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Ok so my wife and I have been fighting a lot. Recently we got into it over something very small. I didn't want to get involved in a huge blow up so I ended the conversation and refused to pursue it any further. I was pretty pissed off with her so I gave her the silent treatment for a bit. She continued to be bitchy to try to get my attention. After a day or so of not talking to her I offered to let bygones be bygones and just be on good terms going forward but she was insistent on rehashing the fight. In the past I would have had a huge argument with her to try to make my point and we would have made up afterwards. The thing is I really am just sick of having the same argument with her over and over again.
Advice broskis?
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Ok so my wife and I have been fighting a lot. Recently we got into it over something very small. I didn't want to get involved in a huge blow up so I ended the conversation and refused to pursue it any further. I was pretty pissed off with her so I gave her the silent treatment for a bit. She continued to be bitchy to try to get my attention. After a day or so of not talking to her I offered to let bygones be bygones and just be on good terms going forward but she was insistent on rehashing the fight. In the past I would have had a huge argument with her to try to make my point and we would have made up afterwards. The thing is I really am just sick of having the same argument with her over and over again.
Advice broskis?
No advices will help. Once you get married you are stuck with what you got.
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No advices will help. Once you get married you are stuck with what you got.
don't you watch the dog whisperer? Can't she be retrained?
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You gotta let this broad know you're serious and you really don't want to talk about whatever you're arguing about. If she doesn't get it. Give her the silent treatment till she does...DO NOT APOLOGIZE as it is admitting you did something wrong. If none of the above works, go upside the bitches head.
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Do you love her? Do you still find her attractive? If so, just tell her you're sorry (even if you're not) and fuck the hell out of her. It should be forgotten after that.
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Do you love her? Do you still find her attractive? If so, just tell her you're sorry (even if you're not) and fuck the hell out of her. It should be forgotten after that.
Pussy way out.
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Ask Marty he's married...But in all seriousness you will find all the knowledge to handle this problem you need in the "marriage dumbest thing a man can do"thread in general topics on this very site...
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Sorry to hear that bro. Been with my wife 8 years. I would just pick and choose your battles. If it's something that is big enough to divide the marriage and cause potential separation if no change is made then make your stand. If it's not then just let it go by any means. If she needs to bitch and act like a girl just let her. Like a lawn mower she'll eventually just run out of gas. No need to go through all that stress if it's not something that really affects the marriage. Then bang her in the ass with no lube and make her say she's sorry. ;D
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Go sniveling back and lick her shoes like a puppy dog who has been kicked around his entire life.
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don't you watch the dog whisperer? Can't she be retrained?
Nope. You lost the battle the day you said "I do"
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Go sniveling back and lick her shoes like a puppy dog who has been kicked around his entire life.
Motherfuck no.
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Ok so my wife and I have been fighting a lot. Recently we got into it over something very small. I didn't want to get involved in a huge blow up so I ended the conversation and refused to pursue it any further. I was pretty pissed off with her so I gave her the silent treatment for a bit. She continued to be bitchy to try to get my attention. After a day or so of not talking to her I offered to let bygones be bygones and just be on good terms going forward but she was insistent on rehashing the fight. In the past I would have had a huge argument with her to try to make my point and we would have made up afterwards. The thing is I really am just sick of having the same argument with her over and over again.
Advice broskis?
Fuck her in teh butt
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FUCK BITCHES GET MONEY!
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You gotta let this broad know you're serious and you really don't want to talk about whatever you're arguing about. If she doesn't get it. Give her the silent treatment till she does...DO NOT APOLOGIZE as it is admitting you did something wrong. If none of the above works, go upside the bitches head.
That's what I've been doing.
I will talk to her once she has shown me that she has settled down.
I just don't want to reward her temper tantrums.
thanks for the advices guys, i don't post on here all the time but I'm on a lot of different online communities and this is always the one I go to when shit really goes down (like getting laid off last year). I guess it's because this is really the best bunch of guys out there.
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Ok so my wife and I have been fighting a lot. Recently we got into it over something very small. I didn't want to get involved in a huge blow up so I ended the conversation and refused to pursue it any further. I was pretty pissed off with her so I gave her the silent treatment for a bit. She continued to be bitchy to try to get my attention. After a day or so of not talking to her I offered to let bygones be bygones and just be on good terms going forward but she was insistent on rehashing the fight. In the past I would have had a huge argument with her to try to make my point and we would have made up afterwards. The thing is I really am just sick of having the same argument with her over and over again.
Advice broskis?
if your joking around, then my answer is : send the bitch my way, i'll teach her to to treat a man
if your serious, well same thing, send the bitch my way i'll teach her how to treat a man..
no but seriously, there is no winning with chicks. so you guys have a dispute about something, then you spend an hour trying to make a point that you were right and she was wrong, well guess what brotha, when you finally prove she's the one thats wrong, thats the openning of a whole new can of worms.
you gotta learn " one ear in, another one out" . of course, this is all assuming you still wanna be with her.
what kind of stupid stuff do you fight about?
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That's what I've been doing.
I will talk to her once she has shown me that she has settled down.
