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Couple members talked to me about their mental health issues so I thought Id do a post on my situation and how I came to get panic and anxiety in check. I wont really comment on depression cause thats a whole other ball game in my opinion. Could be a long post.
Im bipolar with antisocial personality disorder. My meds are paxil and divalproex for 22 years, and in those 22 years Ive missed a grand total of 4 days of meds. Im religious with them. They help for sure, but the biggest thing I learned is dont count on just the pills to get panic and anxiety in check.
Got my first panic attack in 1999, infuckingsane shit, had no idea what was happening. Voices in my head telling me to kill myself, heart beating through my chest, everything spinning around me, if you have never had one you cant even comprehend how scary one of these is, especially when you dont know what they are. From August to October 1999 I had intermittent panic attacks 16 hours a day and lost 60 pounds in that time, eventually ending up in the psych ward near death for a 3 month stay. Got out of the psych ward and still had the attacks but more like one a week.
Anyways, still having them in 2005 I was getting another one in June of 2005 and just said "fuk it, if its gonna kill me let it happen, and if not lets get this attack shit over with so I can move on". That was literally the last time I ever had an out of nowhere panic attack, and to this day I believe psychologically knowing they wont kill you and really are just a shitty inconvenience is the biggest step by far. Ive had 3 attacks in the last 16 years, but I know that 2 were from being brutally sick, my immune system was in the shitter I was so sick and my body was in panic. The 1 other time was because I drank like 2 litres of coca cola on an empty stomach and duh had a massive caffeine sugar induced panic attack. I ended up in the hospital that night and the nurse asked me "did you take coke"? and I said ya lots, 2 litres at least. She laughed and I was confused. It all worked out.
I rode the anxiety train big time up until a few years ago. The biggest thing I learned about anxiety is my anxiety is directly correlated to what I eat. If I eat processed foods, especially msg or spices I will blow up with anxiety. Also, and this is huge, histamine causing and histamine containing foods will 100% bring on anxiety if you eat too much of them. Its like a barrel of histamine in your gut and when it flows over you will have brutal anxiety. I eat really plain other than my quarter pounder meal twice a week. Glutamine, sugar, caffeine and other garbage will cause anxiety. If you have anxiety look up histamine releasing foods and foods containing histamine, its a major major cause. I would estimate 95% of any anxiety I have had is food related. I also take Vitamins B,C,D, Omega 3, and a probiotic which no doubt have assisted me in not having anxiety. It all starts in the gut, no doubt about it.
I cant comment on life and personal issues causing anxiety as I have a really low stress life other than living below the poverty line, but thats minor, I make it work.
other than that, sorry for the long post. If anyone on here has any questions about this stuff ask away or pm me. I may come across as a nutjob on here, but in reality I think I have handled my mental illness pretty damn good. Even my counsellor said I was a major success story at mental health regina for where I was and where I am now
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Feel for you pal
Had some struggles myself last couple years due to having to spend 3 weeks in hospital with an operation they fucked up nearly killing me.
the following two years I spiralled out of control, depression isnt something thats easy to explain.
Im still taking Citalopram at the moment and the occasional diazipam to help me sleep.
Its always lurking around the corner though...
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I guess you are right. The only times I had panic attacks were when I smoked alot of weeds or smoked it while already worried. Then I tought I'll die or I'll go crazy because of it and the attack began. When I became used to it, I knew I was safe, that I won't die or go crazy just because I'm feeling high.
We feel anxious only because we do not accept our certain death fate. Once we accept it, do not get bothered by it, we don't have anxiety. As for depression, I think it's an anger we do not let go toward the people who are responsible for getting us angry. Internalizing emotions does bad stuffs to people.
To me, the best way to deal with mental health is to talk to people you don't know about it. Either a professional or some strange guy on omegle etc .Then just read a bunch of old psychology/psychoanalysis books and studies ( Not the shit you'll find on dailymail.co or some shady fags website) and get in touch with yourself, because the missing key to the cure is within you. A perfect understanding of oneself lead to a realm of calm and control.
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I guess you are right. The only times I had panic attacks were when I smoked alot of weeds or smoked it while already worried. Then I tought I'll die or I'll go crazy because of it and the attack began. When I became used to it, I knew I was safe, that I won't die or go crazy just because I'm feeling high.
We feel anxious only because we do not accept our certain death fate. Once we accept it, do not get bothered by it, we don't have anxiety. As for depression, I think it's an anger we do not let go toward the people who are responsible for getting us angry. Internalizing emotions does bad stuffs to people.
To me, the best way to deal with mental health is to talk to people you don't know about it. Either a professional or some strange guy on omegle etc .Then just read a bunch of old psychology/psychoanalysis books and studies ( Not the shit you'll find on dailymail.co or some shady fags website) and get in touch with yourself, because the missing key to the cure is within you. A perfect understanding of oneself lead to a realm of calm and control.
this is sooooo true. I have zero fear of death and look forward to it and you are right, it contributes massively to not having anxiety, in my opinion
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this is sooooo true. I have zero fear of death and look forward to it and you are right, it contributes massively to not having anxiety, in my opinion
agreed
I was only thinking about that about a month ago, once you realise that everything is futile and no matter what you do it will all be eventually for nothing why worry?
