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being confident is important especially for a man
if you have feelings of insecurity how do you get rid of these feelings. if one is critical of oneself, how is that man ever able to become a confident human being if he is constantly feeling inadequate in his own mind?
how do you become a more confident man, to change yourself mentally without changing anything else?
how are losers able to appear confident? do they not think they are losers? do they try to "forget" what it is that makes them inferior?
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For example, take an imaginary man who is 30 years old,
balding,
short in stature,
poor at interpersonal communication (relatively),
poor posture,
does not make a lot of money,
career is dead-end and not well educated,
is not widely considered as attractive,
is not particularly physically fit or in shape,
but for some reason or another,
this guy is brimming with confidence
you ask the ladies he sleeps with what is so attractive about this man and she will tell you "he is confident"
you talk to him and he just appears to not give a fuck about most things
you give him a task and he will believe he can do it, which is actually impossible for him to do and you know it,
how in the fuck?
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red bull
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alcohol?
no but srsly, my mind is fulll of fuck
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Do what I do. When I do presentations to people twice my age, more years of experience than I have years on Earth and job titles that frequently include the words 'vice president' or 'chief' I take time to look them all in the eye. I look them over and see shortcomings. Bald, fat, lazy eyes, short. I remind myself that if I wanted to, I could kill everyone in the room with my bare hands and that they're only alive because I allow them to.
Crazy shit like that does help breaking people down into small, manageable parts. This goes for the hot girl to the CEO. They're just people.
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For example, take an imaginary man who is 30 years old,
balding,
short in stature,
poor at interpersonal communication (relatively),
poor posture,
does not make a lot of money,
career is dead-end and not well educated,
is not widely considered as attractive,
is not particularly physically fit or in shape,
but for some reason or another,
this guy is brimming with confidence
you ask the ladies he sleeps with what is so attractive about this man and she will tell you "he is confident"
you talk to him and he just appears to not give a fuck about most things
you give him a task and he will believe he can do it, which is actually impossible for him to do and you know it,
how in the fuck?
maybe he has a big cock. verify that and come back to tell us
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Do what I do. When I do presentations to people twice my age, more years of experience than I have years on Earth and job titles that frequently include the words 'vice president' or 'chief' I take time to look them all in the eye. I look them over and see shortcomings. Bald, fat, lazy eyes, short. I remind myself that if I wanted to, I could kill everyone in the room with my bare hands and that they're only alive because I allow them to.
Crazy shit like that does help breaking people down into small, manageable parts. This goes for the hot girl to the CEO. They're just people.
you have just been promoted to tier 1 poster in my mind
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maybe he has a big cock. verify that and come back to tell us
would you be willing to put your money on a guy who is 5'3 and isn't black, having a big cock?
i wouldn't
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Confidence comes from loving yourself and liking who you are, master that and you will have confidence. I am confident but it only came after I accepted who I am both the parts of me that I like and the parts of me that need improvement. Love and acceptance my friend.
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Do what I do. When I do presentations to people twice my age, more years of experience than I have years on Earth and job titles that frequently include the words 'vice president' or 'chief' I take time to look them all in the eye. I look them over and see shortcomings. Bald, fat, lazy eyes, short. I remind myself that if I wanted to, I could kill everyone in the room with my bare hands and that they're only alive because I allow them to.
Crazy shit like that does help breaking people down into small, manageable parts. This goes for the hot girl to the CEO. They're just people.
that is a great way to think. problem is, it is kind of a pseudo way of thinking.
rather than thinking about your own flaws, you think about flaws in others
i can see it working but i can see it not really holding water in particular situations
i don't feel that really establishes that rock-solid confidence. instead, it creates the ability for yourself to do the things you need to do without having stage fright or something similar
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the sperm u are beat out billions of other sperm to be born.
we are all as relevant as a snowflake, time will wash all of us into less than dust.
time spent on earth surrounded by billions of years of travel at speed of light is emptiness etc enjoy the day pal it will end for us all
u cant win if u dont try and if u dont try, regardless of the outcome, u fail...
and remember to log into getbig daily
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I remind myself that if I wanted to, I could kill everyone in the room with my bare hands and that they're only alive because I allow them to.
If there is a zombie apocalypse Im calling you first, that mutant tapout strength would be formidable
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take this possibly real-life scenario:
you are a young man in an upscale bar with very many attractive and beautiful people who seem to all be in fairly high status of society and make good money (both men and women)
you are alone that night but you are well dressed and well conversed man. you feel confident in your abilities but you realize that you are always a work in progress.
there is a beautiful woman sitting alone at a bar not too far away from you. you have been secretly observing this woman throughout the night being hit on by men who seem confident and are more well dressed and more attractive than you are. but they are being turned down. by every stretch of what can be determined by the naked eye, these men are most likely a better man than you are (rock solid looks and more attractive and taller than you are, confidence portrayed by attitude and posture and conversation, has money displayed by fancy watch, fancy armani suit, buying her expensive drinks etc which shows he may have more money than you etc)
what is it in you that gives you the "confidence" to go up to this woman, despite your shortcomings compared to these men, to believe that you have an even better chance in landing this chick than every man before you that evening?
instead of hoping on banking on some miracle that she has some fetish for a guy who has a mole 1.0234 inches from his left eye and has a thing for guys who has a right eye slightly larger than his left and a slightly crooked jaw which just so happens that you have
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Do what I do. When I do presentations to people twice my age, more years of experience than I have years on Earth and job titles that frequently include the words 'vice president' or 'chief' I take time to look them all in the eye. I look them over and see shortcomings. Bald, fat, lazy eyes, short. I remind myself that if I wanted to, I could kill everyone in the room with my bare hands and that they're only alive because I allow them to.