I just don't want to reward her temper tantrums.
thanks for the advices guys, i don't post on here all the time but I'm on a lot of different online communities and this is always the one I go to when shit really goes down (like getting laid off last year). I guess it's because this is really the best bunch of guys out there.
Good luck Brosef 8)
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Use the sandwich technique.
1) start conversation off good, mention how you appreciate her, all she does, you really want the relationship to last....but
2) then lay into her a$$ something terrible...let her know that funky a$$ little attitude while you are trying to work sh*t out needs to stop. She needs to grow up and listen for once in her damn life. Let it all out dude.......
3) end it with still love her and appreciate her, she's a good wife but this is how you feel and it's not right at all.
she will either FINALLY get it....or she'll already cut you off midway through #2 running her trap trying to win.
if it's the latter...you need to make a decision because she is a stubborn a$$ female that one day will do what she wants to do (and it could be bad) because she has 0% compromise in her veins.....only thinking of herself.
Time to put the hammer down. ;)
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Ok so my wife and I have been fighting a lot. Recently we got into it over something very small. I didn't want to get involved in a huge blow up so I ended the conversation and refused to pursue it any further. I was pretty pissed off with her so I gave her the silent treatment for a bit. She continued to be bitchy to try to get my attention. After a day or so of not talking to her I offered to let bygones be bygones and just be on good terms going forward but she was insistent on rehashing the fight. In the past I would have had a huge argument with her to try to make my point and we would have made up afterwards. The thing is I really am just sick of having the same argument with her over and over again.
Advice broskis?
You can't win them all brotha... Pick your battles.. But never,ever let her forget who the man is... Then take her to the room and show her how sorry you are...
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my advice is to trade in your vagina for a set of balls and a penis, you little bitch
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Buy this book, both read and apply to your lives :)
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If that doesn't work smack her in the head with the book, in theory, knocking some sense into her.
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build a time machine and travel back in time.
talk yourself out of getting married.
problem solved.
while youre back there, talk me out of it too ;D
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Ok so my wife and I have been fighting a lot. Recently we got into it over something very small. I didn't want to get involved in a huge blow up so I ended the conversation and refused to pursue it any further. I was pretty pissed off with her so I gave her the silent treatment for a bit. She continued to be bitchy to try to get my attention. After a day or so of not talking to her I offered to let bygones be bygones and just be on good terms going forward but she was insistent on rehashing the fight. In the past I would have had a huge argument with her to try to make my point and we would have made up afterwards. The thing is I really am just sick of having the same argument with her over and over again.
Advice broskis?
have you tried hitting her?
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Buy this book, both read and apply to your lives :)
I have heard good things about this. I think I also took a free online test that the author was presenting.
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Buy this book, both read and apply to your lives :)
i still dont see myself reading that book...
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seriously man, i think we all have this shit.
soo much easier just to give in. I know people on here are going to say thats the pussy way, etc... but really, pick your fights. just say, your right, I'm sorry, then just go work out for a few hours.
i tried that with my wife. i would try to explain something i thought was 100% the correct way, and she would putt up silly arguments. after arguing 100 times about it, we still reached the same result.... so frustrating!!! but now, i just say "uh huh." and move on. much less fighting.
if you start fighting every day, you will grow to hate her, and just looking at her is going to make you angry, so stop it now and make a sacrifice. thats what marriage is all about, sacrifice and compromise (usually one sided though).
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Use the sandwich technique.
1) start conversation off good, mention how you appreciate her, all she does, you really want the relationship to last....but
2) then lay into her a$$ something terrible...let her know that funky a$$ little attitude while you are trying to work sh*t out needs to stop. She needs to grow up and listen for once in her damn life. Let it all out dude.......
3) end it with still love her and appreciate her, she's a good wife but this is how you feel and it's not right at all.
she will either FINALLY get it....or she'll already cut you off midway through #2 running her trap trying to win.
if it's the latter...you need to make a decision because she is a stubborn a$$ female that one day will do what she wants to do (and it could be bad) because she has 0% compromise in her veins.....only thinking of herself.
Time to put the hammer down. ;)
The sandwich technique does not work and is very outdated in terms of behavior modification. The feedback gets lost as soon as the "negative" portion of the conversation begins. No positive reinforcement will matter at that point. SBI in this situation would be more effective and appropriate. She needs to know her behavior won't be tolerated and needs to change. Describe the feed back in terms of the situation. "Today, when we were in the kitchen and you started talking about xyz". Then tell her the behavior being displayed you are observing. You want her to be able to acknowledge this. Be specific. "You started screaming at me like a complete bitch." Then tell her the impact it has on you and hence the relationship. "This makes me feel like you don't respect me and my feelings and if that continues I'll either knock all your teeth out or kick you in the pussy." If all else fails I still go back to my prior post. Put it in her butt with no lube and make her cry LOLOLOL...seriously though, good luck. She sounds immature and SBI works well with individuals like this.
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just remember the first 3 rules of being a man...
1)never apologize for anything, under ANY circumstances...
2)never say please..cause real men dont beg...
3)never eat off another mans plate.....
