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Just curious...
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hit or spank?
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I'm not one for doing it... i see ppl hitting their kids and i want to spit. however, there is a time and place for it. When my son was 12-15 months, he loved to stick his fingers in electrical sockets. I would quickly slap his hand down. no pain, just a small swat. he didn't understand the words I said back then - no concept of how electricity would hurt him. Too young for time out. no other way to prevent it.
I only had to do it 3-4 timess and to this day he avoids sockets. more of a sting with the slap, you know? Today at almost 3 years old, I find time out is fine for most things.
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if they act like children in "super nanny" then yes....
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As long as they aren't yours it's cool.
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Check.
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i spank my son when needed, but there is a BIG diff between spank and hit.
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if by "children" you mean that group of black kids that keep trying to steal from you then yes it's perfectly fine to hit and hit with extreme prejudice
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i spank my son when needed, but there is a BIG diff between spank and hit.
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in turkish families there is much more respect,children act like they should
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in turkish families there is much more respect,children act like they should
Or what, you honour kill them? ::)
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Or what, you honour kill them? ::)
no that's not true my friend
the most honour kills are done by kurds not turks
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i spank my son when needed, but there is a BIG diff between spank and hit.
Exactly.
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no that's not true my friend
the most honour kills are done by kurds not turks
Not in Germany.
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Or what, you honour kill them? ::)
haha Deicide, maybe they threaten to move back to Turkey from the western country they moved to....which they moved to get away from turkey....but it's such a great place....
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haha Deicide, maybe they threaten to move back to Turkey from the western country they moved to....which they moved to get away from turkey....but it's such a great place....
lol,turkey is great when you have money
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Sometimes, you have to get their attention.
Parents who refuse to discipline effectively are the problem.
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the most squared away individuals i know had the s*** beat out of them as kids...myself included ;)
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I think you should be able to pull down their pants and slap them on the bare skin of their ass. No hitting anywhere else though.
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the most squared away individuals i know had the s*** beat out of them as kids...myself included ;)
I got 5 real spankings with a belt on my ass in my life.
i remember all 5.
I went into the street, punched a much smaller child, threw a baseball at a bus, and two other things that were just above and beyond "spend 10 minutes in time-out".
Nothing wrong with that. A 4-year old cannot understand what a bumper does to a kid at 45 mph. But they can understand what a belt on the ass feels like. No street.
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Children? hell, I see plenty of adults who need to be hit about the head and shoulders every day.
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I think you don't need to hit them. If 10 minute time out is not enough, then 20 minutes, if that is not enough then more. I have worked with disabled kids and we never hit them and all went just fine.
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Just curious...
sure if that's what it takes
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Sometimes, you have to get their attention.
Parents who refuse to discipline effectively are the problem.
Spot on.
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scaring the shit out of them works good. i'm not above shoving the fuck out of them though
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my dad beat the shit out of me as a kid when i was out of line. I think I turned out ok. It just shows discipline. Most of today's society is so pussified now with "time outs" for kids and "just talking to them." And we wonder why kids are so fucked up and spoiled nowadays. I will make sure to destroy my kids. ;D
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i often put my kids in headlocks and other various mma moves.
1. it teaches them not to fuck with me
2. it's great training for my cage fighting career
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More often than not, you can tie bullies, emotional and unstable children....children who act out and children who have anger and violence issues, to some sort of emotional or physical abuse by a parent. Beating this shit out of your kid teaches them that fear and aggression are the way to solve problems. Treatment like that also destroys a child's confidence.
I'm not saying to act like a pussy with your kids, but physical harm and causing extreme fear to a young child is the wrong way to do things. Remember, to them you look like Ronnie Coleman. Also, chances are you are a fucked up person if you beat your child.
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More often than not, you can tie bullies, emotional, unstable - children, children who act out and children who have anger and violence issues, to some sort of emotional or physical abuse by a parent. Beating this shit out of your kid teaches them that fear and aggression are the way to solve problems. Treatment like that also destroys a child's confidence.
I'm not saying to act like a pussy with your kids, but physical harm and causing extreme fear to a young child is the wrong way to do things. Remember, to them you look like Ronnie Coleman. Also, chances are you are a fucked up person if you beat your child.
abuse and punishment are 2 totally diff things
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Fine line between discipline and abuse. I don't think anyone here (other than Ike Turner and Chris Brown fans) is advocating abuse.
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threw a baseball at a bus
Don't know why, but that cracks me up.
Did the driver stop? HAHA
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Just curious...
white kids?
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abuse and punishment are 2 totally diff things
If you wack your kid across the face with force and try to scare them you are borderline abusive, imo. Its not needed. I don't have an issue with "spanking" a kid....but you get these people who basically whip their kids ass and think it builds character.
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Sometimes, you have to get their attention.
Parents who refuse to discipline effectively are the problem.
It's perfectly acceptable to hit those parents.
