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Been with a great woman for 2 years. Everything is good except I like to drink on weekends or when I'm stressed out. She wants to put an end to this. I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector and when thing go awry I like to drink to decompress. After a stressful week, I like to drink to decompress. So, the reality is is that I drink 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a six pack, sometimes its more. Sometimes I'll go weeks without drinking.
Drinking works for me. It resets my stress levels and I'm ready to rock another week. She doesn't like it and wants it to stop. I am honestly thinking that before I met her, I was perfectly fine and I don't think I need any adjustments.
We are thinking about breaking up.
My view is that I work a stressful fucking job, I'm a grown man, and if I want some beers on the weekend then I am more than entitled.
Her view is that I should think about her and spend time with her.
What is the GetBigger play here?
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What you need to do is be sober and smack her ass around.... and then get hammered and treat her like a queen... that way she will want you drunk all the time ;D
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I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector
:)
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Hows the sex? This is an important factor.
If youre not married, no kids, no financial ties, put her in a box and leave her on the curb.
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Drinking a six pack or more 2+ times a week is excessive imo.
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"i want you to stop drinking and spend more quality time with me" - GF
"BiatCh, Dont you know I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector!!!"
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Why doesn't she like the drinking, have you discussed it?
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Just move on. If she's already nagging about a few beers, then she'll never be happy.
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Been with a great woman for 2 years. Everything is good except I like to drink on weekends or when I'm stressed out. She wants to put an end to this. I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector and when thing go awry I like to drink to decompress. After a stressful week, I like to drink to decompress. So, the reality is is that I drink 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a six pack, sometimes its more. Sometimes I'll go weeks without drinking.
Drinking works for me. It resets my stress levels and I'm ready to rock another week. She doesn't like it and wants it to stop. I am honestly thinking that before I met her, I was perfectly fine and I don't think I need any adjustments.
We are thinking about breaking up.
My view is that I work a stressful fucking job, I'm a grown man, and if I want some beers on the weekend then I am more than entitled.
Her view is that I should think about her and spend time with her.
What is the GetBigger play here?
Dude, you're an alcoholic.
Face it and get help. You are going to break up with a great woman because of beer?
This will be the case with all your relationships, or you can marry another alcoholic and drink yourselves to death together. But my guess if you stick with the alcohol you will end up alone, drink more and more and be a trainwreck sooner or later, quit your job and so on...
Time to step down on the alcohol, dude. You don't NEED alcohol to function in everyday life, and if you think you do, you need help.
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My wife slapped a joint out of my lips once. Fast forward a few years later and she was watering my plants for me. You have to train them like a dog. Some you can't train so you give them to someone else. Do what makes you happy dude. Don't let anyone try to run your life. I decompressed by smoking some weed and I work in IT as well. Can be very demanding on the brain and you are right...we need to hit the reset button every once in a while. Good Luck.
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Dude, you're an alcoholic.
Face it and get help. You are going to break up with a great woman because of beer?
This will be the case with all your relationships, or you can marry another alcoholic and drink yourselves to death together. But my guess if you stick with the alcohol you will end up alone, drink more and more and be a trainwreck sooner or later, quit your job and so on...
Time to step down on the alcohol, dude. You don't NEED alcohol to function in everyday life, and if you think you do, you need help.
Alcoholics go to meetings. Hes a drunk. :D
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LOL drinking a 6 pack twice a week makes you an alcoholic?
HAHAHAHAH
Dude come football season I drink 3 or 4 times a week...
it sounds like you drink alone without here bro, why doesnt she drink with you?
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DK II, it's not a beer thing..it's a "can a man do what the fuck he wants to do thing"
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So answer some of our questions
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DK II, it's not a beer thing..it's a "can a man do what the fuck he wants to do thing"
Ok, you sounded like you had an addiction in your first post.
If that is not the case, go on and do what you do. To tell the truth, i have never been around people who drink alcohol, so a 6-pack on one evening is really a lot for me.
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o. To tell the truth, i have never been around people who drink alcohol, so a 6-pack on one evening is really a lot for me.
No Homo?
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Being an alcoholic isn't defined by how much you drink, but the conditions which lead to alcohol consumption. Besides, as he's already said, any drug addiction is a consequence of his job. Should he quit his job?
We might say "no one NEEDS alcohol to do a job" but how would we know?