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if your joking around, then my answer is : send the bitch my way, i'll teach her to to treat a man
if your serious, well same thing, send the bitch my way i'll teach her how to treat a man..
no but seriously, there is no winning with chicks. so you guys have a dispute about something, then you spend an hour trying to make a point that you were right and she was wrong, well guess what brotha, when you finally prove she's the one thats wrong, thats the openning of a whole new can of worms.
you gotta learn " one ear in, another one out" . of course, this is all assuming you still wanna be with her.
what kind of stupid stuff do you fight about?
yeah this is the problem with arguing. i am good at it so she will usually concede my point in the end, but the fight takes so much energy. The worst part is she will subsequently act as if it never happened and keeps doing the same shit without really acknowledging that it is a problem.
She is a pretty anxious person so a lot of the time she will come to me very worked up over nothing and kind of in a state, then when I react to her and get agitated myself she gets pissed off that I mistreated her. Recently that has caused a few fights.
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my advice is to trade in your vagina for a set of balls and a penis, you little bitch
so I should swap her for a dude? He would probably be a better workout partner, but sex might be dicey because I'm straight.
Still I appreciate you thinking outside the "box."
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seriously man, i think we all have this shit.
soo much easier just to give in. I know people on here are going to say thats the pussy way, etc... but really, pick your fights. just say, your right, I'm sorry, then just go work out for a few hours.
i tried that with my wife. i would try to explain something i thought was 100% the correct way, and she would putt up silly arguments. after arguing 100 times about it, we still reached the same result.... so frustrating!!! but now, i just say "uh huh." and move on. much less fighting.
if you start fighting every day, you will grow to hate her, and just looking at her is going to make you angry, so stop it now and make a sacrifice. thats what marriage is all about, sacrifice and compromise (usually one sided though).
I would have had a much easier, possibly better, life if I was capable of this sort of behavior.
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I prefer lime green and purple outfits to pastels, but otherwise I agree that is strong pimping.
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The sandwich technique does not work and is very outdated in terms of behavior modification. The feedback gets lost as soon as the "negative" portion of the conversation begins. No positive reinforcement will matter at that point. SBI in this situation would be more effective and appropriate. She needs to know her behavior won't be tolerated and needs to change. Describe the feed back in terms of the situation. "Today, when we were in the kitchen and you started talking about xyz". Then tell her the behavior being displayed you are observing. You want her to be able to acknowledge this. Be specific. "You started screaming at me like a complete bitch." Then tell her the impact it has on you and hence the relationship. "This makes me feel like you don't respect me and my feelings and if that continues I'll either knock all your teeth out or kick you in the pussy." If all else fails I still go back to my prior post. Put it in her butt with no lube and make her cry LOLOLOL...seriously though, good luck. She sounds immature and SBI works well with individuals like this.
LMAO LOL
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Ok so my wife and I have been fighting a lot. Recently we got into it over something very small. I didn't want to get involved in a huge blow up so I ended the conversation and refused to pursue it any further. I was pretty pissed off with her so I gave her the silent treatment for a bit. She continued to be bitchy to try to get my attention. After a day or so of not talking to her I offered to let bygones be bygones and just be on good terms going forward but she was insistent on rehashing the fight. In the past I would have had a huge argument with her to try to make my point and we would have made up afterwards. The thing is I really am just sick of having the same argument with her over and over again.
Advice broskis?
There is no wining any kind of argument with women. They are irrational & emotional beings. Even if you're absolutely in the right, don't bother arguing with her. Just nod your head and say you understand. The only other alternative is to run for the hills.
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Do you have children with her? If so, stay. If not, lose her. There are loads of other women to make you miserable out there. Heaven knows you'll kick yourself if she ever files papers.
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"No sex for you tonight!"
"No, no sex from you tonight."
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Fuck her siser (or mom if shes hot) and this will now take the focus away from your small problem.
-A DUB
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Ok so my wife and I have been fighting a lot. Recently we got into it over something very small. I didn't want to get involved in a huge blow up so I ended the conversation and refused to pursue it any further. I was pretty pissed off with her so I gave her the silent treatment for a bit. She continued to be bitchy to try to get my attention. After a day or so of not talking to her I offered to let bygones be bygones and just be on good terms going forward but she was insistent on rehashing the fight. In the past I would have had a huge argument with her to try to make my point and we would have made up afterwards. The thing is I really am just sick of having the same argument with her over and over again.
Advice broskis?
Is she really the one for you?
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Fuck her siser (or mom if shes hot) and this will now take the focus away from your small problem.
-A DUB
That's actually sound advise. Women sometimes like to make mountains out of molehills. I find that nothing works better than a real catastrophe to help put things in perspective.
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Team Slap a Hoe knows what to do
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when a person in a relationship starts fighting over littler stuff it just means they want out
its summer time and many people going thru this as either the guy or girl want to be alone and party
if she has friends that talk about amazing dates they go all day etc this can really make a woman crazy as they start wanting to do the same
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Just err on the side of Fact, Evidence, Science and Logic.
Shifted, can you detail the argument so that we can assess who was correct and who was not.
This should be easy.
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Grow some fucking balls ! and stop posting your bullshit problems on this forum numb nuts !
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Fuck her siser (or mom if shes hot) and this will now take the focus away from your small problem.
-A DUB
hahahahahaha. Some funny ass shit going on in this thread. This is what a bodybuilding site should be all about. You just can't take this shit seriously. Life is too short.
