Regarding fornicating with a female.

[Wiggs]

I know this happens with most bros here. I'm not talking about with wives or girlfriends.

Is there anyway to combat the feeling you feel after you have sex with her and you just want her to leave or you want to leave. I haven't fornicated in a while but when I did, I remember having absolutely zero interest in the female when I was finished. A couple hours later, I was somewhat normal. Next day normal. I felt like a piece of shit and even guilty because I was not interested in a thing they said. It doesn't matter how hot or ugly the female was.

[wes]

I hate that feeling too,but have never found a way to correct/combat it.

Just shoes to go ya` their only good for one thing,and it isn`t cuddling! 

[Wiggs]

No. And why exclude wives and girlfriends?

lolololol

Come on man. I'd hope guys don't feel that way about their girl. I never did with my ex. I still wanted her around. I guess a strong emotional bond must be established to combat this feeling. lol

[ESFitness]

I know this happens with most bros here. I'm not talking about with wives or girlfriends.

Is there anyway to combat the feeling you feel after you have sex with her and you just want her to leave or you want to leave. I haven't fornicated in a while but when I did, I remember having absolutely zero interest in the female when I was finished. A couple hours later, I was somewhat normal. Next day normal. I felt like a piece of shit and even guilty because I was not interested in a thing they said. It doesn't matter how hot or ugly the female was.

what kind of regular, straight man uses the term "fornicate" ?

[DroppingPlates]

That's a good question and I'm wondering the same sometimes. I guess it simply takes time to become emotionally connected with someone.

[Wiggs]

what kind of regular, straight man uses the term "fornicate" ?

The kind that tries to follow the teachings of the Holy Bible.

[bradistani]

'fornicating'  

[El Diablo Blanco]

I know this happens with most bros here. I'm not talking about with wives or girlfriends.

Is there anyway to combat the feeling you feel after you have sex with her and you just want her to leave or you want to leave. I haven't fornicated in a while but when I did, I remember having absolutely zero interest in the female when I was finished. A couple hours later, I was somewhat normal. Next day normal. I felt like a piece of shit and even guilty because I was not interested in a thing they said. It doesn't matter how hot or ugly the female was.

Sometimes after sex I look at the chick with utter digust at what a whore she was and the things she let me do to her and just want to kick her ass out. 

I'm pretty sure she's thinking the same thing about me.

[BodyMachine]

what if the situation were reversed, you loved or had feelings for her, but she perhaps didn't as much??  

[Wiggs]

Sometimes after sex I look at the chick with utter digust at what a whore she was and the things she let me do to her and just want to kick her ass out. 

I'm pretty sure she's thinking the same thing about me.

Yes, I've felt this also with some of my more kinky encounters, yet, my black ass kept returning like I was collecting a welfare check. lol

[Wiggs]

what if the situation were reversed, you loved or had feelings for her, but she perhaps didn't as much??  

I'd be really hurt.

[BodyMachine]

I'd be really hurt.

Yeah, makes sense. Only human. Hence been trying to shy away from nonsense relationships and hos as of late, though finding one of value and meaning is difficult

[King Shizzo]

What does fornicating mean 

[The Ugly]

I know this happens with most bros here. I'm not talking about with wives or girlfriends.

Is there anyway to combat the feeling you feel after you have sex with her and you just want her to leave or you want to leave. I haven't fornicated in a while but when I did, I remember having absolutely zero interest in the female when I was finished. A couple hours later, I was somewhat normal. Next day normal. I felt like a piece of shit and even guilty because I was not interested in a thing they said. It doesn't matter how hot or ugly the female was.

Only after sex? Shit, I always feel this way.

[ESFitness]

The kind that tries to follow the teachings of the Holy Bible.

then shouldn't you be married?

.... and working?

[Wiggs]

Haha!!!

Wiggs can laugh at himself. I like that. (No homo.)

 

Just doing a little self analysis. Keeping it 100% real. I'm working at being a better person. No more pussy for me until I get a girlfriend. No more casual sex. It's destructive to me and makes me respect women less.

[TEH boob]

So long as you don't say, "i hate you, I need to leave." I think you'll be fine.

Reasons to leave:
Need to go to the gym
Need to make the post sex anabolic window
Need to wake up early for work tomorrow
Parent(s) need help at the house
Dog needs to be walked


Since you're a religious man, you probably feel some guilt afterwards if you're sexing someone you're not dating. So you probably feel the need to leave that "sinful" environment.

[Wiggs]

What does fornicating mean  

Sex outside of marriage. In the case I'm speaking of is casual sex with a woman not a girlfriend, significant other or wife.

[Wiggs]

Yeah, makes sense. Only human. Hence been trying to shy away from nonsense relationships and hos as of late, though finding one of value and meaning is difficult

I hear you man. That's why I cut myself off in December and have been searching for someone long term.

[King Shizzo]

Sex outside of marriage. In the case I'm speaking of is casual sex with a women not a girlfriend, significant other or wife.

I thought it was another word for decorating a christmas tree.

[Wiggs]

then shouldn't you be married?

.... and working?

I do work. (Since January) and I'm looking for a long term relationship to turn into marriage eventually.

[Wiggs]

So long as you don't say, "i hate you, I need to leave." I think you'll be fine.

Reasons to leave:
Need to go to the gym
Need to make the post sex anabolic window
Need to wake up early for work tomorrow
Parent(s) need help at the house
Dog needs to be walked


Since you're a religious man, you probably feel some guilt afterwards if you're sexing someone you're not dating. So you probably feel the need to leave that "sinful" environment.

Do women ever feel this way? Yes, sometimes I do feel I need to leave the sinful environment but that's not the reason 99% of the time. The reason is usually, mission complete, time to return to headquarters and refuel and have some peace. lol. That I feel guilty about. I'm pretty sure it's because I have no emotional connection with the woman. Which is why I shouldn't fornicate.

[TEH boob]

Do women ever feel this way? Yes, sometimes I do feel I need to leave the sinful environment but that's not the reason 99% of the time. The reason is usually, mission complete, time to return to headquarters and refuel and have some peace. lol. That I feel guilty about. I'm pretty sure it's because I have no emotional connection with the woman. Which is why I shouldn't fornicate.

Casual sex = no emotional connection (or at least not a mutual one) = no desire to stare lovingly into one another's eyes afterwards. Many women, however, will feel bad about meaningless sex and I'd say that socializing will be more about making her feel better about her decision than about hanging out just to hang out.

[Skorp1o]

Yes brother Wiggs.

I had women come to my place we get home pissed, have sex we sleep...I wake up at 6am barely light outside, and sit silently in bed listeninv to her breath peacefully in her sleep and I can't rest. I want her out of my place so I can sleep properly and eat my 6 egg whites and drink a coffee in my balcony staring at the London eye from afar....and I usually wake them up at 7am and make up an excuse....I have a house viewing as I'm buying a new house or a car or my brother is arriving from Spain today and needs picking up...you name it.

Sometimes if I really like the girl she might stay till 11am.

It's not assholeism, it's just you/us having an introvert moment, it's a common trait amongst long term single men. I can only socialise for limited hours then I need to be alone.

[TEH boob]

I think honesty is the best policy. When I read your post about you wanting your next relationship to lead to marriage, I was about to jokingly advise you to tell someone that on the first date. Now, I think it might not be a bad idea to mention that early on (probably still not on the first date, though!). People get hurt when their expectations don't meet reality.....I think it's fair to say that people don't get hurt when their expectations DO get met.