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lol, should have heeded the red text...
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Been with a great woman for 2 years. Everything is good except I like to drink on weekends or when I'm stressed out. She wants to put an end to this. I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector and when thing go awry I like to drink to decompress. After a stressful week, I like to drink to decompress. So, the reality is is that I drink 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a six pack, sometimes its more. Sometimes I'll go weeks without drinking.
Drinking works for me. It resets my stress levels and I'm ready to rock another week. She doesn't like it and wants it to stop. I am honestly thinking that before I met her, I was perfectly fine and I don't think I need any adjustments.
We are thinking about breaking up.
My view is that I work a stressful fucking job, I'm a grown man, and if I want some beers on the weekend then I am more than entitled.
Her view is that I should think about her and spend time with her.
What is the GetBigger play here?
As long as your drinking doesn't effect your behavior in a way that is detrimental to her. And how come it is always the man that gets stuck with this "you have to think about her." When does she think about you? How much do you spend with her and how much time does she want?
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DK II, it's not a beer thing..it's a "can a man do what the fuck he wants to do thing"
No. No one should be able to do whatever the fuck they want to do.
But from what I hear, just hearing your side, I think you are in the right.
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Been with a great woman for 2 years. Everything is good except I like to drink on weekends or when I'm stressed out. She wants to put an end to this. I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector and when thing go awry I like to drink to decompress. After a stressful week, I like to drink to decompress. So, the reality is is that I drink 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a six pack, sometimes its more. Sometimes I'll go weeks without drinking.
Drinking works for me. It resets my stress levels and I'm ready to rock another week. She doesn't like it and wants it to stop. I am honestly thinking that before I met her, I was perfectly fine and I don't think I need any adjustments.
We are thinking about breaking up.
My view is that I work a stressful fucking job, I'm a grown man, and if I want some beers on the weekend then I am more than entitled.
Her view is that I should think about her and spend time with her.
What is the GetBigger play here?
Grow some balls and tell her if she doesn't like it, she can GTFO .
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Bitch is stepping over some serious boundries, every man needs his 'to go' things that relax him or put him at ease
for some it's drinking for others it's playing a video game, etc. everyone has their de-stressors as long as it's not an
addiction and you're not hammered from fri 5pm to sun 12pm then do whatever makes you happy. No one should infringe on what relaxes you there's nothing wrong with moderate drinking, before I got married my fiancee was whiny about my guns (I have a lot) and kept whining about how scared she would be living in a house with a bunch of guns and ammo in it, I stuck to my guns, explained to her it's something I've loved since I was a kid growing up on Arnie movies and that's it, we're now happily married 10 months and she's bought me 3 guns since :)
If your girl pushes it, break up with her and give her a reality check.. if you're both better off without each other then problem solved, there is ALWAYS someone better, and with there only being 2 sexes you will never run out of potential partners. If she loves you as much as she says she can deal with a few drinks, although this sounds like a psychological issue, ie. maybe her dad was a drunk and beat her, or an uncle or something.
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No Homo?
no homo.
Being an alcoholic isn't defined by how much you drink, but the conditions which lead to alcohol consumption. Besides, as he's already said, any drug addiction is a consequence of his job. Should he quit his job?
We might say "no one NEEDS alcohol to do a job" but how would we know?
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lol, should have heeded the red text...
Maybe my thinking is a little too ideal, but i think that if you need ANY kind of drug to do your job, it will end bad. Even coffee. If you NEED coffee to do your job, it will not end good.
But i see your point and in reality, we all need something that keeps us going and keeps our minds of the stress parts of life. Maybe there are better choices than alcohol for it, but that's what most people go by.
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drinkers are selfish animals, stop drinking
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Been with a great woman for 2 years. Everything is good except I like to drink on weekends or when I'm stressed out. She wants to put an end to this. I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector and when thing go awry I like to drink to decompress. After a stressful week, I like to drink to decompress. So, the reality is is that I drink 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a six pack, sometimes its more. Sometimes I'll go weeks without drinking.
Drinking works for me. It resets my stress levels and I'm ready to rock another week. She doesn't like it and wants it to stop. I am honestly thinking that before I met her, I was perfectly fine and I don't think I need any adjustments.
We are thinking about breaking up.
My view is that I work a stressful fucking job, I'm a grown man, and if I want some beers on the weekend then I am more than entitled.
