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I haven't been blessed with a child yet. I'm getting a little older at 34 and you can imagine a single man can lead a pretty selfish lifestyle. Often throughout the day when I'm out and about, I observe fathers with their children and wonder what it's like to have a little me running around or having a little girl.
What's it like, it's something I still can't fathom? A little me that I'm responsible for.
One day I will if the good Lord wills it. It just scares me to death to impregnate some broad you thought you knew and it doesn't work out then your on the hook for alimony and child support with limited parental rights. Funk dat.
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It is great. I have 2 girls... 1 and 4 (about to be 5 about to be 20 if you to talk to her). Very time consuming to have a family, but nothing better then when you hold your kids.
Go ahead and call me gay or whatever... no matter. It is true.
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you know i have 3 now its tough,,4month old to go with 8/4 girls,he's a boy,,,in church today with daughter 8 she's getting ready for communion this yr and i'm there for her and she's ::) in church,,,i reconnected with church last 10 yrs...try to go as much as i can..
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I haven't been blessed with a child yet. I'm getting a little older at 34 and you can imagine a single man can lead a pretty selfish lifestyle. Often throughout the day when I'm out and about, I observe fathers with their children and wonder what it's like to have a little me running around or having a little girl.
What's it like, it's something I still can't fathom? A little me that I'm responsible for.
One day I will if the good Lord wills it. It just scares me to death to impregnate some broad you thought you knew and it doesn't work out then your on the hook for alimony and child support with limited parental rights. Funk dat.
great thread... I have a son and its very rewarding. Cuts into my riding time or traveling like a gypsy but he is the best thing that ever happened to me. He is 10 now and we lift together makes life worth living
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I haven't been blessed with a child yet. I'm getting a little older at 34 and you can imagine a single man can lead a pretty selfish lifestyle. Often throughout the day when I'm out and about, I observe fathers with their children and wonder what it's like to have a little me running around or having a little girl.
What's it like, it's something I still can't fathom? A little me that I'm responsible for.
One day I will if the good Lord wills it. It just scares me to death to impregnate some broad you thought you knew and it doesn't work out then your on the hook for alimony and child support with limited parental rights. Funk dat.
you can always buy one on ebay.
Being a father is demanding but fully satisfying experience. 34 is a good age to become one. Good luck.
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Just became a pops to a baby girl on christmas morning at 6am. 9 pound girl. I cried like a baby when she came out. Not sure why I got so emotional but I sure did.
Guys I am not going to lie I am very tired. When does it get better?
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Just became a pops to a baby girl on christmas morning at 6am. 9 pound girl. I cried like a baby when she came out. Not sure why I got so emotional but I sure did.
Guys I am not going to lie I am very tired. When does it get better?
If I didn't already say so, congratulations! That's a good thing you got emotional, I'm sure many do, I know for damn sure I will.
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Just became a pops to a baby girl on christmas morning at 6am. 9 pound girl. I cried like a baby when she came out. Not sure why I got so emotional but I sure did.
Guys I am not going to lie I am very tired. When does it get better?
Hey congrats chief, was it earlier than expected? From what I remember the first 3 weeks are pretty intense, then routine sets in pretty quickly. First week or so is all adrenaline of peace. If your wife breastfeeds, sometimes add a little stress if not producing as expected but don't give up, it's the best thing for your baby but formula is fine too. Are your families around? Get all the help you can get. We went with a night nurse for a while but didn't really work out because of the breastfeeding, wife had to get up anyway.
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Just became a pops to a baby girl on christmas morning at 6am. 9 pound girl. I cried like a baby when she came out. Not sure why I got so emotional but I sure did.
Guys I am not going to lie I am very tired. When does it get better?
Better? I don't know, I'm about nine months in and it's tough. Pretty fun though, he stood up by himself today without holding on to anything, I was pretty stoked. He's been able to walk behind his cart since thanksgiving, so I'm thinking any day now he'll be walking. Go for it Wiggs, it's your only chance at immortality. You can also tell him your views, and he/she will spread that on. In a few generations, it's ingrained in the genes.
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Hey congrats chief, was it earlier than expected? From what I remember the first 3 weeks are pretty intense, then routine sets in pretty quickly. First week or so is all adrenaline of peace. If your wife breastfeeds, sometimes add a little stress if not producing as expected but don't give up, it's the best thing for your baby but formula is fine too. Are your families around? Get all the help you can get. We went with a night nurse for a while but didn't really work out because of the breastfeeding, wife had to get up anyway.
Congratulations to you also Alex. You're a new father do you mind sharing your experiences thus far?
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Just became a pops to a baby girl on christmas morning at 6am. 9 pound girl. I cried like a baby when she came out. Not sure why I got so emotional but I sure did.
Guys I am not going to lie I am very tired. When does it get better?
congrats, yes it is overwhelming experience, especially the first baby.
It does get better, when they start making their own money.
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Just became a pops to a baby girl on christmas morning at 6am. 9 pound girl. I cried like a baby when she came out. Not sure why I got so emotional but I sure did.
Guys I am not going to lie I am very tired. When does it get better?
Congrats man. It depends on the kid. My first daughter didn't sleep for like 2 years. Literally. You adjust. My second is a good sleeper. You'll be ok and you'll learn patience you didn't know you had.
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Hey congrats chief, was it earlier than expected? From what I remember the first 3 weeks are pretty intense, then routine sets in pretty quickly. First week or so is all adrenaline of peace. If your wife breastfeeds, sometimes add a little stress if not producing as expected but don't give up, it's the best thing for your baby but formula is fine too. Are your families around? Get all the help you can get. We went with a night nurse for a while but didn't really work out because of the breastfeeding, wife had to get up anyway.
Dude the breast feeding is extremely stressful. I completed underestimated this. I found a lactation consultant to come to the house and work with her one on one. This part is occupying my life right now. That formula stuff scares me
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It's pretty great. I was really iffy at first... once he hit about 8 months, I was hooked. The first 7 I kinda just stared at him in shock though.
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I haven't been blessed with a child yet. I'm getting a little older at 34 and you can imagine a single man can lead a pretty selfish lifestyle. Often throughout the day when I'm out and about, I observe fathers with their children and wonder what it's like to have a little me running around or having a little girl.