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Spanking hell yes..sometimes my little one is lucky she never got what I got and for some things that time out shit is for the birds. Would I spank on the butt in public no, never really had to but she is going on 4 so we shall see. All I have to say is keep it up and no more ballet or karate, that usually sets her straight
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Beat them when they are VERY little and you will not have to ever do it again.
Remember that.
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Spanking hell yes..sometimes my little one is lucky she never got what I got and for some things that time out shit is for the birds. Would I spank on the butt in public no, never really had to but she is going on 4 so we shall see. All I have to say is keep it up and no more ballet or karate, that usually sets her straight
Amen. Of course, every kid is different. When I was a kid, my daddy would ground me from watching wrestling for two weeks if I misbehaved too egregiously. If that didn't correct the problem, the beating followed. As my daddy always said, "A hard head makes for a soft ass."
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If you wack your kid across the face with force and try to scare them you are borderline abusive, imo. Its not needed. I don't have an issue with "spanking" a kid....but you get these people who basically whip their kids ass and think it builds character.
my son gets a spank across the thigh at most, i would NEVER hit him across the face, and your right i never understood why people think that beating a child will build character... unless by character they want their kids to grow being violent offenders like themselves
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my parents never touched,maybe 1 or 2 slaps when i was young
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Just curious...
It's not allowed to hit adults, so why should one be allowed to hit children?
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Ps. Hitting children is cowardly
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my parents never touched,maybe 1 or 2 slaps when i was young
For all the reminiscing about "all the beat-downs we received" most here probably only got only a handful of spankings growing up. I can really only remember 4 myself.
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I saw some older trashy guy hit his kid at a bar/restaurant once. He slapped him in the back of the head really hard, not sure why. I asked him how he would like it if someone hit him in the back of the head. He told me to mind my own business. I told him since it was 11 o'clock and this 10ish year old was STILL at the bar breathing in my smoke it kind of was my business and asked him if he needed a loan to get a babysitter in a smart ass way. He moved away from me, but him and his wife/GF stayed there till 1 a.m. while the kid played video games in the corner. Trashy people. I should have called the police tbh. When someone does that shit in public, God knows what they do in the privacy of their own homes.
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I think many parents don't know the difference between abuse and discipline, and this is mainly where most problems come from. Anybody and everybody are becoming parents this day and age and not every person is qualified. Sure they are two different things, but a lot of parents can't state the difference. I think a lot of parents "discipline" their children (spank them, etc) thinking it's discipline while the kid on the other hand think it's abuse. I got hundreds of spankings growing up, and I remember telling myself at the time to remember how i felt about it so I wouldn't make the same mistakes when/if I became a parent. Many times when I got spanked, I didn't know why. I wasn't aware any act I did was wrong, and any questioning was deemed as "talking back" and thus more spanking was applied. Did instances like these teach me to become a better person? Apparently not. I think society has this idea that violence is the easiest way out of a situation so this is the method that we apply. For example if someone is doing harm to someone else or just acting like a jerk, many times people say "boy if they did that to me i'd go against their head" etc etc.
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There is a line from a movie that says, "you have to have a license to drive a car, but any asshole can have kids."
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I think many parents don't know the difference between abuse and discipline, and this is mainly where most problems come from. Anybody and everybody are becoming parents this day and age and not every person is qualified. Sure they are two different things, but a lot of parents can't state the difference. I think a lot of parents "discipline" their children (spank them, etc) thinking it's discipline while the kid on the other hand think it's abuse. I got hundreds of spankings growing up, and I remember telling myself at the time to remember how i felt about it so I wouldn't make the same mistakes when/if I became a parent. Many times when I got spanked, I didn't know why. I wasn't aware any act I did was wrong, and any questioning was deemed as "talking back" and thus more spanking was applied. Did instances like these teach me to become a better person? Apparently not. I think society has this idea that violence is the easiest way out of a situation so this is the method that we apply. For example if someone is doing harm to someone else or just acting like a jerk, many times people say "boy if they did that to me i'd go against their head" etc etc.
Yup.
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my dad beat the shit out of me as a kid when i was out of line. I think I turned out ok. It just shows discipline. Most of today's society is so pussified now with "time outs" for kids and "just talking to them." And we wonder why kids are so fucked up and spoiled nowadays. I will make sure to destroy my kids. ;D
I agree! When they really deserve it beat their ass! My brother and I had our butts cut when we were naughty and we turned out just fine.
But spank because they deserve it and you love them... never out of anger or frustration. 8)
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There is a line from a movie that says, "you have to have a license to drive a car, but any asshole can have kids."
Keanu Reeves-Parenthood
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I agree! When they really deserve it beat their ass! My brother and I had our butts cut when we were naughty and we turned out just fine.
ORLY?!?!?!?
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I agree! When they really deserve it beat their ass! My brother and I had our butts cut when we were naughty and we turned out just fine.
