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Title: Selfish Life?
Post by: Thong Maniac on November 25, 2014, 04:12:22 AM
You guys enjoy your career and life?

As im approaching my early thirties and making decent dough, and my wife makes good money too. We have no kids, lots and lots of free time, dont work very hard, etc. im starting to feel unfulfilled, like my life is just a selfish, vain, existence.

I watched a documentary about park rangers in africa putting their life on the line every fucking day to protect mountain gorillas and their habitat from warlords and poachers using hand me down Aks and 40 year old RPGs, barely making a living wage, and these guys would glady die to save a gorilla. It really made me think about how lame my life is and how I have nothing to live for except paying a mortage on a house and making my boss happy. It just seems so ridiculous when you put modern day american life into perspective.

This probably came off like A Howard thread, but im honestly mentally struggling with this. Is my goal to make money and just "live"....? Thats what it feels like. I have nothing to die for, no struggles, no hardship. Maybe im feeling guilty, I dont know
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: gracie bjj on November 25, 2014, 04:16:46 AM
i try to give alittle money to st judes cancer research cause it makes me feel good,also i help the animal rescue force in my town cause i know they r legit and use the money to help the animals.im far from rich but i own a house and do ok i guess,im happy but i still feel empty in some ways also. u got to be careful tho some of those places r scam artist, anyway man u sound like a good dude and seems like u r soul searching a bit and thats good,u will find what u need to fulfill your life one of these days as long as u keep looking
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: BayGBM on November 25, 2014, 04:17:26 AM
"If a man has not found something worth dying for, he is not fit to live."

                                                       --Martin Luther King Jr.


Seriously, what  you describe is not "modern day American life" it is your life.  So, what are you going to do about it?  Relatively speaking you are obviously blessed.  Why don't you give something back to a cause or to your community?  Volunteer your time and energy to something meaningful.  Work harder to make more money and give to a few worthwhile charities.  Make a career change and do work that has real purpose...  Right now you have no purpose.  Perhaps that is why you are feeling empty and selfish... because you are.  :-[
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Thong Maniac on November 25, 2014, 04:21:18 AM
i try to give alittle money to st judes cancer research cause it makes me feel good,also i help the animal rescue force in my town cause i know they r legit and use the money to help the animals.im far from rich but i own a house and do ok i guess,im happy but i still feel empty in some ways also. u got to be careful tho some of those places r scam artist, anyway man u sound like a good dude and seems like u r soul searching a bit and thats good,u will find what u need to fulfill your life one of these days as long as u keep looking

Thanks bro, we do help the local humane society with time and money when we can, but I just feel like its still not enough. I feel like I look out for people around me and step in when someone is not being treated respectfully but thats about the extent of it. Just feel like I need a purpose
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: MORTALCOIL on November 25, 2014, 04:21:32 AM

I watched a documentary about park rangers in africa putting their life on the line every fucking day to protect mountain gorillas and their habitat from warlords and poachers using hand me down Aks and 40 year old RPGs, barely making a living wage, and these guys would glady die to save a gorilla. It really made me think about how lame my life is and how I have nothing to live for except paying a mortage on a house and making my boss happy. It just seems so ridiculous when you put modern day american life into perspective.


Sounds like you should become Kai Green's bodyguard.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: MikMaq on November 25, 2014, 04:22:36 AM
If I don't have kids(which may be a good idea ;D), I'm hoping to be dedicating time for helping autistic people.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Grape Ape on November 25, 2014, 04:30:26 AM
Are you abandoning your wife to go fight for gorillas or not?
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Thong Maniac on November 25, 2014, 04:35:46 AM
Are you abandoning your wife to go fight for gorillas or not?
Not gonna lie and say i have not fantasized about that ha
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Tapeworm on November 25, 2014, 04:38:35 AM
Join the crustacean nation.  Never mind the bollocks, cozy up with some molluscs.  If the missus fizzes, hoist her an oyster.  It'll make her moister.  O it's the shellfish life fer me.

Sounds like you need more time to do things that you like and find rewarding instead running down an infinite series of obligations.  Or maybe I'm just projecting.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Automation on November 25, 2014, 04:41:03 AM
Smoke some DMT and you will find the answer....
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: _aj_ on November 25, 2014, 04:43:49 AM
Volunteer at the local animal shelter. It's one of the most rewarding things in the world.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: gracie bjj on November 25, 2014, 04:44:07 AM
If I don't have kids(which may be a good idea ;D), I'm hoping to be dedicating time for helping autistic people.

helping autistic kids is really cool,my son has autism so i can really appreciate guys like u helping out
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Thong Maniac on November 25, 2014, 04:45:25 AM
Volunteer at the local animal shelter. It's one of the most rewarding things in the world.