Her view is that I should think about her and spend time with her.
What is the GetBigger play here?
Geez what a whiny bitch, and I ain't talkin about her. ::)
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Been with a great woman for 2 years. Everything is good except I like to drink on weekends or when I'm stressed out. She wants to put an end to this. I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector and when thing go awry I like to drink to decompress. After a stressful week, I like to drink to decompress. So, the reality is is that I drink 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a six pack, sometimes its more. Sometimes I'll go weeks without drinking.
Drinking works for me. It resets my stress levels and I'm ready to rock another week. She doesn't like it and wants it to stop. I am honestly thinking that before I met her, I was perfectly fine and I don't think I need any adjustments.
We are thinking about breaking up.
My view is that I work a stressful fucking job, I'm a grown man, and if I want some beers on the weekend then I am more than entitled.
Her view is that I should think about her and spend time with her.
What is the GetBigger play here?
So basically you are a drunk, who possibly will have domestic violence issues and DUIs down the pike...many people drink due to stress, many people do drugs due to stress, escapism...
You want to relieve stress, start running, or really start lifting, or boxing, MMA...or smoke some damn weed...if you don't you are gonna be in the clink for a domestic assault...and many of thos happen due to one or both parties drinking.
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Post pics, if shes ugly get rid of her we will determine. Drinking is not the issue here.
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My wife slapped a joint out of my lips once. Fast forward a few years later and she was watering my plants for me. You have to train them like a dog. Some you can't train so you give them to someone else. Do what makes you happy dude. Don't let anyone try to run your life. I decompressed by smoking some weed and I work in IT as well. Can be very demanding on the brain and you are right...we need to hit the reset button every once in a while. Good Luck.
This.
You will be happier in the long run if you do not give in.
Compromise on the little things, not on the things that make you happy, relax...etc. Sounds like your drinking is in check so that's not the issue.
If she is already showing her true colors and trying to dig her claws into you at this point, can you imagine what things will be like when she has a ring on her finer...or if you have kids with her? You will have your balls cut off.
I'm in a relationship right now for 3 years, I have not changed and have made it clear that I won't. We love each other and all that crap, but I do not put up with b.s.
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So basically you are a drunk, who possibly will have domestic violence issues and DUIs down the pike...many people drink due to stress, many people do drugs due to stress, escapism...
You want to relieve stress, start running, or really start lifting, or boxing, MMA...or smoke some damn weed...if you don't you are gonna be in the clink for a domestic assault...and many of thos happen due to one or both parties drinking.
Sound advice from GangstaLean.
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the problem aint the girl, it's your job, the stress, and the need for alcohol as a result.
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the problem aint the girl, it's your job, the stress, and the need for alcohol as a result.
Maybe the little bitchboy should hit the gym instead of the bottle ???
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Post pics, if shes ugly get rid of her we will determine. Drinking is not the issue here.
X2. PTPS.
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Been with a great woman for 2 years. Everything is good except I like to drink on weekends or when I'm stressed out. She wants to put an end to this. I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector and when thing go awry I like to drink to decompress. After a stressful week, I like to drink to decompress. So, the reality is is that I drink 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a six pack, sometimes its more. Sometimes I'll go weeks without drinking.
Drinking works for me. It resets my stress levels and I'm ready to rock another week. She doesn't like it and wants it to stop. I am honestly thinking that before I met her, I was perfectly fine and I don't think I need any adjustments.
We are thinking about breaking up.
My view is that I work a stressful fucking job, I'm a grown man, and if I want some beers on the weekend then I am more than entitled.
Her view is that I should think about her and spend time with her.
What is the GetBigger play here?
Never let a bitch tell you what to do.
But anyway, drinking does suck. You're better off smoking weed to decompress for your own health.
Just switch to weed and say "Look bitch. I stopped drinking! Now bend over."
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no homo.
Maybe my thinking is a little too ideal, but i think that if you need ANY kind of drug to do your job, it will end bad. Even coffee. If you NEED coffee to do your job, it will not end good.
But i see your point and in reality, we all need something that keeps us going and keeps our minds of the stress parts of life. Maybe there are better choices than alcohol for it, but that's what most people go by.
Most people are degenerated weaklings.
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Dude, you're an alcoholic.
Face it and get help. You are going to break up with a great woman because of beer?
