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I know this happens with most bros here. I'm not talking about with wives or girlfriends.
Is there anyway to combat the feeling you feel after you have sex with her and you just want her to leave or you want to leave. I haven't fornicated in a while but when I did, I remember having absolutely zero interest in the female when I was finished. A couple hours later, I was somewhat normal. Next day normal. I felt like a piece of shit and even guilty because I was not interested in a thing they said. It doesn't matter how hot or ugly the female was.
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I hate that feeling too,but have never found a way to correct/combat it.
Just shoes to go ya` their only good for one thing,and it isn`t cuddling! :D
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No. And why exclude wives and girlfriends?
lolololol
Come on man. I'd hope guys don't feel that way about their girl. I never did with my ex. I still wanted her around. I guess a strong emotional bond must be established to combat this feeling. lol
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I know this happens with most bros here. I'm not talking about with wives or girlfriends.
Is there anyway to combat the feeling you feel after you have sex with her and you just want her to leave or you want to leave. I haven't fornicated in a while but when I did, I remember having absolutely zero interest in the female when I was finished. A couple hours later, I was somewhat normal. Next day normal. I felt like a piece of shit and even guilty because I was not interested in a thing they said. It doesn't matter how hot or ugly the female was.
what kind of regular, straight man uses the term "fornicate" ?
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That's a good question and I'm wondering the same sometimes. I guess it simply takes time to become emotionally connected with someone.
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what kind of regular, straight man uses the term "fornicate" ?
The kind that tries to follow the teachings of the Holy Bible.
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'fornicating' ;D
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I know this happens with most bros here. I'm not talking about with wives or girlfriends.
Is there anyway to combat the feeling you feel after you have sex with her and you just want her to leave or you want to leave. I haven't fornicated in a while but when I did, I remember having absolutely zero interest in the female when I was finished. A couple hours later, I was somewhat normal. Next day normal. I felt like a piece of shit and even guilty because I was not interested in a thing they said. It doesn't matter how hot or ugly the female was.
Sometimes after sex I look at the chick with utter digust at what a whore she was and the things she let me do to her and just want to kick her ass out.
I'm pretty sure she's thinking the same thing about me.
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what if the situation were reversed, you loved or had feelings for her, but she perhaps didn't as much?? :P
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Sometimes after sex I look at the chick with utter digust at what a whore she was and the things she let me do to her and just want to kick her ass out.
I'm pretty sure she's thinking the same thing about me.
Yes, I've felt this also with some of my more kinky encounters, yet, my black ass kept returning like I was collecting a welfare check. lol
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what if the situation were reversed, you loved or had feelings for her, but she perhaps didn't as much?? :P
I'd be really hurt.
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I'd be really hurt.
Yeah, makes sense. Only human. Hence been trying to shy away from nonsense relationships and hos as of late, though finding one of value and meaning is difficult
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What does fornicating mean ???
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I know this happens with most bros here. I'm not talking about with wives or girlfriends.
Is there anyway to combat the feeling you feel after you have sex with her and you just want her to leave or you want to leave. I haven't fornicated in a while but when I did, I remember having absolutely zero interest in the female when I was finished. A couple hours later, I was somewhat normal. Next day normal. I felt like a piece of shit and even guilty because I was not interested in a thing they said. It doesn't matter how hot or ugly the female was.
Only after sex? Shit, I always feel this way.
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The kind that tries to follow the teachings of the Holy Bible.
then shouldn't you be married?
.... and working?
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Haha!!!
Wiggs can laugh at himself. I like that. (No homo.)
;) ;D
Just doing a little self analysis. Keeping it 100% real. I'm working at being a better person. No more pussy for me until I get a girlfriend. No more casual sex. It's destructive to me and makes me respect women less.
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So long as you don't say, "i hate you, I need to leave." I think you'll be fine.
Reasons to leave:
Need to go to the gym
Need to make the post sex anabolic window
Need to wake up early for work tomorrow
Parent(s) need help at the house
Dog needs to be walked
Since you're a religious man, you probably feel some guilt afterwards if you're sexing someone you're not dating. So you probably feel the need to leave that "sinful" environment.
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What does fornicating mean ???
Sex outside of marriage. In the case I'm speaking of is casual sex with a woman not a girlfriend, significant other or wife.
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Yeah, makes sense. Only human. Hence been trying to shy away from nonsense relationships and hos as of late, though finding one of value and meaning is difficult
I hear you man. That's why I cut myself off in December and have been searching for someone long term.
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Sex outside of marriage. In the case I'm speaking of is casual sex with a women not a girlfriend, significant other or wife.
I thought it was another word for decorating a christmas tree.
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then shouldn't you be married?
.... and working?