I do
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: da_vinci on November 25, 2014, 04:57:48 AM
You just probably have small imagination..
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: BayGBM on November 25, 2014, 04:58:42 AM
Thong Maniac, ever since I've known you, you've been searching for a life greater than that of an ordinary bodybuilder. A life of significance. Of conscience...  Use my knowledge.  I beg you.  I know what's been troubling you... listen to me...
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: gracie bjj on November 25, 2014, 05:00:21 AM
Volunteer at the local animal shelter. It's one of the most rewarding things in the world.

i do that sometimes also, many many years ago when i was getting tons of overtime at my job i used to drop a hundred dollar bill in the can when i seen them at the FLEA MARKET in ENGLISHTOWN,NEW JERSEY.funny story,i dropped a 100$ bill in the jar back then and started walking away and next thing i knew some chubby lady was chasing me down saying excuse me sir,u musta thought this was a dollar bill by mistake,i said no i didnt,she said well thank u very very much sir we appreciate this very much. the next week i adopted 2 dogs from there and me and the ANIMAL RESCUE FORCE has had a great relationship for over 20yrs now.when i go to adopt a dog for me or a family member now they dont even interview me or make me fill out any paper work cause they trust me very much and know the dogs r gonna be taken care of very very well
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Thong Maniac on November 25, 2014, 05:04:03 AM
Thong Maniac, ever since I've known you, you've been searching for a life greater than that of an ordinary bodybuilder. A life of significance. Of conscience...  Use my knowledge.  I beg you.  I know what's been troubling you... listen to me...

Thanks Bay, i am going to make changes man. I will let you know.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Parker on November 25, 2014, 05:04:57 AM
You guys enjoy your career and life?

As im approaching my early thirties and making decent dough, and my wife makes good money too. We have no kids, lots and lots of free time, dont work very hard, etc. im starting to feel unfulfilled, like my life is just a selfish, vain, existence.

I watched a documentary about park rangers in africa putting their life on the line every fucking day to protect mountain gorillas and their habitat from warlords and poachers using hand me down Aks and 40 year old RPGs, barely making a living wage, and these guys would glady die to save a gorilla. It really made me think about how lame my life is and how I have nothing to live for except paying a mortage on a house and making my boss happy. It just seems so ridiculous when you put modern day american life into perspective.

This probably came off like A Howard thread, but im honestly mentally struggling with this. Is my goal to make money and just "live"....? Thats what it feels like. I have nothing to die for, no struggles, no hardship. Maybe im feeling guilty, I dont know

"The Selfish Vanity of A Thong Maniac"
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I just gave you an idea.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Grape Ape on November 25, 2014, 05:07:00 AM
Just stare at automation's avatar for an hour.  Things should be more clear after that.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: hrspwr1 on November 25, 2014, 05:08:23 AM
 Just find a way to help your community. Volunteer at the animal shelter, join the volunteer fire department, get involved with CERT, become a big brother etc..

Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: gracie bjj on November 25, 2014, 05:12:13 AM
Just find a way to help your community. Volunteer at the animal shelter, join the volunteer fire department, get involved with CERT, become a big brother etc..



i agree,nothing makes a person feel better than helping out someone whether it be a dog or a person, trust me man it makes a difference
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Tapeworm on November 25, 2014, 05:14:27 AM
Run guns to Ethiopia.  Fight in Spain on the Loyalist's side.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: MikMaq on November 25, 2014, 05:18:11 AM
helping autistic kids is really cool,my son has autism so i can really appreciate guys like u helping out
nah seriously, I'm really interested in reducing barriers to people on the spectrum getting employment.


Computers and globalization, have pretty much created a open door full of potential. It's just figuring out how to harness it all.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: K-1 on November 25, 2014, 05:23:15 AM
You guys enjoy your career and life?

As im approaching my early thirties and making decent dough, and my wife makes good money too. We have no kids, lots and lots of free time, dont work very hard, etc. im starting to feel unfulfilled, like my life is just a selfish, vain, existence.

I watched a documentary about park rangers in africa putting their life on the line every fucking day to protect mountain gorillas and their habitat from warlords and poachers using hand me down Aks and 40 year old RPGs, barely making a living wage, and these guys would glady die to save a gorilla. It really made me think about how lame my life is and how I have nothing to live for except paying a mortage on a house and making my boss happy. It just seems so ridiculous when you put modern day american life into perspective.

This probably came off like A Howard thread, but im honestly mentally struggling with this. Is my goal to make money and just "live"....? Thats what it feels like. I have nothing to die for, no struggles, no hardship. Maybe im feeling guilty, I dont know


Sit down and write a minimum 100 things YOU want to accomplish/achieve/attain (tell your wife to do the same). Think and dream big when you make this list also.