But spank because they deserve it and you love them... never out of anger or frustration. 8)
I guess after a while you began to find pleasure in getting your "butt cut." :-X
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Fucking right it's acceptable to hit your children, that's the problem with today's punks, their parents were too politically correct and wanted to talk their problems out dr.phil style instead of giving their kids a good ass whooping like we received growing up (I'm 29) that's why those little shitstains of today have no respect or discipline, bunch of whiny emo fags and wannabe thugs.
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Fucking right it's acceptable to hit your children, that's the problem with today's punks, their parents were too politically correct and wanted to talk their problems out dr.phil style instead of giving their kids a good ass whooping like we received growing up (I'm 29) that's why those little shitstains of today have no respect or discipline, bunch of whiny emo fags and wannabe thugs.
in all fairness, society hasn't really seen the benefits/detriments of the whole "dr. phil" style because it hasnt been completed and those that were around when it started are still in the character growing stage.
And by the way, to throw even more fuel in the fire here, children are more influenced by their peers instead of their parents. That's basic physcology (since I learned it in PSY 200).
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in all fairness, society hasn't really seen the benefits/detriments of the whole "dr. phil" style because it hasnt been completed and those that were around when it started are still in the character growing stage.
And by the way, to throw even more fuel in the fire here, children are more influenced by their peers instead of their parents. That's basic physcology (since I learned it in PSY 200).
Sorry, what the hell is 'PHYSCOLOGY' ?? I don't know about you, I studied psychology at university.
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I got the belt, the wooden spoon, plastic hangers, dad's ring to the back of the head, open hand. That put the fear of God in me. I figured out how to circumvent "time out" as I didn't need tv to have fun. Time out is bullshit. My dad's actions put fear and me and it stuck. People think you cannot fear and respect someone but I had both. I see and know people who never got hit as kids and they are fucking assholes. My dad never said please and never apologized, even to today and if he tells me to do something, he does just that he tells me, he doesn't ask. My mom even said time out didn't work on me because I would either ignore it and read a book or comic or I would sit there and argue my point. All she had to say was "wait until your father gets home" and I fucking behaved.
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Sorry, what the hell is 'PHYSCOLOGY' ?? I don't know about you, I studied psychology at university.
dude......whatever...... I spelled it wrong. Psychology then. Talk about nitpicking. Give me a break I'm doing a huge paper on fiscal federalism right now.
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dude......whatever......I spelled it wrong. Psychology then. Talk about nitpicking. Give me a break I'm doing a huge paper on fiscal federalism right now.
Bullshit, you're fucking off and posting on teh internet.
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I got no problem with it. I was hit as a child by both my mum and dad. Was a lot more effective than being "sent to my room" or "timeout".
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Hit? No. Kick? Yes. Why not, they're short and closer to your boot.
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I got the belt, the wooden spoon, plastic hangers, dad's ring to the back of the head, open hand. That put the fear of God in me. I figured out how to circumvent "time out" as I didn't need tv to have fun. Time out is bullshit. My dad's actions put fear and me and it stuck. People think you cannot fear and respect someone but I had both. I see and know people who never got hit as kids and they are fucking assholes. My dad never said please and never apologized, even to today and if he tells me to do something, he does just that he tells me, he doesn't ask. My mom even said time out didn't work on me because I would either ignore it and read a book or comic or I would sit there and argue my point. All she had to say was "wait until your father gets home" and I fucking behaved.
That's exactly what today's society is lacking...shit, that's the way I was brought up, respect your parents or you get your ass beat. in the long run it made me love and respect them even more, not like this worthless trash growing up now , fucking kids having cell phones at age 8 and talking back to their parents. If my kid ever talks back to me at that age he'll get an open back hand across the godamn mouth, and if he threatens to call the cops he's getting sent to boarding school in Eastern Europe :)
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Bullshit, you're fucking off and posting on teh internet.
lmao, true, but i call it multi-tasking.
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It's ok to hit other people's children, just not your own ;)
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Fucking right it's acceptable to hit your children, that's the problem with today's punks, their parents were too politically correct and wanted to talk their problems out dr.phil style instead of giving their kids a good ass whooping like we received growing up (I'm 29) that's why those little shitstains of today have no respect or discipline, bunch of whiny emo fags and wannabe thugs.
true words spoken.
time out hahahaha thats what happens when you read too many books and focus on not hurting there feelings. if the child acts up a good spanking does wonders. fear always wins over "talking"
funniest thing i seen was when my samoan friend got in trouble at school he got home and his dad sat him in a chair and called his uncles then they started beating the shit out of him. none of this open handed shit closed fists that would knock out any normal person. mind you the son was like 6'4 at the age of 15 now he is 21 and hasnt been in trouble since
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That's exactly what today's society is lacking...shit, that's the way I was brought up, respect your parents or you get your ass beat. in the long run it made me love and respect them even more, not like this worthless trash growing up now , fucking kids having cell phones at age 8 and talking back to their parents. If my kid ever talks back to me at that age he'll get an open back hand across the godamn mouth, and if he threatens to call the cops he's getting sent to boarding school in Eastern Europe :)
I hear ya man. It sickens me to hear that parents are afraid to hit their kids for discipline. I heard stories from my dad and his father and I feel fucking lucky. I will always respect my parents being raised the way I was. Most of the people I know were raised by pussy parents and they have no fucking respect. Both granddads believed in beating and at the very least all the kids showed respect at all times. My dad did want or need to be my friend, he was my dad. If I needed friends I went down the street. Parents today are afraid to be disliked by their kids. Too fucking bad. Being a good parent should always come before being liked. Enjoy the video.