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Buy this book, both read and apply to your lives :)
;D
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There is no wining any kind of argument with women. They are irrational & emotional beings. Even if you're absolutely in the right, don't bother arguing with her. Just nod your head and say you understand. The only other alternative is to run for the hills.
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hahahahahaha. Some funny ass shit going on in this thread. This is what a bodybuilding site should be all about. You just can't take this shit seriously. Life is too short.
ABSOLUTELY!!! My wife knows whats up!!! No bullshit drama with us... She knows I'd leave her faster than Keith posts in a Vince Goodrum thread! lol I laid things straight early and she saw what happened with my ex (I dumped her ass for bein a drama queen...)
Life is way too fuckin' short to fight and argue over BULLSHIT... this is the realist advices you will ever get on here dog!
-A DUB
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My guess is that she won't let go of a past relationship you had, right?
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ABSOLUTELY!!! My wife knows whats up!!! No bullshit drama with us... She knows I'd leave her faster than Keith posts in a Vince Goodrum thread! lol I laid things straight early and she saw what happened with my ex (I dumped her ass for bein a drama queen...)
Life is way too fuckin' short to fight and argue over BULLSHIT... this is the realist advices you will ever get on here dog!
-A DUB
Problem with that is that they take half of everything...
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Not with a solid pre nup!!! We both leave with what we came with!!!
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Not with a solid pre nup!!! We both leave with what we came with!!!
Godd job A DUB
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Not with a solid pre nup!!! We both leave with what we came with!!!
I live in CA. A pre nup doesn't mean shit. Even if it holds up, you still end up giving half your money away to lawyers.
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Ok so my wife and I have been fighting a lot. Recently we got into it over something very small. I didn't want to get involved in a huge blow up so I ended the conversation and refused to pursue it any further. I was pretty pissed off with her so I gave her the silent treatment for a bit. She continued to be bitchy to try to get my attention. After a day or so of not talking to her I offered to let bygones be bygones and just be on good terms going forward but she was insistent on rehashing the fight. In the past I would have had a huge argument with her to try to make my point and we would have made up afterwards. The thing is I really am just sick of having the same argument with her over and over again.
Advice broskis?
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Ron putting the "snooki" on john belushi.
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Ok so my wife and I have been fighting a lot. Recently we got into it over something very small. I didn't want to get involved in a huge blow up so I ended the conversation and refused to pursue it any further. I was pretty pissed off with her so I gave her the silent treatment for a bit. She continued to be bitchy to try to get my attention. After a day or so of not talking to her I offered to let bygones be bygones and just be on good terms going forward but she was insistent on rehashing the fight. In the past I would have had a huge argument with her to try to make my point and we would have made up afterwards. The thing is I really am just sick of having the same argument with her over and over again.
Advice broskis?
She testing you.
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Advice broskis?
Wait until she's sleeping and spooge across her face, that's what I'm going to do right now.
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If that doesn't work smack her in the head with the book, in theory, knocking some sense into her.
haha, Wiggs you're on fire in this thread
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haha, Wiggs you're on fire in this thread
If you're looking for advice on how to beat women, who better to look to then a black man?
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How the hell should I know! I'm divorced!
But if reactions and anger are out of proportion to the subject you're arguing about, both of you figure out what the hell it is you're really arguing about and address it. The onus is on both of you to be honest about what's going on and not to let rage sidetrack you. Do it before you hate eachother so much that you can't be bothered trying to fix what's fucking you up.
ABSOLUTELY!!! My wife knows whats up!!! No bullshit drama with us... She knows I'd leave her faster than Keith posts in a Vince Goodrum thread! lol I laid things straight early and she saw what happened with my ex (I dumped her ass for bein a drama queen...)
Life is way too fuckin' short to fight and argue over BULLSHIT... this is the realist advices you will ever get on here dog!
-A DUB
Wow, I wish I was married to someone I cared so little about that I was prepared to walk out just like that. You're a lucky guy.
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Obviously she just wants to argue because she needs drama in her life. Fuck it, give her a half hearted argument and let her be right. It's all she wants. You married her to give her that right?
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Google up rentals near work. Register the dog in your name. Fantasize about a call from the police who are very sorry but there's been a terrible accident.
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MY GUESS IS SHE NEEDS SOME MAN MEAT AND YOUR NOT DOING THE JOB FUCKFACE
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Epic tough guys in this thread ???
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I have heard good things about this. I think I also took a free online test that the author was presenting.
It is really good
i still dont see myself reading that book...
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Like I said, tear off the cover..or you could wrap it in a brown paper bag :)
yeah this is the problem with arguing. i am good at it so she will usually concede my point in the end, but the fight takes so much energy. The worst part is she will subsequently act as if it never happened and keeps doing the same shit without really acknowledging that it is a problem.
She is a pretty anxious person so a lot of the time she will come to me very worked up over nothing and kind of in a state, then when I react to her and get agitated myself she gets pissed off that I mistreated her. Recently that has caused a few fights.
With this limited info it sounds like maybe she wants you to just "be there" for her and listen to her rag a little and give her a hug and tell her it will be alright. Next time, even if you are agitated inside..you could try to be calm and calm her...then see what happens.