Crazy shit like that does help breaking people down into small, manageable parts. This goes for the hot girl to the CEO. They're just people.
this is not true confidence. this is pseudo ego left brain convincing urself of something that may or may not be true. how will ur ego shatter at the arrival of one u deem to be physically superior? what happens when one day ur ego changes and u no longer deem the ability to kill those around u important...or when time erodes ur looks and u too are balding and brittle?
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take this possibly real-life scenario:
you are a young man in an upscale bar with very many attractive and beautiful people who seem to all be in fairly high status of society and make good money (both men and women)
you are alone that night but you are well dressed and well conversed man. you feel confident in your abilities but you realize that you are always a work in progress.
there is a beautiful woman sitting alone at a bar not too far away from you. you have been secretly observing this woman throughout the night being hit on by men who seem confident and are more well dressed and more attractive than you are. but they are being turned down. by every stretch of what can be determined by the naked eye, these men are most likely a better man than you are (rock solid looks and more attractive and taller than you are, confidence portrayed by attitude and posture and conversation, has money displayed by fancy watch, fancy armani suit, buying her expensive drinks etc which shows he may have more money than you etc)
what is it in you that gives you the "confidence" to go up to this woman, despite your shortcomings compared to these men, to believe that you have an even better chance in landing this chick than every man before you that evening?
instead of hoping on banking on some miracle that she has some fetish for a guy who has a mole 1.0234 inches from his left eye and has a thing for guys who has a right eye slightly larger than his left and a slightly crooked jaw which just so happens that you have
u are making assumptions based on what u think she wants. most likely indoctrinated into ur mind by the media. dont be so materialistic. charm will always win over money. and if ur type of charm isnt working on her u will find another. dont self hate for not having all the right tools in your box at all times
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this is not true confidence. this is pseudo ego left brain convincing urself of something that may or may not be true. how will ur ego shatter at the arrival of one u deem to be physically superior? what happens when one day ur ego changes and u no longer deem the ability to kill those around u important...or when time erodes ur looks and u too are balding and brittle?
see, i am having trouble establishing what is true confidence?
all i can say for certain is that i am one cocky, stubborn, prideful asshole
every girl that i have ever been close with has considered my a cocky person, a lot of them have also called me an asshole (mostly playfully)
but previous to that i have been more on the reserved side which some people may have been seen as unconfident and lacking self confidence or passive or pushover
in my mind i would rather be the cocky confident asshole than some unconfident flappy wimp
is any man who is confident, not at least slightly cocky?
i am having trouble finding a balance
but i have been told a balance exists
in my mind and my experience, every man who i have seen to be confident is one cocky guy
everyone who wasn't was some depressed flaccid dick who seemed very lacking in self confidence
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i'm sorry, it's not a conscious choice
give up
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u are making assumptions based on what u think she wants. most likely indoctrinated into ur mind by the media. dont be so materialistic. charm will always win over money. and if ur type of charm isnt working on her u will find another. dont self hate for not having all the right tools in your box at all times
rofl
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this is not true confidence. this is pseudo ego left brain convincing urself of something that may or may not be true. how will ur ego shatter at the arrival of one u deem to be physically superior? what happens when one day ur ego changes and u no longer deem the ability to kill those around u important...or when time erodes ur looks and u too are balding and brittle?
No I agree with you. It does help as a short term fix.
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you just gotta hope and pray that you are her type man
if yes, then it's all good and everything will kick into place
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as long as you do no revolt others with ur cockness or wound the feelings of other by displaying your cockness i.e. trumping theirs purposely...then cockness is can be fine :D
as a rule, confidence is loving oneself even with all ones shortcomings...when others (those who you truly want in your life, those who understand as u do) sense your genuine self love and acceptance, consciously or un, they will gravitate toward you.
and not, im awesome cause i have threads and whips and money and temporary subjective good looks. all those thing while nice for moments, are merely trinkets in our journey patching what we need to learn on our way. they distract from the lessons we actually should be learning as naked humble water contained in semi permeable membrane floating around the universe for no reason at all
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In my opinion you can't fake confidence. Become someone who you are proud of and everything else will fall in place on it's own. No extra effort "to be confident" is needed.
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rofl
sure not around gold diggers and prostitutes on the clock... ;D but perhaps even on their day off ;)
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you just gotta hope and pray that you are her type man
if yes, then it's all good and everything will kick into place
how is hoping and praying any form of confidence?
i would assume that thinking like a "hoper" and a "prayer" does not convey confidence
in my mind, a confident man truly believes he can get whatever he wants
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Do things you hate doing and or are afraid of doing / or is insecure at doing.