What's it like, it's something I still can't fathom? A little me that I'm responsible for.
One day I will if the good Lord wills it. It just scares me to death to impregnate some broad you thought you knew and it doesn't work out then your on the hook for alimony and child support with limited parental rights. Funk dat.
Don't do it.
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congrats, yes it is overwhelming experience, especially the first baby.
It does get better, when they start making their own money.
Lmao
I don't care about money or costs etc... I just want healthy and smart. The breast feeding I think contributes to that, and it is not happening
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Congratulations to you also Alex. You're a new father do you mind sharing your experiences thus far?
Thanks chief. it's been almost 8 months already so first thing is time flies sooo fast. Take pictures, lots and lots of pictures. We take professional pics every 6 weeks and on holidays. I fussed at first but looking back at all the framings we already have, I'm glad my wife is nuts and regimental about this.
First 6 weeks, do what you can to help; but don't get frustrated if you can't do much. Depends on mom's temper but some like mine want things done their own way, so can feel like "baby: you're doing it wrong" a lot of times.
When buying newborn stuff, stick to the same brand if you can, like Carter's. The definition of "newborn" size varies a lot depending on which region of Chinaman child labor it's coming from ;D
Last, bond with him/her as early as possible. Be part of the routine. Bath time, pop in, help out, read them stories as early as possible.
Oh yea one more thing, around 8 weeks mom may have the routine of bringing him/her to bed for night feedings. At this point, mom is pretty much burned out, so chances are baby will be spending the rest of the night in the bed. Maybe time for you to sleep on the couch for a couple of weeks at this point. ;D
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my oldest i thought i was a goner,she was cholic so bad wailed through her feedings for months non stop ,i had to walk holding her,use blow dryers for sound,car rides at night to calm her,u would sit down and she was what '2months old'and she would know u were sitting and cry soloud it was piercing,,we switched formulas and i said fuk it turned her on her belly to sleep,,today she'ssecond grader who reads on 6th grade level,great swimmer,,middle one was easier as baby now 4 pain in the ass drama queen,,the baby is kinda like 1st he's 4months old and screams for 2 hrs before bed but sleeps the night pretty much :-\...
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It's pretty great. I was really iffy at first... once he hit about 8 months, I was hooked. The first 7 I kinda just stared at him in shock though.
Hhahahha I look at her in shock too.it really is shocking. After I cried I starred at her in shock and haven't stopped
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Being a father is hard work but rewarding. When your child gives you love it's like nothing else
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Dude the breast feeding is extremely stressful. I completed underestimated this. I found a lactation consultant to come to the house and work with her one on one. This part is occupying my life right now. That formula stuff scares me
nothing to be scared of, my son was born 8 weeks premature, fed with formula from beginning, never breastfed.
He is now 4, happy and healthy, full of energy kid.
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Hire a surrogate mother, no custody battle, no every other weekend father bs.
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Dude the breast feeding is extremely stressful. I completed underestimated this. I found a lactation consultant to come to the house and work with her one on one. This part is occupying my life right now. That formula stuff scares me
That's awesome. The day my son was born the nurse who specializes in breast feeding stayed after her shift to help my wife kickstart hers. It helped tremendously. Hope this works out for you guys too. Don't give up, even if hard at first, it gets easier. Sure you know already but get a pump! ;D
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Hhahahha I look at her in shock too.it really is shocking. After I cried I starred at her in shock and haven't stopped
Yeah it lasted for me until he really started getting interactive, understanding things and wanting to play.
There is not a more soul shattering thing than hearing your child wail with sadness... he stood at the door to the bathroom today wailing his version of "dad" because I was in the shower and he couldn't get to me...
It was heartbreaking...
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I haven't been blessed with a child yet. I'm getting a little older at 34 and you can imagine a single man can lead a pretty selfish lifestyle. Often throughout the day when I'm out and about, I observe fathers with their children and wonder what it's like to have a little me running around or having a little girl.
What's it like, it's something I still can't fathom? A little me that I'm responsible for.
One day I will if the good Lord wills it. It just scares me to death to impregnate some broad you thought you knew and it doesn't work out then your on the hook for alimony and child support with limited parental rights. Funk dat.
Chicks don't dig you. Nothing to worry about.
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It feels absolutely amazing. So many people shit out a little of pups they don't care for and complain up and down about how shitty children are. It sickens me. Just keep them in line, love them, and don't stress. There's nothing more rewarding than having children but if you have a shitty outlook, it'll be nothing but endless stress.
I can only speak as a new father, but I am ecstatic. I love nothing more than to wake up and look at my beautiful daughter. She's young, and I know she'll be a lot more difficult once she can talk back, but I'm sure we'll find a way to make things work. I think a big thing is actually having a desire to have kids. I want a couple more at least. I have lots of nieces and nephews and love children.
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That's awesome. The day my son was born the nurse who specializes in breast feeding stayed after her shift to help my wife kickstart hers. It helped tremendously. Hope this works out for you guys too. Don't give up, even if hard at first, it gets easier. Sure you know already but get a pump! ;D
Thanks man!
The pump is definitely our friend right now. It's going on day 5 and baby isn't getting it. We are committed to this though.
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It's amazing Wiggs and even though mine is on her own now I still look back at all the wonderful memories. From coming home as a baby to watching her graduate college all went by in a flash. She is an accomplished violinist now working on her MA degree and we text and talk daily.
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my wife has implants and it killed her production,devestated her..3rd one got at least enough to start his immune system..
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I wasn't thrilled about the in laws staying at our place for two weeks but they have been helpful. A little intrusive but extremely helpful to say the least. I suggest you welcome this notion
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Bein a daddy is awesome....plain and simple. I'm a man blessed with a loving wife and daughter....my girls!! Nothin like it.
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A,lot of estrogen flowing in this thread.i feel like I should be posting a photo of Dorian doing a Romanian dead lift or something
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my wife has implants
Pics or it didn't happen .
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We bottle fed and had zero problems. Wife didnt want to deal with breast feeding and it was much simpler to bottle feed.