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How the hell should I know! I'm divorced!
But if reactions and anger are out of proportion to the subject you're arguing about, both of you figure out what the hell it is you're really arguing about and address it. The onus is on both of you to be honest about what's going on and not to let rage sidetrack you. Do it before you hate eachother so much that you can't be bothered trying to fix what's fucking you up.
Wow, I wish I was married to someone I cared so little about that I was prepared to walk out just like that. You're a lucky guy.
Tapeworm w/teh good advice..as usual. :)
Google up rentals near work. Register the dog in your name. Fantasize about a call from the police who are very sorry but there's been a terrible accident.
Except for this post :P
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Kick her in the cu nt
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Sounds like you just need to play this song in her vicinity.
L.T.D. "Where did we go wrong?"
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Ok so my wife and I have been fighting a lot. Recently we got into it over something very small. I didn't want to get involved in a huge blow up so I ended the conversation and refused to pursue it any further. I was pretty pissed off with her so I gave her the silent treatment for a bit. She continued to be bitchy to try to get my attention. After a day or so of not talking to her I offered to let bygones be bygones and just be on good terms going forward but she was insistent on rehashing the fight. In the past I would have had a huge argument with her to try to make my point and we would have made up afterwards. The thing is I really am just sick of having the same argument with her over and over again.
Advice broskis?
I am 51, married and divorced 3 x and now back with my 3rd wife (didn't remarry)
I can tell you from experience the best thing to do is to stick with your principles and allow her to tell her side nd vent a bit.
Forget the name calling and/or slient treatment and leave your ego out of this.
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Tapeworm w/teh good advice..as usual. :)
Except for this post :P
I joke, of course. Didn't register the dog in my name until 6 months after I'd moved out. ;)
Nah, still on good terms. And still the guy who gets the occasional call when she's, erm, 'lacking balance.'
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Treat women like flowers and your attention as if it were sunshine/water.
Only pay attention to behavior you want to see again. :)
As far as the argument goes... I'd boot her. People don't stop being what they are no matter how much you may love them. :)
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Use the sandwich technique.
1) start conversation off good, mention how you appreciate her, all she does, you really want the relationship to last....but
2) then lay into her a$$ something terrible...let her know that funky a$$ little attitude while you are trying to work sh*t out needs to stop. She needs to grow up and listen for once in her damn life. Let it all out dude.......
3) end it with still love her and appreciate her, she's a good wife but this is how you feel and it's not right at all.
she will either FINALLY get it....or she'll already cut you off midway through #2 running her trap trying to win.
if it's the latter...you need to make a decision because she is a stubborn a$$ female that one day will do what she wants to do (and it could be bad) because she has 0% compromise in her veins.....only thinking of herself.
Time to put the hammer down. ;)
HAHAHA I DO THAT IN FOOTBALL
When i coach ...and a kid fucks up i use the PNP positive negative positive
Perez, i like the intinsity, you started off good...but you should have went to hook to curl instead of the flats...but thats good effort out there...
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Just err on the side of Fact, Evidence, Science and Logic.
Shifted, can you detail the argument so that we can assess who was correct and who was not.
This should be easy.
The substance of the confrontation would bore you all to tears.
The good news is though I waited for her to come around and approach me looking to reconcile. At that point we did and had a very constructive conversation. Hopefully fights will be less frequent and less intense going forward.
I'm happy that I don't have to deal with this shit anymore it is a real weight off my chest. Also glad I waited it out and didn't cave, that would definitely send the wrong message.
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My guess is that she won't let go of a past relationship you had, right?
nah way past that, we've been living together over 10 years and married for almost 5!
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The substance of the confrontation would bore you all to tears.
The good news is though I waited for her to come around and approach me looking to reconcile. At that point we did and had a very constructive conversation. Hopefully fights will be less frequent and less intense going forward.
I'm happy that I don't have to deal with this shit anymore it is a real weight off my chest. Also glad I waited it out and didn't cave, that would definitely send the wrong message.
congrats...I hate drama in house. There is enough drama and stuff you can't control that goes on in the world...the last thing I need is to come home to it.
You guys should plan an evening alone and have a few drinks or something together. Do a date or something different this weekend.
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If you don't please your wife, she will find someone who will ..
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congrats...I hate drama in house. There is enough drama and stuff you can't control that goes on in the world...the last thing I need is to come home to it.
You guys should plan an evening alone and have a few drinks or something together. Do a date or something different this weekend.
yeah you read my mind.
Actually having a few days apart and not getting along really does make it that much sweeter to reconcile, especially because we work together as well so we are accustomed to 24/7 togetherness.
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If you don't please your wife, she will find someone who will ..
I don't worry about that shit. I think actually that worrying about it makes you more vulnerable, if your woman can tell that you are not worried she will assume that you are deserving.
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poison
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poison
maybe next time
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beat her with a phonebook
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beat her with a phonebook
i dont care what anybody says that shit makes a mess......
bench
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If you're looking for advice on how to beat women, who better to look to then a black man?
If I want any lip out of you I'll dangle my zipper.
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If I want any lip out of you I'll dangle my zipper.
Speaking of lips.......... ;)
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The substance of the confrontation would bore you all to tears.
