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Im ultra discouraged that I dont have the willpower to lose weight and actually was in tears tonight at how disgusting my appearance is. I am COMPLETELY aware it is my own fault and own willpower required to lose the weight. I absolutely do not understand why I dont, I fuking dont understand at all. I have the time, the facilities, the knowledge.
In no way am I asking for anyone to feel sorry for me, cause you shouldnt, Im fat and its my own fuking fault. Im just venting trying to understand my mind and why I dont do something about it.
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http://www.getbig.com/boards/index.php?topic=130040.0
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http://www.getbig.com/boards/index.php?topic=130040.0
it is--my lack of willpower is fuking sickening--no excuses--I agree
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Unhappiness is an old friend of yours
I think you prefer its company more than any other
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I can relate brother
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Sounds to me like the 1st of the 12 steps in a very successful program I once attended.
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You're going to have to understand, kind of let yourself understand, that there are reasons for everything-including lack of "will power." There are basically no bad reasons, just things that happen which are filtered through you and your prior experiences, and have a certain effect. The thought of doing what it takes to lose the weight right now is more uncomfortable than the other options.
Instead of looking at it as a huge project, try looking at it as a day long experiment. You can always go back to living as you did, but try one day of clean diet and exercise. Then if you like it, try another.
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Sounds to me like the 1st of the 12 steps in a very successful program I once attended.
It works if you work it, and we're all worth it!!! ;D
Ladies and gentleman... the twelve steps!
(http://i77.photobucket.com/albums/j62/dannydalton/12steps.jpg)
And I've asked someone to please read how it works.....
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Im ultra discouraged that I dont have the willpower to lose weight and actually was in tears tonight at how disgusting my appearance is. I am COMPLETELY aware it is my own fault and own willpower required to lose the weight. I absolutely do not understand why I dont, I fuking dont understand at all. I have the time, the facilities, the knowledge.
In no way am I asking for anyone to feel sorry for me, cause you shouldnt, Im fat and its my own fuking fault. Im just venting trying to understand my mind and why I dont do something about it.
hang in there bo,,,
one day at a time...
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like a couple people said earlier in the thread, my thing is I look at long term and should look at it one day at a time. I mean one week ago I was 276 and tonight I was 267, trying to lose 40 pounds on that bet whereby if I do my friend has to quit drinking for a year. But my stupid head wants to come on here in 3 days and say I weight 230. I HAVE TO wrap my head around one day at a time.
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Discipline is to remember what you really want.
Best of luck to you.
Peace
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be more positive...
Positivity helps spur on positive results.
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Reflect on what you really want in life. Oftentimes, we think or assume that we want something, and frustrate ourselves wondering why we lack to motivation to achieve it. This can be a sign that truly, subconsciously, we want something else.
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It works if you work it, and we're all worth it!!! ;D
Ladies and gentleman... the twelve steps!
(http://i77.photobucket.com/albums/j62/dannydalton/12steps.jpg)
And I've asked someone to please read how it works.....
can I make up my own "power greater than ourselves" or do I have to pick one of the pre-existing ones?
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Im ultra discouraged that I dont have the willpower to lose weight and actually was in tears tonight at how disgusting my appearance is. I am COMPLETELY aware it is my own fault and own willpower required to lose the weight. I absolutely do not understand why I dont, I fuking dont understand at all. I have the time, the facilities, the knowledge.
In no way am I asking for anyone to feel sorry for me, cause you shouldnt, Im fat and its my own fuking fault. Im just venting trying to understand my mind and why I dont do something about it.
This is a daily struggle in my life.. every damn day.. with the mind that is, not the weight.
No one can realise how proud I am over myself that ive managed to go to work now every single fuckign day..
Might not be a big deal for some people but for me its a Huge step forward in not loosing my mind lol.
and you have the same problem as me
the ALL IN or nothing at all mindset . Thats preventing both you and me from doing shit.
So as mentioned in this thread. One day at a time. you can Always do Anything you want at Any point
but why not choose to loose some weight.
the flipside of this for me is when I COMMIT or really fucking decide on doing something I WONT stop until Ive done it.
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can I make up my own "power greater than ourselves" or do I have to pick one of the pre-existing ones?
yes you can
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can I make up my own "power greater than ourselves" or do I have to pick one of the pre-existing ones?
It can be a dogs penis if you'd like. I don't think it matters. lol I don't recommend the twelve steps I thought I'd just throw those up there. They have actually worked for many people I've encountered over the years. But as I said earlier it only works if you work it! Day by day. blah blah.
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It can be a dogs penis if you'd like. I don't think it matters. lol I don't recommend the twelve steps I thought I'd just throw those up there. They have actually worked for many people I've encountered over the years. But as I said earlier it only works if you work it! Day by day. blah blah.
they kept me sober for 4 years but my higher power was never a invisible zombie Jew or anything of that nature..