Some of the docs acted like we were telling them that we were getting ready to torture our baby to death and tried to guilt trip us into breast feeding. I basically had to tell a nurse to raise her own fucking baby and let us raise ours. Lulz.
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Pics or it didn't happen .
;D
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We bottle fed and had zero problems. Wife didnt want to deal with breast feeding and it was much simpler to bottle feed.
Some of the docs acted like we were telling them that we were getting ready to torture our baby to death and tried to guilt trip us into breast feeding. I basically had to tell a nurse to raise her own fucking baby and let us raise ours. Lulz.
My wife is a nurse practitioner. So that doesn't help matters. She has been a total wreck over this. This subject has dominated our entire lives over the past 5 days. It's crazy.
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Just became a pops to a baby girl on christmas morning at 6am. 9 pound girl. I cried like a baby when she came out. Not sure why I got so emotional but I sure did.
Guys I am not going to lie I am very tired. When does it get better?
Congrats! Just learn to nap, bro... you will... by force lol
Seriously, I feel more rested taking two hours naps a few times a day. Sleep at night, wake up to feed the baby (wife pumps, I try feeding at night because I feel like a guilty fucker lol) and then we go back to bed. Our baby is thankfully awesome and sleeps really well throughout the night. But hit up those naps for sure.
And don't worry about crying. Everyone's entitled to have a pussy moment when their child is born. 8)
my wife has implants and it killed her production,devestated her..3rd one got at least enough to start his immune system..
Sorry to hear about that, bro. My wife's got implants but it thankfully didn't mess with her production. We have great lactation consultants so she was able to get a lot of help. She had some problems at the start but it's good now.
I wasn't thrilled about the in laws staying at our place for two weeks but they have been helpful. A little intrusive but extremely helpful to say the least. I suggest you welcome this notion
We didn't have anyone stay with us but we visited family daily and they dropped off food for us. At home, that's your domain. It might feel like a good idea at first, but if you're on tren right now... you'll probably rip someone a new asshole when they overstep their bounds. I almost killed my grandma when she showed up unexpectedly and stayed with us for a few days. We had to politely kick her out because we couldn't find our groove with her hovering around. It sounds brutal (I love my grandma a ton) but you guys need to figure things out on your terms. The additional help is awesome, but it's still you and the wifey and the baby at the end of the day.
Invite family to bring some cooked meals over, help with errands and things like that. But generally speaking, at least from what I've experienced and seen with friends, home is your domain. People should ALWAYS ask before coming over, keep hand sanitizer and don't be afraid to ask them if they've washed their hands first (better safe than sorry) and don't be afraid to be selfish and guard your child. Sleeplessness can catch up with you and if can feel like you're completely drunk at times. I got hit hard at the 4 week mark and still feel like my head is spinning (especially because it's the holiday season).
This is only my advice though. There's no clear cut answer. If it feels like it's working for you guys, run with it. If it doesn't jive, don't force it and find something that feels better. All the best!!
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my oldest i thought i was a goner,she was cholic so bad wailed through her feedings for months non stop ,i had to walk holding her,use blow dryers for sound,car rides at night to calm her,u would sit down and she was what '2months old'and she would know u were sitting and cry soloud it was piercing,,we switched formulas and i said fuk it turned her on her belly to sleep,,today she'ssecond grader who reads on 6th grade level,great swimmer,,middle one was easier as baby now 4 pain in the ass drama queen,,the baby is kinda like 1st he's 4months old and screams for 2 hrs before bed but sleeps the night pretty much :-\...
Sounds like the first ten weeks of my little dudes life
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Just became a pops to a baby girl on christmas morning at 6am. 9 pound girl. I cried like a baby when she came out. Not sure why I got so emotional but I sure did.
Guys I am not going to lie I am very tired. When does it get better?
Congrats man.........nice Christmas present.
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My wife is a nurse practitioner. So that doesn't help matters. She has been a total wreck over this. This subject has dominated our entire lives over the past 5 days. It's crazy.
my wife is a nurse r.n was labor and delivery ,now she does high risk ..took extended leave pay 5 months going back to work jan 5 ,and now has severe back issue,can't walk more than a minute and hunches over,i cooked,cleaned the works all weekend and like i said all this with a 4 month old she's shot and going to doc this wk to get verdict.she's screwed 3 /4 day schedule 12 hr nites,,she is in so much pain ,leg.sciatic nerve cried all weekend.
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I have two.
Friends will come and go in your life. And, some marriages don't last forever.
However, love for your kids is like no other. You'll never stop loving them. It's a feeling you truly understand once you have kids.
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Thanks man!
The pump is definitely our friend right now. It's going on day 5 and baby isn't getting it. We are committed to this though.
Tip I'm sure she mentioned already, sometimes the bottle is easier for newborns, if your wife can pump even just 1oz at a time, often plenty. Get those milk storing bags!
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Being a father is the greatest privilege to have in my life. To come home and have your children run up to hug and kiss you after a long day at work makes it all worth while. You really do relive your childhood through them.I do not see any part of it as hard work what's ever. You do lose your free to rome world-wide of your single life and the ability to have fragile collectibles around the house (INSERT MAN CAVE HERE) you no longer can just grab your keys and hit the road for a quick trip or to a buddies house. These things will all come back once they are grown and off on there own. I tell you what, my wife and I have 4 and we love it. If we need to "get away" we hop a quick plane to Las Vegas or drive up to Whistler. Wiggs don't fear marriage respect it. Know what your getting into and know that both parties have to sacrifice to get along. After many years of marriage I can attest that my wife and I are still learning and working on it. If it's true love you will know it's worth the struggle.
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My wife is a nurse practitioner. So that doesn't help matters. She has been a total wreck over this. This subject has dominated our entire lives over the past 5 days. It's crazy.
oh I know... in the health industry its horrible.... if you dont do exactly what tjey preach, then your baby is going to spontaenously die a horrible, slow death and its all your fault as a horrible parent.
our logic was that it wasnt practical - she couldnt (and wouldnt) stop and pop her tit out everywhere and any time to feed, she didnt want to be attached to the babies hip for a whole year (our friends wife couldnt pump, and the baby wouldnt feed unless it was her tit, so they never could go anywhere or do anything), and both of our families have been bottle fed with zero issues whatsoever (in fact, we both got sick less as children that our respective breastfed relatives).
it worked out great for us. Everyone should have the right to choose what they want to do with regards to raising their children, and the doctors and nurses were really pissing me the fuck off, they were almost harrassing us, making notes to have other docs talk to us, telling us horror stories,all this bullshit.