Do those things often and it will toughen your mental prowess.
After a while you will be comfortable in doing those things.
When all else fails, a deep-tissue massage on Tbombz at the Icemachine (the mirage of course) will be your final solution.
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you just gotta hope and pray that you are her type man
if yes, then it's all good and everything will kick into place
incredible, this is getbig |??? or the broken fags heart retirement house?? WHO THE FUCK CARE WHAT THE girl THINKS??
It s plain straight forward :" Hey, i like u, i want your number, and your clothes"
and then ,if u like the girl , respond by giving or not the fucking phone number, or fucking her on the table
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lol, i m fucking sure i wrote C U NT , not girl,, the boards it s full of estrogen these days... i m sad
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In my opinion you can't fake confidence. Become someone who you are proud of and everything else will fall in place on it's own. No extra effort "to be confident" is needed.
i don't believe you can fake confidence either.
but i believe that people who are self-critical are flawed in that they can never feel confident in themselves.
people who are bodybuilders for example, who are so critical of their own bodies, do not generally have a lot of self confidence. a lot of these men do not shake the mental trauma that has been ingrained in them early in life and although they continue to progress and become physically fit and a physical prowess and specimen, they are never truly at ease or comfortable with themselves, always wanting to become better, and thus never achieving a state of relaxation or happiness, and ultimately always lacking in self confidence because they are never truly happy with themselves
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how is hoping and praying any form of confidence?
i would assume that thinking like a "hoper" and a "prayer" does not convey confidence
in my mind, a confident man truly believes he can get whatever he wants
hoping and praying is another way to say, be genuine and humble
if you gotta put on some act to get her, then good luck with that, coz if you want it it develop past a one-night stand then it sure will take alot of work and effort to keep up that mask
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hoping and praying is another way to say, be genuine and humble
if you gotta put on some act to get her, then good luck with that, coz if you want it it develop past a one-night stand then it sure will take alot of work and effort to keep up that mask
be genuine and humble= be a beta, thks GETBIG, noworries its probably turning in his grave
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take for example, a secretary who has been doing great work for her boss
she wrote up a spectacular report for her boss and put in tremendous effort
her boss praises her work in front of her, saying "you're a great writer! this is a very well detailed report. you did a great job jennifer"
jennifer replies:"oh that? thanks. but it's not really so great or as good as it could have been. i feel like there could have been improvements but i couldn't get it done on time on top of this other work since this has been a busy week with everything else going on. but i tried hard to make this a great report with the time i had and i am glad you are happy with it"
is this lacking in self confidence? or is it confident? is being humble considered confident?
should jennifer have said: "thank you! i am glad you are beginning to take notice of the effort i have been putting into my work"
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be genuine and humble= be a beta, thks GETBIG, noworries its probably turning in his grave
wait a minute! aren't you a scando dude? if yes, then that's in your nature man ;D
nearly all the scando dudes that come here to visit poland that i have met were what you would call betas lol
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be genuine and humble= be a beta, thks GETBIG, noworries its probably turning in his grave
i think that being genuine has nothing to do with confidence.
being humble doesn't really help with confidence either. it helps keep your mind in the proper state where you continuously have the desire to perform and outperform your previous, and it puts yourself in a state of mind to excel and not to be complacent.
but being humble i do not believe is part of the equation in being confident
i have met people who are percieved as confident and many of them are not humble. some of them are. but i do not believe it is part of the equation.
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poland, ok,, u we re the ones raped and pillaged by ruskies and nazis , and again by ruskies ,, and,, thank god , at least , u didnt bring jennifer up, like the other low level human
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Do things you hate doing and or are afraid of doing / or is insecure at doing.
Do those things often and it will toughen your mental prowess.
After a while you will be comfortable in doing those things.
When all else fails, a deep-tissue massage on Tbombz at the Icemachine (the mirage of course) will be your final solution.
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We're Getbiggers - all we have to do to be confident is picture everyone naked.
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being confident is important especially for a man
if you have feelings of insecurity how do you get rid of these feelings. if one is critical of oneself, how is that man ever able to become a confident human being if he is constantly feeling inadequate in his own mind?
how do you become a more confident man, to change yourself mentally without changing anything else?
how are losers able to appear confident? do they not think they are losers? do they try to "forget" what it is that makes them inferior?
ask Groink
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take for example, a secretary who has been doing great work for her boss
she wrote up a spectacular report for her boss and put in tremendous effort
her boss praises her work in front of her, saying "you're a great writer! this is a very well detailed report. you did a great job jennifer"
jennifer replies:"oh that? thanks. but it's not really so great or as good as it could have been. i feel like there could have been improvements but i couldn't get it done on time on top of this other work since this has been a busy week with everything else going on. but i tried hard to make this a great report with the time i had and i am glad you are happy with it"
is this lacking in self confidence? or is it confident? is being humble considered confident?
should jennifer have said: "thank you! i am glad you are beginning to take notice of the effort i have been putting into my work"
how the fuck can u do this?? how the fuck can a sane man -take for example, a secretary- why dont u just put yourself in front of a train?