You might find yourself writing things down like "pay off all debt" "earn a million dollar yr salary"..etc these are fine...the point of this list is to get you thinking again about all that's out there to achieve in the little amount of borrowed time you have here....you are just in a rut right now tbh and need to explore outside of your norm. You and your wife can tackle your lists together as a team also.

As you go through the 100 things you achieve, celebrate them. Have a cigar or something. You'll notice some of the things you put on that list will just fall in your lap simply because you are in action. Make sure you celebrate that achievement. They'll just start to happen. Trust me. I have a list of 250 things and I cannot believe I achieved them yet I feel like I did very little to nothing to achieve it lol.

Your goal isn't to make money and live. Your main goal is to live , enjoy and celebrate your life and accomplishments, share and encourage others to do the same..etc ....making money along the way is the bonus that will come along with getting things in gear and remaining positive about things.

some of the regrets of the dying are usually: (make it a conscious daily effort to not be on this list)

- I wish I had lived my own life rather than how society taught me to live.
- I wish I had traveled/explored more.
- I wish I had kept in touch with my family/friends.
- I wish I hadn’t spent so much time working.
- I should’ve taken better care of myself.
- I should’ve told the people that I loved how much I truly loved them.
- I wish I discovered my purpose earlier.
- I wish I had touched more lives and inspired more people.

Think big. There are some things you've always wanted to do, have..etc. List em. Go after them. Don't get dead then start thinking about the list. lol
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Irongrip400 on November 25, 2014, 05:26:02 AM
Push those feelings aside and use it as a driving force to make more money. It's the only way to true happiness.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Thong Maniac on November 25, 2014, 05:29:50 AM
Sit down and write a minimum 100 things YOU want to accomplish/achieve/attain (tell your wife to do the same). Think and dream big when you make this list also.

You might find yourself writing things down like "pay off all debt" "earn a million dollar yr salary"..etc these are fine...the point of this list is to get you thinking again about all that's out there to achieve in the little amount of borrowed time you have here....you are just in a rut right now tbh and need to explore outside of your norm. You and your wife can tackle your lists together as a team also.

As you go through the 100 things you achieve, celebrate them. Have a cigar or something. You'll notice some of the things you put on that list will just fall in your lap simply because you are in action. Make sure you celebrate that achievement. They'll just start to happen. Trust me. I have a list of 250 things and I cannot believe I achieved them yet I feel like I did very little to nothing to achieve it lol.

Your goal isn't to make money and live. Your main goal is to live , enjoy and celebrate your life and accomplishments, share and encourage others to do the same..etc ....making money along the way is the bonus that will come along with getting things in gear and remaining positive about things.

some of the regrets of the dying are usually: (make it a conscious daily effort to not be on this list)

- I wish I had lived my own life rather than how society taught me to live.
- I wish I had traveled/explored more.
- I wish I had kept in touch with my family/friends.
- I wish I hadn’t spent so much time working.
- I should’ve taken better care of myself.
- I should’ve told the people that I loved how much I truly loved them.
- I wish I discovered my purpose earlier.
- I wish I had touched more lives and inspired more people.

Think big. There are some things you've always wanted to do, have..etc. List em. Go after them. Don't get dead then start thinking about the list. lol

Great advice man, thanks for sharing this.
The society taught me thing i struggle with often but for the wrong reasons I think.
You get taught from an early Age, go to college, get a job, get married. Well ive done all that. Do i have dreams of moving to thailand, fishing every day on the mekong, banging hookers there, and opening a dog shelter or tourist fishing company on the mekong...every fucking day. But is that something Ill regret if i DOnT do it? I dont know the answer
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: K-1 on November 25, 2014, 05:34:10 AM
Great advice man, thanks for sharing this.
The society taught me thing i struggle with often but for the wrong reasons I think.
You get taught from an early Age, go to college, get a job, get married. Well ive done all that. Do i have dreams of moving to thailand, fishing every day on the mekong, banging hookers there, and opening a dog shelter or tourist fishing company on the mekong...every fucking day. But is that something Ill regret if i DOnT do it? I dont know the answer

Depends on the hooker. You want to go top shelf man, not street corner stuff. Remember, I said think big  ;D

Let your wife pick the Hooker. Or maybe you guys can agree on a friend of hers that looks nice..etc. You have options.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Grape Ape on November 25, 2014, 05:47:08 AM
Great advice man, thanks for sharing this.
The society taught me thing i struggle with often but for the wrong reasons I think.
You get taught from an early Age, go to college, get a job, get married. Well ive done all that. Do i have dreams of moving to thailand, fishing every day on the mekong, banging hookers there, and opening a dog shelter or tourist fishing company on the mekong...every fucking day. But is that something Ill regret if i DOnT do it? I dont know the answer

Nobody knows the answer.