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I have two.
Friends will come and go in your life. And, some marriages don't last forever.
However, love for your kids is like no other. You'll never stop loving them. It's a feeling you truly understand once you have kids.
i agree..
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Wiggs before thinking about having a baby , you need to think about getting a job , health insurance, a house and a good woman.
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Congrats man.........nice Christmas present.
Thanks man. 36 hours of labor was tough! Great gift as we didn't know the sex so it made it really cool
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Thanks man. 36 hours of labor was tough! Great gift as we didn't know the sex so it made it really cool
Awesome.........the surprise of course,not the 36 hours of labor. ;)
All the best to the 3 of you bud. ;)
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Wiggs before thinking about having a baby , you need to think about getting a job , health insurance, a house and a good woman.
Lol does he not have those things? Wiggs what's up? You kind of need these to raise a child
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Lol does he not have those things?
He doesn't .
BTW congrats on your new baby.
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oh I know... in the health industry its horrible.... if you dont do exactly what tjey preach, then your baby is going to spontaenously die a horrible, slow death and its all your fault as a horrible parent.
our logic was that it wasnt practical - she couldnt (and wouldnt) stop and pop her tit out everywhere and any time to feed, she didnt want to be attached to the babies hip for a whole year (our friends wife couldnt pump, and the baby wouldnt feed unless it was her tit, so they never could go anywhere or do anything), and both of our families have been bottle fed with zero issues whatsoever (in fact, we both got sick less as children that our respective breastfed relatives).
it worked out great for us. Everyone should have the right to choose what they want to do with regards to raising their children, and the doctors and nurses were really pissing me the fuck off, they were almost harrassing us, making notes to have other docs talk to us, telling us horror stories,all this bullshit.
Damn, it's a lot more relaxed in Canada. The maternity and public health nurses here are awesome. I took our baby in many times alone for bilirubin tests and weight measurements and all the nurses were great. I always bottle fed because baby got fussy being stripped naked for weight checks, and the nurses all praised me and said I was patient with the bottle feeding. No one scolded me at all for bottle feeding, but if they did I'd kindly ask them to fuck off.
I forget which brand it is, but I think it's Dr Browns or something. Those bottles are good. They have them at Babys R Us. Supposedly helps to avoid colic but who knows how much truth there is. All I know is that our baby takes it just as well as the boob, so it's a godsend when momma is bitch and ready to rip daddy's throat out. ;D
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Damn, it's a lot more relaxed in Canada. The maternity and public health nurses here are awesome. I took our baby in many times alone for bilirubin tests and weight measurements and all the nurses were great. I always bottle fed because baby got fussy being stripped naked for weight checks, and the nurses all praised me and said I was patient with the bottle feeding. No one scolded me at all for bottle feeding, but if they did I'd kindly ask them to fuck off.
I forget which brand it is, but I think it's Dr Browns or something. Those bottles are good. They have them at Babys R Us. Supposedly helps to avoid colic but who knows how much truth there is. All I know is that our baby takes it just as well as the boob, so it's a godsend when momma is bitch and ready to rip daddy's throat out. ;D
yeah we used the dr bowns bottles as well. Theyre great. Our kid is already grabbing glasses and drinking out of them at 13.months old... itd insane how smart this kid is.
and hes a true getbigger, 97th percentile heights, 95th percentile weight, 90th percentile head... kid is huge, good looking, and insanely intelligenr.
and I genuinely think most people way overexaggerate their kids attributes. .. but this kid is a demigod. If he didnt look so much like me facially id wonder who the fuck my wife cheated on me with. Lulz.
He even walks into the daycare, grabs a toy, and takes off away from the other kids, and then always winds up with 2 of the cutest older chicks playing with him in the corner.
alpha getbigger from birth.
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yeah we used the dr bowns bottles as well. Theyre great. Our kid is already grabbing glasses and drinking out of them at 13.months old... itd insane how smart this kid is.
and hes a true getbigger, 97th percentile heights, 95th percentile weight, 90th percentile head... kid is huge, good looking, and insanely intelligenr.
and I genuinely think most people way overexaggerate their kids attributes. .. but this kid is a demigod. If he didnt look so much like me facially id wonder who the fuck my wife cheated on me with. Lulz.
He even walks into the daycare, grabs a toy, and takes off away from the other kids, and then always winds up with 2 of the cutest older chicks playing with him in the corner.
alpha getbigger from birth.
Sounds like a stud. All the way baby stud. 8)
I know it sounds bad but I'm really glad my baby didn't look like an alien. I'm comfortable with the fact that some babies look homely, but ours looked so beautiful. Her head is nice and round too and she looks like the spitting image of me. She doesn't have my huge nose either, she's got my dad's nose and he's white with a great looking nose. Dodged a bullet there!! I'd probably ask someone to punch me in the face if she was born with my nose. That would be horrible.
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Sounds like a stud. All the way baby stud. 8)
I know it sounds bad but I'm really glad my baby didn't look like an alien. I'm comfortable with the fact that some babies look homely, but ours looked so beautiful. Her head is nice and round too and she looks like the spitting image of me. She doesn't have my huge nose either, she's got my dad's nose and he's white with a great looking nose. Dodged a bullet there!! I'd probably ask someone to punch me in the face if she was born with my nose. That would be horrible.
yeah I was prepared for alien baby as well. Glad to hear your child came out looking like a beautiful mofo as well.
team child stud dads ftw.
oh ans congrats Xfactor, almost.forgot what with all the dadisms flyinf around here.
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Just became a pops to a baby girl on christmas morning at 6am. 9 pound girl. I cried like a baby when she came out. Not sure why I got so emotional but I sure did.