The good news is though I waited for her to come around and approach me looking to reconcile. At that point we did and had a very constructive conversation. Hopefully fights will be less frequent and less intense going forward.
I'm happy that I don't have to deal with this shit anymore it is a real weight off my chest. Also glad I waited it out and didn't cave, that would definitely send the wrong message.
Most of the stuff they go on about is boring, LOL!
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If you don't please your wife, she will find someone who will ..
Are you suggesting there's been some sort of vagina crisis?
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You guys should plan an evening alone and have a few drinks or something together. Do a date or something different this weekend.
See that is a great idea..spot on K1
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See that is a great idea..spot on K1
Serious question: Why reward bad behavior?
This is the main reason relationships are so messed up. If someone's nice, treat them nice. A nice night out, dinner, dancing and a movie will only teach her that being a pain in the ass gets rewarded.
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I dont see it as rewarding for bad behavior..but come on making up is the best part IMO
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I dont see it as rewarding for bad behavior..but come on making up is the best part IMO
Newmom,
Not being a dick but that's foolish.
Most people, like puppies, can't tell the difference between positive and negative attention. At some point his wife could just as easily begin starting big fights just to make up.
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well its just my opinion. I don't like fighting, so I either just cool off..give me 5 minutes alone and I'm usually fine. Life is to short to argue
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Serious question: Why reward bad behavior?
This is the main reason relationships are so messed up. If someone's nice, treat them nice. A nice night out, dinner, dancing and a movie will only teach her that being a pain in the ass gets rewarded.
I'd like to find someone that I enjoy making happy without ulterior motivation or scorekeeping and who feels the same about me. Who wants to marry a lab rat?
Admit I am very possibly living in la la land.
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well its just my opinion. I don't like fighting, so I either just cool off..give me 5 minutes alone and I'm usually fine. Life is to short to argue
you masturbate?
bench
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I'd like to find someone that I enjoy making happy without ulterior motivation or scorekeeping and who feels the same about me. Who wants to marry a lab rat?
Admit I am very possibly living in la la land.
No I dont think you are tapeworm. It's actually refreshing there are men out there that think the way you do, unless your being sarcastic
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I'd like to find someone that I enjoy making happy without ulterior motivation or scorekeeping and who feels the same about me. Who wants to marry a lab rat?
Admit I am very possibly living in la la land.
Good relationships take a lot of work. You have to say no to stuff that doesn't work or isn't good for both parties.
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Newmom,
Not being a dick but that's foolish.
Most people, like puppies, can't tell the difference between positive and negative attention. At some point his wife could just as easily begin starting big fights just to make up.
"Make up, to Break Up"
by The Stylistics
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No I dont think you are tapeworm. It's actually refreshing there are men out there that think the way you do, unless your being sarcastic
No, being serious. Trouble is I'm not sure there are any women out there who think the way I do! My main gripe is that women who are single in their 30s are basically pissed off because some guy(s) fucked them around/over. And now they have this list of demands and operation protocols which you'd think came down in stone from Mt Sinai. Love is pretty much an afterthought, after the accounting is taken care of. Strikes me as ice cold and it really puts me off. Imo all the accounting in the world won't make a happy marriage. All you get is two people arguing about the score, and even if they both agree it's a tie, that's a far cry from my idea of marital harmony.
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Good relationships take a lot of work. You have to say no to stuff that doesn't work or isn't good for both parties.
Your way is probably better for some, mine for others, but like I said earlier, I'm divorced. What the hell do I know? ::)
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No, being serious. Trouble is I'm not sure there are any women out there who think the way I do! My main gripe is that women who are single in their 30s are basically pissed off because some guy(s) fucked them around/over. And now they have this list of demands and operation protocols which you'd think came down in stone from Mt Sinai. Love is pretty much an afterthought, after the accounting is taken care of. Strikes me as ice cold and it really puts me off. Imo all the accounting in the world won't make a happy marriage. All you get is two people arguing about the score, and even if they both agree it's a tie, that's a far cry from my idea of marital harmony.
Well Im 40, and yes been lied and cheated on. Im not bitter, not all men are alike. Is my guard up, of course but that doesn't mean I'm not hopeful to find one that doesnt give me grief about going to the gym or is pissed because my weekends are always with my little one. I normally don't go out until after she goes to bed which is 8pm. Some I have dated think they can meet the little one right off the bat..NOT GONNA HAPPEN...
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Your way is probably better for some, mine for others, but like I said earlier, I'm divorced. What the hell do I know? ::)
I'm divorced, too!
She would have been a lot better off with the occasional "STFU" instead of "yes dear". :)
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tapeworm just because your divorced doesn't mean your wrong..unless im reading your posts wrong
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i have a epic boner right now!!!
bench
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Well Im 40, and yes been lied and cheated on. Im not bitter, not all men are alike. Is my guard up, of course but that doesn't mean I'm not hopeful to find one that doesnt give me grief about going to the gym or is pissed because my weekends are always with my little one. I normally don't go out until after she goes to bed which is 8pm. Some I have dated think they can meet the little one right off the bat..NOT GONNA HAPPEN...