Do the dreams include your wife or exclude.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: MikMaq on November 25, 2014, 06:21:58 AM
we did this. some enhancing compatabilities, some redefining unique characteristics. mine consisted of things i want to DO, hers was more HOW she wants to live.

your perspective may change in acknowledging what you, and the most important person in your life, want for yourselves.
Woman have an obsession with comfort its really annoying.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: BigRo on November 25, 2014, 06:23:50 AM
Smoke some DMT and you will find the answer....


would you like to share some insights from your DMT experiences?

Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: BigRo on November 25, 2014, 06:31:23 AM
Sit down and write a minimum 100 things YOU want to accomplish/achieve/attain (tell your wife to do the same). Think and dream big when you make this list also.

You might find yourself writing things down like "pay off all debt" "earn a million dollar yr salary"..etc these are fine...the point of this list is to get you thinking again about all that's out there to achieve in the little amount of borrowed time you have here....you are just in a rut right now tbh and need to explore outside of your norm. You and your wife can tackle your lists together as a team also.

As you go through the 100 things you achieve, celebrate them. Have a cigar or something. You'll notice some of the things you put on that list will just fall in your lap simply because you are in action. Make sure you celebrate that achievement. They'll just start to happen. Trust me. I have a list of 250 things and I cannot believe I achieved them yet I feel like I did very little to nothing to achieve it lol.

Your goal isn't to make money and live. Your main goal is to live , enjoy and celebrate your life and accomplishments, share and encourage others to do the same..etc ....making money along the way is the bonus that will come along with getting things in gear and remaining positive about things.

some of the regrets of the dying are usually: (make it a conscious daily effort to not be on this list)

- I wish I had lived my own life rather than how society taught me to live.
- I wish I had traveled/explored more.
- I wish I had kept in touch with my family/friends.
- I wish I hadn’t spent so much time working.
- I should’ve taken better care of myself.
- I should’ve told the people that I loved how much I truly loved them.
- I wish I discovered my purpose earlier.
- I wish I had touched more lives and inspired more people.

Think big. There are some things you've always wanted to do, have..etc. List em. Go after them. Don't get dead then start thinking about the list. lol

good advices
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: pluck on November 25, 2014, 08:54:09 AM
I've been saying this for a while. (I am not rich by any stretch)
I started making decent money a few years ago. Money that allowed me to buy few cool cars, vaca 4-5 a year last 4 years, bunch of toys....etc.
I was making money for the sake of making money...it was boring and unfulfilling.

I changed "careers" about 1.5 years ago and now I'm way happier doing something that is fulfilling. Look forward going to work everyday and progressing to move up the chain.

I know a couple people that have businesses worth a few million. They're happy people for the most part, but all they talk about is money, how to make more of it, leveraging it...blah blah blah. They do ALL of the same things someone who makes $60k a year would do...only difference is they can afford a little nicer version of that life. They can afford to spend $200 at a steakhouse more times, afford a higher car lease, rent a bigger apartment....etc. etc (Don't get me wrong, it's nice to afford nice shit) but ...after a while it doesn't matter.

People don't want to listen to others talk about money, it makes people insecure and resentful especially if they make less than you do.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Croatch on November 25, 2014, 09:09:35 AM
I would have some kids and get a few dogs.  Isn't this what people do to feel a sense of purpose around 30?
Text book.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: ritch on November 25, 2014, 09:11:14 AM
Go to walmart and observe the struggling families and how their life seems to plain f'in suck, then come back and wonder if you should change anything, lol...
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Croatch on November 25, 2014, 09:27:01 AM
Go to walmart and observe the struggling families and how their life seems to plain f'in suck, then come back and wonder if you should change anything, lol...
haha.  I often wonder how it's the worst of the gene pools who seem to reproduce the most?
I suppose if you're not too smart, having a kid with no job or money doesn't seem like a bad idea...or 2...or 3.
I leave the store feeling quite good and free of any encumbrances.  I can't picture a life where you have some kid whining at you for a day, no less a few years.  Then fucking your fat old wife, on top of that.  Telling yourself...I love her though, so it's ok.
Tell yourself what you gotta...haah
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: loco on November 25, 2014, 09:42:02 AM
You guys enjoy your career and life?

As im approaching my early thirties and making decent dough, and my wife makes good money too. We have no kids, lots and lots of free time, dont work very hard, etc. im starting to feel unfulfilled, like my life is just a selfish, vain, existence.

