldn't stop when she told him to. She did not report it to the police or anything. This guy still lives in the general area here. My question is now as this girl's boyfriend is he obligated to beat the hell out of this guy. My thoughts are yes, but only if he fully believes her story is 100% accurate.

Thought?

No.

1) Who the fuck knows if she's telling the complete truth about what happened?

2) If she's encouraging him to "beat the guy up" for a two-year old thing she didn't even report, that's fishy as hell.

The Wizard of Truth · « **Reply #13 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:07:31 AM »

ALL rapes get reported
Un-reported rapes are dates that went a bit salty
This was not a rape
She has a vagina

Awesomo · « **Reply #14 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:09:42 AM »

Quote from: G o a t b o y on March 02, 2009, 10:06:09 AM

No.

1) Who the fuck knows if she's telling the complete truth about what happened?

2) If she's encouraging him to "beat the guy up" for a two-year old thing she didn't even report, that's fishy as hell.

No she just told him in confidence one night. Now he is wondering if he should fight the guy or not. She didn't asking him to and wouldn't want him to. He had to pry the guys name from her.

Method101 · « **Reply #15 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:09:45 AM »

Quote from: The Showstoppa on March 02, 2009, 10:04:29 AM

If he really does believe her, he needs to stomp the guys ass, IMO.

Please look at this picture of the one and only "Showstoppa" before you take advise from him

The Showstoppa · « **Reply #16 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:11:19 AM »

Quote from: Method101 on March 02, 2009, 10:09:45 AM

Please look at this picture of the one and only "Showstoppa" before you take advise from him

haha, that guys arms are twice the size of mine...and why the hate, did I bitter you in another thread?

Samourai Pizzacat · « **Reply #17 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:13:32 AM »

he need not do anything.

First, it's not his business. She will have to deal with it in whichever way she feels best, your friend can suggest reporting it.
second, he does not know the full story.

chainsaw · « **Reply #18 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:16:30 AM »

You 3 will meet in a public place at one time or another.
give the guy a look, if he give s dirty or suspicious look back
blacken his eyes,
otherwise,
leave it alone.
don't be a hero,
it'll kill ya in the end game!

Samourai Pizzacat · « **Reply #19 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:17:29 AM »

Quote from: Okami on March 02, 2009, 10:07:31 AM

ALL rapes get reported
Un-reported rapes are dates that went a bit salty
This was not a rape
She has a vagina

Bullshit, I don't know where you get your info from but you are horribly misinformed.

G o a t b o y · « **Reply #20 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:18:38 AM »

Quote from: Awesomo on March 02, 2009, 10:09:42 AM

No she just told him in confidence one night. Now he is wondering if he should fight the guy or not. She didn't asking him to and wouldn't want him to. He had to pry the guys name from her.

He needs to let it go. She wasn't his girlfriend when it happened (did he even know her then?), and as someone else said, it's none of his business. She obviously didn't feel the need to report it. If he goes after someone swinging for something that allegedly happened two years ago, he'll just get himself in trouble, and probably make the situation worse.

The True Adonis · « **Reply #21 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:18:45 AM »

Quote from: Awesomo on March 02, 2009, 10:02:48 AM

I think if he assumes it is true he needs to atleast threaten the guy and hear his side of the story.

Threatening someone with physical harm is a crime.

dr.chimps · « **Reply #22 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:20:04 AM »

Quote from: Method101 on March 02, 2009, 10:09:45 AM

Please look at this picture of the one and only "Showstoppa" before you take advise from him

Nice pair of skis on the wall, Showstoppa. Jean Claude Killy signed sports memorabilia?

240 is Back · « **Reply #23 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:24:54 AM »

she should post about her experience on getbig. Lots of therapuetic follks here.

Method101 · « **Reply #24 on:** March 02, 2009, 10:33:24 AM »