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I hear ya man. It sickens me to hear that parents are afraid to hit their kids for discipline. I heard stories from my dad and his father and I feel fucking lucky. I will always respect my parents being raised the way I was. Most of the people I know were raised by pussy parents and they have no fucking respect. Both granddads believed in beating and at the very least all the kids showed respect at all times. My dad did want or need to be my friend, he was my dad. If I needed friends I went down the street. Parents today are afraid to be disliked by their kids. Too fucking bad. Being a good parent should always come before being liked. Enjoy the video.
I would also like to add that my younger brother almost never got hit like I did growing up. I took the brunt of the disciplining. Turns out he was a rebellious fuck who dropped out of high school, was irresponsible, disrepected authority, did rec drugs, and can't hold a steady job. Coincidence? I'm still gonna whoop my kids!
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after my brother fucked up our granny whacked him with an iron skillet on the side of the head and his head hurt for a week but you know what? now he's a board certified MD and lavishes praise on granny for knocking sense into his thick skull.
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after my brother fucked up our granny whacked him with an iron skillet on the side of the head and his head hurt for a week but you know what? now he's a board certified MD and lavishes praise on granny for knocking sense into his thick skull.
I fucked up ONCE with my grandpa and he hit me. I was 1.) in shock that grandpas could do that 2.) never stepped out of turn again.
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Spanking yes hitting no.
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Hell yeah you should "spank" your child when necessary...My Mom used to tear me up with her "Isotoners" and my dad with a belt....and when I look back, I deserved every one of those beatings....and I turned out OK ;D
I can remember being in grade school and some of the dad's would come and spank the shit out of their kids in front of the class to teach them "humility" and to teach them a lesson.....
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I got my ass whipped with the metal part of the belt and i would laugh after the beating was over and go to my room where i had a Nintendo, Sega Genesis, Gameboy, New T.V., Baketball thing where i shot my clothes in and that never worked but their are two things that straightened my ass out.
1. When a kid is mad at his/her parent/s they will be so mad at them and spanking, smacking really does nothing but my mother would make me stare at her for 1 hour and sometimes more and i could not speak. I talk to mom everyday and i thank her for doing that because that really worked.
2. I was a 12 year old punk who liked to cause trouble and treat people like shit and i was not a bad kid but i was in with the wrong crowd. I was caught damagening someones property along with my punk buddies and lucky me, got to go to court and well, i went to a the state prision for Scared Straight and those dudes scared the shit out of me. Seeing a big black guy that is almost 300 lbs scream at you when you are 12 and skinny as a twig will break you down as it did me and the things that they all told us scared me straight. I could not look away but some kids did and then more guys came in and started screaming about how they cannot even see their children or see their grandchildren. I remember a big white guy who said that if i was in there, "I would fuck you, make you my bitch and then sell you to some other MOTHER FUCKER!! I cried and that set me straight. I remember everything about that day and just the feeling when i got back on that bus and some kids were laughing but i got my shit together and started helping others and getting more involved into sports then i already was and being a leader. The best thing that i ever learned being in Kentucky.
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I got my ass whipped with the metal part of the belt and i would laugh after the beating was over and go to my room where i had a Nintendo, Sega Genesis, Gameboy, New T.V., Baketball thing where i shot my clothes in and that never worked but their are two things that straightened my ass out.
1. When a kid is mad at his/her parent/s they will be so mad at them and spanking, smacking really does nothing but my mother would make me stare at her for 1 hour and sometimes more and i could not speak. I talk to mom everyday and i thank her for doing that because that really worked.
2. I was a 12 year old punk who liked to cause trouble and treat people like shit and i was not a bad kid but i was in with the wrong crowd. I was caught damagening someones property along with my punk buddies and lucky me, got to go to court and well, i went to a the state prision for Scared Straight and those dudes scared the shit out of me. Seeing a big black guy that is almost 300 lbs scream at you when you are 12 and skinny as a twig will break you down as it did me and the things that they all told us scared me straight. I could not look away but some kids did and then more guys came in and started screaming about how they cannot even see their children or see their grandchildren. I remember a big white guy who said that if i was in there, "I would fuck you, make you my bitch and then sell you to some other MOTHER FUCKER!! I cried and that set me straight. I remember everything about that day and just the feeling when i got back on that bus and some kids were laughing but i got my shit together and started helping others and getting more involved into sports then i already was and being a leader. The best thing that i ever learned being in Kentucky.
oh i forgot my grandmother was 5'1" and a mean 250 lbs
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I cried and that set me straight. I remember everything about that day and just the feeling when i got back on that bus and some kids were laughing but i got my shit together and started helping others and getting more involved into sports then i already was and being a leader. The best thing that i ever learned being in Kentucky.
hAHAHAHAHAhhahahahahaaaPussy. ;D
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hAHAHAHAHAhhahahahahaaaPussy. ;D
I cried when bo schembechler died to.
