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Question to you shorter guys ( <= 5"8 )
How do you deal with it in your daily life ? Especially in clubs, where often tall men will try to belittle you to pickup chicks ?
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great thread and posts doubt we'll hear honest answers except from Parker.
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There's a reason Walt Disney made Goofy tall.....
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Question to you shorter guys ( <= 5"8 )
How do you deal with it in your daily life ? Especially in clubs, where often tall men will try to belittle you to pickup chicks ?
hahahahahahhahahahahahah ahahahah!!!
;D ;D ;D
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Here is what happened to a 6' 2" 265Lb guy who tried to belittle a 5'7" 195lb short guy at a club
(http://bbsimg.ngfiles.com/1/21052000/ngbbs4bc96a2d776a7.jpg)
(http://www.prefixmag.com/site_media/uploads/images/artists/s/suge-knight/suge-knight-knockout.jpg)
(http://www.rapbasement.com/images/suge_blood2.jpg)
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its not how TALL you are, it's about how big your balls are and how much you give a fuck about spending the night in jail
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Question to you shorter guys ( <= 5"8 )
How do you deal with it in your daily life ? Especially in clubs, where often tall men will try to belittle you to pickup chicks ?
Lol...well I guess I fall into that catagory, and it has never happened to me where a tall guy has tried to belittle me.
Now question for you Tall guys. Why do you constantly obsess over shorter guys and feel the need to point out that you are tall? Is that all you have going for you?
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Good thing i'm not under 5'8" then
Who was the dude lying on the floor in that disco? Suge Knight?
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Good thing i'm not under 5'8" then
Who was the dude lying on the floor in that disco? Suge Knight?
yup
(http://stupidcelebrities.net/wp-content/old_pictures/wenn1673137.jpg)
(http://www.prefixmag.com/site_media/uploads/images/artists/s/suge-knight/suge-knight-knockout-2.jpg)
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(http://imagecdn.bodybuilding.com/img/user_images/growable/2007/05/27/348412/gallerypic/753421e.jpg)
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yup
(http://stupidcelebrities.net/wp-content/old_pictures/wenn1673137.jpg)
(http://www.prefixmag.com/site_media/uploads/images/artists/s/suge-knight/suge-knight-knockout-2.jpg)
Who was the shorter dude that did that to Suge?
Were there weapons involved? Bats etc?
EDIT: Did some research
*REAL STORY* I was there. I was telling people about this before it hit the net. Suge didn’t get hit with a fist, it was with a crowbar. The @$?#! went down where a guy got jumped by Suge and about 3 bodyguards. It’s about 20 seconds of chaos, spills a little into the street, then gets broken up. Then a HOMEBOY of the dude who got jumped comes straight from the side with a crowbar. You can actually see the gash on Suge’s neck in the pictures. He hit him hard across the right side of his skull and neck – you could hear it. The dude who hit him was out in a flash – before bodyguards or security could even track him down. It was a one-hitta-quitta..
Anyone can use a Crowbar
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yup
do we know who it was that struck him? somebody not afraid of retribution I pressume?
edit: just read the paragraph above. an unknown assailant then..
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HERE is a good example of a smaller guy knocking out a big guy though
TANK VS CHESTON (no crowbars here)
http://www.trutv.com/video/black-gold/knocked-the-out.html
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Who was the shorter dude that did that to Suge?
Were there weapons involved? Bats etc?
EDIT: Did some research
Anyone can use a Crowbar
Nope, dude that knocked him out was a Barber, laid sug out with his fists
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Question to you shorter guys ( <= 5"8 )
How do you deal with it in your daily life ? Especially in clubs, where often tall men will try to belittle you to pickup chicks ?
Lol I'm never really sure of the rationale behind these 'short guy' threads!
Well I can only speak for myself...I'm 5'6" - I can honestly say that my (lack of) height has never had a negative effect on my daily life.
Performed at a high standard in sports (captained my bball team), have always got plenty of girls etc etc
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Lol I'm never really sure of the rationale behind these 'short guy' threads!
Well I can only speak for myself...I'm 5'6" - I can honestly say that my (lack of) height has never had a negative effect on my daily life.