This will be the case with all your relationships, or you can marry another alcoholic and drink yourselves to death together. But my guess if you stick with the alcohol you will end up alone, drink more and more and be a trainwreck sooner or later, quit your job and so on...
Time to step down on the alcohol, dude. You don't NEED alcohol to function in everyday life, and if you think you do, you need help.
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Geez what a whiny bitch, and I ain't talkin about her. ::)
lol
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Trade her for a younger model.
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I love threads like these :D
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break up immedaitly and hir her backl as a bang maid
bang other chix on side
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T, I see tons of cases like these---the woman always says, "he's only like this when he drinks", like this means dotting her eyes, and her looking like she went half a round with Tyson.....many times it could be the woman and the job driving one to drink---the woman taking the man's balls, and the job taking his soul...the stress of such leads one to try and escape---alcohol and drugs are the leading tools for "escaping" stress. But, what happens they becomes more than crutch, they become the "best friend" you can drown your sorrows in...the best drug to do that with is weed, the other hard shit will make you a damn addict and start stealing or poking yourself with needles and what not.
Up above is if you are going the drug route, the best advice is to remove himself from her, the alcohol and possibly even the job---take a vacation or get a new one. Re-evaluate all the negative shit in one's life, and prune it out. If he doesn't do this, if he hasn't been in a domestic assault case or DUI, it will happen sooner or later. domestic assaults are far, far more common than people think. And many times, alcohol was a huge factor---with one or both parties drinking, then arguing, then the hitting...
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T, I see tons of cases like these---the woman always says, "he's only like this when he drinks", like his means dotting her eyes, and her looking like she went half a round with Tyson.....many times it could be the woman and the job driving one to drink---the woman taking the man's balls, and the job taking his soul...the stress of such leads one to try and escape---alcohol and drugs are the leading tools for "escaping" stress. But, what happens they becomes more than crutch, they become the "best friend" you can drown your sorrows in...the best drug to do that with is weed, the other hard shit will make you a damn addict and start stealing or poking yourself with needles and what not.
Up above is if you are going the drug route, the best advice is to remove himself from her, the alcohol and possibly even the job---take a vacation or get a new one. Re-evaluate all the negative shit in one's life, and prune it out. If he doesn't do this, if he hasn't been in a domestic assault case or DUI, it will happen sooner or later. domestic assaults are far, far more common than people think. And many times, alcohol was a huge factor---with one or both parties drinking, then arguing, then the hitting...
I think you may be correct statistic wise. This guy may not turn into a statistic but who knows. I also agree that weed would be the better route. For one it is not physically addictive like alcohol will become if abused. He could go out for an hour to the park, look at some booty, smoke a bowl, freshen up the breath a little and come back home and be chilled out. By the sound of it though if she has an issue with him drinking 2 times a week then she probably isn't down with him smoking weed. I say he throw the bitch away and half his stress would be gone after the initial sadness of being alone.
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So basically you are a drunk, who possibly will have domestic violence issues and DUIs down the pike...many people drink due to stress, many people do drugs due to stress, escapism...
You want to relieve stress, start running, or really start lifting, or boxing, MMA...or smoke some damn weed...if you don't you are gonna be in the clink for a domestic assault...and many of thos happen due to one or both parties drinking.
Good post Parks........this guy`s using stress and his job as an excuse to get fucked up.
Nothing good ever came from excessive drinking other than a buzz.............at your doorbell from the cops!!
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Maybe it's your girl causing the stress
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Maybe it's your girl causing the stress
Of course it is,she`s stressing him out over his drinking!! ;D
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Of course it is,she`s stressing him out over his drinking!! ;D
Exactly, he use his 'important' job as a lame excuse.
He's a good guy, so he doesn't want to hurt her feelings.
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Exactly!! 'D
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Utilizing the collective intelligence of GB you can solve any issue 8)
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fuck me he's having a few drinks every other weekend or so.... some fucking freaks in here, i dont see the big deal, i hardly ever drink my self, but if i never trained id be propping up the bar every weekend
in my mind shes making a problem out of nothing
every girl ive went out with ive told them i'll never stop training, and i will use steroids from time to time, they either deal with that or they dont
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Good post Parks........this guy`s using stress and his job as an excuse to get fucked up.
Nothing good ever came from excessive drinking other than a buzz.............at your doorbell from the cops!!