I am also now at the point I am losing fear of consequences, becauase I always tell the truth no matter how hard it is, and trust me it really is one of the most difficult things to do.
Whatever consequences I face for telling the truth Im ready to accept and even die for.
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agreed
I was only thinking about that about a month ago, once you realise that everything is futile and no matter what you do it will all be eventually for nothing why worry?
I am also now at the point I am losing fear of consequences, becauase I always tell the truth no matter how hard it is, and trust me it really is one of the most difficult things to do.
Whatever consequences I face for telling the truth Im ready to accept and even die for.
good for you, I always saw you as one who will stand behind what they say. I wish more people would be like that, but sadly most of society is soft
Hi to Oscar
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good for you, I always saw you as one who will stand behind what they say. I wish more people would be like that, but sadly most of society is soft
Hi to Oscar
Thats why I always fucked with Joons head, he offered me money and gear , I just refused him because I said I couldnt be bought, he couldnt grasp that because he thought everyone had a price
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I have suffered depression for many years and have had my struggles with alcohol. The only I didn't drink were some yrs that I was married n focused on competing.. when I had my kids I also stayed sober. I got divorced. Now the only time I stay sober is when they are with me. I never ever have drank around. Alcohol is a slippery slope. U drink to forget the past.. before u Know it it gets a hold on you
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agreed
I was only thinking about that about a month ago, once you realise that everything is futile and no matter what you do it will all be eventually for nothing why worry?
I am also now at the point I am losing fear of consequences, becauase I always tell the truth no matter how hard it is, and trust me it really is one of the most difficult things to do.
Whatever consequences I face for telling the truth Im ready to accept and even die for.
Difficulty and suffering in life is inevitable. At least one should find a good reason to suffer for. Morals and truth are one.
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I have suffered depression for many years and have had my struggles with alcohol. The only I didn't drink were some yrs that I was married n focused on competing.. when I had my kids I also stayed sober. I got divorced. Now the only time I stay sober is when they are with me. I never ever have drank around. Alcohol is a slippery slope. U drink to forget the past.. before u Know it it gets a hold on you
Dude if you`re still drinking,get to a meeting or a shrink or rehab if needed.
Alcohol is a depresant and will fucking kill you.
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I started having panic attacks at 18. I wish I'd known then what I know now, I was suffering needlessly and those attacks left real scars on my psyche :D I haven't had outright panic attacks in a long while but anxiety is always high and the depression is always there. But I try not to complain, just try to accept it.
I found some consolation in the aphorisms of a certain philosopher by the name of E.M Cioran. He talks about the impossibility of living and the impossibility of dying. Neither is acceptable, but somehow you go on. There is a certain consolation in horror. :D
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I started having panic attacks at 18. I wish I'd known then what I know now, I was suffering needlessly and those attacks left real scars on my psyche :D I haven't had outright panic attacks in a long while but anxiety is always high and the depression is always there. But I try not to complain, just try to accept it.
I found some consolation in the aphorisms of a certain philosopher by the name of E.M Cioran. He talks about the impossibility of living and the impossibility of dying. Neither is acceptable, but somehow you go on. There is a certain consolation in horror. :D
wowwwwwwww that quote is bang on
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Dude if you`re still drinking,get to a meeting or a shrink or rehab if needed.
Alcohol is a depresant and will fucking kill you.
I know it will..I do stay sober 5-6 days a week now. I just go way overboard that once or twice a week. It seems it's the only time that I feel happy
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I know it will..I do stay sober 5-6 days a week now. I just go way overboard that once or twice a week. It seems it's the only time that I feel happy
Been there done that for years bro....you need a rehab to get sober and meetings to stay sober.
I realize you know this but don`t put it off because it only escalates....it never gets better until we quit entirely.
I drank so much everyday that when I lived in Florida early 90`s,I had a complete mental breakdown....not a pretty sight, and I was never more scared in my life.....I was completely out of my mind.
Good luck,and don`t falter do it tomorrow.
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Been there done that for years bro....you need a rehab to get sober and meetings to stay sober.
I realize you know this but don`t put it off because it only escalates....it never gets better until we quit entirely.
I drank so much everyday that when I lived in Florida early 90`s,I had a complete mental breakdown....not a pretty sight, and I was never more scared in my life.....I was completely out of my mind.