Performed at a high standard in sports (captained my bball team), have always got plenty of girls etc etc
You are lucky ! Being myself 5'8' I've encountered negative effect on my daily life. :)
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HERE is a good example of a smaller guy knocking out a big guy though
TANK VS CHESTON (no crowbars here)
http://www.trutv.com/video/black-gold/knocked-the-out.html
LOL - that's funny........ ;D
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I'm abooot five feet "tall". I haven't really been picked on by taller guys since high school or early college but then the circle of people I know don't seem to be into that. At least not to my face. ;)
But it can be tough if you don't grow much after you turn 10. High school was the hardest, but then I suppose being likened to Sammy Davis Jr. isn't all bad. I had a really fat friend that would be picked on a lot. Perhaps more than me. One day a few guys were making fun of him about a girl he had asked out to a dance (she was what some would call a little BBW today) and chided him about "How do fat people fuck?"
He paused a moment and replied, "Why is it all the guys with little dicks keep asking me this?" They laughed so hard that they actually accepted him after that. Unfortunately everyone knew my dad was Caucasian so I couldn't get away with that lie... ;D
Later, kids.
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Well I can only speak for myself...I'm 5'6" - I can honestly say that my (lack of) height has never had a negative effect on my daily life.
That you're aware of. ;)
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I am 5'1" and get picked on by the big 5'6" fat blokes at the gym - they call each other Body Builders
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I am 5'1" and get picked on by the big 5'6" fat blokes at the gym - they call each other Body Builders
fuck man 5'1? Are you Asian?
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fuck man 5'1? Are you Asian?
white, on left below
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I'm just touching 5'5, and although I wouldn't mind being 5'7, I'm okay...i've never been belittled by taller guys, in fact, I tend to become friends with them and everybody...with women, generally women who are taller than me I tend to attract. Some women my height as well, women shorter than me tend to bypass...
That is unless they see my personality...because I'm short, I've developed a bigger personality to over compensate...plus, I'm a cool mofo, if I don't say so,myself. Plus, I'm not ugly either. It's how you carry yourself, and your character. Basically get in where you fit in, and be thankful for certain attributes---you could be born ugly or with no legs.
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as a short guy myself I have to admit that most ironic thing about being short and relationships is that you seem to scare away mostly shorter girls. I am 5'5'', my gf is 5'8'' and tallest girl I felt was too "friendly" towards me was over 6' tall (but that scared shit out of me honestly LOL).
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I am 5'1" and get picked on by the big 5'6" fat blokes at the gym - they call each other Body Builders
sometimes the middle school boys take my Marmite Sarnies...bastards >:(
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I'm just touching 5'5, and although I wouldn't mind being 5'7, I'm okay...i've never been belittled by taller guys, in fact, I tend to become friends with them and everybody...with women, generally women who are taller than me I tend to attract. Some women my height as well, women shorter than me tend to bypass...
That is unless they see my personality...because I'm short, I've developed a bigger personality to over compensate...plus, I'm a cool mofo, if I don't say so,myself. Plus, I'm not ugly either. It's how you carry yourself, and your character. Basically get in where you fit in, and be thankful for certain attributes---you could be born ugly or with no legs.
My buddy is 5'8 and he is a gorgeous guy, but women treat him like the cute younger brother. I know lots of tall ugly fellahs who pull pussy all day and all night. height is extremely important to most women.
good looking short guy is like fat chick with a pretty face.
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My buddy is 5'8 and he is a gorgeous guy, but women treat him like the cute younger brother. I know lots of tall ugly fellahs who pull pussy all day and all night. height is extremely important to most women.
good looking short guy is like fat chick with a pretty face.
If your number one priority in life is banging as many girls as possible then yes, short height is a huge setback. But if you just wanna find someone special to live your life with then it's no problem and you don't even have to compromise anything. You will prolly say I developed this philosophy due to my height. Well, may be, may be as well the fact that I was raised oldschool way in society that had all of what was left of its former mentality. Nowadays vast majority of kids share western type of mentality of putting fucking pretty girls every weekend as your number one priority in life.
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HERE is a good example of a smaller guy knocking out a big guy though
TANK VS CHESTON (no crowbars here)
http://www.trutv.com/video/black-gold/knocked-the-out.html
Not a good example, Tank was drunk.
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I didn't notice a Single person under 6 feet in Amsterdam even the females were tall, well except for the asian girl who sold me a brownie at the coffee shop
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5'8 never ever been an issue, it's about the size of ur personality, flintstones ur gorgeous friend needs to stop being a puss, girls care less about looks than you think
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My buddy is 5'8 and he is a gorgeous guy, but women treat him like the cute younger brother. I know lots of tall ugly fellahs who pull pussy all day and all night. height is extremely important to most women.
good looking short guy is like fat chick with a pretty face.