You sound like one of those ex-addicts that tells everyone else that uses alcohol/drugs that they are addicts and then proceed with the whole psychological breakdown. I am court ordered to go to NA meetings every week so I know the routine. I got busted with weed. I am not a drug addict but do enjoy getting high every once in a while. From what you had wrote in another thread you used to have many addictions. That doesn't mean this dude does. But your right...he probably is a fucking drunk ...lol.
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Good post Parks........this guy`s using stress and his job as an excuse to get fucked up.
Nothing good ever came from excessive drinking other than a buzz.............at your doorbell from the cops!!
If you can use stress and your job as an excuse to get fucked up what excuse can you use?
Just asking?
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If you can use stress and your job as an excuse to get fucked up what excuse can you use?
Just asking?
LOL..nice Pellius. My take on it is that you shouldn't use an excuse. You do it because you want to. I hear excuses all of the time in this drug court shit from other people when they "relapse" ::). Oh my dog died, I had a bad day at work, My wife/husband pissed me off. Fuck that...you do it cuz you want to...there are no valid excuses for needing to get high or drunk.
Pellius = Pride-Honor-Respect
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fuck me he's having a few drinks every other weekend or so.... some fucking freaks in here, i dont see the big deal, i hardly ever drink my self, but if i never trained id be propping up the bar every weekend
in my mind shes making a problem out of nothing
every girl ive went out with ive told them i'll never stop training, and i will use steroids from time to time, they either deal with that or they dont
You know as well as me, when anyone says "a few drinks", it means trying to down 2 six packs, or two 2 40s...when your woman makes a comment about your drinking habits, maybe, just maybe there might be a slight cause for alarm. The icing on the cake---the "stress of my job" excuse. But, it obviously is a problem if he had to make a thread on here...
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Dude, you're an alcoholic.
Face it and get help. You are going to break up with a great woman because of beer?
This will be the case with all your relationships, or you can marry another alcoholic and drink yourselves to death together. But my guess if you stick with the alcohol you will end up alone, drink more and more and be a trainwreck sooner or later, quit your job and so on...
Time to step down on the alcohol, dude. You don't NEED alcohol to function in everyday life, and if you think you do, you need help.
Beer is a pretext for to take over his life. What is the problem to drink at weekends? I don't see any. A six pack? Drinking himself to death? I don't think so. People need to decompress from this stupid society. If he is accomplishing everything in his job and mantaining his progression, reseting on weekends is a good thing. If she doesn't want him to drink, too bad... We only live one time. You should know that, because in Germany it works just like that.
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Beer is a pretext for to take over his life. What is the problem to drink at weekends? I don't see any. A six pack? Drinking himself to death? I don't think so. People need to decompress from this stupid society. If he is accomplishing everything in his job and mantaining his progression, reseting on weekends is a good thing. If she doesn't want him to drink, too bad... We only live one time. You should know that, because in Germany it works just like that.
He says he likes to drink on the weekends or when he's stressed. So it's 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a 6 pack, sometimes it's not, and sometimes he can go weeks without drinking (so he says)...basically it's more than a weekend thing.
This ain't Germany, this is America where people like to over indulge...there is no sense of moderation here...I'm telling you, this will be the scenario, if it hasn't already happened. He drinks, gets drunk, either at home or a bar...his woman gets mad, they get into a argument, and he hits her. She calls the police, he gets arrested, and he may spend a night or nights in jail. Then the job gets whiff of it, he is now known as a drunk and a woman beater...this leads to more drinking...and so it snowballs.
Let's not even go into catching a DUI, or hitting someone while drinking and driving. Let's not go into getting into the losing end of a barfight...
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Been with a great woman for 2 years. Everything is good except I like to drink on weekends or when I'm stressed out. She wants to put an end to this. I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector and when thing go awry I like to drink to decompress. After a stressful week, I like to drink to decompress. So, the reality is is that I drink 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a six pack, sometimes its more. Sometimes I'll go weeks without drinking.
Drinking works for me. It resets my stress levels and I'm ready to rock another week. She doesn't like it and wants it to stop. I am honestly thinking that before I met her, I was perfectly fine and I don't think I need any adjustments.
We are thinking about breaking up.
My view is that I work a stressful fucking job, I'm a grown man, and if I want some beers on the weekend then I am more than entitled.
Her view is that I should think about her and spend time with her.
What is the GetBigger play here?