Guys I am not going to lie I am very tired. When does it get better?
congrats bud I also have a Xmas daughter! I have 5 and was a single dad of my oldest daughter for her first years before meeting my wife and having more. The first 6 months are literally hell. No sleep, personal time and you feel like you are going crazy. Literally. Once they start sleeping through the night its gets easier.
Couple more years they potty and dress themselves then around 9 yrs old they start thinking on their own and get mouthy.
Come 13 they know everything, you ruin their life and are always unfair and don't understand.
15yrs old and you are now the enemy and your parenting skills need to be ongoing and real parenting work begins. Emotional and mental strategy will be paramount. Hahahahahaha
Long story short. It gets easier. Then harder again later so enjoy them when they are little.
Ps - if you dont tear up when your child is being brought into the world you are probably a serial killer and should seek help. If you wondered what it would be like to live with your heart outside your body... becoming a parent gives you an idea.
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Gotta add I'm impressed on how many good dads are posting on GB none the less. I agree with many on here. Love it and would never change it for anything.
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Gotta add I'm impressed on how many good dads are posting on GB none the less. I agree with many on here. Love it and would never change it for anything.
Very well said sir, I was thinking the same few moments ago.
I think there's a correlation between working out and being a good father. I'm not saying IFBB pro but guys who actually lift ;D. The dedication, respect of your body and overall physical activity.
Look at Coach, great dad, I bet his son learned a lot from him and looks up to him. LOL my 8 months old loves it with I pop a biceps pos for him ;D
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I love being a dad. Until my daughter was born (she is 10 now), I never changed a diaper ever. We traveled a ton, went out a lot, and drank a lot more...
Now, with two kids (also a son who is 7), things changed, but I enjoy it immensely. This weekend was nothing but family. Skylanders, Infinity (we collect both of them, and have over 130 figures), and Rainbow Loom (yes, kids like it), and your perspective on things change.
It is not easy at all. You have to be much more responsible, and expenses are higher, but in the balance of life, it is great.
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I love being a dad. Until my daughter was born (she is 10 now), I never changed a diaper ever. We traveled a ton, went out a lot, and drank a lot more...
Now, with two kids (also a son who is 7), things changed, but I enjoy it immensely. This weekend was nothing but family. Skylanders, Infinity (we collect both of them, and have over 130 figures), and Rainbow Loom (yes, kids like it), and your perspective on things change.
It is not easy at all. You have to be much more responsible, and expenses are higher, but in the balance of life, it is great.
Wow your son is 7 already.. I remember talking to you about parenting when he was just an infant.. time just flies.
When does he start posting on getbig? ;D
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Wow your son is 7 already.. I remember talking to you about parenting when he was just an infant.. time just flies. When does he start posting on getbig? ;D
Ha - yes. He is into karate, and loves weapons (swords, lightsabers, and other cool unique ones, not guns), as well as video games, of course. Not into any of this, as everything in life has balance.
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Anyone who brings a child into this fucked up world is out of their mind.
Make sure you get them a SS# as soon as possible... the government loves all the new tax slaves and indentured servants.
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Very well said sir, I was thinking the same few moments ago.
I think there's a correlation between working out and being a good father. I'm not saying IFBB pro but guys who actually lift ;D. The dedication, respect of your body and overall physical activity.
Look at Coach, great dad, I bet his son learned a lot from him and looks up to him. LOL my 8 months old loves it with I pop a biceps pos for him ;D
So I pose the question. Are you guys still training hard? I hope I can maintain the balance that I have, although running in the morning and training at night probably aren't going to happen anymore. As for dieting, forget it
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You and your wife should check out some of John Sarno, M.D.'s books. "Healing Back
Pain : The Mind-Body Connection," is a good start.
HEARD OF HIM AND THE BOOK..SHE IS HURTING.
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I love being a dad. Until my daughter was born (she is 10 now), I never changed a diaper ever. We traveled a ton, went out a lot, and drank a lot more...
Now, with two kids (also a son who is 7), things changed, but I enjoy it immensely. This weekend was nothing but family. Skylanders, Infinity (we collect both of them, and have over 130 figures), and Rainbow Loom (yes, kids like it), and your perspective on things change.
It is not easy at all. You have to be much more responsible, and expenses are higher, but in the balance of life, it is great.
LOL at Ron - yes, Rainbow Loom has taken over my house too! Got, those little elastics are everywhere!
To XFACTOR:
We had the same lactation issue with my daughter that you are having. Stay the course. My daughter had very bad cholic (which means no sleep for about 1 year). My wife was having a hard time with lactation, which basically stressed her out even more. And then the baby wouldn't latch.
Here's how we got around it (not pretty, but it worked):
1. pump the breast. Lots. Get milk whenever you can out of it and save it.
2. take a large 10 ml syringe, hook up a tiny little tube to it, and fill teh syringe with breast milk
3. when baby tries to latch (and fails), as she's at the teat, just slip the little tiny tube into the corner of her mouth and start depressing the syringe so that tiny amounts of milk come out.
Result: the baby learns that boobs give milk, and her latching ability will grow as she gets older and stronger. This stimulates the breast to make and release more milk naturally, and then mother nature stats to kick in and naturally take over.
Anyways, whatever tips you follow, stay the course, stay committed, but don't be afraid to change if it ain't working. Your the boss now...whatever you say goes. That's a bit scary, because you're now the proud caretaker of a real human life. But there's some freedom when you acknowledge that your smart enough and capable enough and committed enough to get through this, and everything else that's sure to come. And let me tell you, as hard as this is, it will get harder. And then easier. Then harder again. Then easier again. There will always be some new calamity, and guess what...tomorrow the sun will come up.
PS: I highly suggest the GERD pillow for anyone who has a baby with cholic. Saved us from dying of sleeplessness. Trust me.
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I haven't been blessed with a child yet. I'm getting a little older at 34 and you can imagine a single man can lead a pretty selfish lifestyle. Often throughout the day when I'm out and about, I observe fathers with their children and wonder what it's like to have a little me running around or having a little girl.
What's it like, it's something I still can't fathom? A little me that I'm responsible for.