Ah, but a good looking short guy with a great personality and quick wit, many times trumps the ugly tall guy...women can smell male desperation And insecurity like animals can smell fear.
You present yourself as the neighborhood wallcrawler and let things fall as they may...as the old saying goes, "if it don't fit, don't force it."
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us 5'11" and over dudes are fucking chicks constantly while you're at home altering your clothes from Osh Gosh, you little fucking smurf pussies!
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My buddy is 5'8 and he is a gorgeous guy, but women treat him like the cute younger brother. I know lots of tall ugly fellahs who pull pussy all day and all night. height is extremely important to most women.
good looking short guy is like fat chick with a pretty face.
Your friend is "gorgeous"....?
How often to you suck his cock you Fucking homo? ? :D
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us 5'11" and over dudes are fucking chicks constantly while you're at home altering your clothes from Osh Gosh, you little fucking smurf pussies!
You must be 5'11", right? ;D
Or is it 5'11 and 15/16ths"? And yes, I wish I were taller but alas, there are no faeries to grant wishes. Well... at least none I would trust. Later. ;D
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Ah, but a good looking short guy with a great personality and quick wit, many times trumps the ugly tall guy...women can smell male desperation And insecurity like animals can smell fear.
You present yourself as the neighborhood wallcrawler and let things fall as they may...as the old saying goes, "if it don't fit, don't force it."
lol there's categories of "tall guy", "short guy," here's two categories of guys for women:
a) Guys who go on "dates" to things such as movies, or dinner, and they like to have normal or nice conversation with women. They like to talk about their jobs, and the woman nods, then they talk about their fave movie, woman says oh really? bla bla, in reality the woman is horny and wants to talk about sex, more so she wants the guy to look at her in a way that turns her on, he doesn't, he doesn't get it that she's not interested. At this point she understandss, this is a guy I fuck if I can use, so does he have money or friends or drugs or this or that. If he doesn't, she basically gets offended that he keeps talking to her about shit she isnt interested in and can't read her, why can't he relate to me, why doesn't he try to understand.
b) Guys who calm themselves down and let themselves get turned on and show that they are turned on, they talk about sex, they eye fuck the girl the whole time, this means when he looks at the girl or when he touches the girl, she likes it, this also means that along with letting his penis enter her orifices, she will allow his will to occupy the orifice of her mind.
guys in group a are owned by women guys in group b own women, simple as this, no tall this short that, good looking or ugly, it's how you act
let me put it another way
girl wants something from every guy, she wants to manipulate every guy. Her organism needs nutrition, it needs status, it needs affection, it thinks how do I maniuplate this guy to give me these things. If a guy is passive then I must be assertive, if a guy is assertive I must be passive, these are methods of manipulation and control, be assertive and she will have no choice but to allow you in, her organism demands it. And I mean actually be assertive, not act assertive, lol
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us 5'11" and over dudes are fucking chicks constantly while you're at home altering your clothes from Osh Gosh, you little fucking smurf pussies!
Well, when my neck was 17-17.5, I did have problems finding dress shirts with 31-32 inch arms.
Now, I've decided that having a 16.5 inch neck is ideal for me, and I've been having a Smurfin' good time!
lol there's categories of "tall guy", "short guy," here's two categories of guys for women:
a) Guys who go on "dates" to things such as movies, or dinner, and they like to have normal or nice conversation with women. They like to talk about their jobs, and the woman nods, then they talk about their fave movie, woman says oh really? bla bla, in reality the woman is horny and wants to talk about sex, more so she wants the guy to look at her in a way that turns her on, he doesn't, he doesn't get it that she's not interested. At this point
she understandss, this is a guy I fuck if I can use, so does he have money or friends or drugs or this or that. If he doesn't, she basically gets offended that he keeps talking to her about shit she isnt interested in and can't read her, why can't he relate to me, why doesn't he try to understand.
b) Guys who calm themselves down and let themselves get turned on and show that they are turned on, they talk
about sex, they eye fuck the girl the whole time, this means when he looks at the girl or when he touches the girl, she likes it, this also means that along with letting his penis enter her orifices, she will allow his will to occupy the orifice of her mind.
guys in group a are owned by women guys in group b own women, simple as this, no tall this short that, good
looking or ugly, it's how you act
let me put it another way
girl wants something from every guy, she wants to manipulate every guy. Her organism needs nutrition, it needs status, it needs affection, it thinks how do I maniuplate this guy to give me these things. If a guy is passive then I must be assertive, if a guy is assertive I must be passive, these are methods of manipulation and control, be assertive and she will have no choice but to allow you in, her organism demands it. And I mean actually be assertive, not act assertive, lol
"Fire in hole, I mean fire on the ho'...we have a live one!"