I also cried when my grandmother died also.
I guess so....Have a good one brah!!
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I cried when bo schembechler died to.
I also cried when my grandmother died also.
I guess so....Have a good one brah!!
Your weakness dissapoints me.....
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Your weakness dissapoints me.....
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Doug sounds like quite the crybaby. :-\
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Doug sounds like quite the crybaby. :-\
Doug strikes me as the type of person who takes pictures of rainbows and encourages people to be open with him.....
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Doug strikes me as the type of person who takes pictures of rainbows and encourages people to be open with him.....
That is very odd thing to say :( Good luck with your future endovers
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My mom hit me when I acted way out of order when I was younger and I don't blame her one bit. There's a difference between abuse and discipline, and I'm glad I was disciplined at a young age as I definitely think it made me a better and stronger adult.
Then again, I grew up in a different culture. Disciplinary spankings for failing to do well in school or getting into trouble were and still are common. Abuse is not.
I don't mean to sound ethnocentric, but I believe that the states and Europe do not understand the difference between discipline and abuse. Kids in America aren't disciplined by parents, but when parents do decide to do something they resort to abuse.
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That is very odd thing to say :( Good luck with your future endovers
Thankyou.....i will do them tear-free..... 8)
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If i had kids I would make the mom take care of discipline, and I would just back her up. This would be most effective strategy if the child needs physical punishment. I would never hit my mom back but when it came down to it with my dad we had some brawls and we destroyed a lot of furniture, walls, windows, etc...but nothing was ever resolved.
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If i had kids I would make the mom take care of discipline, and I would just back her up. This would be most effective strategy if the child needs physical punishment. I would never hit my mom back but when it came down to it with my dad we had some brawls and we destroyed a lot of furniture, walls, windows, etc...but nothing was ever resolved.
Just make those little pricks carry stones and then one day they could lift a 600lb stone for 50ft no trouble..... 8)
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If i had kids I would make the mom take care of discipline, and I would just back her up. This would be most effective strategy if the child needs physical punishment. I would never hit my mom back but when it came down to it with my dad we had some brawls and we destroyed a lot of furniture, walls, windows, etc...but nothing was ever resolved.
are you still a hulking 265lbs. ? throwing around 500lb. stones like they're beach balls ? ;)
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are you still a hulking 265lbs. ? throwing around 500lb. stones like they're beach balls ? ;)
only about 255-260 today. Still gaining back from vacation. Maybe I will do some dbols and get big like sevaste ::)
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Who hasn't been hit by their parents? Pinches in the restaurant are worse!!!!
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only about 255-260 today. Still gaining back from vacation. Maybe I will do some dbols and get big like sevaste ::)
Hahahahaha!!!! we can only dream of that kind of size!!
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I plan on using intimidation, I seem to do it well, if that doesn't work a spanking is not out of the question.
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I plan on using intimidation, I seem to do it well, if that doesn't work a spanking is not out of the question.
lol sweet!!
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Are adoptee's allowed to get spanked?
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get spanked for bad habits and behaviour is fine...as long as its not too hard and doesn't put scars to the body. Slapping is unnecessary....
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my dad used to hit me when i was old enough... then we i started to hit him back... kinda like a fight club... we developed a great relationship since then... we go out to bars together and shit kinda like a best friend... i guess he was trying to understand what kinda son he had 8)
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i knew i was fucked when my mom would say ''im gonna tell your daddy''
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Why not?
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my dad used to be a big drinker,he would beat me every hour on the hour all night long,it sucked ass for me.i was a bad kid though,i guess i deserved it.i couldnt tell my teachers he beat me when they seen the bruises,cause he said he would kill me,so i would say i was playing and fell.i think thats why i ask my wife to punch me in the face and kick me in the balls when we are having sex
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Is that why you took up gracie bjj?
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How is it acceptable to hit someone who weighs less than 100 pounds? A lot of white trash thinking going on in this thread.
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Is that why you took up gracie bjj?
actually i never even knew bjj existed till i watched the first ufc in 93,then i started judo cause i couldnt find a bjj school in my area.then all of a sudden bjj schools started popping up all over the place after royce started winning his matches against bigger guys mostly,i found a great shootfighting school in north jersey where i grew up and the teacher was ufc judge dan mirigliotta,dan is a purple belt under renzo gracie and thats how i started gracie bjj,i fell in love with the sport as soon as i started training in it,it became an obsession at one point
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I was just kidding man, it's messed up how you were treated. Be good to your kids man.