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If you are serious buy this book and do everything it suggests:
"Maximum Achievment" by Brian Tracy.
are you implying that confidence stems from one's satisfaction in his achievements?
what about those losers who seem every bit as confident as a well-accomplished man? are these people simply delusional?
if one is not confident are they to trick themselves into believing that they are? should they disillusion themselves to benefit themselves in a world where "confidence" is an attractive feature both in love and in business?
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how the fuck can u do this?? how the fuck can a sane man -take for example, a secretary- why dont u just put yourself in front of a train?
it's just an example i thought of
which is to be taken in context of a woman
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it's just an example i thought of
which is to be taken in context of a woman
its ok cause the knuckles are draggin the head with this one :D although the train post was rather funny ;D
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real confidence comes from having a set of values, and knowing in your heart that you live your life by them.
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its ok cause the knuckles are draggin the head with this one :D although the train post was rather funny ;D
there are some real extremes on this board;
some guys with tremendous genetics and bodies with the hard work put in,
some are slouches with terrible genetics and also are lazy fat bastards
the same can be said for the intelligence spectrum on this board
some of these men are intelligent enough with enough brain power to solve complex problems despite great adversity
some of these men are as smart as a bag of bricks who are incapable of tapping into their brains or do not have the mental capacity to critically think of such topics at hand such as this which require analytical skills regarding society and a person's own psychology
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the problem i have with this issue is that the matter of "confidence" is very ethereal, difficult to quantify in words what makes one unconfident and what makes them confident
the boundaries are very thin, and skirt along the devils of cockiness and self-hatred
also, some people are not able to describe or define what confidence truly is in a person. and the meaning is different for a lot of people.
if you ask a woman why she thinks her man is confident, good luck getting an answer that actually makes sense
but if we were actually able to acknowledge what it truly is, and how we can all become extremely "confident" people,
it would be difficult to argue that we wouldn't be better off
the world loves confidence, something that they can stand behind. someone who is confident will always go further with other people. it is a very desirable trait to have
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real confidence comes from having a set of values, and knowing in your heart that you live your life by them.
this just means that you have a set of values that you live by
how does that reflect upon yourself and how does that help your confidence
in my mind, tboms, you are cocky, not confident. you are a disillusioned man. i commend you if you have a set of values that you live by, but you do not portray confidence to me, but rather stubbornness
(no offense)
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Confidence is no big deal, it comes from practising something often and becoming more skilled at it, the more someone paints, the more confident as a painter they become, the more someone trains as a martial artist, the more confident in martial arts they become and so on and so on. Now I think the original post was in relation to confidence with the opposite sex, and this is slightly different, but women just want a man who isn't INTIMIDATED by a woman and her sexuality, see Men are terrified of women but even more terrified to admit it, a woman holds a tremendous power over a man, she makes the decision who she sleeps with and who she doesn't, she can easily reject an admiring suitor and crush him into nothing, she can easily ridicule his love making, his genitals and his ego.
A woman can easily manipulate other men to punish the men who displease her. For all a man's strength and independence, his power is nothing compared to a woman's, and women know this, and that's why women want a man who isn't afraid of them, a man who will stand up to them and not act like a son does with his mother, he must stand firm against a women when the need arises and not allow himself to be dominated, to be pussy whipped or too compliant. Women want a man who isn't afraid to be himself. Essentially a man will have to overcome his fear and not be afraid in general, even though men depend a lot on women for certain needs, a woman still wants a man who will protect her from harm should the need arise.
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this just means that you have a set of values that you live by
how does that reflect upon yourself and how does that help your confidence
in my mind, tboms, you are cocky, not confident. you are a disillusioned man. i commend you if you have a set of values that you live by, but you do not portray confidence to me, but rather stubbornness
(no offense)
i think confidence, like most things, exists as a range of degrees. im certainly not maxed out in that sense. i have some insecurities.
knowing that you live by your personal set of values gives you a sense of confidence because you know you have the will power to be the human being you wish to be, and you know that your living your life the best way you know.
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Confidence is no big deal, it comes from practising something often and becoming more skilled at it, the more someone paints, the more confident as a painter they become, the more someone trains as a martial artist, the more confident in martial arts they become and so on and so on. Now I think the original post was in relation to confidence with the opposite sex, and this is slightly different, but women just want a man who isn't INTIMIDATED by a woman and her sexuality, see Men are terrified of women but even more terrified to admit it, a woman holds a tremendous power over a man, she makes the decision who she sleeps with and who she doesn't, she can easily reject an admiring suitor and crush him into nothing, she can easily ridicule his love making, his genitals and his ego.