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Its really very simple...act like a man with a working penis and balls..."I like you...therefore I want to fuck you " that's a very basic way if saying it. Bottom line, too many dudes put themselves in the friend zone and are afraid to be sexual towards a woman....the guys that close the fucking deal NEVER take the the sex aspect off the table...
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Its really very simple...act like a man with a working penis and balls..."I like you...therefore I want to fuck you " that's a very basic way if saying it. Bottom line, too many dudes put themselves in the friend zone and are afraid to be sexual towards a woman....the guys that close the fucking deal NEVER take the the sex aspect off the table...
So, you're saying if I had arms like Groink...? ;D
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Its really very simple...act like a man with a working penis and balls..."I like you...therefore I want to fuck you " that's a very basic way if saying it. Bottom line, too many dudes put themselves in the friend zone and are afraid to be sexual towards a woman....the guys that close the fucking deal NEVER take the the sex aspect off the table...
how did u say what i said in ten words lol age counts for something!
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Its really very simple...act like a man with a working penis and balls..."I like you...therefore I want to fuck you " that's a very basic way if saying it. Bottom line, too many dudes put themselves in the friend zone and are afraid to be sexual towards a woman....the guys that close the fucking deal NEVER take the the sex aspect off the table...
Quite true---and I had to learn this...and once I did....
I had stalkers...and damage to my car, and females calling my work
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lol there's categories of "tall guy", "short guy," here's two categories of guys for women:
a) Guys who go on "dates" to things such as movies, or dinner, and they like to have normal or nice conversation with women. They like to talk about their jobs, and the woman nods, then they talk about their fave movie, woman says oh really? bla bla, in reality the woman is horny and wants to talk about sex, more so she wants the guy to look at her in a way that turns her on, he doesn't, he doesn't get it that she's not interested. At this point she understandss, this is a guy I fuck if I can use, so does he have money or friends or drugs or this or that. If he doesn't, she basically gets offended that he keeps talking to her about shit she isnt interested in and can't read her, why can't he relate to me, why doesn't he try to understand.
b) Guys who calm themselves down and let themselves get turned on and show that they are turned on, they talk about sex, they eye fuck the girl the whole time, this means when he looks at the girl or when he touches the girl, she likes it, this also means that along with letting his penis enter her orifices, she will allow his will to occupy the orifice of her mind.
guys in group a are owned by women guys in group b own women, simple as this, no tall this short that, good looking or ugly, it's how you act
let me put it another way
girl wants something from every guy, she wants to manipulate every guy. Her organism needs nutrition, it needs status, it needs affection, it thinks how do I maniuplate this guy to give me these things. If a guy is passive then I must be assertive, if a guy is assertive I must be passive, these are methods of manipulation and control, be assertive and she will have no choice but to allow you in, her organism demands it. And I mean actually be assertive, not act assertive, lol
Pro-quality post above.
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white, on left below
kill yourself.
seriously.
lol
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This whore I dated a few years ago, we went on a couple dates (this was back when I still went on dates; fuck that stuff, dates are worthless until you're actually in a committed relationship) and she was like "oh you're really sweet I really like hanging out with you but let's just be friends" and I was like "eh no thanks" and she flipped the fuck out, haha.
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HERE is a good example of a smaller guy knocking out a big guy though
TANK VS CHESTON (no crowbars here)
http://www.trutv.com/video/black-gold/knocked-the-out.html
this is why i never liked redneck bars always someone willing to go to jail and them white boy rednecks dont play they wanna fight you bad
btw this series looks interesting is it on youtube?
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this is why i never liked redneck bars always someone willing to go to jail and them white boy rednecks dont play they wanna fight you bad
btw this series looks interesting is it on youtube?
Google "Black Gold" Sir Johnay Falcone!
Will Daddy Waddy return to former glory and bodyfat-level or do you have different priorities these days?
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I see height is important for most BBs... ::)
And the last Time I was in Amsterdam I see many people under 6 foot...
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I fall into this category.
1) I dont go to clubs
2) I don't have a problem getting dates.