Good luck,and don`t falter do it tomorrow.
ya cause you arent out of your mind at all today :-X :P :D
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Sincerely sorry for your troubles. My daughter just opened her Psychiatric practice. We are having Thanks giving on Friday due to conflicting work schedules. When my two daughters in the medical field get together one of the top topics for them is what medicine to prescribe for psychiatric problems. They stay right on top of the current and established research. Having a new practice she said her new patients are saying they can't get an appointment for a lengthy periods of time with psychiatrists. The clients are so appreciative she has a new practice taking new patients. So sick of doctors that give you an appointment weeks and sometimes months later.
Anyway, I pray you find peace.
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Sincerely sorry for your troubles. My daughter just opened her Psychiatric practice. We are having Thanks giving on Friday due to conflicting work schedules. When my two daughters in the medical field get together one of the top topics for them is what medicine to prescribe for psychiatric problems. They stay right on top of the current and established research. Having a new practice she said her new patients are saying they can't get an appointment for a lengthy periods of time with psychiatrists. The clients are so appreciative she has a new practice taking new patients. So sick of doctors that give you an appointment weeks and sometimes months later.
Anyway, I pray you find peace.
in Regina takes a solid year to get in to see a psychiatrist and forget about the psych ward, full all the time
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Panic attacks can come from too many grains and not enough fruit
If I eat a ton of starches and no fruit juice I believe it can deprave your blood of oxygen wich signal your brain to panic
If your drowning or being suffocated it’s the same feeling as anxiety or drowning or panic attack
I hope u take my advice because if u think u can just believe it away it won’t go away that way
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If your drowning or being suffocated it’s the same feeling as anxiety or drowning or panic attack
I think a feeling of drowning or suffocating is a good way to describe a panic attack. At least they way they felt to me. Like the terror one would feel being buried alive.
I don't know about your fruit cure though. I know fruit juices make me fat but I love them.
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had severe panic attacks years ago... found out was caused by Tren.
stopped using it... no more panic attacks
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Good post.
I struggled with severe anxiety (GAD) for most of my life until about 5 years ago. I've only had one panic attack and it's when i was in high school.
They had me on meds for 2 years and it helped some, but the best thing i did was to learn how to "let go". Of everything. It wasn't about death for me, most of it was about work and social requirements. What society thinks you should be and do. Once i learned how to manage the triggers and let go of things it all became better. But it took years.
In my 20's i worked a high stress job for a huge engineering and construction company. I was pushed to the limit every day and treated like a slave. Everyone was working 60 hours a week and treated like shit. It bothered me because i liked my job but hated the environment i was in. I wouldn't sleep at all and had severe struggles with anxiety. I'd get so anxious that i'd freeze up and couldn't function for hours. It was terrifying.
I also struggled with social anxiety my entire life and still do. Going to a psychiatrist helped, but not like people would think. What i learned is that i do have social anxiety and i'm claustrophobic, which is a bad mix. Loud crowded places drive me insane, literally. I also learned that i'm an introvert and don't like people very much. So i enjoy my time alone more than time with friends and family. Knowing this helped me realize how to control certain situations and that prevented a lot of anxiety problems.
About 5 years ago i was in a bad place, very upset at the world and hated life for the most part. I always wondered why? So i took a month of work and traveled to Alaska for 3 weeks, staying in a small town. Over this time period i basically rebuilt my mental state of mind. Read a lot of books and focused on what really matters. Which is being happy with YOURSELF.
What i learned is that nothing really matters except your friends and family. Work is not important and what society thinks of you means nothing. 99.99999% of the people you meet will never be a part of your real life, so fuck them. Do what makes you happy and stop worrying about your boss, projects, people and expectations.
I set my expectations so low for everything that i get surprised more often, things are better because the little things matter more. Work and go home on a normal schedule, it will be there tomorrow. Fuck your boss and random people's expectations. Learn to not care what people think about you and speak the truth, be honest and don't feel bad if people disagree with you.
Today my life is great, i have no worries and every single day is like vacation. I moved out of the big city because that was contributing to my anxiety. I live in the mountains and work a normal 8-5 job in engineering and development for a small company. I save money and have enough that i never worry about that either. Money can cause a lot of stress and causes people to become evil.
I do what i want and if someone has a problem with that i don't care AT ALL. It's almost funny because sometimes i'm in a stressful situation and people wonder why i'm so calm. It's because it doesn't fucking matter and will be forgotten in a few days. Just let that shit go.
Last year I was in a meeting with the owner of my company and we had just gotten fired by our biggest client because the owner was lazy and didn't respond to the client fast enough. We lost millions in future projects. Everyone at the table was red faced mad and yelling at each other, playing the blame game. I was just sitting there waiting for the meeting to be over. The owner asked me why i was so calm? I said because there is nothing we can do to change this and we should just focus on finding a new client. He was pissed! I asked him why he was mad? It was his fault we lost the contract. That didn't go over well but he respected me for it a few days later.
Fast forward 6 months and we secured a new contract with another big developer. Life was fine! We didn't even have any money problems, they just caused panic about it. Waste of time and energy. Fuck em.
So i learned this simple trick when something bothers you.