A woman can easily manipulate other men to punish the men who displease her. For all a man's strength and independence, his power is nothing compared to a woman's, and women know this, and that's why women want a man who isn't afraid of them, a man who will stand up to them and not act like a son does with his mother, he must stand firm against a women when the need arises and not allow himself to be dominated, to be pussy whipped or too compliant. Women want a man who isn't afraid to be himself. Essentially a man will have to overcome his fear and not be afraid in general, even though men depend a lot on women for certain needs, a woman still wants a man who will protect her from harm should the need arise.
you see, i dont quite agree with the part about not being afraid of a woman. i feel like a man who dates down who settles with a woman will generally feel in control. and i believe that men who are in control of their relationships can still be an unconfident man at heart.
take an example, some tough guy who is in the military and has a spouse and children. he is not seen as a tough guy amongst his peers and his staff and his superiors but rather more of a submissive and passive person who does not take charge nor volunteer responsibility. so amongst his peers and his superiors they do not see him as a confident man or a person who holds himself with high esteem due to the lack of initiative. the way he talks amongst other men you can easily see that he feels inferior due to his tough guy image and he always wants to try and prove himself because at heart he feels inadequate.
this same guy can come home from the military to his poor family and he will have no problem controlling the household, beating his wife and his children to establish dominance and control. in some ways his poor family is his outlet for his other shortcomings in life, and thus at heart he is an unconfident man, despite his spouse believing that he can crack the whip at any time
i have also seen confident men who are at the complete mercy of their wives.
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you see, i dont quite agree with the part about not being afraid of a woman. i feel like a man who dates down who settles with a woman will generally feel in control. and i believe that men who are in control of their relationships can still be an unconfident man at heart.
take an example, some tough guy who is in the military and has a spouse and children. he is not seen as a tough guy amongst his peers and his staff and his superiors but rather more of a submissive and passive person who does not take charge nor volunteer responsibility. so amongst his peers and his superiors they do not see him as a confident man or a person who holds himself with high esteem due to the lack of initiative. the way he talks amongst other men you can easily see that he feels inferior due to his tough guy image and he always wants to try and prove himself because at heart he feels inadequate.
this same guy can come home from the military to his poor family and he will have no problem controlling the household, beating his wife and his children to establish dominance and control. in some ways his poor family is his outlet for his other shortcomings in life, and thus at heart he is an unconfident man, despite his spouse believing that he can crack the whip at any time
i have also seen confident men who are at the complete mercy of their wives.
You misunderstood what I meant by standing up to a woman, I didn't mean dominate and beat her, a man who does this is a weak man, an insecure man and he will attract a weak woman, an insecure woman, one that will allow a man to do that to her. Like attracts like. I was saying, if a man feels strong and confident within himself, he will attract a woman who is also strong and confident within herself, and in a relationship like this, a woman will regularly challenge a man, test his masculinity, she will test the man's confidence and how he reacts to these challenges, does he assert himself?, does he intelligently explain his point of view, demonstrate his knowledge, does he remain loyal to his convictions, is he prepared to suffer a loss to stand firm in what he believes. A confident man doesn't want a woman who will allow herself to be dominated, he needs a strong confident woman, one that will also stand up to him. It works both ways. The man you described was an insecure arsehole.
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You misunderstood what I meant by standing up to a woman, I didn't mean dominate and beat her, a man who does this is a weak man, an insecure man and he will attract a weak woman, an insecure woman, one that will allow a man to do that to her. Like attracts like. I was saying, if a man feels strong and confident within himself, he will attract a woman who is also strong and confident within herself, and in a relationship like this, a woman will regularly challenge a man, test his masculinity, she will test the man's confidence and how he reacts to these challenges, does he assert himself?, does he intelligently explain his point of view, demonstrate his knowledge, does he remain loyal to his convictions, is he prepared to suffer a loss to stand firm in what he believes. A confident man doesn't want a woman who will allow herself to be dominated, he needs a strong confident woman, one that will also stand up to him. It works both ways. The man you described was an insecure arsehole.
this clarifies things
thank you
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I'm sorry, I thought you were for real. You're just looking to philosophize about nada, as the days unfold and Time gets short. Can't help you.
my philosopher's hat is no longer being worn,
i will heed your advice to read this book
you seem like every bit of a smartass as i
so you must know what's going on
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my philosopher's hat is no longer being worn,
i will heed your advice to read this book
you seem like every bit of a smartass as i
so you must know what's going on
maybe will be better for u to wait till puberty and just after that u may start posting pseudophilospohical crap
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maybe will be better for u to wait till puberty and just after that u may start posting pseudophilospohical crap
you need to work on your insults
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I'm sorry, I thought you were for real. You're just looking to philosophize about nada, as the days unfold and Time gets short. Can't help you.
diamondcut=anabolichalo=PNS=bluto
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diamondcut=anabolichalo=PNS=bluto
How dare you
My posts are thought provoking and interesting as well as relevant
Whereas his threads are useless, repetitive, and boring
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How dare you
My posts are thought provoking and interesting as well as relevant
Whereas his threads are useless, repetitive, and boring
;D ;D ;D
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how do you become a more confident man, to change yourself mentally without changing anything else?
how are losers able to appear confident? do they not think they are losers? do they try to "forget" what it is that makes them inferior?