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Feels bad man sometimes. As a shorter guy you cannot get away with being out of shape, bad grooming or shit fashion sense.
But with women 90% its all about how you carry yourself and how confident you act when talking to them.
5'8 btw
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I'm not sure where you guys live where fat dopey turds are getting laid by dime pieces left and right because they're 6'3" or whatever. I have never encountered this phenomenon.
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WTF getbig is populated by dwarfs.... ???
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Question to you shorter guys ( <= 5"8 )
How do you deal with it in your daily life ? Especially in clubs, where often tall men will try to belittle you to pickup chicks ?
I am 5'7-5'8 and have never really worried about my lack of height except when taller fellas break my balls a little.....I must say that some of the most insecure people that I know are tall blokes.
I would probably like to be at least 6'0 or 6'1...but I really don't worry a ton about it....if some chick digs a dude because he is taller than me....so be it....there are some fantastic women that are somewhat short....just my .02!
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Now maybe she would fit very well with you, little Willy...
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Hey dutch.....top of the morning to you.....I can clearly see that you are as big an ass hole in the AM as you are in the PM.
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HERE is a good example of a smaller guy knocking out a big guy though
TANK VS CHESTON (no crowbars here)
http://www.trutv.com/video/black-gold/knocked-the-out.html
the more impressive thing out of that fight is how quickly the "little guy" recovered from the punch. it's like it didn't even phase him, and he immediately went into ass kicking mode.
also, i wouldn't call the smaller guy "small".
p.s. lots of testosterona, ghona, trenbolina in that bar.
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Now maybe she would fit very well with you, little Willy...
Is that kid allowed to drink?
Btw any get bigger ever fuck a midget ? Not petite female, but a real midget woman
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Hey dutch.....top of the morning to you.....I can clearly see that you are as big an ass hole in the AM as you are in the PM.
Thanks !
And the rest of the day to you!
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YES!!! :D :D
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Taller guys(6+) hardly belittle the short ones - it's usually the idiots who are barely an inch higher and then feel like lashing out... especially during puberty.
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when a 5'2" bloke intimates me I feel like crawling under the nearest shrub and getting into the fetal position and crying.
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I never really had problems with my height (5'6) in daily life. However for me being shorter has made me more fearful and intimidated. I am not an agressive person but sometimes I feel quite defenseless, especially when I see a bunch of 6'5 + guys walking around.
I don't carry knives or guns.
I believe that as a man you should be able to defend yourself against most people. If you are of an average height that is the case. A 5'11 person can fight a 6'7 person, but a 5'6 one cannot, unless he is some kind of world class martial artist or something I guess.
So the depressing thing about it is that you are essentially defenseless against a signitificant portion of the population. I have never had to confront this kind of situation, but I guess if I am faced with a 6'5 + person my only option is to run...
Then again I am considering arming myself...
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when a 5'2" bloke intimates me I feel like crawling under the nearest shrub and getting into the fetal position and crying.
lol you should- look at you.
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when a 5'2" bloke intimates me I feel like crawling under the nearest shrub and getting into the fetal position and crying.
You seem like the kind of guy who likes getting "intimated" by various blokes.
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lol you should- look at you.
wow - still mad that I offered to come to your gym and verify if your pic is really you ? let it go already.
How about I come by and buy you a can of O'doyle's Stout ?
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Nowadays fights are psychological, not physical anymore in our modern societies. People are going to become more perverse psychologically, but wont lift a finger anymore.
You can destroy someone with a sentence or a stare, no need for physical violence.
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I never really had problems with my height (5'6) in daily life. However for me being shorter has made me more fearful and intimidated. I am not an agressive person but sometimes I feel quite defenseless, especially when I see a bunch of 6'5 + guys walking around.
I don't carry knives or guns.
I believe that as a man you should be able to defend yourself against most people. If you are of an average height that is the case. A 5'11 person can fight a 6'7 person, but a 5'6 one cannot, unless he is some kind of world class martial artist or something I guess.
So the depressing thing about it is that you are essentially defenseless against a signitificant portion of the population. I have never had to confront this kind of situation, but I guess if I am faced with a 6'5 + person my only option is to run...
Then again I am considering arming myself...
do you live in a big city?
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the more impressive thing out of that fight is how quickly the "little guy" recovered from the punch. it's like it didn't even phase him, and he immediately went into ass kicking mode.
also, i wouldn't call the smaller guy "small".
p.s. lots of testosterona, ghona, trenbolina in that bar.