Can you do something about it RIGHT NOW? If you can, do it. If not, let it go.
Sounds too easy but it helps me stop dwelling on shit. If i can change something i do, if i can't, i just let it go and focus on something productive.
Anyway, i hope people can learn how to deal with it. I did and i'm a better person. But i don't care about most things anymore, which may create other problems down the line i think, primarily with relationship with my GF, but that's a completely different story. ;D
Also learn to meditate and study Buddhist teachings. It helps i promise.
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I think a feeling of drowning or suffocating is a good way to describe a panic attack. At least they way they felt to me. Like the terror one would feel being buried alive.
I don't know about your fruit cure though. I know fruit juices make me fat but I love them.
finally student listens to master
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agreed
I was only thinking about that about a month ago, once you realise that everything is futile and no matter what you do it will all be eventually for nothing why worry?
I am also now at the point I am losing fear of consequences, becauase I always tell the truth no matter how hard it is, and trust me it really is one of the most difficult things to do.
Whatever consequences I face for telling the truth Im ready to accept and even die for.
Lying usually makes matters worse. The truth will set you free.
I admire people who share their stories no matter how painful it is to do so. It definitely puts each of our lives in perspective. Well done, Josh.
Reading the above posts, I realize no matter how bad off I think I am, there is someone who has had or is having a worse go of it.
Occasionally I suffer mild anxiety which comes from lifelong feelings of insecurity. The little bit of depression I have is manageable because of the antidepressant Bupropion. As long as I remember to stay physically fit, I'll be fine. Schizophrenia runs in my family. I have claustrophobia.
Not so many years ago before there was psychotropic medications some of us would have been institutionalized. Thinking of, One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest. Nurse Ratched was quite the charmer.
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Oregon State Hospital Salem, Oregon - razed in 2008
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ya cause you arent out of your mind at all today :-X :P :D
You fucker !! LOL ;D
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Good post.
I struggled with severe anxiety (GAD) for most of my life until about 5 years ago. I've only had one panic attack and it's when i was in high school.
They had me on meds for 2 years and it helped some, but the best thing i did was to learn how to "let go". Of everything. It wasn't about death for me, most of it was about work and social requirements. What society thinks you should be and do. Once i learned how to manage the triggers and let go of things it all became better. But it took years.
In my 20's i worked a high stress job for a huge engineering and construction company. I was pushed to the limit every day and treated like a slave. Everyone was working 60 hours a week and treated like shit. It bothered me because i liked my job but hated the environment i was in. I wouldn't sleep at all and had severe struggles with anxiety. I'd get so anxious that i'd freeze up and couldn't function for hours. It was terrifying.
I also struggled with social anxiety my entire life and still do. Going to a psychiatrist helped, but not like people would think. What i learned is that i do have social anxiety and i'm claustrophobic, which is a bad mix. Loud crowded places drive me insane, literally. I also learned that i'm an introvert and don't like people very much. So i enjoy my time alone more than time with friends and family. Knowing this helped me realize how to control certain situations and that prevented a lot of anxiety problems.
About 5 years ago i was in a bad place, very upset at the world and hated life for the most part. I always wondered why? So i took a month of work and traveled to Alaska for 3 weeks, staying in a small town. Over this time period i basically rebuilt my mental state of mind. Read a lot of books and focused on what really matters. Which is being happy with YOURSELF.
What i learned is that nothing really matters except your friends and family. Work is not important and what society thinks of you means nothing. 99.99999% of the people you meet will never be a part of your real life, so fuck them. Do what makes you happy and stop worrying about your boss, projects, people and expectations.
I set my expectations so low for everything that i get surprised more often, things are better because the little things matter more. Work and go home on a normal schedule, it will be there tomorrow. Fuck your boss and random people's expectations. Learn to not care what people think about you and speak the truth, be honest and don't feel bad if people disagree with you.
Today my life is great, i have no worries and every single day is like vacation. I moved out of the big city because that was contributing to my anxiety. I live in the mountains and work a normal 8-5 job in engineering and development for a small company. I save money and have enough that i never worry about that either. Money can cause a lot of stress and causes people to become evil.
I do what i want and if someone has a problem with that i don't care AT ALL. It's almost funny because sometimes i'm in a stressful situation and people wonder why i'm so calm. It's because it doesn't fucking matter and will be forgotten in a few days. Just let that shit go.
Last year I was in a meeting with the owner of my company and we had just gotten fired by our biggest client because the owner was lazy and didn't respond to the client fast enough. We lost millions in future projects. Everyone at the table was red faced mad and yelling at each other, playing the blame game. I was just sitting there waiting for the meeting to be over. The owner asked me why i was so calm? I said because there is nothing we can do to change this and we should just focus on finding a new client. He was pissed! I asked him why he was mad? It was his fault we lost the contract. That didn't go over well but he respected me for it a few days later.
Fast forward 6 months and we secured a new contract with another big developer. Life was fine! We didn't even have any money problems, they just caused panic about it. Waste of time and energy. Fuck em.