One day I will if the good Lord wills it. It just scares me to death to impregnate some broad you thought you knew and it doesn't work out then your on the hook for alimony and child support with limited parental rights. Funk dat.
ask anabolichalo.
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It's exactly like being a female, apparently.
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it puts everything else in perspective
there is nothing better
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LOL at Ron - yes, Rainbow Loom has taken over my house too! Got, those little elastics are everywhere!
To XFACTOR:
We had the same lactation issue with my daughter that you are having. Stay the course. My daughter had very bad cholic (which means no sleep for about 1 year). My wife was having a hard time with lactation, which basically stressed her out even more. And then the baby wouldn't latch.
Here's how we got around it (not pretty, but it worked):
1. pump the breast. Lots. Get milk whenever you can out of it and save it.
2. take a large 10 ml syringe, hook up a tiny little tube to it, and fill teh syringe with breast milk
3. when baby tries to latch (and fails), as she's at the teat, just slip the little tiny tube into the corner of her mouth and start depressing the syringe so that tiny amounts of milk come out.
Result: the baby learns that boobs give milk, and her latching ability will grow as she gets older and stronger. This stimulates the breast to make and release more milk naturally, and then mother nature stats to kick in and naturally take over.
Anyways, whatever tips you follow, stay the course, stay committed, but don't be afraid to change if it ain't working. Your the boss now...whatever you say goes. That's a bit scary, because you're now the proud caretaker of a real human life. But there's some freedom when you acknowledge that your smart enough and capable enough and committed enough to get through this, and everything else that's sure to come. And let me tell you, as hard as this is, it will get harder. And then easier. Then harder again. Then easier again. There will always be some new calamity, and guess what...tomorrow the sun will come up.
PS: I highly suggest the GERD pillow for anyone who has a baby with cholic. Saved us from dying of sleeplessness. Trust me.
Just got that tiny little tube thing yesterday, we are starting this technique today.
I have to check out the GERD pillow. I have it severely and my daughter does too I am sure of it
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Just became a pops to a baby girl on christmas morning at 6am. 9 pound girl. I cried like a baby when she came out. Not sure why I got so emotional but I sure did.
Guys I am not going to lie I am very tired. When does it get better?
congrats...i remember the moment 5 years ago when mu daughter was born...it was so much emotions so i cant even explained..was to shocked to cry but my eyes where watery (dont know the real word). To see the litgle want you have been waiting for in 9 months is mindblowing. The happiest day of my life.
It is a full time job to have a kid, me and her mother separated when she was 2.5 so we have her 50/50 . Always one week each. But to see they grow and smile and have fun makes it all worth it..if i have a bad day and my daughter gives me a big hug all the problems goes away in that moment.
Dad mode off/ getbig troll mode on
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I haven't been blessed with a child yet. I'm getting a little older at 34 and you can imagine a single man can lead a pretty selfish lifestyle. Often throughout the day when I'm out and about, I observe fathers with their children and wonder what it's like to have a little me running around or having a little girl.
What's it like, it's something I still can't fathom? A little me that I'm responsible for.
One day I will if the good Lord wills it. It just scares me to death to impregnate some broad you thought you knew and it doesn't work out then your on the hook for alimony and child support with limited parental rights. Funk dat.
I suggest you start off with a dog or a cat.
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I've got a colicky baby girl. She's unhappy, my wife's unhappy, makes my house unhappy. Lots of stress...has one dog losing hair in clumps and the other paces the floor all the time. I havent once felt the "connection" that's supposed to make it all worth while. Fatherhood is not what I expected. :-\
Even worse is when extended family laughs at our distress...like we deserve this..or proceeds to tell us "what to do to fix it". Like we're f**ing morons who havent tried "bouncing the baby at 4am".
Makes me want to punch em in the face. Keeping faith things will get better.
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I haven't been blessed with a child yet. I'm getting a little older at 34 and you can imagine a single man can lead a pretty selfish lifestyle. Often throughout the day when I'm out and about, I observe fathers with their children and wonder what it's like to have a little me running around or having a little girl.
What's it like, it's something I still can't fathom? A little me that I'm responsible for.
One day I will if the good Lord wills it. It just scares me to death to impregnate some broad you thought you knew and it doesn't work out then your on the hook for alimony and child support with limited parental rights. Funk dat.
I'm not a father, but I know it can go either way. As you can read from our resident, getbig fathers, it can be very rewarding and the best thing that ever happened to anyone, or it can go completely the other way:
When they are babies: Forget about sex, sleep, get used to cleaning pee, poop and puke.
When they are trundlers: Get used to watching them and chasing them all the time to keep them from electrocuting themselves, poisoning themselves, climbing furniture and falling down. Get used to your nice things getting broken by your kids. Oh, and get used to watching the Barnie DVD 10 times a day, everyday.
Hopefully your wife won't divorce you at this point, take your kids, your home, half of your stuff, hit you up for child support, lie to your kids so that they'll hate you, lie to the police about you abusing your kids to get you arrested, move far away from you with your kids so you won't ever see them again.
When they are teenagers: They will hate you and will not want to be seen with or anywhere near you, unless they need money. Hopefully your girl won't get pregnant and your boy won't get anyone pregnant. If so, get used to raising your grand kids.
When they marry: Hopefully then won't marry a loser, drug attic man/woman who is incapable of raising your grand kids. If so, get used to raising your grand kids.
When you are too old to take care of yourself, hopefully your kid, influenced by his/her loser spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend, won't abuse you and try to cheat you or rob you of whatever money/assets you may have at the time. At best, hopefully your kid, influenced by his/her loser spouse, won't stick you in a nursing home and forget about you.
It will cost you an average of $200,000 give or take, per kid, from the time the kid is born to the time he/she goes to college. This does not include college expenses. That's a whole different story.
Other than these, it's great and very rewarding to be a parent. Otherwise, get a vasectomy now.
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GREATEST THING IN THE WORLD!!!
When youre ready for them....mentally, financially, and spiritually
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I've got a colicky baby girl. She's unhappy, my wife's unhappy, makes my house unhappy. Lots of stress...has one dog losing hair in clumps and the other paces the floor all the time. I havent once felt the "connection" that's supposed to make it all worth while. Fatherhood is not what I expected. :-\
Even worse is when extended family laughs at our distress...like we deserve this..or proceeds to tell us "what to do to fix it". Like we're f**ing morons who havent tried "bouncing the baby at 4am".