Well there's the problem! How dare you keep fit and look after your child's interests! ;)
tapeworm just because your divorced doesn't mean your wrong..unless im reading your posts wrong
Sad, but it was really for the best.
Oh, and I'm not always and evil troll on here. Just most of the time!
I'm divorced, too!
She would have been a lot better off with the occasional "STFU" instead of "yes dear". :)
Possibly. I'm not really a STFU kind of guy tho. Arguments are fine, even the occasional putting down the foot, but I'm not there to provide structure. I expect an adult woman to have a fully formed brain. I know, I know. La la land. [evil troll mode] ;D
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Possibly. I'm not really a STFU kind of guy tho. Arguments are fine, even the occasional putting down the foot, but I'm not there to provide structure. I expect an adult woman to have a fully formed brain. I know, I know. La la land. [evil troll mode] ;D
"STFU" was just an example, LOL!
I don't swear at people unless joking.
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"STFU" was just an example, LOL!
I don't swear at people unless joking.
i swear at people all the time....it really helps to get your point across...
bench
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i swear at people all the time....it really helps to get your point across...
bench
Just not my thing to yell or swear, LOL!
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Just not my thing to yell or swear, LOL!
i do both on the regular...
bench
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wow
so we just had a really nice night out.
I think that choosing not to fight it out like I normally do and let her stew until she wanted to make up had a tremendously positive effect.
She had to reflect on her behavior and asses it herself. Normally when we end up arguing and I force her to acknowledge her mistakes, she will, but it doesn't stick. This time it seems like she has gained some perspective.
Thanks for cheering me up when I was down guys.
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wow
so we just had a really nice night out.
I think that choosing not to fight it out like I normally do and let her stew until she wanted to make up had a tremendously positive effect.
She had to reflect on her behavior and asses it herself. Normally when we end up arguing and I force her to acknowledge her mistakes, she will, but it doesn't stick. This time it seems like she has gained some perspective.
Thanks for cheering me up when I was down guys.
Show us her tits. :D
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Show us her tits. :D
agreed
X2
bench
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Good for you! Now, kill her while she sleeps. People will have seen that you were happy and you'll be spared suspicion. Really, it's the only way.
I'm glad that it worked out. :)
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Well Im 40, and yes been lied and cheated on. Im not bitter, not all men are alike. Is my guard up, of course but that doesn't mean I'm not hopeful to find one that doesnt give me grief about going to the gym or is pissed because my weekends are always with my little one. I normally don't go out until after she goes to bed which is 8pm. Some I have dated think they can meet the little one right off the bat..NOT GONNA HAPPEN...
Like any guy is really looking for a chic with baggage, get real.. most guys scream and run when they hear something about a 'little one'
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I'm married too! (4 years this June, no kids)
Tonight was movie night.... We watched "Pumping Iron" ;D
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Like any guy is really looking for a chic with baggage, get real.. most guys scream and run when they hear something about a 'little one'
It's not too bad when the kids are younger and haven't been spoiled.
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Exactly Drakje. she is about to turn 5 and she is a beautiful little girl. Not the whiney coddely type.
What was meant by my post, is they wanna pick me up at the house, say hi to my little one or hang out at the house. Not saying they wanna play the daddy role or anything. Hell last boyfriend didn't know where I lived until after 3 months.
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wow
so we just had a really nice night out.
I think that choosing not to fight it out like I normally do and let her stew until she wanted to make up had a tremendously positive effect.
She had to reflect on her behavior and asses it herself. Normally when we end up arguing and I force her to acknowledge her mistakes, she will, but it doesn't stick. This time it seems like she has gained some perspective.
Thanks for cheering me up when I was down guys.
glad you had a nice night out and all but within 5 days dont get down if stuff explodes even worse, im telling you this now not because I wish that on you but rather you dont get shocked when it happens.
fighting in relationships is like the israel / palestine conflict, everytime you think you figured it out and you are close to long term peace an even bigger bomb explodes
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ok you guys are giving me good advice but im confused, should i show her tits before or after I kill her in her sleep?
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ok you guys are giving me good advice but im confused, should i show her tits before or after I kill her in her sleep?
shifted knowing some of these demented posters they will say after
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glad you had a nice night out and all but within 5 days dont get down if stuff explodes even worse, im telling you this now not because I wish that on you but rather you dont get shocked when it happens.
fighting in relationships is like the israel / palestine conflict, everytime you think you figured it out and you are close to long term peace an even bigger bomb explodes
definitely true! I'm on the lookout
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ok you guys are giving me good advice but im confused, should i show her tits before or after I kill her in her sleep?
newmom sent me a PM and said I should ask "shaved or natural" and "post a pic of her spread eagle for proof".
newmom can be kind of kinky that way.
Oh, newmom also said "post the tits and puss shots before you kill her".
Just passing along the message.
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Talk with her about it, raise above the madness and refuse to get mad. Treat her with love and kindness, don't be a FUCKING fool and let these things fester!
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http://www.nomarriage.com/
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Exactly Drakje. she is about to turn 5 and she is a beautiful little girl. Not the whiney coddely type.
What was meant by my post, is they wanna pick me up at the house, say hi to my little one or hang out at the house. Not saying they wanna play the daddy role or anything. Hell last boyfriend didn't know where I lived until after 3 months.