So i learned this simple trick when something bothers you.
Can you do something about it RIGHT NOW? If you can, do it. If not, let it go.
Sounds too easy but it helps me stop dwelling on shit. If i can change something i do, if i can't, i just let it go and focus on something productive.
Anyway, i hope people can learn how to deal with it. I did and i'm a better person. But i don't care about most things anymore, which may create other problems down the line i think, primarily with relationship with my GF, but that's a completely different story. ;D
Also learn to meditate and study Buddhist teachings. It helps i promise.
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holy fuck
this is the best post I have ever seen on getbig, and Ive been on and off (lol) since 05
thanks for this, its now saved forever for me to refer to
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:o :o
holy fuck
this is the best post I have ever seen on getbig, and Ive been on and off (lol) since 05
thanks for this, its now saved forever for me to refer to
I'm glad it helps man.
I've been down this road for many years.
Today is very different and i'm glad if i'm able to help someone.
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Getbig helped Bhank get his life together and it can help all of you too.
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My nikka
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Fortunately, I’ve never struggled with depression. I believe it’s because of my view on life as a whole. I see it is a nonstop struggle to survive, and all you can do is make the best of a bad situation.
Many have unrealistic expectations and think they’re supposed to be happy. When they’re not, they get depressed.
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Had two panic attacks in life. Fucking awful helpless feeling but felt great afterwards.
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Getbig helped Bhank get his life together and it can help all of you too.
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Did Getbig find Bhank a job yet?
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Why don't you try drinking a case of beer like a real man that should pretty well take care of it.
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I haven't suffered from any of these things that some of you are dealing with, but I have heard it described as that panic attacks are like being trapped in a "bubble". Everything is magnified and you can literally hear your own heartbeat as it increases.
A friend who has depression and anxiety problems once said that depression and anxiety are opposite sides of the same sword. That anxiety has the drop dead heart attack type reaction in your mind whereas depression has the slow crushed to death by a stone feeling. Not sure if that is accurate, but in any case those of you who are fighting your struggles, I really do wish you the best.
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You all need Jesus
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You all need Jesus
Religion is probably the source code for all mental issues today.
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It’s no wonder Western man is in decline. Generations of ease, wealth and safety have led to a male culture for whom self-indulgent mental masturbation is viewed as an “illness.”
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Your mind is like a motor, operating without its load. It races and threatens to blow out it's bearings, or even to blow itself to bits.
The remedy for worry or anxiety, is to get completely occupied, doing something constructive.
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Religion is probably the source code for all mental issues today.
Nah, replace religion with social media and food then you got your code.
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Your mind is like a motor, operating without its load. It races and threatens to blow out it's bearings, or even to blow itself to bits of it's not under load.
The remedy for worry or anxiety, is to get completely occupied, doing something constructive.
There is something to that. If you have no purpose in life then you just sit around and brood.
Note that several posters mention no purpose or goals in their lives.
This is not always the case. Some highly motivated and goal oriented people get panic attacks.
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A lot of us are down because we have no tribe, lost or feel without purpose . We are continually gaslit by the media and corperates into believing that living as an individual life of little responsibily, living a hedonistic nomad life is "the dream" and the road to happinesss... as opposed to actually finding a place, having a family, finding a strong local community and building something we can call "Home" ..Instead rather work for some huge global corperation (Chase huge Cash) but work for people that dont give a shit about you is where it's at..and if things get tough we just leave for somewhere else "nicer" or that pays more and accumulate more stuff. Especially westerners think this conception that being a nomad is the dream/goal i.e. I use to think this myself...I'm talking about people that live this lonely life of moving from place to place, job to job with no real commitment. I can see how this will lead to depression... Often you see these small towns with strong communities of nice, happy people leading simple lives you see...that have fought for, who's family for generations has invested in and made nice with their hard work over many many years. The thing Ive realized is these places would never be like they are - somewhere we westerners long for , want to live and gravitate towards....if they were made up of a group of individuals, nomads, renters and drifters, not really invested in that town and community...At what point do we stop "running" and fight back with other like minded individuals to protect our families, community and say this is my "home", take responsibility to build strong institutions like our ansestors did, a community to fight back? What's to prevent the places we move to from turning into the very shit holes we are all running from? If there's never any push back.... At some point we are going to have to think of this, because chaos will always come to where ever we may go...but that pushback won't happen if we are just atomized depressed "individuals" (a dispora) with no responsibility or backbone, no place we call "home" or sence of community/belonging we have no incentive to protect, if we have no real "skin in the game" I think a lot of nihilism and depression you speak of stems from being led to think that the liberal tribeless mindset is the right way to be...we need to unlearn this, tribe up with like minded people and "dig a trench"
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There is something to that. If you have no purpose in life then you just sit around and brood.
Note that several posters mention no purpose or goals in their lives.