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I was just kidding man, it's messed up how you were treated. Be good to your kids man.
i treat my son great,ive never layed a finger on him,i never understood how someone can beat someone that they love,it was hard for me to understand what my dad did to me for many years after that,as i got older i forgave him and we have a great relationship today.it was the alchohol i guess,i cant imagine hurting my son whether i was drunk or not.dont get me wrong,last year he was trying to touch the stove burners and i tapped his hand very lightly,he was mad at me but i did it for his own good,i dont want him to burn himself.this is the first time in my life where i actually have someone cry for me when i leave for work,my son cries when i go to work and that keeps me going everyday and keeps me away from the cocaine and alcohol.i always clap for my son when he does something nice or says his abc,s,my sons the best thing that ever happened to me and i thank god everyday for him.the only thing that scares me is that im not exactly a big bread winner and im worried that one day he will despise me for not having alot of money,im getting my CDL this month so ill make pretty good money driving trucks,i just want to make sure i could leave him something behind when its my turn to go home to the lord,my dad was a factory worker his whole life and i never despised him for it,he provided us with food on the table,clothes on our backs and when he wasnt drinking he was the most generous man in the world,he would help anyone in need.im already teaching my son jiu jitsu at home on my wrestling mats,he has no idea what hes doin,lol, but im just letting him get used to pushing me off him and im teaching him how to fall even though he doesnt realize it,lol.i want him to be a great at bjj,even though im going to bring him to a muay thia boxing school when hes alittle older,i dont want him to be a mma fighter,even though i love mma.i just want him to compete in bjj if he wants,if he dont like it,thats cool also.maybe hell like soccer better or something and ill support whatever he does as long as hes happy and healthy and stays away from drugs cause i couldnt accept that,thanks for reading dballin247
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No worries man, some times life gives us lemons and it appears you're making lemonade.
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my dad used to be a big drinker,he would beat me every hour on the hour all night long,it sucked ass for me.i was a bad kid though,i guess i deserved it.i couldnt tell my teachers he beat me when they seen the bruises,cause he said he would kill me,so i would say i was playing and fell.i think thats why i ask my wife to punch me in the face and kick me in the balls when we are having sex
is your wife a guy? :)
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i treat my son great,ive never layed a finger on him,i never understood how someone can beat someone that they love,it was hard for me to understand what my dad did to me for many years after that,as i got older i forgave him and we have a great relationship today.it was the alchohol i guess,i cant imagine hurting my son whether i was drunk or not.dont get me wrong,last year he was trying to touch the stove burners and i tapped his hand very lightly,he was mad at me but i did it for his own good,i dont want him to burn himself.this is the first time in my life where i actually have someone cry for me when i leave for work,my son cries when i go to work and that keeps me going everyday and keeps me away from the cocaine and alcohol.i always clap for my son when he does something nice or says his abc,s,my sons the best thing that ever happened to me and i thank god everyday for him.the only thing that scares me is that im not exactly a big bread winner and im worried that one day he will despise me for not having alot of money,im getting my CDL this month so ill make pretty good money driving trucks,i just want to make sure i could leave him something behind when its my turn to go home to the lord,my dad was a factory worker his whole life and i never despised him for it,he provided us with food on the table,clothes on our backs and when he wasnt drinking he was the most generous man in the world,he would help anyone in need.im already teaching my son jiu jitsu at home on my wrestling mats,he has no idea what hes doin,lol, but im just letting him get used to pushing me off him and im teaching him how to fall even though he doesnt realize it,lol.i want him to be a great at bjj,even though im going to bring him to a muay thia boxing school when hes alittle older,i dont want him to be a mma fighter,even though i love mma.i just want him to compete in bjj if he wants,if he dont like it,thats cool also.maybe hell like soccer better or something and ill support whatever he does as long as hes happy and healthy and stays away from drugs cause i couldnt accept that,thanks for reading dballin247
Seriously dude, are you allergic to using paragraphs or something.....
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i treat my son great,ive never layed a finger on him,i never understood how someone can beat someone that they love,it was hard for me to understand what my dad did to me for many years after that,as i got older i forgave him and we have a great relationship today.it was the alchohol i guess,i cant imagine hurting my son whether i was drunk or not.dont get me wrong,last year he was trying to touch the stove burners and i tapped his hand very lightly,he was mad at me but i did it for his own good,i dont want him to burn himself.this is the first time in my life where i actually have someone cry for me when i leave for work,my son cries when i go to work and that keeps me going everyday and keeps me away from the cocaine and alcohol.i always clap for my son when he does something nice or says his abc,s,my sons the best thing that ever happened to me and i thank god everyday for him.the only thing that scares me is that im not exactly a big bread winner and im worried that one day he will despise me for not having alot of money,im getting my CDL this month so ill make pretty good money driving trucks,i just want to make sure i could leave him something behind when its my turn to go home to the lord,my dad was a factory worker his whole life and i never despised him for it,he provided us with food on the table,clothes on our backs and when he wasnt drinking he was the most generous man in the world,he would help anyone in need.im already teaching my son jiu jitsu at home on my wrestling mats,he has no idea what hes doin,lol, but im just letting him get used to pushing me off him and im teaching him how to fall even though he doesnt realize it,lol.i want him to be a great at bjj,even though im going to bring him to a muay thia boxing school when hes alittle older,i dont want him to be a mma fighter,even though i love mma.i just want him to compete in bjj if he wants,if he dont like it,thats cool also.maybe hell like soccer better or something and ill support whatever he does as long as hes happy and healthy and stays away from drugs cause i couldnt accept that,thanks for reading dballin247
Sounds good. :)
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Great Potst gracie..we all want better for our kids. Everyone has different views on discipline.
