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Getbig Female Info Boards => Open Talk for Girl Discussion => Topic started by: Hustle Man on April 24, 2009, 11:05:25 AM
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I told him no and that he is not ready besides he needs to finish his schooling (Highschool and college) first before distracting himself with girls/women and this PYT is bringing the funk hard and nasty; I don't think I can compete! I feel like I have given him the right tools for the many crossroads he will come to but attention from an older woman!? I don't think he understands what he is in for at this age!
I need some outside advice on this one.
P.S. The ex (his mom) is encouraging him to accept her pursuit, only because the girl comes from a very very wealthy family in the area.
I think this 21 yr old woman will break his focus and his heart and knock him off course. Damn, he hasn't even made eagle scout yet!
I am terrified!
My ex says I am jealous and of course she said it infront of this young lion ::)
Any thoughts?
HM (Worried Pappy)
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HM,
Has anyone ever won an argument with another man's hard-on?
My advice would be to hit it and get back to business.
Condoms, of course.
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HM,
Has anyone ever won an argument with another man's hard-on?
My advice would be to hit it and get back to business.
Condoms, of course.
Doc,
You know damn well if he taste the nectar of heaven he will be hooked and his life will go into a tailspin! Nothing worse than a skid row Eaglescout; bad advice Doctor feel good!
HM (Cock blocking dad)
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Doc,
You know damn well if he taste the nectar of heaven he will be hooked and his life will go into a tailspin! Nothing worse than a skid row Eaglescout; bad advice Doctor feel good!
HM (Cock blocking dad)
Funny you should say that. DGF's brother was going to ask me for dating advice and she said to not waste a call because "Jake's advice is always to hit it". I say "hit them all for the Lord will know his own".
Keeping him away will only make the nectar taste sweeter. Tell him the truth. Just say "YoungHustle, they all got the same thang. If the good Lord made one your johnson bar will fit into, he made a million. Enjoy the chick but handle your more important business".
You're there to teach, HM. Last thing the world needs is more cooterwhipped youngsters. :)
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Keeping him away will only make the nectar taste sweeter. Tell him the truth. Just say "YoungHustle, they all got the same thang. If the good Lord made one your johnson bar will fit into, he made a million. Enjoy the chick but handle your more important business".
You're there to teach, HM. Last thing the world needs is more cooterwhipped youngsters. :)
this is the damn truth, iono tough situation just gotta trust you taught him well enough so that he focuses on the important shit and drops the BS when it gets to much instead of trying to hang on like alot of young ppl do.
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I met a 33 year old woman when I was 17 and dated her for 5 years,..but I actually did better in school. Only Prom time was a little weird.
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this is the damn truth, iono tough situation just gotta trust you taught him well enough so that he focuses on the important shit and drops the BS when it gets to much instead of trying to hang on like alot of young ppl do.
I say tell him to enjoy cooter responsibly. :)
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Fella's, he already thinks he has his playa card but I think this 21 year old is too much for him and would break his little heart. Besides she is kinda skanky and I really don't want a skank for an in-law (don't think it would go that far) you know what I am saying?
HM (Oldskool playa)
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I met a 33 year old woman when I was 17 and dated her for 5 years,..but I actually did better in school. Only Prom time was a little weird.
LMAO! I bet that was the best you ever had as a teen!?
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Fella's, he already thinks he has his playa card but I think this 21 year old is too much for him and would break his little heart. Besides she is kinda skanky and I really don't want a skank for an in-law (don't think it would go that far) you know what I am saying?
HM (Oldskool playa)
Brother hustle...He is gonna get is heart broken...sooner than later...17 is a good age..he will be a beast for his college years. You dont want him in college before he gets hurt...man o man...it will fuck up his studies. You gotta let him fall and then he will get up even stronger
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Brother hustle...He is gonna get is heart broken...sooner than later...17 is a good age..he will be a beast for his college years. You dont want him in college before he gets hurt...man o man...it will fuck up his studies. You gotta let him fall and then he will get up even stronger
Mal,
Is there anything sweeter than new cooter?