This is not always the case. Some highly motivated and goal oriented people get panic attacks.
Dale Carnegie teaches all of this. It's just simple psychology.
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Good post.
I struggled with severe anxiety (GAD) for most of my life until about 5 years ago. I've only had one panic attack and it's when i was in high school.
They had me on meds for 2 years and it helped some, but the best thing i did was to learn how to "let go". Of everything. It wasn't about death for me, most of it was about work and social requirements. What society thinks you should be and do. Once i learned how to manage the triggers and let go of things it all became better. But it took years.
In my 20's i worked a high stress job for a huge engineering and construction company. I was pushed to the limit every day and treated like a slave. Everyone was working 60 hours a week and treated like shit. It bothered me because i liked my job but hated the environment i was in. I wouldn't sleep at all and had severe struggles with anxiety. I'd get so anxious that i'd freeze up and couldn't function for hours. It was terrifying.
I also struggled with social anxiety my entire life and still do. Going to a psychiatrist helped, but not like people would think. What i learned is that i do have social anxiety and i'm claustrophobic, which is a bad mix. Loud crowded places drive me insane, literally. I also learned that i'm an introvert and don't like people very much. So i enjoy my time alone more than time with friends and family. Knowing this helped me realize how to control certain situations and that prevented a lot of anxiety problems.
About 5 years ago i was in a bad place, very upset at the world and hated life for the most part. I always wondered why? So i took a month of work and traveled to Alaska for 3 weeks, staying in a small town. Over this time period i basically rebuilt my mental state of mind. Read a lot of books and focused on what really matters. Which is being happy with YOURSELF.
What i learned is that nothing really matters except your friends and family. Work is not important and what society thinks of you means nothing. 99.99999% of the people you meet will never be a part of your real life, so fuck them. Do what makes you happy and stop worrying about your boss, projects, people and expectations.
I set my expectations so low for everything that i get surprised more often, things are better because the little things matter more. Work and go home on a normal schedule, it will be there tomorrow. Fuck your boss and random people's expectations. Learn to not care what people think about you and speak the truth, be honest and don't feel bad if people disagree with you.
Today my life is great, i have no worries and every single day is like vacation. I moved out of the big city because that was contributing to my anxiety. I live in the mountains and work a normal 8-5 job in engineering and development for a small company. I save money and have enough that i never worry about that either. Money can cause a lot of stress and causes people to become evil.
I do what i want and if someone has a problem with that i don't care AT ALL. It's almost funny because sometimes i'm in a stressful situation and people wonder why i'm so calm. It's because it doesn't fucking matter and will be forgotten in a few days. Just let that shit go.
Last year I was in a meeting with the owner of my company and we had just gotten fired by our biggest client because the owner was lazy and didn't respond to the client fast enough. We lost millions in future projects. Everyone at the table was red faced mad and yelling at each other, playing the blame game. I was just sitting there waiting for the meeting to be over. The owner asked me why i was so calm? I said because there is nothing we can do to change this and we should just focus on finding a new client. He was pissed! I asked him why he was mad? It was his fault we lost the contract. That didn't go over well but he respected me for it a few days later.
Fast forward 6 months and we secured a new contract with another big developer. Life was fine! We didn't even have any money problems, they just caused panic about it. Waste of time and energy. Fuck em.
So i learned this simple trick when something bothers you.
Can you do something about it RIGHT NOW? If you can, do it. If not, let it go.
Sounds too easy but it helps me stop dwelling on shit. If i can change something i do, if i can't, i just let it go and focus on something productive.
Anyway, i hope people can learn how to deal with it. I did and i'm a better person. But i don't care about most things anymore, which may create other problems down the line i think, primarily with relationship with my GF, but that's a completely different story. ;D
Also learn to meditate and study Buddhist teachings. It helps i promise.
One of the best posts I've read on this shit hole site.
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I've never been depressed before...until I started reading this thread
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Cheer up! This is where I come from :D
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I've never been depressed before...until I started reading this thread
You just depress us, you Commie bastard.
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A lot of us are down because we have no tribe, lost or feel without purpose . We are continually gaslit by the media and corperates into believing that living as an individual life of little responsibily, living a hedonistic nomad life is "the dream" and the road to happinesss... as opposed to actually finding a place, having a family, finding a strong local community and building something we can call "Home" ..Instead rather work for some huge global corperation (Chase huge Cash) but work for people that dont give a shit about you is where it's at..and if things get tough we just leave for somewhere else "nicer" or that pays more and accumulate more stuff. Especially westerners think this conception that being a nomad is the dream/goal i.e. I use to think this myself...I'm talking about people that live this lonely life of moving from place to place, job to job with no real commitment. I can see how this will lead to depression... Often you see these small towns with strong communities of nice, happy people leading simple lives you see...that have fought for, who's family for generations has invested in and made nice with their hard work over many many years. The thing Ive realized is these places would never be like they are - somewhere we westerners long for , want to live and gravitate towards....if they were made up of a group of individuals, nomads, renters and drifters, not really invested in that town and community...At what point do we stop "running" and fight back with other like minded individuals to protect our families, community and say this is my "home", take responsibility to build strong institutions like our ansestors did, a community to fight back? What's to prevent the places we move to from turning into the very shit holes we are all running from? If there's never any push back.... At some point we are going to have to think of this, because chaos will always come to where ever we may go...but that pushback won't happen if we are just atomized depressed "individuals" (a dispora) with no responsibility or backbone, no place we call "home" or sence of community/belonging we have no incentive to protect, if we have no real "skin in the game" I think a lot of nihilism and depression you speak of stems from being led to think that the liberal tribeless mindset is the right way to be...we need to unlearn this, tribe up with like minded people and "dig a trench"
Good post.
