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Title: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 09:29:08 AM
When I was at my old job, about 2 years ago, some people at work friend requested me on FB. So, I obliged. After a while, I just started to delete people from my friends list. This included defriending people from my FB who I previously worked with (I was trying to cut back on the time I spend on FB). So, I defriended a woman from my old job. There was never nothing between us. I'd never date a current or former colleague anyway. Anyway, she found out I defriended her and wrote me. The following conversation:

Her: Why did you defriend me?
Her: I see you're reading my facebook messages and not responding.
Her: Why did you defriend me?
Me: Sorry, I am just getting a chance to respond now. Don't take it personally, but I am trying to cut down how much time I spend on FB, and have deleted a bunch of people. My plan was to leave on a few close relatives and that's it.
Her: But the point of facebook is to stay connected to all sorts of people, not just those who are your close friend.
Me: Hmmm, yeah, I guess you can say that is true. But I really prefer to do it like this.
Her: How will you stay in touch with people over time?
Me: There are many ways. It does not always have to be facebook.
Her: What other ways are there?
Me: You can always text or email me.
Her: I only text and email close friends or family.
Me: So, why do you care if I defriended you from facebook, if I am not a close friend or family? It doesn't seem worth it to get mad over.
Her: Because I like reading people's updates to see how they are doing and chatting through FB.
Me: Okay, but I am sorry that you feel that way.
Me: Anyway, how did you find out I defriended you?
Her: I have an app.
Me: And what does that app do?
Her: It tells me when someone has defriended me.
Me: Wow, that's very.............strange .
Her: No, not really. I like to know who my FB friends are.
Me: Okay, well, I guess I could add you back.
Her: Thank you.

So, about 2-3 months pass by. I talk to her here and there. Nothing special. Thinking back, I was pissed for adding her back. So, I decided to tell her that I was going to deactivate and/or delete my facebook (even though I wasn't). However, I just defriended her. Guess what happened?  :-\

Her: I saw that you defriended me. Why did you defriend me again?
Me: I should have never added you back in the first place.
Her: I don't understand what is the big deal.
Me: There is no big deal. As I told you, I was just removing all sorts of people I rarely talk to, and just keeping family on.
Her: You said you were going to delete your whole FB, but you just removed me.
ME: Yes, I did. I am not too sure what you want to hear.
Her: Nothing, I just think you should leave me on.
Me: Um, okay.

I never added her back.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: ritch on February 01, 2015, 09:33:45 AM
I've sliced off a couple here and there as well. People who never respond to your shit then are all upset when they can no longer see it, lol...

Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 09:35:47 AM
I've sliced off a couple here and there as well. People who never respond to your shit then are all upset when they can no longer see it, lol...



Not to mention that besides FB, we never ever contacted each other any other way. She was acting like she was my best friend and I deleted her.  :-\ :-\
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: ritch on February 01, 2015, 09:38:51 AM
Not to mention that besides FB, we never ever contacted each other any other way. She was acting like she was my best friend and I deleted her.  :-\ :-\

You should invite her to getbig!!!
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: TheShape. on February 01, 2015, 09:39:06 AM
You should just get rid of your facebook, you won't miss it trust me.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 09:41:02 AM
You should invite her to getbig!!!

lol. I think she is far too sensitive for getbig!!
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: FermiDirac on February 01, 2015, 09:41:33 AM
The lordy knows I hate facebook "friends". They're all chatty and social while behind a screen, but meet them in person and they are socially inept and awkward. This world surely needs to wake up.   :-\
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 09:42:32 AM
You should just get rid of your facebook, you won't miss it trust me.

I have contemplated that. A few of my very close friends recently just had babies, so they post pics up and stuff. Its nice to see that stuff. Maybe create a FB page with just a very limited amount of people.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: Hulkotron on February 01, 2015, 09:43:34 AM
I just do the "unfollow" thing instead. 
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: Grape Ape on February 01, 2015, 09:47:27 AM
I never added her back.

Your loss.

Now you'll never know what she had for dinner, if she had a good time in the snow with her kids, and what she may find offensive.....not to mention the slew of links to wacky videos you'll miss.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: bigmc on February 01, 2015, 09:49:35 AM
this should have gone like this

her why did you defriend me

you fuck off

simples
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 09:50:03 AM
I just do the "unfollow" thing instead. 

I do that sometimes, but there are people I just dont want on my friends list, for whatever reason.

FB is serious business!!  :D :D
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 09:51:59 AM
Your loss.