It's about getting a new perspective. One that you truly believe is right. Where you're unashamed to be feeling that way and no matter what anyone says, you know 100% that it's the right way to feel.
You can be bald, short, fat, only have one eye, have pimples everywhere and a tiny cute penis. That's just your outside - can't do much about nature. It works in funny ways. Aslong as your inside believes that the life you live is right, fuck what anyone thinks they know by judging your outside appearance. People don't know shit. The sooner you start not giving a FUCK what people think about you, the sooner you will realise a better life for yourself. "Let it be..."
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diamondcut=anabolichalo=PNS=bluto
i done got trolled :-[ well played ;D
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Do what I do. When I do presentations to people twice my age, more years of experience than I have years on Earth and job titles that frequently include the words 'vice president' or 'chief' I take time to look them all in the eye. I look them over and see shortcomings. Bald, fat, lazy eyes, short. I remind myself that if I wanted to, I could kill everyone in the room with my bare hands and that they're only alive because I allow them to.
Crazy shit like that does help breaking people down into small, manageable parts. This goes for the hot girl to the CEO. They're just people.
;D
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being confident is important especially for a man
if you have feelings of insecurity how do you get rid of these feelings. if one is critical of oneself, how is that man ever able to become a confident human being if he is constantly feeling inadequate in his own mind?
how do you become a more confident man, to change yourself mentally without changing anything else?
how are losers able to appear confident? do they not think they are losers? do they try to "forget" what it is that makes them inferior?
you gotta be a good looking guy like me! having money and muscles does not hurt either ;)
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being confident is important especially for a man
if you have feelings of insecurity how do you get rid of these feelings. if one is critical of oneself, how is that man ever able to become a confident human being if he is constantly feeling inadequate in his own mind?
how do you become a more confident man, to change yourself mentally without changing anything else?
how are losers able to appear confident? do they not think they are losers? do they try to "forget" what it is that makes them inferior?
daily multivitamin
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you have just been promoted to tier 1 poster in my mind
Why am I not surprised... ;)
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Why am I not surprised... ;)
drop some wisdom for us here brother
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should jennifer have said: "thank you! i am glad you are beginning to take notice of the effort i have been putting into my work"
Made me squint. 7/10.
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Synthol + Bodybuilding Radio Show + Stripper + Coming on a bodybuilding board and saying, "YOURE ALL JEALOUS HATERS"
This is how you develop true confidence.
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drop some wisdom for us here brother
How to improve self-confidence: accept yourself, the more you are at peace with yourself, the more self-confidence you'll have.
Self-confident people rely on themselves, insecure people rely on others.
If you're insecure now and you want to become self-confident: start doing your own thing (whatever that may be) and be happy about it.
Insecurity is easy to spot: the loud mouths are always the most insecure ones. Derek Anthony comes to mind with his constant attention seeking (relying on others). He can tell the world he's living the dream all day long (or better yet, WAS living the dream :D), it takes no Freud to immediately see he must feel terrible inside. He's completely at war with himself and hates everything about himself.
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i don't believe you can fake confidence either.
but i believe that people who are self-critical are flawed in that they can never feel confident in themselves.
people who are bodybuilders for example, who are so critical of their own bodies, do not generally have a lot of self confidence. a lot of these men do not shake the mental trauma that has been ingrained in them early in life and although they continue to progress and become physically fit and a physical prowess and specimen, they are never truly at ease or comfortable with themselves, always wanting to become better, and thus never achieving a state of relaxation or happiness, and ultimately always lacking in self confidence because they are never truly happy with themselves
what are you talking about? I do it all the time......deep down im the most humble inseure critical dude around and every chick I know thinks Im an arrogant douche bag. Just put on an act it aint hard to fake.....Kevin levrone was insecure as fuk....what grown man has a nose job and stuffs his pants :)
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Learn not to give fuk.
After all that's what confidence is; not caring about what others think !!
Because you do what you want. And you do it your own way.
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The trick is to actually be competent and knowledgable so you don't have to pretend to be.
I don't look at "sleeping with women" as a sign of success in a man, any idiot with a dick that works can pull that off.
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being confident is important especially for a man
if you have feelings of insecurity how do you get rid of these feelings. if one is critical of oneself, how is that man ever able to become a confident human being if he is constantly feeling inadequate in his own mind?
how do you become a more confident man, to change yourself mentally without changing anything else?
how are losers able to appear confident? do they not think they are losers? do they try to "forget" what it is that makes them inferior?
Simple! It is no differen then driving a car . The more you do it and the more experience you get the more confident and relaxed you are when doing it. The biggest mistake young guys make with woman is only going after a small number of girls in bars or asking for dates, etc. I'm not saying you need to bed 1000 babes, but asking a lot of girls out and being used to dating builds confidence.
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Meh people get this shit all wrong.
For one thing everyone is insecure and that's the way life should be, otherwise your likely quite delusional.
What one has to do is remove the uncertainty and doubt, by not being afraid of the negatives something pseudo confident people cannot do.