You should limit your drinking to two or three beers and she should nag less and fellate more if her guy is stressed. Try couples therapy if you want to keep the relationship because this isn't even about drinking by now - obviously, there's a whole ego/independence/contol/resentment shitstorm a-brewin.
But 'we're thinking about breaking up' usually means you've had a relationship zombie lurching around for the last 6 months. These rarely come back to life ime.
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Also
HEY YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT PAIN STRESS IS!!!
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He says he likes to drink on the weekends or when he's stressed. So it's 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a 6 pack, sometimes it's not, and sometimes he can go weeks without drinking (so he says)...basically it's more than a weekend thing.
This ain't Germany, this is America where people like to over indulge...there is no sense of moderation here...I'm telling you, this will be the scenario, if it hasn't already happened. He drinks, gets drunk, either at home or a bar...his woman gets mad, they get into a argument, and he hits her. She calls the police, he gets arrested, and he may spend a night or nights in jail. Then the job gets whiff of it, he is now known as a drunk and a woman beater...this leads to more drinking...and so it snowballs.
Let's not even go into catching a DUI, or hitting someone while drinking and driving. Let's not go into getting into the losing end of a barfight...
LOL, way to map out the guy's life with your projectiions, for all we know he has a few beer's on the weekends to relax like most people, ever go to a bbq? did you have a few cold ones? you guys are all making him out to be some psychotic alcoholic, lol how many of you know the dude in real life? EXACTLY then STFU and calm down Gloria, it's not that serious!
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But 'we're thinking about breaking up' usually means you've had a relationship zombie lurching around for the last 6 months. These rarely come back to life ime.
Yes! Like everything else in life, relationship mirrors the (subconscious) thoughts. Do or do not, there is no try. If you hesitate, it's game over.
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Dutch saying: "geen handvol, maar een land vol"
I wonder what that gives after google-translation.
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LOL, way to map out the guy's life with your projectiions, for all we know he has a few beer's on the weekends to relax like most people, ever go to a bbq? did you have a few cold ones? you guys are all making him out to be some psychotic alcoholic, lol how many of you know the dude in real life? EXACTLY then STFU and calm down Gloria, it's not that serious!
I have to deal with "couple beers" guys---the ones whose jobs really stressful...
One dude had the "couple beers", and to make a long story short, by the end of the night his career in a top branch of the government was OVER.
As you said, he may only drink on the weekends, but he said 2+times a week....and as we know drinkers or alcoholics always underestimate their drinks. 1=3, 2=5, and so on. If he drinking due to his job, he may want to find another one or another way to relieve stress---he is on a bbing site.
If a dude puts it on here, and states his woman is harping on him, that's a red flag. I deal wth too many of these situations, day in and day out, same scenario. I believe in erring on the side of caution. But, I give it to people straight---100 proof.
Just smoke the herb, and he'll be straight.
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What's the all this "weed" advice, over beer... lol fucking gay1
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What's the all this "weed" advice, over beer... lol fucking gay1
Weed will calm your ass down quicker than beer. Plus, I never heard of a dudes fighting while lit up on the herb...you chill on the weed...and if the woman starts getting angry, you laugh at her...
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Start doing cocaine. It really takes the edge off. You'll be fine.
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Dutch saying: "geen handvol, maar een land vol"
I wonder what that gives after google-translation.
Ask Weerd Gilders, he knows
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LOL..nice Pellius. My take on it is that you shouldn't use an excuse. You do it because you want to. I hear excuses all of the time in this drug court shit from other people when they "relapse" ::). Oh my dog died, I had a bad day at work, My wife/husband pissed me off. Fuck that...you do it cuz you want to...there are no valid excuses for needing to get high or drunk.
Pellius = Pride-Honor-Respect
Thanks for the props.
Why do we do anything? Because we want to and we want to because there is a reason we want to. We life weights because we want to look better, be stronger, be healthier. That's our excuse.
Some like to have a few beers or blaze just to relax or unwind a bit. Why is that less of a reason than someone who unwinds shooting traps, having a bag of cookies or watching internet porn?
There's a difference between getting consistently smashed and getting comfortably buzzed of some beer, wine or weed on the weekends. All of life is a matter of degrees.
Some jobs and life styles are stressful? Why is that not a valid reason or excuse to unwind? A previous poster mentioned that maybe the problem is the job. Get another job. Just because a job is demanding doesn't mean you are not fulfilled by it. Would he say the same thing if his child said that college is very hard and stressful?