I do work. (Since January) and I'm looking for a long term relationship to turn into marriage eventually.
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So long as you don't say, "i hate you, I need to leave." I think you'll be fine.
Reasons to leave:
Need to go to the gym
Need to make the post sex anabolic window
Need to wake up early for work tomorrow
Parent(s) need help at the house
Dog needs to be walked
Since you're a religious man, you probably feel some guilt afterwards if you're sexing someone you're not dating. So you probably feel the need to leave that "sinful" environment.
Do women ever feel this way? Yes, sometimes I do feel I need to leave the sinful environment but that's not the reason 99% of the time. The reason is usually, mission complete, time to return to headquarters and refuel and have some peace. lol. That I feel guilty about. I'm pretty sure it's because I have no emotional connection with the woman. Which is why I shouldn't fornicate.
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Do women ever feel this way? Yes, sometimes I do feel I need to leave the sinful environment but that's not the reason 99% of the time. The reason is usually, mission complete, time to return to headquarters and refuel and have some peace. lol. That I feel guilty about. I'm pretty sure it's because I have no emotional connection with the woman. Which is why I shouldn't fornicate.
Casual sex = no emotional connection (or at least not a mutual one) = no desire to stare lovingly into one another's eyes afterwards. Many women, however, will feel bad about meaningless sex and I'd say that socializing will be more about making her feel better about her decision than about hanging out just to hang out.
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Yes brother Wiggs.
I had women come to my place we get home pissed, have sex we sleep...I wake up at 6am barely light outside, and sit silently in bed listeninv to her breath peacefully in her sleep and I can't rest. I want her out of my place so I can sleep properly and eat my 6 egg whites and drink a coffee in my balcony staring at the London eye from afar....and I usually wake them up at 7am and make up an excuse....I have a house viewing as I'm buying a new house or a car or my brother is arriving from Spain today and needs picking up...you name it.
Sometimes if I really like the girl she might stay till 11am.
It's not assholeism, it's just you/us having an introvert moment, it's a common trait amongst long term single men. I can only socialise for limited hours then I need to be alone.
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I think honesty is the best policy. When I read your post about you wanting your next relationship to lead to marriage, I was about to jokingly advise you to tell someone that on the first date. Now, I think it might not be a bad idea to mention that early on (probably still not on the first date, though!). People get hurt when their expectations don't meet reality.....I think it's fair to say that people don't get hurt when their expectations DO get met.
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I know this happens with most bros here. I'm not talking about with wives or girlfriends.
Is there anyway to combat the feeling you feel after you have sex with her and you just want her to leave or you want to leave. I haven't fornicated in a while but when I did, I remember having absolutely zero interest in the female when I was finished. A couple hours later, I was somewhat normal. Next day normal. I felt like a piece of shit and even guilty because I was not interested in a thing they said. It doesn't matter how hot or ugly the female was.
Have sex with someone that you actually have interest in...someone that you actually like beyond the physical.
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Yes brother Wiggs.
I had women come to my place we get home pissed, have sex we sleep...I wake up at 6am barely light outside, and sit silently in bed listeninv to her breath peacefully in her sleep and I can't rest. I want her out of my place so I can sleep properly and eat my 6 egg whites and drink a coffee in my balcony staring at the London eye from afar....and I usually wake them up at 7am and make up an excuse....I have a house viewing as I'm buying a new house or a car or my brother is arriving from Spain today and needs picking up...you name it.
Sometimes if I really like the girl she might stay till 11am.
It's not assholeism, it's just you/us having an introvert moment, it's a common trait amongst long term single men. I can only socialise for limited hours then I need to be alone.
That is me spot on. Good post. Glad to see I'm not alone and this is normal. Still would like to overcome it.
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I know this happens with most bros here. I'm not talking about with wives or girlfriends.
Is there anyway to combat the feeling you feel after you have sex with her and you just want her to leave or you want to leave. I haven't fornicated in a while but when I did, I remember having absolutely zero interest in the female when I was finished. A couple hours later, I was somewhat normal. Next day normal. I felt like a piece of shit and even guilty because I was not interested in a thing they said. It doesn't matter how hot or ugly the female was.
Yes - don't ejaculate.
Either that or have your exit plan sorted out in advance.
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That is me spot on. Good post. Glad to see I'm not alone and this is normal. Still would like to overcome it.
Why overcome it? Just find someone who is just like you, or who at least understands it
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Have sex with someone that you actually have interest in...someone that you actually like beyond the physical.
Yes Brother Parker. That's why I cut myself off. It didn't feel right anymore doing what I was doing. I felt like I was getting over but my soul was paying for it.