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Mal,
Is there anything sweeter than new cooter?
Nothin on earth brother...nothin on eartn
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Hustle Man, make him carry one of these around for a week:
http://www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/metropolitan/5940229.html
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As a father I worry about when my girls hit the dating age..young guys are all about it. It really depends on the individual and the parenting time that went into his thick, chick craving mind. I would worry about a young woman trying to date a guy who can't even go to the club with her. Maybe she just wants a fwb thing?
As far as the school thing..I know you are not silly enough to think he is still a virgin right? Let say he is...when he gets to college and you can't be there to babysit him..you think he's gonna leave the drunk horny campus girls alone?
When it comes down to it bro, all you can do is tell him your opinion, give him very specific reasons on how you came to those conclusions and hope he makes the right choice. He is at an age where you really don't have much control anyhow, especially if there is good cop / bad cop going on with the parents. He will side with which ever one makes him feel better about his OWN descision. If it were me, I would also sit down with his mother (and hide the "i want to choke the life out of you" tendencies) and explain your side and ask for backup.
He'll more than likely go for it. I would be more scared of him getting her prego then having to work to support the kid vs going to school....but that can happen with any girl he dates now or later in life. It's up to him to be safe and smart about it.
Good luck.
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As a father I worry about when my girls hit the dating age..young guys are all about it. It really depends on the individual and the parenting time that went into his thick, chick craving mind. I would worry about a young woman trying to date a guy who can't even go to the club with her. Maybe she just wants a fwb thing?
As far as the school thing..I know you are not silly enough to think he is still a virgin right? Let say he is...when he gets to college and you can't be there to babysit him..you think he's gonna leave the drunk horny campus girls alone?
When it comes down to it bro, all you can do is tell him your opinion, give him very specific reasons on how you came to those conclusions and hope he makes the right choice. He is at an age where you really don't have much control anyhow, especially if there is good cop / bad cop going on with the parents. He will side with which ever one makes him feel better about his OWN descision. If it were me, I would also sit down with his mother (and hide the "i want to choke the life out of you" tendencies) and explain your side and ask for backup.
He'll more than likely go for it. I would be more scared of him getting her prego then having to work to support the kid vs going to school....but that can happen with any girl he dates now or later in life. It's up to him to be safe and smart about it.
Good luck.
South Pacific Island Irishman, you are on point and I am picking up what you are putting down. Thanks much for your input. I must tell you that he is still a virgin no joke and so is my 18 year old daughter (in college now) but she is more level headed and not so easily influenced by peers. My son on the other hand is very charismatic and buys into the attention he receives from the many PYTs that know him. And of course he has to impress his friends who seem to live vicariously through him at times ( I think we have all done that at one time or another as teens) anyway thanks for the advice.
Hustle Man, make him carry one of these around for a week:
http://www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/metropolitan/5940229.html
Stella, I can barely get him to keep up with the dog I got a month ago lol but I get what you are saying. I constantly talk to my kids about the choices they make and the reprocussions (HIV/AIDS, unwanted pregnancies, etc.)
I think he get's that part but we all know when a young person's sexual switch flips on it takes a army to hold him/her back.
HM (Stressed over this, REALLY!)
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I must tell you that he is still a virgin no joke and so is my 18 year old daughter (in college now) but she is more level headed and not so easily influenced by peers....
...I constantly talk to my kids about the choices they make and the reprocussions (HIV/AIDS, unwanted pregnancies, etc.)
HM (Stressed over this, REALLY!)
Then hats off to you bro, that's just good damn parenting there. And reading a lot of your post....Im not surprised.
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Then hats off to you bro, that's just good damn parenting there. And reading a lot of your post....Im not surprised.