Makes me want to punch em in the face. Keeping faith things will get better.
Hmmm. You'll wanna get some of that Ayer's Cherry Pectoral.
Srsly, you're living my fear. Respect.
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Just got that tiny little tube thing yesterday, we are starting this technique today.
I have to check out the GERD pillow. I have it severely and my daughter does too I am sure of it
If you do go the GERD pillow route, I highly recommend you find one that uses snaps on the strap that holds baby in, instead of velcro.
Here's why:
When you put baby on the pillow and strap them in, they will eventually fall asleep. No reflux means the kid isn't being tortured and woken up by acid reflux. Cholic goes away, and baby is allowed to fall asleep.
Problem is, if you have to move the kid out of the pillow for whatever reason (say, into a car seat), and you don't want to wake them up, by Jesus' name above, ripping open the velcro to loose them sure as hell will. You will both curse and praise that goddamned pillow.
With snaps though, you can move with no woken baby.
Trust me on this; work hard to find one. If you can't find one, make one. It is worth the effort to do this.
Best of luck my friend!
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My wife is a nurse practitioner. So that doesn't help matters. She has been a total wreck over this. This subject has dominated our entire lives over the past 5 days. It's crazy.
If she wants to breast feed, tell her to stick with it and use the pump. It took about four days for my wife's to come in, and we had to supplement with formula because it was barely anything coming out. She just stopped a few weeks ago, made it eight months, but work just got too hectic for her to continue.
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My two cents, and there is no right or wrong answer, but I'll give you my experience.
With my daughter, we gave into the whole breastfeeding pressures that many new parents do, and it wasn't working well. Tried the whole tube on the finger thing, etc...but my daughter was starving. After a month, finally, in a moment of clarity while using that tube, I ripped it off my finger and told my wife to get the bottle, and I didn't give a shit. Daughter guzzled 4-5 oz and we never looked back. She started gaining weight like a beast and was all good after that.
My son had cholic, and I can sympathize with anyone for those first three months (slept in a car seat instead of a bed every night for 2 months). We tried a bunch of things, then finally, while listening to a hippie NP talk about options while covered in puke holding my son - I said give me them all - new special formula, zantac etc.....he became a different kid.
I understand both sides of the equation when in terms of BF vs bottle, etc....but eventually, you have to do what works for you, your baby, and your sanity.
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Check it out and beware of the spinal surgeons. The efficacy of spinal fusions and those types of procedures is very much in question.
Hope she feels better. Let me know if u need anything.
cholo thanks which is rare for me in regards to my wife ,i'm the physical one 'appearance'wise lol,,my wife is ivy league graduate she takes me for face value,i told her about the book and name she googles it around taking care of 2 sick kids and 3rd home on winter break and bought it,,so thanks again amigo...
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Being a father is awesome.
Best thing ever happen to me.
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My two cents, and there is no right or wrong answer, but I'll give you my experience.
With my daughter, we gave into the whole breastfeeding pressures that many new parents do, and it wasn't working well. Tried the whole tube on the finger thing, etc...but my daughter was starving. After a month, finally, in a moment of clarity while using that tube, I ripped it off my finger and told my wife to get the bottle, and I didn't give a shit. Daughter guzzled 4-5 oz and we never looked back. She started gaining weight like a beast and was all good after that.
My son had cholic, and I can sympathize with anyone for those first three months (slept in a car seat instead of a bed every night for 2 months). We tried a bunch of things, then finally, while listening to a hippie NP talk about options while covered in puke holding my son - I said give me them all - new special formula, zantac etc.....he became a different kid.
I understand both sides of the equation when in terms of BF vs bottle, etc....but eventually, you have to do what works for you, your baby, and your sanity.
my boy would only sleep crooked in my arm
i survived on about 2-3 hours sleep for about 7 months
fuck knows how i got through it but you do
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The first 6 months are brutal and I honestly don't think you can ever be ready for it..
No matter what people tell you, there's no way to prepare for the sacrifice,unconditional love,sleep deprivation,relationship stress,or the rewarding feeling when your child is sleeping in your arms that makes it all worth it.
You only know when you've been there.
Peace
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Just became a pops to a baby girl on christmas morning at 6am. 9 pound girl. I cried like a baby when she came out. Not sure why I got so emotional but I sure did.
Guys I am not going to lie I am very tired. When does it get better?
Awww....congrats!!! :)
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Guys I am not going to lie I am very tired. When does it get better?
when they go to school....
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I'm with Wiggs...I'm the same age and am yet to have a child.
I'm curious as well.....but "ready" so to speak.
I can hardly wait to experience motherhood!
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Wow, everyone on here I know is a dad. My boy is 15 months now. Some trying times and phases but overall incredibly rewarding.
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I love being a dad. Until my daughter was born (she is 10 now), I never changed a diaper ever. We traveled a ton, went out a lot, and drank a lot more...
Now, with two kids (also a son who is 7), things changed, but I enjoy it immensely. This weekend was nothing but family. Skylanders, Infinity (we collect both of them, and have over 130 figures), and Rainbow Loom (yes, kids like it), and your perspective on things change.
It is not easy at all. You have to be much more responsible, and expenses are higher, but in the balance of life, it is great.
130 figures. Impressie, my 5 year old daughter found in a store that disney infinity so i had to buy it and she loves it. But the downside is that i cant stop bying one figure or two everytime im in a store that sells them lol
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When a decent man becomes a father he learns to love something more than himself for the first time in his life. No matter what you read or what you're told you will never really know until that moment comes for you. Life changing brother.
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In the last little while my daughter's started smiling a lot more. It melts my cold fucking heart every time. ;D
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I got 4.
It's tough but these shits don't get how meaningful it feels.
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ask anabolichalo.
... no, wait. nevermind.
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I have to be honest... a lot of guys say it's fulfulling and such, Not really.
Sure you love your kids but that's a given. If you like your life now and love youself, it's not the best idea to get kids because society demands it.
