Selfish Life?

[Thong Maniac]

You guys enjoy your career and life?

As im approaching my early thirties and making decent dough, and my wife makes good money too. We have no kids, lots and lots of free time, dont work very hard, etc. im starting to feel unfulfilled, like my life is just a selfish, vain, existence.

I watched a documentary about park rangers in africa putting their life on the line every fucking day to protect mountain gorillas and their habitat from warlords and poachers using hand me down Aks and 40 year old RPGs, barely making a living wage, and these guys would glady die to save a gorilla. It really made me think about how lame my life is and how I have nothing to live for except paying a mortage on a house and making my boss happy. It just seems so ridiculous when you put modern day american life into perspective.

This probably came off like A Howard thread, but im honestly mentally struggling with this. Is my goal to make money and just "live"....? Thats what it feels like. I have nothing to die for, no struggles, no hardship. Maybe im feeling guilty, I dont know

[gracie bjj]

i try to give alittle money to st judes cancer research cause it makes me feel good,also i help the animal rescue force in my town cause i know they r legit and use the money to help the animals.im far from rich but i own a house and do ok i guess,im happy but i still feel empty in some ways also. u got to be careful tho some of those places r scam artist, anyway man u sound like a good dude and seems like u r soul searching a bit and thats good,u will find what u need to fulfill your life one of these days as long as u keep looking

[BayGBM]

"If a man has not found something worth dying for, he is not fit to live."

                                                       --Martin Luther King Jr.


Seriously, what  you describe is not "modern day American life" it is your life.  So, what are you going to do about it?  Relatively speaking you are obviously blessed.  Why don't you give something back to a cause or to your community?  Volunteer your time and energy to something meaningful.  Work harder to make more money and give to a few worthwhile charities.  Make a career change and do work that has real purpose...  Right now you have no purpose.  Perhaps that is why you are feeling empty and selfish... because you are. 

[Thong Maniac]

i try to give alittle money to st judes cancer research cause it makes me feel good,also i help the animal rescue force in my town cause i know they r legit and use the money to help the animals.im far from rich but i own a house and do ok i guess,im happy but i still feel empty in some ways also. u got to be careful tho some of those places r scam artist, anyway man u sound like a good dude and seems like u r soul searching a bit and thats good,u will find what u need to fulfill your life one of these days as long as u keep looking

Thanks bro, we do help the local humane society with time and money when we can, but I just feel like its still not enough. I feel like I look out for people around me and step in when someone is not being treated respectfully but thats about the extent of it. Just feel like I need a purpose

[MORTALCOIL]

I watched a documentary about park rangers in africa putting their life on the line every fucking day to protect mountain gorillas and their habitat from warlords and poachers using hand me down Aks and 40 year old RPGs, barely making a living wage, and these guys would glady die to save a gorilla. It really made me think about how lame my life is and how I have nothing to live for except paying a mortage on a house and making my boss happy. It just seems so ridiculous when you put modern day american life into perspective.

Sounds like you should become Kai Green's bodyguard.

[MikMaq]

If I don't have kids(which may be a good idea ), I'm hoping to be dedicating time for helping autistic people.

[Grape Ape]

Are you abandoning your wife to go fight for gorillas or not?

[Thong Maniac]

Are you abandoning your wife to go fight for gorillas or not?

Not gonna lie and say i have not fantasized about that ha

[Tapeworm]

Join the crustacean nation.  Never mind the bollocks, cozy up with some molluscs.  If the missus fizzes, hoist her an oyster.  It'll make her moister.  O it's the shellfish life fer me.

Sounds like you need more time to do things that you like and find rewarding instead running down an infinite series of obligations.  Or maybe I'm just projecting.

[Automation]

Smoke some DMT and you will find the answer....

[_aj_]

Volunteer at the local animal shelter. It's one of the most rewarding things in the world.

[gracie bjj]

If I don't have kids(which may be a good idea ), I'm hoping to be dedicating time for helping autistic people.

helping autistic kids is really cool,my son has autism so i can really appreciate guys like u helping out

[Thong Maniac]

Volunteer at the local animal shelter. It's one of the most rewarding things in the world.

I do

[da_vinci]

You just probably have small imagination..

[BayGBM]

Thong Maniac, ever since I've known you, you've been searching for a life greater than that of an ordinary bodybuilder. A life of significance. Of conscience...  Use my knowledge.  I beg you.  I know what's been troubling you... listen to me...