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Great Potst gracie..we all want better for our kids. Everyone has different views on discipline.
He sounds a lot cooler than the people who are praising beatings with belt buckles...
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i treat my son great,ive never layed a finger on him,i never understood how someone can beat someone that they love,it was hard for me to understand what my dad did to me for many years after that,as i got older i forgave him and we have a great relationship today.it was the alchohol i guess,i cant imagine hurting my son whether i was drunk or not.dont get me wrong,last year he was trying to touch the stove burners and i tapped his hand very lightly,he was mad at me but i did it for his own good,i dont want him to burn himself.this is the first time in my life where i actually have someone cry for me when i leave for work,my son cries when i go to work and that keeps me going everyday and keeps me away from the cocaine and alcohol.i always clap for my son when he does something nice or says his abc,s,my sons the best thing that ever happened to me and i thank god everyday for him.the only thing that scares me is that im not exactly a big bread winner and im worried that one day he will despise me for not having alot of money,im getting my CDL this month so ill make pretty good money driving trucks,i just want to make sure i could leave him something behind when its my turn to go home to the lord,my dad was a factory worker his whole life and i never despised him for it,he provided us with food on the table,clothes on our backs and when he wasnt drinking he was the most generous man in the world,he would help anyone in need.im already teaching my son jiu jitsu at home on my wrestling mats,he has no idea what hes doin,lol, but im just letting him get used to pushing me off him and im teaching him how to fall even though he doesnt realize it,lol.i want him to be a great at bjj,even though im going to bring him to a muay thia boxing school when hes alittle older,i dont want him to be a mma fighter,even though i love mma.i just want him to compete in bjj if he wants,if he dont like it,thats cool also.maybe hell like soccer better or something and ill support whatever he does as long as hes happy and healthy and stays away from drugs cause i couldnt accept that,thanks for reading dballin247
i love you
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well, for Christians, I think the Bible says how to deal with Kids....hahhahahahah
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my dad beat the shit out of me as a kid when i was out of line. I think I turned out ok. It just shows discipline. Most of today's society is so pussified now with "time outs" for kids and "just talking to them." And we wonder why kids are so fucked up and spoiled nowadays. I will make sure to destroy my kids. ;D
LOL..........most people won't agrre with you, but your Method do works and I think a lot of parents can attest to that
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i treat my son great,ive never layed a finger on him,i never understood how someone can beat someone that they love,it was hard for me to understand what my dad did to me for many years after that,as i got older i forgave him and we have a great relationship today.it was the alchohol i guess,i cant imagine hurting my son whether i was drunk or not.dont get me wrong,last year he was trying to touch the stove burners and i tapped his hand very lightly,he was mad at me but i did it for his own good,i dont want him to burn himself.this is the first time in my life where i actually have someone cry for me when i leave for work,my son cries when i go to work and that keeps me going everyday and keeps me away from the cocaine and alcohol.i always clap for my son when he does something nice or says his abc,s,my sons the best thing that ever happened to me and i thank god everyday for him.the only thing that scares me is that im not exactly a big bread winner and im worried that one day he will despise me for not having alot of money,im getting my CDL this month so ill make pretty good money driving trucks,i just want to make sure i could leave him something behind when its my turn to go home to the lord,my dad was a factory worker his whole life and i never despised him for it,he provided us with food on the table,clothes on our backs and when he wasnt drinking he was the most generous man in the world,he would help anyone in need.im already teaching my son jiu jitsu at home on my wrestling mats,he has no idea what hes doin,lol, but im just letting him get used to pushing me off him and im teaching him how to fall even though he doesnt realize it,lol.i want him to be a great at bjj,even though im going to bring him to a muay thia boxing school when hes alittle older,i dont want him to be a mma fighter,even though i love mma.i just want him to compete in bjj if he wants,if he dont like it,thats cool also.maybe hell like soccer better or something and ill support whatever he does as long as hes happy and healthy and stays away from drugs cause i couldnt accept that,thanks for reading dballin247
i love that you can forgive. that's the beautiful part. your dad wasn't well when he acted out all his inner rage of brutality on you and others.