Now you'll never know what she had for dinner, if she had a good time in the snow with her kids, and what she may find offensive.....not to mention the slew of links to wacky videos you'll miss.

haha, yes!! I love when people post what they had for lunch or dinner. Those are the best.  ::) ::)
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: BB on February 01, 2015, 09:52:47 AM
I don't add many people, mostly just close friends, but I do have a few friends of friends that I added because they asked. I usually don't defriend them, but I unfollow, and add them to the acquaintance tab, and add my close friends to the close friends tab. It's cut down on the horseshit on my timeline, but it allows me to check in, if I'm curious.

www.facebook.com/help/335291769884272/ .
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 09:53:05 AM
this should have gone like this

her why did you defriend me

you fuck off

simples

Well, we work in the same exact field and know mutual people. Plus, I will most likely see her at some point in the future (conferences, seminars, etc.). So, I didn't want to be too harsh, ya know.

I just don't know why she got so upset.  :-\ :-\
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: DroppingPlates on February 01, 2015, 09:53:31 AM
She's a pretty sad case. I wonder if she has true friends...
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 09:57:42 AM
I don't add many people, mostly just close friends, but I do have a few friends of friends that I added because they asked. I usually don't defriend them, but I unfollow, and add them to the acquaintance tab, and add my close friends to the close friends tab. It's cut down on the horseshit on my timeline, but it allows me to check in, if I'm curious.

www.facebook.com/help/335291769884272/ .

I feel you, but why should we beat around the bush to appease people. If we want to defriend them, we should!! We should not worry about people getting upset.

We need to unite under a common cause of defriending!! Will you stand with me?!?!  :D :D
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 09:58:45 AM
She's a pretty sad case. I wonder if she has true friends...

Yeah, she definitely does. I have seen photos of her and friends.

People take facebook really seriously these days!
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: FermiDirac on February 01, 2015, 10:01:36 AM
Do a call out like this and she won't recover ;D

Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: Walter Sobchak on February 01, 2015, 10:07:20 AM
God God man, grow a set of balls!
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 10:08:02 AM
God God man, grow a set of balls!

Thanks, Walt!
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: DroppingPlates on February 01, 2015, 10:09:58 AM
Yeah, she definitely does. I have seen photos of her and friends.

People take facebook really seriously these days!

Facebook is a disease, I hope they end like Myspace..
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 10:11:27 AM
Facebook is a disease, I hope they end like Myspace..

Even if FB ended, something else would replace it. You had livejournal, myspace, now FB. Some other social media site would replace it if FB ever took a nose dive.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: Walter Sobchak on February 01, 2015, 10:12:31 AM
Thanks, Walt!

Dude, it's your FB page, why let some passive-aggressive housewife you will never prone bone tell you what to do?

Just because she asked a question does not obligate you to responding!
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: BB on February 01, 2015, 10:13:35 AM
I feel you, but why should we beat around the bush to appease people. If we want to defriend them, we should!! We should not worry about people getting upset.


Aw, I still feel bad. An unfriending is a the 21st century affirmation that they suck, are a bore, etc.... to some people, And then if you know the same people, what a hassle. It is funny that she sent that long message though.

Do a call out like this and she won't recover ;D


We need a Cswol emoticon -

(http://scontent-b.cdninstagram.com/hphotos-xaf1/t51.2885-15/e15/10950508_1551007701821960_1592424591_n.jpg).
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 10:14:28 AM
Dude, it's your FB page, why let some passive-aggressive housewife you will never prone bone tell you what to do?

Just because she asked a question does not obligate you to responding!

Well, as stated, she is a colleague in my field, and we know similar people. If it was a "random" woman, different story. Telling her to "fuck off" or the like would not have been the smartest move.

And I did not add her back this time, even after she messaged me.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: Walter Sobchak on February 01, 2015, 10:16:28 AM
Well, as stated, she is a colleague in my field, and we know similar people. If it was a "random" woman, different story. Telling her to "fuck off" or the like would not have been the smartest move.

And I did not add her back this time, even after she messaged me.

Why tell her anything?

 Defriend her, get the fuck off FB, stop acting like a whiny homo, go out and enjoy life.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 10:16:44 AM
Aw, I still feel bad. An unfriending is a the 21st century affirmation that they suck, are a bore, etc.... to some people, And then if you know the same people, what a hassle. It is funny that she sent that long message though.