I watched a documentary about park rangers in africa putting their life on the line every fucking day to protect mountain gorillas and their habitat from warlords and poachers using hand me down Aks and 40 year old RPGs, barely making a living wage, and these guys would glady die to save a gorilla. It really made me think about how lame my life is and how I have nothing to live for except paying a mortage on a house and making my boss happy. It just seems so ridiculous when you put modern day american life into perspective.

This probably came off like A Howard thread, but im honestly mentally struggling with this. Is my goal to make money and just "live"....? Thats what it feels like. I have nothing to die for, no struggles, no hardship. Maybe im feeling guilty, I dont know


My hero!    ;D

Are you happily married?  Because I was gonna say, your purpose in life, in your particular life, should be to be a good husband and make your wife happy.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Thong Maniac on November 25, 2014, 09:49:43 AM
I've been saying this for a while. (I am not rich by any stretch)
I started making decent money a few years ago. Money that allowed me to buy few cool cars, vaca 4-5 a year last 4 years, bunch of toys....etc.
I was making money for the sake of making money...it was boring and unfulfilling.

I changed "careers" about 1.5 years ago and now I'm way happier doing something that is fulfilling. Look forward going to work everyday and progressing to move up the chain.

I know a couple people that have businesses worth a few million. They're happy people for the most part, but all they talk about is money, how to make more of it, leveraging it...blah blah blah. They do ALL of the same things someone who makes $60k a year would do...only difference is they can afford a little nicer version of that life. They can afford to spend $200 at a steakhouse more times, afford a higher car lease, rent a bigger apartment....etc. etc (Don't get me wrong, it's nice to afford nice shit) but ...after a while it doesn't matter.

People don't want to listen to others talk about money, it makes people insecure and resentful especially if they make less than you do.

Was it easy to change careers? If you dont have experience in said field, i can imagine its tough to switch. More money, or less? More stress or less?
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Thong Maniac on November 25, 2014, 09:51:16 AM
I would have some kids and get a few dogs.  Isn't this what people do to feel a sense of purpose around 30?
Text book.

I have dogs, which are more than enough. I feel the kid thing is a social trap I dont want to fall into. I fell into the marriage, house, dogs and other social norms.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Thong Maniac on November 25, 2014, 09:53:14 AM
Go to walmart and observe the struggling families and how their life seems to plain f'in suck, then come back and wonder if you should change anything, lol...

Trust me bro, i know how lucky i am. I think about that often as well
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Thong Maniac on November 25, 2014, 09:54:26 AM
My hero!    ;D

Are you happily married?  Because I was gonna say, your purpose in life, in your particular life, should be to be a good husband and make your wife happy.

My wife is great and marriage is easy for us. However, i am notorious for being a grass is always greener guy.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: loco on November 25, 2014, 10:00:22 AM
My wife is great and marriage is easy for us. However, i am notorious for being a grass is always greener guy.

That's because you don't have kids.  No joke. Kids are great, or so I'm repeatedly told, but they put a strain on marriage, as if marriage wasn't hard enough as it is.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: ritch on November 25, 2014, 10:01:34 AM
Trust me bro, i know how lucky i am. I think about that often as well

Same here, I even went and told the women at the pharmacy counter I have no idea how she puts up with the bullshit, her look as just "I gotta get outta here before I swallow all the meds or take myself out manually"... Oh jesus, the stupid parents to even allow that to happen. I would have tasted the back of my dad's hand so fast had I even thoguht of acting up like that...
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Automation on November 25, 2014, 10:02:42 AM


would you like to share some insights from your DMT experiences?



I would say that it has been the greatest experience of my life. Beyond anything words can describe. Truly revelatory in every sense. Others can describe it better than I. I can only recommend that everyone try it, and take what they will from the experience.

My personal take away: There is a continuity to your existence that it is impossible to comprehend within this realm.

Apologies for the vagueness, but words are but mere shadow to the experience, and the whole thing is completely subjective.

Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: ritch on November 25, 2014, 10:02:51 AM
That's because you don't have kids.  No joke. Kids are great, or so I'm repeatedly told, but they put a strain on marriage, as if marriage wasn't hard enough as it is.

only good thing about them is making them. That's it. And that takes me like 2 minutes, lol...
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: BigRo on November 25, 2014, 10:15:15 AM
I would say that it has been the greatest experience of my life. Beyond anything words can describe. Truly revelatory in every sense. Others can describe it better than I. I can only recommend that everyone try it, and take what they will from the experience.

My personal take away: There is a continuity to your existence that it is impossible to comprehend within this realm.

Apologies for the vagueness, but words are but mere shadow to the experience, and the whole thing is completely subjective.



thanks, I know what you mean. Hard to source good DMT and pricey unless you know how to make your own.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Croatch on November 25, 2014, 10:17:26 AM
I would say that it has been the greatest experience of my life. Beyond anything words can describe. Truly revelatory in every sense. Others can describe it better than I. I can only recommend that everyone try it, and take what they will from the experience.