[gracie bjj]

Volunteer at the local animal shelter. It's one of the most rewarding things in the world.

i do that sometimes also, many many years ago when i was getting tons of overtime at my job i used to drop a hundred dollar bill in the can when i seen them at the FLEA MARKET in ENGLISHTOWN,NEW JERSEY.funny story,i dropped a 100$ bill in the jar back then and started walking away and next thing i knew some chubby lady was chasing me down saying excuse me sir,u musta thought this was a dollar bill by mistake,i said no i didnt,she said well thank u very very much sir we appreciate this very much. the next week i adopted 2 dogs from there and me and the ANIMAL RESCUE FORCE has had a great relationship for over 20yrs now.when i go to adopt a dog for me or a family member now they dont even interview me or make me fill out any paper work cause they trust me very much and know the dogs r gonna be taken care of very very well

[Thong Maniac]

Thong Maniac, ever since I've known you, you've been searching for a life greater than that of an ordinary bodybuilder. A life of significance. Of conscience...  Use my knowledge.  I beg you.  I know what's been troubling you... listen to me...

Thanks Bay, i am going to make changes man. I will let you know.

[Parker]

You guys enjoy your career and life?

As im approaching my early thirties and making decent dough, and my wife makes good money too. We have no kids, lots and lots of free time, dont work very hard, etc. im starting to feel unfulfilled, like my life is just a selfish, vain, existence.

I watched a documentary about park rangers in africa putting their life on the line every fucking day to protect mountain gorillas and their habitat from warlords and poachers using hand me down Aks and 40 year old RPGs, barely making a living wage, and these guys would glady die to save a gorilla. It really made me think about how lame my life is and how I have nothing to live for except paying a mortage on a house and making my boss happy. It just seems so ridiculous when you put modern day american life into perspective.

This probably came off like A Howard thread, but im honestly mentally struggling with this. Is my goal to make money and just "live"....? Thats what it feels like. I have nothing to die for, no struggles, no hardship. Maybe im feeling guilty, I dont know

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I just gave you an idea.

[Grape Ape]

Just stare at automation's avatar for an hour.  Things should be more clear after that.

[hrspwr1]

 Just find a way to help your community. Volunteer at the animal shelter, join the volunteer fire department, get involved with CERT, become a big brother etc..

[gracie bjj]

Just find a way to help your community. Volunteer at the animal shelter, join the volunteer fire department, get involved with CERT, become a big brother etc..

i agree,nothing makes a person feel better than helping out someone whether it be a dog or a person, trust me man it makes a difference

[Tapeworm]

Run guns to Ethiopia.  Fight in Spain on the Loyalist's side.

[MikMaq]

helping autistic kids is really cool,my son has autism so i can really appreciate guys like u helping out

nah seriously, I'm really interested in reducing barriers to people on the spectrum getting employment.


Computers and globalization, have pretty much created a open door full of potential. It's just figuring out how to harness it all.

[K-1]

You guys enjoy your career and life?

As im approaching my early thirties and making decent dough, and my wife makes good money too. We have no kids, lots and lots of free time, dont work very hard, etc. im starting to feel unfulfilled, like my life is just a selfish, vain, existence.

I watched a documentary about park rangers in africa putting their life on the line every fucking day to protect mountain gorillas and their habitat from warlords and poachers using hand me down Aks and 40 year old RPGs, barely making a living wage, and these guys would glady die to save a gorilla. It really made me think about how lame my life is and how I have nothing to live for except paying a mortage on a house and making my boss happy. It just seems so ridiculous when you put modern day american life into perspective.

This probably came off like A Howard thread, but im honestly mentally struggling with this. Is my goal to make money and just "live"....? Thats what it feels like. I have nothing to die for, no struggles, no hardship. Maybe im feeling guilty, I dont know

Sit down and write a minimum 100 things YOU want to accomplish/achieve/attain (tell your wife to do the same). Think and dream big when you make this list also.

You might find yourself writing things down like "pay off all debt" "earn a million dollar yr salary"..etc these are fine...the point of this list is to get you thinking again about all that's out there to achieve in the little amount of borrowed time you have here....you are just in a rut right now tbh and need to explore outside of your norm. You and your wife can tackle your lists together as a team also.

As you go through the 100 things you achieve, celebrate them. Have a cigar or something. You'll notice some of the things you put on that list will just fall in your lap simply because you are in action. Make sure you celebrate that achievement. They'll just start to happen. Trust me. I have a list of 250 things and I cannot believe I achieved them yet I feel like I did very little to nothing to achieve it lol.

Your goal isn't to make money and live. Your main goal is to live , enjoy and celebrate your life and accomplishments, share and encourage others to do the same..etc ....making money along the way is the bonus that will come along with getting things in gear and remaining positive about things.

some of the regrets of the dying are usually: (make it a conscious daily effort to not be on this list)

- I wish I had lived my own life rather than how society taught me to live.
- I wish I had traveled/explored more.
- I wish I had kept in touch with my family/friends.
- I wish I hadn’t spent so much time working.
- I should’ve taken better care of myself.
- I should’ve told the people that I loved how much I truly loved them.
- I wish I discovered my purpose earlier.
- I wish I had touched more lives and inspired more people.

Think big. There are some things you've always wanted to do, have..etc. List em. Go after them. Don't get dead then start thinking about the list. lol

[Irongrip400]

Push those feelings aside and use it as a driving force to make more money. It's the only way to true happiness.