I did say smaller, nothing else.
The size-difference was apparent though.
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That is a woman....hubba bubba.
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Your friend is "gorgeous"....?
How often to you suck his cock you Fucking homo? ? :D
ROTFLMAO!
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Being 5'11" since my teens, I have never experienced what it was like to be short. My father was 6'5" so I was expecting to continue getting taller into my early twenties. That didn't happen which was something of a disappointment to me. However I was so damned skinny that it was probably a good thing I didn't get any taller after turning fifteen years old.
My step-dad was only 5'5" tall. Since my mom was 5'8" and up to 3" taller in high heels, my mom and my step dad made for an interesting looking couple walking down the street or when they were out dancing.
Height isn't everything. Statistically, taller guys get better jobs and are supposedly more successful in life. But I must say that my step-dad was twice the man my dad ever was. So being tall isn't everything apparently. I agree with the fellows here who said it is more about your attitude than your altitude.
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wow - still mad that I offered to come to your gym and verify if your pic is really you ? let it go already.
How about I come by and buy you a can of O'doyle's Stout ?
why so when I'm done drinking it you'll have somewhere to live?
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I never really had problems with my height (5'6) in daily life. However for me being shorter has made me more fearful and intimidated. I am not an agressive person but sometimes I feel quite defenseless, especially when I see a bunch of 6'5 + guys walking around.
I don't carry knives or guns.
I believe that as a man you should be able to defend yourself against most people. If you are of an average height that is the case. A 5'11 person can fight a 6'7 person, but a 5'6 one cannot, unless he is some kind of world class martial artist or something I guess.
So the depressing thing about it is that you are essentially defenseless against a signitificant portion of the population. I have never had to confront this kind of situation, but I guess if I am faced with a 6'5 + person my only option is to run...
Then again I am considering arming myself...
What you would need to do in a confrontational situation is go for a takedown and then ground and pound. I am 6' but if I was confronted with someone 6'5 or above thats what I would do.
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do you live in a big city?
Well a big city, but quite safe really. Police are doing their job, crime rates are low. I have never had a serious confrontation really, it's more of a psychological issue to me than a practical issue.
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Well a big city, but quite safe really. Police are doing their job, crime rates are low. I have never had a serious confrontation really, it's more of a psychological issue to me than a practical issue.
And they can smell it, it's called "Bitch Syndrome"
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I was 5'10" in 8th Grade. Towered over everyone and had a great build. Now I am 41 and still 5'10" and fat.
I never had problems in bars when I was younger. A buddy of mine who was 6'8" was always getting confronted by smaller guys. He said nobody messed with me because I am not a threat.
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Well a big city, but quite safe really. Police are doing their job, crime rates are low. I have never had a serious confrontation really, it's more of a psychological issue to me than a practical issue.
i meant that in if you live in a big cities, you see more people, and hence have more chances to be compared or compare yourself to people taller thann you and who might belittle you considering they dont know you and your potential others skills (socio profesionnal, friendness etc). In a small town people would know you and respect you more for who you are, not start shit because everybody would know each others, big cities are unhealthy.
Big cities drive us insane because we see too many people who are in competition with each others, judge each otehrs etc constantly. Takes its toll on our mind, life becomes a lot more stressful.
And yeah, insecurity is mostly psychological and learned when you were a kid because your own caregivers/family werent reassuring. This is how we LEARN insecurity in the firstplace. Everything else later is only added to that first scar that is the initial fragilizing factor. Nothing a good realtionship with someone cannot heal over time tho.
Have you been raised by a single mother by any chance? would explain the roots of you feeling insecure toward men in general as they might have been more masculinized by the presence of a father figure than you.
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Nowadays fights are psychological, not physical anymore in our modern societies. People are going to become more perverse psychologically, but wont lift a finger anymore.
You can destroy someone with a sentence or a stare, no need for physical violence.
True but it's boring.
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I have been the same height since 16 (5-3). It rarely encounter anyone who would talk down to me because of my stature. Growing up I got into alot of fights. Part of it was that some taller guys would try and be bullies verbally or physically. Ussually bigger guys dont expect shorter guys to stand up for themselves and be able to kick their ass. For the guy who feels defenseless that is a horrible way to feel. I had friends growing up who were 6-4 6-5 who didn't have a prayer of beating me up. When it comes down to it we should all try and get to know people for who they are without judging them for their physical appearence,status,or wealth.