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It's beyond me how much people complain about the kids in todays society in the US, yet don't believe in any real discipline.
Timeout? hahah, me and my brothers would have laughed at that garbage. I'm not saying we got "beat" because we didn't. We got spanked when we did things, but honestly the threat of spanking was the biggest deterrent.
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well, Kids who grew up in the 50's are different than today's generation. unfortunately, as time changes, so are the way we discipline our Kids. I've heard senior Citizens who said that in their youth, discipline was Golden, and they're sad to see how the current generation of kids are spoiled Brats, who have no respect for their Elders. who do we blame?
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well, Kids who grew up in the 50's are different than today's generation. unfortunately, as time changes, so are the way we discipline our Kids. I've heard senior Citizens who said that in their youth, discipline was Golden, and they're sad to see how the current generation of kids are spoiled Brats, who have no respect for their Elders. who do we blame?
Dr. Spock (not Kirk's sidekick) , that idiot in the 70's who started advocating the current attitude towards discipline and combine that with the hippie generation and boom (no pun intended baby boomers) . The older generation had it right, not on everything, but certainly on discipline.
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I don't have children, so I have no experience on the subject.
but I got spanked a few times when I needed to shut the fuck up and I believe my parents did the right thing
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children can hit other children
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I got my ass beat as a kid if I deserved it, and a few times when I didn't but I survived. My son is only 18 months so other than a smack on the hand when hes bad, all I have to do is roll up my sleeve and flex at him.
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I got my ass beat as a kid if I deserved it, and a few times when I didn't but I survived. My son is only 18 months so other than a smack on the hand when hes bad, all I have to do is roll up my sleeve and flex at him.
My father hit me once when I didn't deserved it.
My parents had just divorced he he was pissed off and depressed.
One day I arrived at home after school, I was about 16 years old, and he asked me to help my brother for something (I don't remember what). I said that I didn't have time for this right now.
He entered into my room and start punching me in the face for about like..... a good 30 seconds. I wasn't replying at first because you are not supposed to hit your father. but he was stopping so i got angry and I beat the crap out of him, destroyed his glasses... ect..
not a pretty sight ! My brother called the police and I went to live with my mom afterward.
but we are all good now, he apologized but of course our relationship isn't what it was
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Just curious...
never period i have 2 boys 9 and 5 if you know how to be a father theres no need
hitting just makes then act out i take shit away the wii play station shit like that hurts more..
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never period i have 2 boys 9 and 5 if you know how to be a father theres no need
hitting just makes then act out i take shit away the wii play station shit like that hurts more..
That's cool, but how do we really know you haven't threatened to head-butt them?
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That's cool, but how do we really know you haven't threatened to head-butt them?
LMAO
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My father hit me once when I didn't deserved it.
My parents had just divorced he he was pissed off and depressed.
One day I arrived at home after school, I was about 16 years old, and he asked me to help my brother for something (I don't remember what). I said that I didn't have time for this right now.
He entered into my room and start punching me in the face for about like..... a good 30 seconds. I wasn't replying at first because you are not supposed to hit your father. but he was stopping so i got angry and I beat the crap out of him, destroyed his glasses... ect..
not a pretty sight ! My brother called the police and I went to live with my mom afterward.
but we are all good now, he apologized but of course our relationship isn't what it was
damn.....that's pretty fucked up.
Shit like that is a no-no.....but a light spank when a child misbehaves is fine.
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damn.....that's pretty fucked up.
Shit like that is a no-no.....but a light spank when a child misbehaves is fine.
yeah that's fucked up !
I have nothing to complain about except this, I had a great childhood but since my parents divorce, my dad is going downhill !
I am having him checked up in april with psychological tests and everything, he is getting borderline schizophrenic
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Spank a kid, yes. Punch them square on the jaw, heck no.
As far as i'm concerned spank that ass, or slap that hand if they step out of line. Anything other than that crosses the line to physical abuse.
I don't have kids yet, but if/when i do it's their mother that'll be doing the discipline. I'd be too afraid of hurting them.
As a kid, unless i stepped seriously out of line it was my mother who took care of it. The one time my dad did was enough to let me know i shouldn't do something like that again. I was 7 or 8 and i called my mother a "fucking bastard"! Then i ran and locked myself in the upstairs bathroom. My dad had that lock open with a knife in 2 seconds. Lesson learned.
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when and if my children act bad i'm gonna lock em in the closet and tell em the boogy man is gonna come get em in a little...
i might have the closet rigged with special effects for good measure... ;D
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If by "hit" you mean "spank" then the answer is yes. We used the John Rosemond method: only on the butt, only with your hand, no more than three swats. We used it as the supreme sanction, which made enforcing all the lesser forms of punishment much easier.
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hit or spank?
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tha'ts just grate
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"He who spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes" (Proverbs 13:24) "Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell." (Proverbs 23:13-14)
People the Lord has spoken! Beat your children!
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sometimes just a clip across the ears is the only way to get the message across...
communication is key.