I think my major problem is pushing him away. My kids know they can talk to me about anything and I don't want him to depart from the trust he has in confiding in me. The kid tells me everything (that's how I found out about this relationship) I want to make sure I don't break that integrity and the trust. The ex seems to undermind any advice I give him.
HM (Good DAd bad ex) LMAO! She is so silly!
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When my mom was 36 or so she married an 18 year old. I was 11, my brother was 13, sister was 16 which made it very awkward so she moved out. They are still married and he has never worked a day in his life. Maybe he will be his sugar mama?
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When my mom was 36 or so she married an 18 year old. I was 11, my brother was 13, sister was 16 which made it very awkward so she moved out. They are still married and he has never worked a day in his life. Maybe he will be his sugar mama?
Thats a little creepy on your mom's part to be honest. Not flaming.. but even as a guy (at the ripe age of 31) I wouldn't have ANYTHING in common with a 21yr old...let alone an 18yr old. My friend Villi and his wife Mary (yes the teacher / student couple in the news a while back)...they seem to be happy and still together (she was his first grade teacher)...but seeing them together is still a little creepy.
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I say Danielson could give him a few pointers on women.
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Thats a little creepy on your mom's part to be honest. Not flaming.. but even as a guy (at the ripe age of 31) I wouldn't have ANYTHING in common with a 21yr old...let alone an 18yr old. My friend Villi and his wife Mary (yes the teacher / student couple in the news a while back)...they seem to be happy and still together (she was his first grade teacher)...but seeing them together is still a little creepy.
I agree, it was a weird situation for sure. I still remember when I was 14 or so I had one particular buddy who was a good looking dude and she would always flirt with him and not subtly, she is a weird woman for sure. She literally has never worked a day in her life, nor has her husband, that to me is also weird. Seems like they would get sick of each other, but he is like 44 now and she is 62 or 63 and they are still together. They seem happy, but I don't spend a whole lot of time with them tbh.
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I say Danielson could give him a few pointers on women.
Lol, Doc I can't even stay faithful to a girl for a week at 34 years of age. Not sure what I could tell a 17 year old lol. I started fucking at 12 and it (along with a few other vices ;)) became my lifelong addiction. On a different note, in the past 2 weeks 3 of my good buddies are getting a divorce(one had a kid with his mistress so that's a mess, plus he is worth 8 figures so I am guessing the wife will take him to the cleaners). Anyways, I always wondered when my friends would start getting divorced, we are at that age when people have mid-life crisis' so it was bound to happen, probably more to come. Literally, if I were to pick my 10 best married friends, only 2 of them are faithful to their wives. Why even get married in the first place if you are going to cheat ???
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Why even get married in the first place if you are going to cheat ???
Most don't intend on it...just gets boring, one or the other loses interest...bogged down with life (kids, bills ect..)..someone else shows attention...it feels good..put yourself in a bad situation and shit happens.
More than anything, most are too lazy to make their relationship their main priority. Morality and self control are severly lacking these days. Very selfish people.
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Lol, Doc I can't even stay faithful to a girl for a week at 34 years of age. Not sure what I could tell a 17 year old lol. I started fucking at 12 and it (along with a few other vices ;)) became my lifelong addiction. On a different note, in the past 2 weeks 3 of my good buddies are getting a divorce(one had a kid with his mistress so that's a mess, plus he is worth 8 figures so I am guessing the wife will take him to the cleaners). Anyways, I always wondered when my friends would start getting divorced, we are at that age when people have mid-life crisis' so it was bound to happen, probably more to come. Literally, if I were to pick my 10 best married friends, only 2 of them are faithful to their wives. Why even get married in the first place if you are going to cheat ???
Wouldn't you be a poster child for enjoying cooter responsibly?
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Most don't intend on it...just gets boring, one or the other loses interest...bogged down with life (kids, bills ect..)..someone else shows attention...it feels good..put yourself in a bad situation and shit happens.
More than anything, most are too lazy to make their relationship their main priority. Morality and self control are severly lacking these days. Very selfish people.