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why so when I'm done drinking it you'll have somewhere to live?
why would you drink the cum out of a jerk off device ??
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Thanks for your input guys !
In addition to that, did you notice a positive difference when you got bigger at your height ?
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Thanks for your input guys !
In addition to that, did you notice a positive difference when you got bigger at your height ?
People stay out of my way. I guess thats positive.
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Not a good example, Tank was drunk.
That's what I was thinking. The bigger dude was way drunk. All loopy and clouded.
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im 5'8 around 200lb range.. nobody starts with me, all i get is (you got some big arms bro, what gym do you go to)
i think people underestimate bodybuilders 240 - 260 lbs (whatever) being that and short = huge amount of mass + some fighting abilty = devasting
in the ufc you may see 240 - 260 lb guys but are all over 6 foot
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Twister, please chime in with some real life examples.
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Have you been raised by a single mother by any chance? would explain the roots of you feeling insecure toward men in general as they might have been more masculinized by the presence of a father figure than you.
Wow are you a psychologist? You are correct my parents divorced soon after I was born and I was raised by my mother.
It feels kind of good to speak to somebody about these issues. It's just not normal, when I am outside and I see some bigger people the first thing I think about is, 'what if this guy attacks me', I know this is irrational thinking most of the time.
It doesn't matter if it is a bar or a bus or whatever, as soon as I see somebody big I get intimidated.
That's also part of the reason why I started bodybuilding. I am mostly working on the more prominent muscles like the shoulders and the arms to kind of try and discourage people from picking me as a target.
And I also think another reason for that is that I haven't really got any serious fighting experience. I think I would much more confident if I did. But thats who I am, I am just not an aggresive person and try to stay out of trouble as much as possible.
Anyway I agree with your point about living in a small city. Unfortunatelly many of us have no choice, financially I am not well off, but indeed I would like to move into a small city in the future.
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Wow are you a psychologist? You are correct my parents divorced soon after I was born and I was raised by my mother.
It feels kind of good to speak to somebody about these issues. It's just not normal, when I am outside and I see some bigger people the first thing I think about is, 'what if this guy attacks me', I know this is irrational thinking most of the time.
It doesn't matter if it is a bar or a bus or whatever, as soon as I see somebody big I get intimidated.
That's also part of the reason why I started bodybuilding. I am mostly working on the more prominent muscles like the shoulders and the arms to kind of try and discourage people from picking me as a target.
And I also think another reason for that is that I haven't really got any serious fighting experience. I think I would much more confident if I did. But thats who I am, I am just not an aggresive person and try to stay out of trouble as much as possible.
Anyway I agree with your point about living in a small city. Unfortunatelly many of us have no choice, financially I am not well off, but indeed I would like to move into a small city in the future.
When your father abandonned you and mother she was scared shitless cause her and your odds of survival were considerably lowered. This intense stress caused by this traumatic event she felt was impregnated in your own brain, as newborns and even before, emrbyons and fetuses are directly tuned physically and psychologically with their main caregivers emotional states.
Basically your brain/hard drive recorded very early deep feelings of fear of death, and this would then later shape the pillars of your personnality. It is of course not possible to revert the process, you cannot erase these recordings, and they keep generating fear, insecurity and anger all life long. You should browse my posting history as i have written a lot about these questions previously on here, you might find some interesting things about your condition.
You can alterate, improve your well being facing these past events questionning your original caregivers (parents, grandparents) if ...they re still alive. Most of the time they dont want to re-live their past knowing they harmed you and dont want to acknowledge their responsabilities. It's about going back in the past, understanding how you ve been conditionned, who did what, how, why, discovering lots of things your caregivers hid. Some people call the process a psychorhterapy, a psychanalysis... lots of words just to label a normal process of figuring who you are, why you feel and act the way you do and how it all started. Eventually you will be able after some time to modify the way you think and behave, but let's be honnest, once you ve been wired / raised/condittonned, there s little you can really do , we cannot change that much. Still, the little things that can be changed , improved, are important. You might be able to improve other people lives as a result and especially be able to raise kids better.
You should read about psychogenalogy, my posts, and visit arthur janov's blog...and eventually give a look at christianism too. Basically everything that has been designed to condition/re-condition ourselves by ourselves in order to become functionnal again in the big picture.