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they kept me sober for 4 years but my higher power was never a invisible zombie Jew or anything of that nature..
OF course not. Still sober ? ???
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Don't sweat it, bro. You're a stud, you're just not in the shape you could be at present and it'll just take a hit of time. As faggy as it may sound, just set a few short goals and knock them out of the ballpark.
All in good time. You've been down and out but don't be so self destructive. Unleash the pussy slayer and may God protect our sisters, mothers and daughters. Cockspeed. 8)
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Unhappiness is an old friend of yours
I think you prefer its company more than any other
Major reason for not moving forward and being "lazy"
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disturbia,
we've all been where you have been in one way or another
Time is the ultimate solution
that's the truth, my friend
good luck and stay strong
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If losing weight was easy, we'd all be in great shape.
Some folks find it easy to keep their weight in check, some like me only have to smell a pizza and bang on 10 pounds.
Poxy thing is, as we get older, it gets harder :-)
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all I can tell ya, stay focused, do it for YOURSELF josh not a bet but that is my opinion, good luck either way
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I wish I could offer you some wise insight, but last night I ordered that extra lb of wings knowing that it would fark up my gut. :-\
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the flipside of this for me is when I COMMIT or really fucking decide on doing something I WONT stop until Ive done it.
You too, it fucking sucks at times.
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Don't try to win the war in one day my friend....one or two cheat meals a week won't kill you.
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manic_depression
Get some help bro, not sure what trama you have been through or if this is all self induced "look at me" drama, but you need some help.
Good luck.
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one week ago I was 276 and tonight I was 267,
Great job!
Av, when I dieted everyone would say "stay focused." It just sounds like something to say but it does have meaning. If you stay focused each day on what your goal is that day...it will help you to be successful in getting through it. Also, each day that you follow your eating/training plan, the next day you can usually see improvements in your body. Morning becomes a time to look forward to. :)
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Great job!
Av, when I dieted everyone would say "stay focused." It just sounds like something to say but it does have meaning. If you stay focused each day on what your goal is that day...it will help you to be successful in getting through it. Also, each day that you follow your eating/training plan, the next day you can usually see improvements in your body. Morning becomes a time to look forward to. :)
QFT
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I have been where you are. Back in 2002 I was overweight and out of shape. Things just got out of hand little by little, 1 lb here, 4 lbs there..
(insert sad yet funny testimonial here)
Back in Dec 2002 (Dec 17th, 2002 to be exact), I was watching this video of a traffic stop myself and another cop was involved in. I saw myself but didn't immediatly recognize me. I was thinking "Who is that corn fed supersized cop? I only remember two of us on the call?" Once I realized it was me it was a huge wake up call. Say what you will about Atkins, but I started researching it and Jan 1st 2003 started on phase 1. By the end of 6 months I had dropped 50 lbs of fat and have modified my diet from Atkins to just watching simple carbs and excercising 5 to 6 days a week and have maintained the weight loss. The coolest discovery I made was that it didn't take a lot of will power because I never let myself get hungry. Low carbing, there is a variety of good foods to eat so I never felt like I was on a diet. I had cheat days scheduled and often would pass on them because I didn't need it.
I think what I , am most people who battle weight do is get tied up in exotic, drastic weight loss diets, where we have lost and gained the weight overe and over, forgetting that it's a lifestyle change, where little changes make big differences over time. I am 7 yrs "Sober" and continue to make good choices about foods and excercise and it doesn't seem like the struggle it was for 20 yrs prior..
Anyhoo, hang in there, find what works best for you, for the long haul, and just do it.
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Maybe stop posting online about it and get up, get out and make it happen. You only do things when you really want to....
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like a couple people said earlier in the thread, my thing is I look at long term and should look at it one day at a time. I mean one week ago I was 276 and tonight I was 267, trying to lose 40 pounds on that bet whereby if I do my friend has to quit drinking for a year. But my stupid head wants to come on here in 3 days and say I weight 230. I HAVE TO wrap my head around one day at a time.
I'm sure you know this, but weathering that first week is the toughest part of all. Even then, it's mostly just the first couple days. It becomes habit shortly after, and 20-30 of those lbs. will drop off pretty quick.
Tip: Ditch the scale for a month or so.
I was in the exact same boat six weeks ago. Pretty easy now, but I still won't check weight for a few more weeks.
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You're going to have to understand, kind of let yourself understand, that there are reasons for everything-including lack of "will power." There are basically no bad reasons, just things that happen which are filtered through you and your prior experiences, and have a certain effect. The thought of doing what it takes to lose the weight right now is more uncomfortable than the other options.
Instead of looking at it as a huge project, try looking at it as a day long experiment. You can always go back to living as you did, but try one day of clean diet and exercise. Then if you like it, try another.
This.
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This.
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