My personal take away: There is a continuity to your existence that it is impossible to comprehend within this realm.

Apologies for the vagueness, but words are but mere shadow to the experience, and the whole thing is completely subjective.


Where would one get DMT?  A "friend" of mine was wondering.

That's because you don't have kids.  No joke. Kids are great, or so I'm repeatedly told, but they put a strain on marriage, as if marriage wasn't hard enough as it is.
I don't doubt it.  Marriage is simply a made up thing that is a financial agreement documented by the government.  People like to place worth in it, but in the end...it's all it is.
Nothing more romantic than involving the government in yet another part of your life.

This isn't against you personally, just marriage in general.  Utterly pointless.

Most people are taught religion, marriage, kids from birth...they usually do well and comply.  Good boy. ;)
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Automation on November 25, 2014, 10:21:00 AM
I made my own. Just felt like the right thing to do. If i'm going to have one of the most radical experiences known to human kind, I want to be intimately invoved in the preperation.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: BigRo on November 25, 2014, 10:31:59 AM
take quite a bit of skill and patience I would say
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Automation on November 25, 2014, 10:34:44 AM
take quite a bit of skill and patience I would say

Witnessing the true nature of reality makes it all worth it...
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Mr.Mojo on November 25, 2014, 10:41:58 AM
You guys enjoy your career and life?

As im approaching my early thirties and making decent dough, and my wife makes good money too. We have no kids, lots and lots of free time, dont work very hard, etc. im starting to feel unfulfilled, like my life is just a selfish, vain, existence.

I watched a documentary about park rangers in africa putting their life on the line every fucking day to protect mountain gorillas and their habitat from warlords and poachers using hand me down Aks and 40 year old RPGs, barely making a living wage, and these guys would glady die to save a gorilla. It really made me think about how lame my life is and how I have nothing to live for except paying a mortage on a house and making my boss happy. It just seems so ridiculous when you put modern day american life into perspective.

This probably came off like A Howard thread, but im honestly mentally struggling with this. Is my goal to make money and just "live"....? Thats what it feels like. I have nothing to die for, no struggles, no hardship. Maybe im feeling guilty, I dont know


Looks like you hitted the jackpot...but sooner or later most people keep thinking about the purpose of their life.
I guess I can`t give you a satisfying answer, maybe you should go for some professionals who concentrate on this kind of questions.

Here is a start :

http://markmanson.net/life-purpose
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: kh300 on November 25, 2014, 11:14:55 AM
I recently sold my Jeep. Guy comes to look at it in a brand new Chevy truck, I'm thinking, why the fuck would this guy want an old jeep for when he's driving a 50k truck. Some kid pops out and looks at the Jeep. He said he's been saving up and always wanted one and this was his first car. I was impressed that dad had a lot of money but he put his 17 yr old in charge of making his own decision on what to buy, and making him save his money and not spoil him by buying him a new car. Dad just stayed in the truck the whole time. Kid says he wants it and offered me $200 less then I was asking($3,000).

He comes back later that day with the money. I asked him if he was going to take care of it. He said ya. I'm going to save more and buy new rims and wheels and put in a lift. I took $500 from him and said put all that extra money and buy your stuff. Kid almost shit himself.

The kid needed the money a whole lot more then I do.

Everyday you can live with a purpose.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: disco_stu on November 25, 2014, 11:31:36 AM
You guys enjoy your career and life?

As im approaching my early thirties and making decent dough, and my wife makes good money too. We have no kids, lots and lots of free time, dont work very hard, etc. im starting to feel unfulfilled, like my life is just a selfish, vain, existence.

I watched a documentary about park rangers in africa putting their life on the line every fucking day to protect mountain gorillas and their habitat from warlords and poachers using hand me down Aks and 40 year old RPGs, barely making a living wage, and these guys would glady die to save a gorilla. It really made me think about how lame my life is and how I have nothing to live for except paying a mortage on a house and making my boss happy. It just seems so ridiculous when you put modern day american life into perspective.