I remember Bill Bennett got reamed because it was found out he liked to gamble. But he always had it under control, never got into debt and never "used the lunch money." Rush got reamed for using pain pills to deal with his skull being sawed open to treat a medical condition. It had no adverse effect on either his private or public life. I didn't see the big deal.
As long as it isn't adversely affecting someone's life people should mind their own business. We all need something to cope and relax. That's why a lot of people smoke. As far as I can see this guy isn't an alcoholic. He's not beating his girl friend or driving drunk. Yeah, maybe he should do something that's better for him. We should all just do things that are intrinsically good for us. We should all be perfect.
Brah, down a few for me this weekend. Relax a bit. Monday is tomorrow and it starts all over again. And again, and again, and again... until we die. Tell the frau to chill. Things could be worse. I'm sure you over look some of her habits that annoy you. If and when she finds the perfect man whose every action, habit and behavior pleases her then I'm sure she'll let you know.
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Start doing cocaine. It really takes the edge off. You'll be fine.
LOL!!! I heard meth is even better! :D ;D
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He says he likes to drink on the weekends or when he's stressed. So it's 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a 6 pack, sometimes it's not, and sometimes he can go weeks without drinking (so he says)...basically it's more than a weekend thing.
This ain't Germany, this is America where people like to over indulge...there is no sense of moderation here...I'm telling you, this will be the scenario, if it hasn't already happened. He drinks, gets drunk, either at home or a bar...his woman gets mad, they get into a argument, and he hits her. She calls the police, he gets arrested, and he may spend a night or nights in jail. Then the job gets whiff of it, he is now known as a drunk and a woman beater...this leads to more drinking...and so it snowballs.
Let's not even go into catching a DUI, or hitting someone while drinking and driving. Let's not go into getting into the losing end of a barfight...
Jesus Christ you're an annoying little patsy. It's fucking beer.
"this is America where people like to over indulge"
Are you seriously equating a couple of beers a week with "overindulgence?" After years of seeing every member of getbig pretend to be a muscle-bound millionaire pussy slaying polymath, I can honestly say that this is the first time I've ever been absolutely fucking certain that someone would never get within a mile of any of those traits.
I can just imagine the frightened stare as you stand there in a frozen panic, imagining your future downward spiral into addiction, after a buddy offers you a sniffer of blow at some office party....
How many "office safety" teams are you on? Seriously?
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yea the boys down at the pub always tell there wives they only had a few...
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just dont call her for 2 weeks
that chills em out
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Re: Is it worth your soul?
« Reply #49 on: April 17, 2011, 06:49:34 AM »
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Quote from: wes on April 17, 2011, 06:01:48 AM
Good post Parks........this guy`s using stress and his job as an excuse to get fucked up.
Nothing good ever came from excessive drinking other than a buzz.............at your doorbell from the cops!!
Quote from: outby43:
You sound like one of those ex-addicts that tells everyone else that uses alcohol/drugs that they are addicts and then proceed with the whole psychological breakdown. I am court ordered to go to NA meetings every week so I know the routine. I got busted with weed. I am not a drug addict but do enjoy getting high every once in a while. From what you had wrote in another thread you used to have many addictions. That doesn't mean this dude does. But your right...he probably is a fucking drunk ...lol.
In real life,I never preach to anyone about booze or drugs...I hate reformed addicts/drunks who push sobriety on people.
If you`re fucked up,you`ll either recover,or you won`t.
Getting fucked up is OK with me,not that I do it anymore, but once you let it take over your life,your life is over.
To my buddy pellius,no excuses needed to do anything in life bro,but excuses and reasons are classic lines from alcoholics,not from social drinkers looking to get a buzz to simply unwind/relax,or de-stress.
Fucking quote function not working for me!! :(
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Jesus Christ you're an annoying little patsy. It's fucking beer.
"this is America where people like to over indulge"
Are you seriously equating a couple of beers a week with "overindulgence?" After years of seeing every member of getbig pretend to be a muscle-bound millionaire pussy slaying polymath, I can honestly say that this is the first time I've ever been absolutely fucking certain that someone would never get within a mile of any of those traits.
I can just imagine the frightened stare as you stand there in a frozen panic, imagining your future downward spiral into addiction, after a buddy offers you a sniffer of blow at some office party....