I agree with everything you said, also I noticed that the people who got married young(under 25) almost always cheat. They never had a chance to really live, they went to HS, then college then got married. Another thing I noticed is that guys who are not great looking, and then start making good money at 30 or whatever almost always cheat, at least a few of my friends. One of my buddies who is getting divorced is ugly as hell, but he makes about 200 grand a year, so now he is able to get pussy and he takes full advantage of it.
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Wouldn't you be a poster child for enjoying cooter responsibly?
Lol, I don't know. I "see" a lot of girls, but I can't stand being with the same chick all the time. I was starting to see a girl just last week and tried the monogamy monotony thing, but I didn't last 3 days. I met a girl last weekend and another one Wednesday. I think I would be the anti-poster boy tbh lol. Oh, and the girl from last weekend is married with a kid, and that is one of my biggest rules, no home wrecking, but whatever, I am a fuck up lol.
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I agree with everything you said, also I noticed that the people who got married young(under 25) almost always cheat. They never had a chance to really live, they went to HS, then college then got married. Another thing I noticed is that guys who are not great looking, and then start making good money at 30 or whatever almost always cheat, at least a few of my friends. One of my buddies who is getting divorced is ugly as hell, but he makes about 200 grand a year, so now he is able to get pussy and he takes full advantage of it.
Well, if your ugly..you know it..everyone knows it..you getting used (or using eachother). Im more a quality vs quantity kind of guy. You are right about the under 25...Ive seen (and experienced it) as well. I told my young brother to not even THINK about marriage till he was 25. 28-32 is a good range to start SERIOUSLY looking if married / family life is your thing. You should at least know who you are as a person and what you want / require from a potential mate..realistically you don't get there till the late 20's / early 30's for the most part.
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Well, if your ugly..you know it..everyone knows it..you getting used (or using eachother). Im more a quality vs quantity kind of guy. You are right about the under 25...Ive seen (and experienced it) as well. I told my young brother to not even THINK about marriage till he was 25. 28-32 is a good range to start SERIOUSLY looking if married / family life is your thing. You should at least know who you are as a person and what you want / require from a potential mate..realistically you don't get there till the late 20's / early 30's for the most part.
Lol, I remember when I was 24 to 28 or so and my friends who had been married for a while would always take their girls into my spare bedroom. It was getting ridiculous for a while, just non-stop traffic. I was always cool about it as long as they cleaned up after themselves. Thankfully, they started making more money and can afford hotels now lol.
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Lol, I don't know. I "see" a lot of girls, but I can't stand being with the same chick all the time. I was starting to see a girl just last week and tried the monogamy monotony thing, but I didn't last 3 days. I met a girl last weekend and another one Wednesday. I think I would be the anti-poster boy tbh lol. Oh, and the girl from last weekend is married with a kid, and that is one of my biggest rules, no home wrecking, but whatever, I am a fuck up lol.
Wouldn't enjoying one at a time be considered responsible?
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Wouldn't enjoying one at a time be considered responsible?
If your married ;D
If not, it would at least be cool to not lead them on like it has potential of a serious relationship...if she is still cool with it then boys will be boys ;)
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Here's the scenario...He's 17, she's 21 and kinda rich. She's probably just using him as a boy toy. He can go in and get some experience, and look at it as that. Because any time there something about "you do this", she will remind him of his place in all of this.
Just enjoy the ride, but do not do the wearing the heart on his sleeve.
Young ladies today, are not very much ladies, they have more game than a lot of dudes, in fact many act like the dudes in the relationship.
Let young Hustleman earn his Jedi stripes, but if the battle gets thick pull him aside, just a tad. But the battle of the heart is something we all have to learn on our own...and it's better sooner than later.
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Nothin on earth brother...nothin on earth
A sad truth.
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My friend Villi and his wife Mary (yes the teacher / student couple in the news a while back)...
:o