This probably came off like A Howard thread, but im honestly mentally struggling with this. Is my goal to make money and just "live"....? Thats what it feels like. I have nothing to die for, no struggles, no hardship. Maybe im feeling guilty, I dont know


john lennon said that his 2nd grade teacher asked him what he wanted to be when he grew up. he said "happy". she said that he didnt understand the assignment. he said that she didnt understand life.

that pretty much sums it up. im 42 and assure you that work and means and career is not happiness. you are at a crossroads that alot- most- people reach at some point if they are self aware.

part of the secret is to enjoy the ride and not focus on the destination.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: disco_stu on November 25, 2014, 11:33:46 AM
I recently sold my Jeep. Guy comes to look at it in a brand new Chevy truck, I'm thinking, why the fuck would this guy want an old jeep for when he's driving a 50k truck. Some kid pops out and looks at the Jeep. He said he's been saving up and always wanted one and this was his first car. I was impressed that dad had a lot of money but he put his 17 yr old in charge of making his own decision on what to buy, and making him save his money and not spoil him by buying him a new car. Dad just stayed in the truck the whole time. Kid says he wants it and offered me $200 less then I was asking($3,000).

He comes back later that day with the money. I asked him if he was going to take care of it. He said ya. I'm going to save more and buy new rims and wheels and put in a lift. I took $500 from him and said put all that extra money and buy your stuff. Kid almost shit himself.

The kid needed the money a whole lot more then I do.

Everyday you can live with a purpose.

love it!. good job bro!. ive done some similar things like this, but yours was a huge gesture. i agree- make sure that they are putting in the effort first, then surprise them with the reward.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Parker on November 25, 2014, 11:36:01 AM
I recently sold my Jeep. Guy comes to look at it in a brand new Chevy truck, I'm thinking, why the fuck would this guy want an old jeep for when he's driving a 50k truck. Some kid pops out and looks at the Jeep. He said he's been saving up and always wanted one and this was his first car. I was impressed that dad had a lot of money but he put his 17 yr old in charge of making his own decision on what to buy, and making him save his money and not spoil him by buying him a new car. Dad just stayed in the truck the whole time. Kid says he wants it and offered me $200 less then I was asking($3,000).

He comes back later that day with the money. I asked him if he was going to take care of it. He said ya. I'm going to save more and buy new rims and wheels and put in a lift. I took $500 from him and said put all that extra money and buy your stuff. Kid almost shit himself.

The kid needed the money a whole lot more then I do.

Everyday you can live with a purpose.
Good deal.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: FitnessFrenzy on November 25, 2014, 11:41:02 AM
I recently sold my Jeep. Guy comes to look at it in a brand new Chevy truck, I'm thinking, why the fuck would this guy want an old jeep for when he's driving a 50k truck. Some kid pops out and looks at the Jeep. He said he's been saving up and always wanted one and this was his first car. I was impressed that dad had a lot of money but he put his 17 yr old in charge of making his own decision on what to buy, and making him save his money and not spoil him by buying him a new car. Dad just stayed in the truck the whole time. Kid says he wants it and offered me $200 less then I was asking($3,000).

He comes back later that day with the money. I asked him if he was going to take care of it. He said ya. I'm going to save more and buy new rims and wheels and put in a lift. I took $500 from him and said put all that extra money and buy your stuff. Kid almost shit himself.

The kid needed the money a whole lot more then I do.

Everyday you can live with a purpose.

that was a nice gesture you showed him there.  :)
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: loco on November 25, 2014, 12:54:57 PM
I don't doubt it.  Marriage is simply a made up thing that is a financial agreement documented by the government.  People like to place worth in it, but in the end...it's all it is.
Nothing more romantic than involving the government in yet another part of your life.

This isn't against you personally, just marriage in general.  Utterly pointless.

Most people are taught religion, marriage, kids from birth...they usually do well and comply.  Good boy. ;)

Dude, what does that have to do with what I posted?  I posted simply that the reason marriage is easy for him is probably because he doesn't have kids.  I never said marriage was good/bad, worthwhile/pointless, etc.    :)
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: BigNJ on November 25, 2014, 02:13:10 PM
Fucked if you do and fucked if you don't.

Guy complaining that he's living a decent life without working much.. Go figure.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: thebrink on November 25, 2014, 02:47:32 PM
If I don't have kids(which may be a good idea ;D), I'm hoping to be dedicating time for helping autistic people.

don't waste your time they can't be helped.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Papper on November 25, 2014, 03:19:30 PM
I once gave a schmoe back his money and said you need this more than me. He was autistic too.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: kh300 on November 25, 2014, 03:26:32 PM
love it!. good job bro!. ive done some similar things like this, but yours was a huge gesture. i agree- make sure that they are putting in the effort first, then surprise them with the reward.

Thanks guys. His dad texted me the next day to thank me. He told me he owns a construction company and if I need anything let him know. I told him that I've been wanting an addition to my garage so I can have a separate area for my motorcycles. He said he'd do it at cost. The laws of attraction my friends, look it up!