How many "office safety" teams are you on? Seriously?
Whoa there Ranger Rick,
I see this shit day in and day out, and I deal with the eff ups and the "few beers" (ever notice everybody only has a 'few beers', especially after slapping around the old lady?).
Now, dude makes a thread on here, with the title "is it worth your soul?" and says he does 2+ days week on liquid, and he didn't say ..because he says his job is stressful....and his woman nags him....classic case. What is a "couple" to you? A six pack, two six packs?
This ain't knocking back a beer to relax, this is using beer to "escape" from the the stress of a job....and in comes the woman telling him that he is drinking too much...ya know, maybe, just maybe she could be right...or wrong...Three sides to every story, yours, mine and the truth...look at shit for what it is, not for what you want it to be. I hear this mess too often...
Remember Ranger Rick, your distant genetic cousin would say, "where there is smoke there is fire".
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Tell her to fook off and come to Ireland!
Fookin' 6 bottles of beer constitutes an issue to some of you fags on here???????
that's a fookin' warm-up before hittin' the pub!
the US needs to drop the therapy bulls**t abd start living!!!
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Tell her to fook off and come to Ireland!
Fookin' 6 bottles of beer constitutes an issue to some of you fags on here???????
that's a fookin' warm-up before hittin' the pub!
the US needs to drop the therapy bulls**t abd start living!!!
That's what we are talking about!
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whole thread boils down to does this lad get into a vehicle and drive his wee self home after drinking 6+ pints of the bevy...if so the wanker needs more than a lashin from the miss...
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drug use always covers one or several underlying non adressed psychological trauma(s). The habit to drink or smoke is also often genetical. The real question is how does it help improve your survival. Drinking slowly destroys your body, your mental strength over time and as the OP stated it, your relationships.
We re not judging him for attempting to cope with unresolved problems, we all need to do so to survive, to get rid -when possible- of what is wrong with us, we often inherited in our past. We re just mostly saying he could find another, healthier habit to cope with the stress. And maybe he should question himself about the real reasons why he's drinking . What is he trying to forget / to repress. Lot of men think that just because they have a job it means they have no problems. They re human like everyone else. They re not just a body, and a job.
Actually his girl looks like she's caring about him -his survival-.
We all have problems, that's how we deal with them that varies from an individual to another. Destroying yourself or others when you could do the oposite -which is a lot tougher- is when it's a problem for everyone else.
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stressful software engineering job in the defense sector
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stressful software engineering job in the defense sector
;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Been with a great woman for 2 years. Everything is good except I like to drink on weekends or when I'm stressed out. She wants to put an end to this. I work a STRESSFUL software engineering job in the defense sector and when thing go awry I like to drink to decompress. After a stressful week, I like to drink to decompress. So, the reality is is that I drink 2+ times a week. Sometimes it's a six pack, sometimes its more. Sometimes I'll go weeks without drinking.
Drinking works for me. It resets my stress levels and I'm ready to rock another week. She doesn't like it and wants it to stop. I am honestly thinking that before I met her, I was perfectly fine and I don't think I need any adjustments.
We are thinking about breaking up.
My view is that I work a stressful fucking job, I'm a grown man, and if I want some beers on the weekend then I am more than entitled.
Her view is that I should think about her and spend time with her.
What is the GetBigger play here?
Testo Enanthate is better.
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Testo Enanthate is better.
LOL, who says he isn't on? ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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LOL, who says he isn't on? ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
Beer and Testo? Doesn't really mix imo.
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Beer and Testo? Doesn't really mix imo.
Yeah you shouldn't inject it in the same syringe....
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Dunno if this has been posted....but the fact that he regards his drinking ritual as his "soul" tells me all I need to know.
Sounds like a 2nd amendment guy talking about his precious assault rifle.
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Yeah you shouldn't inject it in the same syringe....
But you could empty out the syringe and inject the Beer...that would be awesome...in a weird way.
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But you could empty out the syringe and inject the Beer...that would be awesome...in a weird way.
two shots with the same syringe?? :o :o :o
Man, you're crazy. ;D ;D ;D
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Depends if you have a soul...
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Depends if you have a soul...
good point, if you don't have a soul, you have no soul to lose.... ;D ;D
Or you could sell it to the devil for a lifetime support of bitches and beer. ;D ;D