I dated someone with a kid once. We did the whole "wait to meet him thing".. turns out this kid was a douche and a half and she was only getting me used to the cooter making me wait to reduce the chance of being immediately dumped. She had the poorest parenting skills ever and still cannot find anyone who loves/likes the cooter enough to put up with him, LOL!
I had my girlfriend meet the kids within two weeks. If they didn't like her it would have been over so I didn't want to waste time.
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newmom sent me a PM and said I should ask "shaved or natural" and "post a pic of her spread eagle for proof".
newmom can be kind of kinky that way.
Oh, newmom also said "post the tits and puss shots before you kill her".
Just passing along the message.
LMAO your such an ass
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As men, we all know that a woman's primary objective is to marry. After years of experience I've discovered their most commonly used strategy. here it is:
1. Girl pressures guy for marriage.
2. Guy delays.
3. Girl gradually starts destroying guy's self-esteem and eliminating his friends.
4. Guy becomes too weak and too much of a loser to find something better than what he has.
5. Girl starts to limit sex. In effect controlling the only good thing in the guy's life.
6. Guy is in despair. Capitulates to marriage.
Then 5-10 years later the guy is an empty shell of his former self. Girl is a ruthless manipulating machine. Girl divorces loser husband. Girl takes 80% of guy's stuff because the guy is too brain dead to find a good lawyer. Girl lives happily ever after. Guy becomes bald alcoholic who dies of heart attack at 45 years old.
http://www.nomarriage.com/why_men_should_not_marry.html
It's funny because it's true.
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LMAO your such an ass
:-*
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As men, we all know that a woman's primary objective is to marry. After years of experience I've discovered their most commonly used strategy. here it is:
1. Girl pressures guy for marriage.
2. Guy delays.
3. Girl gradually starts destroying guy's self-esteem and eliminating his friends.
4. Guy becomes too weak and too much of a loser to find something better than what he has.
5. Girl starts to limit sex. In effect controlling the only good thing in the guy's life.
6. Guy is in despair. Capitulates to marriage.
Then 5-10 years later the guy is an empty shell of his former self. Girl is a ruthless manipulating machine. Girl divorces loser husband. Girl takes 80% of guy's stuff because the guy is too brain dead to find a good lawyer. Girl lives happily ever after. Guy becomes bald alcoholic who dies of heart attack at 45 years old.
http://www.nomarriage.com/why_men_should_not_marry.html
It's funny because it's true.
ON POINT!
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As men, we all know that a woman's primary objective is to marry. After years of experience I've discovered their most commonly used strategy. here it is:
1. Girl pressures guy for marriage.
2. Guy delays.
3. Girl gradually starts destroying guy's self-esteem and eliminating his friends.
4. Guy becomes too weak and too much of a loser to find something better than what he has.
5. Girl starts to limit sex. In effect controlling the only good thing in the guy's life.
6. Guy is in despair. Capitulates to marriage.
Then 5-10 years later the guy is an empty shell of his former self. Girl is a ruthless manipulating machine. Girl divorces loser husband. Girl takes 80% of guy's stuff because the guy is too brain dead to find a good lawyer. Girl lives happily ever after. Guy becomes bald alcoholic who dies of heart attack at 45 years old.
http://www.nomarriage.com/why_men_should_not_marry.html
It's funny because it's true.
I've never understood this whole thing where women control sex in a relationship and use it as leverage. I've never found myself in that situation ???
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No, being serious. Trouble is I'm not sure there are any women out there who think the way I do! My main gripe is that women who are single in their 30s are basically pissed off because some guy(s) fucked them around/over. And now they have this list of demands and operation protocols which you'd think came down in stone from Mt Sinai. Love is pretty much an afterthought, after the accounting is taken care of. Strikes me as ice cold and it really puts me off. Imo all the accounting in the world won't make a happy marriage. All you get is two people arguing about the score, and even if they both agree it's a tie, that's a far cry from my idea of marital harmony.
Great post Tapeworm. Trying to fall in love is NOT going to work based on some chart or list.
Too many woman get hurt and end up thinking a list of variables they can check/control will insure they get a good man and don't get hurt, etc. It rarely works out and they end up changing or never have a good relationship.
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Great post Tapeworm. Trying to fall in love is NOT going to work based on some chart or list.
Too many woman get hurt and end up thinking a list of variables they can check/control will insure they get a good man and don't get hurt, etc. It rarely works out and they end up changing or never have a good relationship.
Thanks Howard. In retrospect, they're not as everywhere as I made it sound. Met several varieties of flakes as well and whoa! And a couple who were ok short term but there was clearly no future.
There's been more than a few date disaster stories told between girlfriends about me, I'm sure. ;D
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I dated someone with a kid once. We did the whole "wait to meet him thing".. turns out this kid was a douche and a half and she was only getting me used to the cooter making me wait to reduce the chance of being immediately dumped. She had the poorest parenting skills ever and still cannot find anyone who loves/likes the cooter enough to put up with him, LOL!
I had my girlfriend meet the kids within two weeks. If they didn't like her it would have been over so I didn't want to waste time.
For me any woman with young kids was a NON starter for me when I was divorced and dating.