I'm quite confident I have intelligence, I'm confident I'm fat, I'm confident I have social impairments, I'm confident I'm gonna die, and I'm also confident that there is little people can do to effect when I die.
Confidences is about being self aware not self esteem. Being able to see how your flaws relate to others in the moment is the best way to be.
Too many people turn on blinders to shit that there bad at.
IF your aware your ugly when asking a chick out the scenario of being rejected isn't really taken personally, because you have confidence that your ugly.
Now if you were afraid to accept that unpleasant reality, every time you ask a chick out that uncertainty is there, and whether or not she says yes you still always have to deal with that. Because your afraid to deal with that uncertainty, your taking on a much larger parcel.
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As I got older I got way more confident.
A lot is practise. The more you do of something the better you get.
The more people you talk to the less of a big deal it is.
When I started work at 16 in a shop that made me improve in confidence and enabled me to chat to all people of different ages as literally I had to.
I think this helped me more than anything.
I also found that whilst people treat me different to a small degree when I wear glasses and when I do not, knowing what you are talking about and being assured helps also. If you do not appear confident others will not believe that you are.
With glasses people assume you are a big friendly giant. Without glasses people assume you are a big bully. Honestly I am totally relaxed and mild mannered pretty much all the time.
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jerking off with your buddy is surely not a sign of confidence :D
so masking those beta qualities with hormones backfires and makes you even hornier for him ;D
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The secret of having confidence is just loving anything and forget about having confidence.
Your ideal confidence is just built with your prejudice and stereo type. Thats why you can not be real you.
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jerking off with your buddy is surely not a sign of confidence :D
so masking those beta qualities with hormones backfires and makes you even hornier for him ;D
lol, ursus si bluto, incredibil cat de jos a ajuns situl asta
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The secret of having confidence is just loving anything and forget about having confidence.
Your ideal confidence is just built with your prejudice and stereo type. Thats why you can not be real you.
Engrish please
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lol, ursus si bluto, incredibil cat de jos a ajuns situl asta
ursus il stresez de ani de zile ca minte ca nu ia nimic si e si putin oligofren, insa bluto, nu stiu cine a fost, dar era funny
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hmm, cred ca-l confund pe bluto cu grasul ala demascat, imi scapa numele,, oricum da-l in plnoastra pe ursus
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As I got older I got way more confident.
A lot is practise. The more you do of something the better you get.
The more people you talk to the less of a big deal it is.
When I started work at 16 in a shop that made me improve in confidence and enabled me to chat to all people of different ages as literally I had to.
I think this helped me more than anything.
I also found that whilst people treat me different to a small degree when I wear glasses and when I do not, knowing what you are talking about and being assured helps also. If you do not appear confident others will not believe that you are.
With glasses people assume you are a big friendly giant. Without glasses people assume you are a big bully. Honestly I am totally relaxed and mild mannered pretty much all the time.
you seem half retarded not confident
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you seem half retarded not confident
he's confident in his retardeness
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he's confident in his retardeness
your mixing up points dude. I'm that retard not the one he's talking about.
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Wife has a gangbang with 26 men
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you seem half retarded not confident
You seem half bothered.
That is half more than you should fella.
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Do what I do. When I do presentations to people twice my age, more years of experience than I have years on Earth and job titles that frequently include the words 'vice president' or 'chief' I take time to look them all in the eye. I look them over and see shortcomings. Bald, fat, lazy eyes, short. I remind myself that if I wanted to, I could kill everyone in the room with my bare hands and that they're only alive because I allow them to.
Crazy shit like that does help breaking people down into small, manageable parts. This goes for the hot girl to the CEO. They're just people.
:D
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Do what I do. When I do presentations to people twice my age, more years of experience than I have years on Earth and job titles that frequently include the words 'vice president' or 'chief' I take time to look them all in the eye. I look them over and see shortcomings. Bald, fat, lazy eyes, short. I remind myself that if I wanted to, I could kill everyone in the room with my bare hands and that they're only alive because I allow them to.
Crazy shit like that does help breaking people down into small, manageable parts. This goes for the hot girl to the CEO. They're just people.
;D ;D ;D
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I imagine them discovering too late that there is no toilet paper and their daughter is going through a sexually experimental phase.
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probably best not to come here often
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Stop being a pussy, grow some balls /thread
You shouldn't care what others think to begin with. This is one of the spoils of the western 'civilization'. Everyone is obsessed about what others think. First it was women, now it's men too. Media to blame for sure. Including 'social media', so majority of society now is online. Interact with people every chance you get, not just online lol.
Lack of confidence comes from thinking of what others think about what you say/do/etc... That doesn't mean do stupid things or say stupid things and that's confidence. No... but don't think in every situation like it's an exam. Relax. You're not suppose to please everyone and don't expect the same back.
You could be smiling and a happy go getter guy, and you'll come across douchebags who will not say hello back, who will not smile back, who will be a dick. So what? Their loss not yours :) Likewise you don't have to go into everyone's face like that either.
I guess it's something you learn as life goes on.
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The secret of having confidence is just loving anything and forget about having confidence.