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I think honesty is the best policy. When I read your post about you wanting your next relationship to lead to marriage, I was about to jokingly advise you to tell someone that on the first date. Now, I think it might not be a bad idea to mention that early on (probably still not on the first date, though!). People get hurt when their expectations don't meet reality.....I think it's fair to say that people don't get hurt when their expectations DO get met.
lol. I've said that too early and scared women off. lol. Not a good feeling. lol
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I'll fuck any nice looking Broad on any given day, I've never fuck a married woman before and I don't intend to and never will.......even if she doesn't give a fuck about her marriage..... ;D....I just respect the sanctity of marriage
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Wiggs,
You can't change your character and personality...if you force it, it won't work...I tried, they ask me what's wrong, why are you quiet...etc because you are not being yourself and doing something outside of your comfort zone and then start a "you don't like me" sort of conversation which you don't want to have in your home on a wekend morning. I sleep mostly with white gullible euro chicks who are grateful they finally had sex with a guy who looks like their MTV idols when they grew up in the soviet era...youre in America, bitch can go ghetto angry at you and ruin your weekend.
When I meet a girl I really like, I don't get this and don't feel that way at all...however this has only happened twice in 10 years, just give you an idea as to how rare it is.
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What does fornicating mean ???
The word derives from Latin, fornix meaning "arch", supposedly as a euphemism for "brothel".[
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After sex I just tell the girl that I have to go to sleep because I have to work early the next day and offer to call her a cab but I will call her tomorrow its that simple.
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It's just sex.
There's love, sex and love & sex.
Why feel guilty - be honest, upfront and let loose.
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Yes Brother Parker. That's why I cut myself off. It didn't feel right anymore doing what I was doing. I felt like I was getting over but my soul was paying for it.
Your problem is fairly simple.
You don't seem to understand that women are probably waiting for you to fuck off after the event too.
Women LOVE sex - that's why they go back with you. They want a fuck. They want to cum.
You feeling guilty about sex is unnecessary.
You really think that every woman that you fuck wants you to hang around for hours or is desperate for a relationship?
Naaa man - they just want to get off, like you do. It's all good.
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The kind that tries to follow the teachings of the Holy Bible.
Well, the fact you're engaging in pre-marital sex is a huge indication you're failing quite miserably with your attempt.
And I almost always wanna instantly bail after I've blown my load, girlfriend or not. Other than being sexually attracted to them, what else do I have in common with some broad?
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It's not assholeism, it's just you/us having an introvert moment, it's a common trait amongst long term single men. I can only socialise for limited hours then I need to be alone.
Truer words have never been spoken. For me, at least.
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I know this happens with most bros here. I'm not talking about with wives or girlfriends.
Is there anyway to combat the feeling you feel after you have sex with her and you just want her to leave or you want to leave. I haven't fornicated in a while but when I did, I remember having absolutely zero interest in the female when I was finished. A couple hours later, I was somewhat normal. Next day normal. I felt like a piece of shit and even guilty because I was not interested in a thing they said. It doesn't matter how hot or ugly the female was.
wiggs that feeling you speak of is called accomplishment. Enjoy it
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The kind that tries to follow the teachings of the Holy Bible.
then you should have said "lay with a woman"
in fac tthis is in the bible, i believe it was one of Davids sons? was infatuated with a girl, lay with her, and the bible says "he then felt a disgust for her which exceedeed his previous lust". she wished to marry him to hide her shame, but he refused
edit: it was Amnon, lusting for his sister tamar http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=2+Samuel+13
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I know this happens with most bros here. I'm not talking about with wives or girlfriends.
Is there anyway to combat the feeling you feel after you have sex with her and you just want her to leave or you want to leave. I haven't fornicated in a while but when I did, I remember having absolutely zero interest in the female when I was finished. A couple hours later, I was somewhat normal. Next day normal. I felt like a piece of shit and even guilty because I was not interested in a thing they said. It doesn't matter how hot or ugly the female was.
Its a black thing... you think OMG I just knocked this bitch up I better run before I have to pay SUPPORT
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Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks.
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Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks.
And Moms.
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http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=uXNHTROcoSs
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shit wiggs you suckered into religion too? you truly are lost.
you really want to believe shit like adam and eve...that would make the entire human race children of incest...etc etc
grow up man
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I didn't read all the comments, but have you tried falling in love?
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So long as you don't say, "i hate you, I need to leave." I think you'll be fine.
Reasons to leave:
Need to go to the gym
Need to make the post sex anabolic window
Need to wake up early for work tomorrow
Parent(s) need help at the house
Dog needs to be walked
Since you're a religious man, you probably feel some guilt afterwards if you're sexing someone you're not dating. So you probably feel the need to leave that "sinful" environment.
Missed the best one: Need to return some video tapes