We need a Cswol emoticon -

(http://scontent-b.cdninstagram.com/hphotos-xaf1/t51.2885-15/e15/10950508_1551007701821960_1592424591_n.jpg).

Yes, defriending someone in the 21st century is equivalent to breaking off a friendship lol.

I thought it was strange that she has an app that tells her who defriends her.  :o :o

CSWOL would not have put up with anything!! CSWOL been SWOLE!
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 10:18:50 AM
Why tell her anything?

 Defriend her, get the fuck off FB, stop acting like a whiny homo, go out and enjoy life.

I did defriend her and she messaged me and I just ignored her.

I actually thought it was kind of funny to engage her. But I have not this time.

I do go out and enjoy life. As stated, I keep a select few people on, like family who live far away or close friends. Some of my close friends just had babies and post pics and they are nice to see. There is nothing more or less to it.

Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: Walter Sobchak on February 01, 2015, 10:25:02 AM
I did defriend her and she messaged me and I just ignored her.

I actually thought it was kind of funny to engage her. But I have not this time.

I do go out and enjoy life. As stated, I keep a select few people on, like family who live far away or close friends. Some of my close friends just had babies and post pics and they are nice to see. There is nothing more or less to it.


A little Getbig advice.

If you're more than 15 years old and you're on Facebook, you're probably gay
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 10:26:39 AM
A little Getbig advice.

If you're more than 15 years old and you're on Facebook, you're probably gay

Thanks for the advice, Walt!
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: Walter Sobchak on February 01, 2015, 10:39:45 AM
Thanks for the advice, Walt!

No problem, hit me up on FB anytime you need a helping hand!

No homo.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: _bruce_ on February 01, 2015, 10:43:30 AM
Only person from getbig I wanted to befriend on fartbook was Josh and he ignored me...
still haven't recovered  :'(
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 10:52:39 AM
No problem, hit me up on FB anytime you need a helping hand!

No homo.

LMAO!!  ;D ;D
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: Quickerblade on February 01, 2015, 12:15:01 PM
She sounds fat.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: Julio Ceasar on February 01, 2015, 12:39:10 PM
retard conversation, was she human or a female computer boot? Dosent really matter, all humans are organic robots anyway...somemore advanced, some more basic!
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: DroppingPlates on February 01, 2015, 12:42:18 PM
Maybe you can post a picture? This could help to solve this matter.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: Kwon_2 on February 01, 2015, 12:47:28 PM
retard conversation, was she human or a female computer boot? Dosent really matter, all humans are organic robots anyway...somemore advanced, some more basic!

She was a computer boot Julio.

(http://cdn1.sarenza.net/static/_img/productsV4/0000008652/HD_0000008652_107886_09.jpg?201308241948)
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 12:49:39 PM
She sounds fat.

Actually, not at all.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 12:51:23 PM
retard conversation, was she human or a female computer boot? Dosent really matter, all humans are organic robots anyway...somemore advanced, some more basic!

Thank you for the input. You speak words of wisdom!

I didn't even want to have the conversation. I just defriended her. She is the one who contacted me. I am not too sure why I obliged her.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: DroppingPlates on February 01, 2015, 01:22:47 PM
Actually, not at all.

There must be something very wrong with her, physically and/or mentally..
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: Walter Sobchak on February 01, 2015, 01:33:15 PM
LMAO!!  ;D ;D

Well, at least one person got it.    ;D
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: The Grim Lifter on February 01, 2015, 01:59:13 PM
I use a Facebook account for business and it gets me a lot of business.

On my personal one i just troll news websites trying to get top comment with a typical getbigger comment  ;D
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: BigRo on February 01, 2015, 02:35:59 PM
A little Getbig advice.

If you're more than 15 years old and you're on Facebook, you're probably gay

get big is social media too so what the difference.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: Thong Maniac on February 01, 2015, 02:47:38 PM
When I was at my old job, about 2 years ago, some people at work friend requested me on FB. So, I obliged. After a while, I just started to delete people from my friends list. This included defriending people from my FB who I previously worked with (I was trying to cut back on the time I spend on FB). So, I defriended a woman from my old job. There was never nothing between us. I'd never date a current or former colleague anyway. Anyway, she found out I defriended her and wrote me. The following conversation:

Her: Why did you defriend me?
Her: I see you're reading my facebook messages and not responding.
Her: Why did you defriend me?
Me: Sorry, I am just getting a chance to respond now. Don't take it personally, but I am trying to cut down how much time I spend on FB, and have deleted a bunch of people. My plan was to leave on a few close relatives and that's it.
Her: But the point of facebook is to stay connected to all sorts of people, not just those who are your close friend.
Me: Hmmm, yeah, I guess you can say that is true. But I really prefer to do it like this.
Her: How will you stay in touch with people over time?
Me: There are many ways. It does not always have to be facebook.
Her: What other ways are there?
Me: You can always text or email me.
Her: I only text and email close friends or family.
Me: So, why do you care if I defriended you from facebook, if I am not a close friend or family? It doesn't seem worth it to get mad over.
Her: Because I like reading people's updates to see how they are doing and chatting through FB.
Me: Okay, but I am sorry that you feel that way.
Me: Anyway, how did you find out I defriended you?
Her: I have an app.
Me: And what does that app do?
Her: It tells me when someone has defriended me.
Me: Wow, that's very.............strange .
Her: No, not really. I like to know who my FB friends are.
Me: Okay, well, I guess I could add you back.
Her: Thank you.

So, about 2-3 months pass by. I talk to her here and there. Nothing special. Thinking back, I was pissed for adding her back. So, I decided to tell her that I was going to deactivate and/or delete my facebook (even though I wasn't). However, I just defriended her. Guess what happened?  :-\

Her: I saw that you defriended me. Why did you defriend me again?
Me: I should have never added you back in the first place.
Her: I don't understand what is the big deal.
Me: There is no big deal. As I told you, I was just removing all sorts of people I rarely talk to, and just keeping family on.
Her: You said you were going to delete your whole FB, but you just removed me.
ME: Yes, I did. I am not too sure what you want to hear.
Her: Nothing, I just think you should leave me on.
Me: Um, okay.

I never added her back.

Lol..you have a facebook account? I got rid of mine when i hit 25 or so.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: BigRo on February 01, 2015, 02:49:35 PM
hiding behind a get big profile is so much more mature after all  ::)
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: ritch on February 01, 2015, 02:52:40 PM
get big is social media too so what the difference.

Not sure if they're trolling, trying to sound cool of whatnot... Either way, whatever...
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: Walter Sobchak on February 01, 2015, 02:56:31 PM
get big is social media too so what the difference.

No, just because some posters treat Getbig like Facebook, doesn't make it social media.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 02:58:10 PM
Lol..you have a facebook account? I got rid of mine when i hit 25 or so.

Thanks for contributing to my thread, broskie.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: BigRo on February 01, 2015, 03:05:52 PM
No, just because some posters treat Getbig like Facebook, doesn't make it social media.

people can still spy on you, dig up personal info, most here enjoy the banter and hearing new stories, seems like social media to me.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: DroppingPlates on February 01, 2015, 03:20:01 PM
Thanks for contributing to my thread, broskie.

(http://tint-blog.s3.amazonaws.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/facebook-like-button.jpeg)
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: SF1900 on February 01, 2015, 03:20:30 PM
(http://tint-blog.s3.amazonaws.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/facebook-like-button.jpeg)

LMAO!!!  ;D ;D
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: pedro01 on February 01, 2015, 03:52:35 PM
Quote
Her: I have an app.
Me: And what does that app do?
Her: It tells me when someone has defriended me.

That's some insecure shit right there.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: DroppingPlates on February 01, 2015, 04:07:43 PM
That's some insecure shit right there.

The developer of that app needs a good punch
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: LittleJ on February 01, 2015, 05:27:05 PM
If a getbigger did me like this,  it would be very heartbreaking.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: pedro01 on February 01, 2015, 05:53:39 PM
The developer of that app needs a good punch

I dunno - smart idea selling to the insecure.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: Andy Griffin on February 01, 2015, 06:00:18 PM
There must be something very wrong with her, physically and/or mentally..

probably has a stinky pussy
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: pedro01 on February 01, 2015, 06:08:05 PM

isn't that what 90% of marketing is all about?



lol - quite possibly
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: Kwon_2 on February 01, 2015, 06:34:34 PM
No, just because some posters treat Getbig like Facebook, doesn't make it social media.

Getbig is the epitome of Social Media.
Title: Re: A CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN ABOUT FACEBOOK DEFRIENDING
Post by: Howard on February 02, 2015, 07:41:52 AM
Not to mention that besides FB, we never ever contacted each other any other way. She was acting like she was my best friend and I deleted her.  :-\ :-\

My wife has a FB account limited mostly to close friends and family but she doesn't spend much time on it.
I never had a FB account and after reading this thread, I'm not missing anything.