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Fortunately, I’ve never struggled with depression. I believe it’s because of my view on life as a whole. I see it is a nonstop struggle to survive, and all you can do is make the best of a bad situation.
Many have unrealistic expectations and think they’re supposed to be happy. When they’re not, they get depressed.
If you are never unhappy, how would you know when you are happy?
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You just depress us, you Commie bastard.
sounds like your problem (one of many no doubt)
not mine
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sounds like your problem (one of many no doubt)
not mine
You're a really really shitty arrogant person. Beyond just talking on this board, you are one who deserves a massive beating. One of my biggest hates in life is arrogance, and you are brutally arrogant. Just a shitty shittty human being. Good move staying anonymous
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You're a really really shitty arrogant person. Beyond just talking on this board, you are one who deserves a massive beating. One of my biggest hates in life is arrogance, and you are brutally arrogant. Just a shitty shittty human being. Good move staying anonymous
Aren't you the asshole who suggested I drink bleach in a thread that I made about holiday "cheer"
Only an idiot would have ANY emotions over someone they don't know and who has zero impact on their actual life
If my posts make you so upset then I suggest you stop reading them
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Aren't you the asshole who suggested I drink bleach in a thread that I made about holiday "cheer"
Only an idiot would have ANY emotions over someone they don't know and who has zero impact on their actual life
If my posts make you so upset then I suggest you stop reading them
Why not stop making asinine posts and give us all a break?
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Why not stop making asinine posts and give us all a break?
why don't you just ignore my posts
that's what I do with most of yours
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Stop with the attacks and threats.
Depression is serious. And hard to work on with friends.
I know from real life, having lost someone to depression.
Honestly, it was EXACTLY two years ago today. Two days before Thanksgiving that year.
We just visited her grave on Wednedsay. She was 41 when she passed away due to liver failure because of alcohol.
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Stop with the attacks and threats.
Depression is serious. And hard to work on with friends.
I know from real life, having lost someone to depression.
Honestly, it was EXACTLY two years ago today. Two days before Thanksgiving that year.
We just visited her grave on Wednedsay. She was 41 when she passed away due to liver failure because of alcohol.
well if ol buddy Straw likes to mock depression in this thread as seen with his "this thread makes me depressed" comment, he truly gets what he deserves. He can dish it but bundles up in the fetal position when it comes back to him
sorry about your friend, I lost a buddy 6 days ago to suicide and guesstimate I have lost at least 15 more to it over the years. Sometimes I find it mind blowing I havent done it yet considering it sits in my head as a though every day of the year
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You're a really really shitty arrogant person. Beyond just talking on this board, you are one who deserves a massive beating. One of my biggest hates in life is arrogance, and you are brutally arrogant. Just a shitty shittty human being. Good move staying anonymous
It's a classic liberal commie trait. He's fit right in in liberal cesspool Canada.
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It's a classic liberal commie trait. He's fit right in in liberal cesspool Canada.
agreed
I need out of Canada and he can come here and suck Trudeaus dick
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well if ol buddy Straw likes to mock depression in this thread as seen with his "this thread makes me depressed" comment, he truly gets what he deserves. He can dish it but bundles up in the fetal position when it comes back to him
sorry about your friend, I lost a buddy 6 days ago to suicide and guesstimate I have lost at least 15 more to it over the years. Sometimes I find it mind blowing I havent done it yet considering it sits in my head as a though every day of the year
I guess I should have just told you to "drink a case of beer like a man" or "find Jesus" like two other posters in this thread
I assume both of those were jokes too but for some reason you didn't lose fucking mind over them
Then again, I guess it's hard to tell how a mental patient is going to react to any joke
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I guess I should have just told you to "drink a case of beer like a man" or "find Jesus" like two other posters in this thread
I assume both of those were jokes too but for some reason you didn't lose fucking mind over them
Then again, I guess it's hard to tell how a mental patient is going to react to any joke
now mocking me cause of my mental health issues
lol this is gold, the shit he says to me on the internet and what would happen in real life
how do you even wrap your head around what a little bitch you are?