The sooner the separation happens -when kid is still in the wombs, or right after birth- the deeper the consequences , it's now a common knowledge between most scientifics. It gets worse when step fathers/mothers reject sons or daughters who arent theirs. Basically you are scared of males because your own father, and original father figure who was suposed to provide for you and mother's survival let both of you die -well, that's what would have happened in nature if we werent "humans"- let's say... decreased your odds of survival. Tough to go trhu life with a smile when basically your father sent you and mother the message that he didnt care about your survival. You think all males are perverse, only think about themselves, cannot be loyal, are dangerous animals you cannot trust, and would kill you without any second thought if it meant increasing their own odds of survival. Because that's what your father thought originally.
Very few step fathers manage to replace the original father. They often dont recongnize the child, cannot love him/her as it is not their genes. Most re-built families are a joke that worsen psychological developments of growing kids who will become even more egocentrical and potentially dangerous-yet very smart- adults.
I guess odds are high your own father has been abandonned by his own father? It's always the same story repeating itself in circle.
Abandonning a kid is a murder that never ends, that lasts all the kids' life.
In order not to reproduce your past, you have to be fully conscious of it. But even when you do, it doesnt mean you re going to be magically "cured" of your feelings of insecurity. But you still can raise kids better than the way your caregivers raised you. Takes years if not decades to understand how to solve the puzzle, finding all the pieces, most people abandon after a while because it's just too tough to go thru their parents, grandparents past mistakes, regrets, especially when they dont want them to be revealed.
There are millions -and growing- people like you, all the same people with the same traumas and past programations, conditionnings. Same causes, same consequences. It's is no wonder most of them end lifting weights , getting tattos, piercings , wearing tapouts shirts etc... Hurt, abandonned people, always ending adopting the same limited coping strategies... The problem is when the coping strategy actually dont help coping with the initial wounds over time. When the brain is hurt, you can lift as much weights as you want it wont help. Psychotherapy, reading about it, finding meaningful relationships that are not reproductions of the realtionship between your parents are the only real potent "medications". Absolutely every single individual with an extremistic, addictive behavior is abnormally coping with an original, deep trauma he doesnt understand yet keeps impacting his subconscious life every second of his existence. Those who will find a way out will try to balance things, feelings, stop being extremistic in their attitude, behaviors, thoughts, will learn what has not been learnt, unlearn what was wrong, replace it with better thought or behavorial patterns, in order to become more functionnal individuals in the big thing-specie- that spawned them. Takes a lot of time an energy to re-condition yourself because your original caregivers didnt do their job.
Most people dont understand why they re "fucked up deep inside", how, where, when it all started, why they cant act, behave, think, like others "normal people". Why they cant be happy. Answer is easy; they have not been conditionned, raised, programmed, to be happy, but to be unhappy. Answer; face, understand your programmations, your conditionnings, your "story". When you ve been badly raised, regreted, ignored, despised by those who spawned you, you learned to develop a low self esteem. Basically your own father didnt care about you surviving or not after generating you.
The only thing you have to understand is that if there's a smoke, there's a fire. That everything has an origin. That every present or future consequence has causes, and you have to nail the real causes that generate the consequences over and over. Takes time, lots of energy, lot of sorrows. We are only the physical and psychical sum of what spawned us.
You also have to face the mistakes of your parents and not reproduce them. You have to fight with the evil the person that abandonned you... gave you. Parts of your mind and body are from this person that wanted you to die/disapear. Tough shit to deal with. This is when personality might starts to split when you re forced to reject parts of someone inside yourself.
Always looking up for a mentor, a father figure that would take the place of the father who regreted giving you birth, wherever you go, the initial lack, emptiness, is never fulfilled. You cannot trust other males of your specie, because you couldnt even trust the one that spawned you. You ddint learn to trust him, as he wasnt even here. So you grew up in a completely anormal way. This feeling of emptiness most of the time, cannot be fulfilled. It's too late. It's unfair. Then you figure we re just animals ! Others had it, you didnt. You are jealous. Angry. Doesnt help socializing. As angry as you get, it doesnt help you either.
Most kids with no fathers cannot learn how to study and work either. Just too many pieces of the machine that are just not there. And you have nothing else to do but to deal with it and solve the puzzle the hard way, when others start with all the pieces alrdy set right in their place from the beginning.
READ. Anyone can lift weights, lose weight, and anyone can read. Just repeat the task until you like it. To learn, it's always the same process.
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uberman, did you ever read Robert Anton Wilson, particularly Prometheus Rising? If so, what do you think about his writings?