That good gesture is going to save me thousands. He came back over yesterday to draw the plans.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Thong Maniac on November 25, 2014, 04:56:44 PM
Thanks guys. His dad texted me the next day to thank me. He told me he owns a construction company and if I need anything let him know. I told him that I've been wanting an addition to my garage so I can have a separate area for my motorcycles. He said he'd do it at cost. The laws of attraction my friends, look it up!

That good gesture is going to save me thousands. He came back over yesterday to draw the plans.

He probably regrets offering that now, lol

He was hoping you would just say thanks.

I think there was a seinfield episode about that ive seen
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: gettingbetter on November 26, 2014, 06:18:56 AM
You guys enjoy your career and life?

As im approaching my early thirties and making decent dough, and my wife makes good money too. We have no kids, lots and lots of free time, dont work very hard, etc. im starting to feel unfulfilled, like my life is just a selfish, vain, existence.

I watched a documentary about park rangers in africa putting their life on the line every fucking day to protect mountain gorillas and their habitat from warlords and poachers using hand me down Aks and 40 year old RPGs, barely making a living wage, and these guys would glady die to save a gorilla. It really made me think about how lame my life is and how I have nothing to live for except paying a mortage on a house and making my boss happy. It just seems so ridiculous when you put modern day american life into perspective.

This probably came off like A Howard thread, but im honestly mentally struggling with this. Is my goal to make money and just "live"....? Thats what it feels like. I have nothing to die for, no struggles, no hardship. Maybe im feeling guilty, I dont know



I can relate to that. I think unless you have a sense of purpose in your life and find a cause greater than yourself to give your time and energy to, you cannot be fulfilled. Giving a bit of your time to add value to the world without having anything in return is the most satisfying thing you can do by a mile, no matter how sucessful you are.

The ancient stoics had it right: live life trying to attain virtue (excellence) while being helpful to the greater good is happiness.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: BigCyp on November 26, 2014, 06:22:52 AM
There is a contentment, that I don't feel from anything other than helping others. Even sex doesn't compare in terms of feeling satisfied.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Tapeworm on November 26, 2014, 07:21:46 AM
I always pull over for a lost dog, appointments be damned.  Had a staffie in the back of the van today and he didn't even mind when I checked his collar for contact info, which was fortunate.  When those things are panting they're 1/3 mouth, 1/3 teeth, 1/3 oxygen hungry muscle.

Humans in the road are fair game tho so consider yourself warned.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: gracie bjj on November 26, 2014, 07:27:12 AM
I always pull over for a lost dog, appointments be damned.  Had a staffie in the back of the van today and he didn't even mind when I checked his collar for contact info, which was fortunate.  When those things are panting they're 1/3 mouth, 1/3 teeth, 1/3 oxygen hungry muscle.

Humans in the road are fair game tho so consider yourself warned.

lol,i always help dogs on the highway or street, one day some guy almost got ran over walking on highway, and my wife said r u gonna help him,i said no way,fuck em.my wife said u help dogs but not people on the road and i said yes and she said i was a sicko :D
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: SaintAnger on November 26, 2014, 07:55:37 AM
Find your passion, and make a small business out of it.  Such a task isn't so much about the money, especially when you already have a good paying full time job, like you already have.  Instead, it's about the pursuit.  Pursuit for beating your competition, working with your competition, generating money, or other bench marks.  It can be tons of fun.

Best of all, if you are successful, is you can quit your boring ass office job, and do this full time.  Worked for me!

Good luck!
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: Tapeworm on November 26, 2014, 08:07:52 AM
lol,i always help dogs on the highway or street, one day some guy almost got ran over walking on highway, and my wife said r u gonna help him,i said no way,fuck em.my wife said u help dogs but not people on the road and i said yes and she said i was a sicko :D

Yes.  They get the old "HEY!  'FUCK'S YOUR PROBLEM, BUDDY?!"

I'd never speak to a dog like that.
Title: Re: Selfish Life?
Post by: pluck on November 26, 2014, 09:02:34 AM
Was it easy to change careers? If you dont have experience in said field, i can imagine its tough to switch. More money, or less? More stress or less?

I had zero experience in my new field. I knew people who were in it and I made up my mind after asking them a million questions. Less money up front, more money on the back end.

It's a different kind of stress. Here's the thing about stress. It's a part of life, there is no such thing as no stress. Everyone is stressed about something, although to varying degrees. The key thing about stress is knowing exactly where it comes from (coworkers, friends, money, bills..etc) and being able to control it. You have to be very honest with yourself. MOST of the time you can greatly reduce stress if you are honest with yourself. If there's a dickhead coworker, man up and tell them to STFU. If it's money...be honest with yourself if you're overextending yourself with expenses or you're too lazy to work more to make ends meet...etc etc

The thing about changing careers is this. Motivation. How motivated are you to make a change that in the long term you know deep down will pay off.