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ohoh hes gonna report to mod again hahahhah
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now mocking me cause of my mental health issues
lol this is gold, the shit he says to me on the internet and what would happen in real life
how do you even wrap your head around what a little bitch you are?
nope, just point out that it's impossible to tell which joke is going to cause a mental patient to snap
now I know that if I tell you to "drink of case of beer like a man" that you'll be just fine with it
you can't blame me for not knowing that ahead of time
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nope, just point out that it's impossible to tell which joke is going to cause a mental patient to snap
now I know that if I tell you to "drink of case of beer like a man" that you'll be just fine with it
you can't blame me for not knowing that ahead of time
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agreed
I need out of Canada and he can come here and suck Trudeaus dick
Take me with you :'(
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This tread has become mean spirited and depressing. You may think I'm joking, but I am not. Depression, specially bi-polar disorder is no joke. It is hell for those who suffer it. At least today, people can identify it and get treatment....in previous times they just went crazy.
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I've never been depressed before...until I started reading this thread
You are either lying or you are a sociopath with no feelings. Everyone gets depressed. It's the depth and frequency of it that tears people apart from reality.
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Stop with the attacks and threats.
Depression is serious. And hard to work on with friends.
I know from real life, having lost someone to depression.
Honestly, it was EXACTLY two years ago today. Two days before Thanksgiving that year.
We just visited her grave on Wednedsay. She was 41 when she passed away due to liver failure because of alcohol.
Thank you Ron for stepping in and bringing some humanity to this thread. It definitely needs it.
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It's a classic liberal commie trait. He's fit right in in liberal cesspool Canada.
Honestly, this has nothing to do with being liberal or conservative. People either have compassion or they don't.
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This tread has become mean spirited and depressing. You may think I'm joking, but I am not. Depression, specially bi-polar disorder is no joke. It is hell for those who suffer it. At least today, people can identify it and get treatment....in previous times they just went crazy.
Depression is a biochemical phenomenon. Yes- you can affect it by your thinking process, to some degree. It is well known that we can elicit hormonal changes just by thinking. But there is a limit. Deep depression is overwhelming for many.
I had a college classmate go into depression and ending up committing suicide by jumping to his death. We could see it coming but were limited in what we could do. We reported his condition to the college health services department but they did little. He died at 19 years old.
Many people do not understand what severe depression is- hence some of the responses in this thread.
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Depression is a biochemical phenomenon. Yes- you can affect it by your thinking process, to some degree. It is well known that we can elicit hormonal changes just by thinking. But there is a limit. Deep depression is overwhelming for many.
I had a college classmate go into depression and ending up committing suicide by jumping to his death. We could see it coming but were limited in what we could do. We reported his condition to the college health services department but they did little. He died at 19 years old.
Many people do not understand what severe depression is- hence some of the responses in this thread.
Outstanding and thank you
So many don't have a clue
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Anyone in this thread or anywhere that is old enough to have lived life has experienced mental health problems at one point or another, if they say they’ve haven’t they’re bold faced liars. I know I have mild and at some points severe depression as well as PTSD which has led to night terrors several times a month from a past event(s) in my life dating back to 35 years. My wife has to wake me to calm me down. They don’t go away..you just deal.
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Brutal if true
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Depression is a biochemical phenomenon. Yes- you can affect it by your thinking process, to some degree. It is well known that we can elicit hormonal changes just by thinking. But there is a limit. Deep depression is overwhelming for many.
I had a college classmate go into depression and ending up committing suicide by jumping to his death. We could see it coming but were limited in what we could do. We reported his condition to the college health services department but they did little. He died at 19 years old.
Many people do not understand what severe depression is- hence some of the responses in this thread.
Thank you for your thoughtful post.
I was referring to mild depression which is what most of us experience as a result of what is going on in our lives at any given time. Folks who a bi-polar do not have to ability for the most part to control their highs and lows which is why medication is so important.
I'm not a doctor nor a psychologist, but I am someone who is aware of the emotions of those around me. I have immediate family who are diagnosed bipolar. Fortunately, they are currently managing it with medications and therapy. Never the less it is a daily struggle for them.
I am sorry that you lost someone you personally knew to suicide. When someone successfully commits suicide it leaves us with thoughts of why we didn't see it coming or if we did, why we weren't able to do something for them.
I also personally know someone who committed suicide. What I don't know is why they did and of course I never will. Moreover, I have close family who seriously attempted suicide but were lucky enough to not have been successful. My mother being one of those people. She attempted it multiple times in dramatic ways, like stabbing herself in the chest, cutting her wrists and overdosing on meds and alcohol. She ended up dying from emphysema as a result of chain smoking her entire life...which some might view as a form of suicide. Particularly, when that person continues to smoke when they are so sick they can barely breathe.
When I was a teenager, I took entire bottle of my mom's sleeping pills with the intention of killing myself. I waited the entire night to fall asleep which never happened and I have no idea why but today, I am glad that it didn't work.