Your ideal confidence is just built with your prejudice and stereo type. Thats why you can not be real you.
I agree. It's confidence in who you are and all that it entails in your life, not necessarily what the general stereotype of confidence is by others.
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Stop being a pussy, grow some balls /thread
You shouldn't care what others think to begin with. This is one of the spoils of the western 'civilization'. Everyone is obsessed about what others think. First it was women, now it's men too. Media to blame for sure. Including 'social media', so majority of society now is online. Interact with people every chance you get, not just online lol.
Lack of confidence comes from thinking of what others think about what you say/do/etc... That doesn't mean do stupid things or say stupid things and that's confidence. No... but don't think in every situation like it's an exam. Relax. You're not suppose to please everyone and don't expect the same back.
You could be smiling and a happy go getter guy, and you'll come across douchebags who will not say hello back, who will not smile back, who will be a dick. So what? Their loss not yours :) Likewise you don't have to go into everyone's face like that either.
I guess it's something you learn as life goes on.
yes, and i'm sure there are no insecure people in Arabia ::)
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yes, and i'm sure there are no insecure people in Arabia ::)
Who invented the pop culture where women obsess about how they look and how fat they are?
How about the same for males as of recently?
Clearly Arabs who wear abayas (females) and thobes (males) -- in other words not busy worrying about exposing themselves.
Western pop culture is responsible for the obsessivness of looks, 'self-esteem', 'lack of confidence', etc...
You wana know about arab self-confidence? How about little children throwing rocks at tanks? Using sling shots against armed soldiers who beat them and shoot at theM?
In contrast to what? Jersey shore and spoiled biaatches crying over their make up or the kardashian sisters? Talking like brain dead fish about "OOMGG you took my purse, now I duuunnn waaantt iiiiii eeeew"
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Who invented the pop culture where women obsess about how they look and how fat they are?
How about the same for males as of recently?
Clearly Arabs who wear abayas (females) and thobes (males) -- in other words not busy worrying about exposing themselves.
Western pop culture is responsible for the obsessivness of looks, 'self-esteem', 'lack of confidence', etc...
You wana know about arab self-confidence? How about little children throwing rocks at tanks? Using sling shots against armed soldiers who beat them and shoot at theM?
In contrast to what? Jersey shore and spoiled biaatches crying over their make up or the kardashian sisters? Talking like brain dead fish about "OOMGG you took my purse, now I duuunnn waaantt iiiiii eeeew"
LOL....i don't care...muslims aren't even humans in my opinion. when they get slaughtered and bombed... i feel the same when they show the starving dogs on television. It sucks but who really cares
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do dozens of reps of calisthenics daily.
observe how stupid others are
:)
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LOL....i don't care...muslims aren't even humans in my opinion. when they get slaughtered and bombed... i feel the same when they show the starving dogs on television. It sucks but who really cares
It's true, muslims aren't human, when you see them you can clearly see they have an alternate motive and Floyd.
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It's true, muslims aren't human, when you see them you can clearly see they have an alternate motive and Floyd.
Absolutely...and Floyd
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Pretty simple ,the more success you experience doing something (bodybuilding , sports, work , talking to girls.....etc) the more confident you become.
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Meh people get this shit all wrong.
For one thing everyone is insecure and that's the way life should be, otherwise your likely quite delusional.
What one has to do is remove the uncertainty and doubt, by not being afraid of the negatives something pseudo confident people cannot do.
I'm quite confident I have intelligence, I'm confident I'm fat, I'm confident I have social impairments, I'm confident I'm gonna die, and I'm also confident that there is little people can do to effect when I die.
Confidences is about being self aware not self esteem. Being able to see how your flaws relate to others in the moment is the best way to be.
Too many people turn on blinders to shit that there bad at.
IF your aware your ugly when asking a chick out the scenario of being rejected isn't really taken personally, because you have confidence that your ugly.
Now if you were afraid to accept that unpleasant reality, every time you ask a chick out that uncertainty is there, and whether or not she says yes you still always have to deal with that. Because your afraid to deal with that uncertainty, your taking on a much larger parcel.
if one has no insecurities then that is clear and obvious proof that they are indeed a sociopath
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Don't give a shit!!!!
You want a quick way to become happy and confident? This is so contrary to our societal conditioning, but you need to give up your desire to want. The root of all suffering is desire. Desires will always exceed reality. Your problem isn't that you have no confidence, its that you have to many desires.
''I desire a hot girlfriend. I desire a nice car. I desire a big house. I desire a better paying job. I desire more free time, I desire less stress.''
People always say 'dream big and set goals'.. its all bullshit. Trying to fulfill your never ending desires will put such a burden on your ego, you will never find happiness which equals confidence.
You will find that if you reduce your desires it has a direct correlation to happiness. Stop desiring to change people. Stop desiring to have this or that. Instead, be at peace with what is now. except what is, enjoy your life as is. That getbiggers is confidence.
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send me your hard earned money....i will tell you all the secrets....
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oh hi mom!
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I would fuck that...not bad.
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send me your hard earned money....i will tell you all the secrets....
Scam of peace. :D