You have to be 100 % ready to sacrifice a LOT of things you like to do as a single man in order to a. maintain a relationship and b. raise kids.
Wouldn't recommend it.
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I only ever wanted to be the man who loves children. But from the moment they’re born, that baby comes out and you act proud and excited, hand out cigars. But you don’t feel anything. Especially if you had a difficult childhood. You want to love them but you don’t. And the fact that you’re faking that feeling makes you wonder if your own father had the same problem. Then one day they get older, and you see them do something and you feel that feeling that you were pretending to have. And it feels like your heart is going to explode.
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Wow sad shit... someone needs therapy. Not normal.
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Wow sad shit... someone needs therapy. Not normal.
For some love is different....I too don't having the warm and fuzzy love....more of a duty to serve and protect kind, hard to explain
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For some love is different....I too don't having the warm and fuzzy love....more of a duty to serve and protect kind, hard to explain
I can sympathize. Its impossible to feel any kind of emotion at its fullest intensity all the time. For a good portion of he time I feel the duty you refer to but I also feel tremendous amounts of love when they hug and kiss daddy or when they succeed at something they been trying to figure out. Seeing a child's face light up is wonderful feeling.
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For some love is different....I too don't having the warm and fuzzy love....more of a duty to serve and protect kind, hard to explain
me too. I never got that instant warm fuzzy feeling.... I kiterally felt nothing for the 1st six to 8 months... now im feeling things but its hard to describe them.
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me too. I never got that instant warm fuzzy feeling.... I kiterally felt nothing for the 1st six to 8 months... now im feeling things but its hard to describe them.
Future serial killer outing.
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It's a full time job avoiding those bitches.
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I love my daughter. She is my life.
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ask anabolichalo.
I was thinking the same :D
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Future serial killer outing.
nah, I think I was more in shock than anything.
hearing him wail his broken version of 'DAAAAAAAADDDDD' when hes scared or cant find me but can hear me is heartwrenching.
its tough to describe.
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I have to be honest... a lot of guys say it's fulfulling and such, Not really.
Sure you love your kids but that's a given. If you like your life now and love youself, it's not the best idea to get kids because society demands it.
You have to be 100 % ready to sacrifice a LOT of things you like to do as a single man in order to a. maintain a relationship and b. raise kids.
Wouldn't recommend it.
Not everyone has children because that's what society lays out. Some people are family oriented and actually like their family. I've got lots of nieces and nephews that I love dearly and have always wanted to have a family of my own. I've never given a single thought to what anyone else wanted for my family. They can go fuck themselves, I've got my family to love and spend time with. Never gave a shit about what outsiders think.
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LOL my 8 months old loves it with I pop a biceps pos for him ;D
When he is about two or three teach him the sick python joke like I did my daughters. Its hilarious when they do it.
Joke -
Tell them With a straight face ask "do you know an animal doctor?"
Other person almost always reply "no why".
Then have your son double bi pose and say " cause these pythons are siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiick!:
My parents about pissed themselves laughing
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congrats...i remember the moment 5 years ago when mu daughter was born...it was so much emotions so i cant even explained..was to shocked to cry but my eyes where watery (dont know the real word). To see the litgle want you have been waiting for in 9 months is mindblowing. The happiest day of my life.
It is a full time job to have a kid, me and her mother separated when she was 2.5 so we have her 50/50 . Always one week each. But to see they grow and smile and have fun makes it all worth it..if i have a bad day and my daughter gives me a big hug all the problems goes away in that moment.
Dad mode off/ getbig troll mode on
Holy shit Mensa Bob is human. Ive seen it all now. Goodbye cruel world ;D
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So I pose the question. Are you guys still training hard? I hope I can maintain the balance that I have, although running in the morning and training at night probably aren't going to happen anymore. As for dieting, forget it
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Not as hard when I was single. With 5 kids (4 of which are girls) i train with weights enough to be scary to the little bastards that chase them but mostly I train now for functional & health bene's. You know be able to play, ride and hike with family and keep the chest, arms and legs / ass that drives the wife nuts ;D
Sadly no more six pack... but waist is still a 36 (38 during the holidays lol ) of which I had when I graduated boot.
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me too. I never got that instant warm fuzzy feeling.... I kiterally felt nothing for the 1st six to 8 months... now im feeling things but its hard to describe them.
Having so many I can vouch this is normal. Hard to connect when they are pasted to the wife, your suffering from sleep deprivation and sex deprivation. I didn't really start to bond fully until my kids stopped breast feeding and started talking and I got more involved in their daily care.
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shockwave on anal gland stimulation:
I never got that instant warm fuzzy feeling.... I literally felt nothing for the 1st six to 8 months... now im feeling things but its hard to describe them.
;D
All jokes aside I have a hard time relating to this... to me it's been joy since T minus 8 months and 2 weeks. I guess I'm older than the average new dad. Had a lot of time to think about what it would be like and always loved kids. I have 3 younger sibilings and always took care of them at a young age.
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I can relate to what shockwave is saying, took a few months to bond with first child.
But once it does come it is the most powerfull emotion a man can feel. There is no hell you wouldnt endure.
I fucking hate my gf's guts, id have kicked the miserable bitch out of my life years ago as i truly detest her, but endure a miserable life with the cu nt out of the love for my kids and the fact i couldnt bear to spend even a few days a week away from them.
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shockwave on anal gland stimulation:
;D
All jokes aside I have a hard time relating to this... to me it's been joy since T minus 8 months and 2 weeks. I guess I'm older than the average new dad. Had a lot of time to think about what it would be like and always loved kids. I have 3 younger sibilings and always took care of them at a young age.
Tbombz approved.
I didnt know what to think. I knew I wanted children but I wasnt quite preoared as my wife randomly turned to me on the way home and said 'Shockwave, dont be mad.... im pregnant.' I laughed and sais 'no you arent'.
Took me a while to adjust.
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Tbombz approved.
I didnt know what to think. I knew I wanted children but I wasnt quite preoared as my wife randomly turned to me on the way home and said 'Shockwave, dont be mad.... im pregnant.' I laughed and sais 'no you arent'.
Took me a while to adjust.
;D