After 12 years of marriage the wife and I are calling it quits...

[gh15]

polka ?? they hate sex,, they lay like dead fish ,, so not only will you hav emental case but also dead fish in bed having sex once a month...think about the comments groink wil have on that matter...lol

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[dj181]

polka ?? they hate sex,, they lay like dead fish ,, so not only will you hav emental case but also dead fish in bed having sex once a month...think about the comments groink wil have on that matter...lol

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I wouldn't say that they hate sex, but they certainly do like to play games, and that's for damn sure. Well, at least most of them like to play games, but not all.

[dyslexic]

It sucks and she is a good woman but we no longer belong together ~ We are actually going to continue living with each other until one of us is ready to move. 

BIG, BIG fucking mistake. You just added unnecessary complications to the whole scenario, and you are basically contradicting yourself in the combination of those two sentences.


Do you have any idea how stressful the "Complications" can (and will) be? You don't. Mark my words: BIG MISTAKE. I feel for you bud.

Cut it. Cut it now. Get out. Move on.

[Primemuscle]

But it wasn't sexual abuse, it was emotional and psychological abuse, from family, and from classmates throughout childhood. Also, she is not an americana girl, she is a polka (polish girl). Does this make a difference? Again, no sexual abuse happened to her, but she did go through severe emotional and psychological abuse.

If you find someone who had and ideal childhood, let me know. Everyone I know thinks that there were issues with their childhood experiences. While I am not saying that emotional and psychological abuse isn't real, how bad it was is a matter of perspective. People need to grow up. One can spend their whole life fucked up because they choose to dwell on childhood issues or they can accept that life isn't perfect, take control over their happiness and move forward. It is always about choice. One can choose to be happy or choose to be miserable.

My mom liked to make herself feel more important by making everyone around her feel small. She's dead now. I got over it. Well actually, I battled with her over this issue and others when I was a kid, never giving in. As soon as I could, I got out of that crazy house and away from her destructive ways. When she died, I felt a loss and I felt relieved....

My step-dad was Polish. He was a great man.

[tbombz]

So be it.

BTW  we had a beautiful day at the lake yesterday   .

che id be honored to cuckold yoru wife anytime buddy

[The Abdominal Snoman]

By and large, you may be right about baby boomers not setting a good long term marriage example. But,  there are exceptions. My wife and I are proof of that.

I like your suggestion about thinking about what would happen if ones spouse  was on dialysis. My wife is not well. While not on dialysis at this time, she is on oxygen for congestive heart failure. Her poor health rules our lives these days. Could I have coped with this when I was twenty, thirty or forty something? I am not sure. What I do know is that I am glad that I am here for her now. If I weren't she might be in a nursing home. When we are young, we are beautiful and sexy and don't have a fucking care in the world. Time changes that for most of us. If all you have in a relationship is great sex and someone to show off to your friends, you don't really have a relationship you have a possession. Like most possessions that get old and tired, you'll probably toss them rather than covet them.

Good post and good man.

[Wiggs]

BIG, BIG fucking mistake. You just added unnecessary complications to the whole scenario, and you are basically contradicting yourself in the combination of those two sentences.


Do you have any idea how stressful the "Complications" can (and will) be? You don't. Mark my words: BIG MISTAKE. I feel for you bud.

Cut it. Cut it now. Get out. Move on.

Yes, I found out the hard way...Don't worry, I'm getting my things in order and financially preparing to move asap.

[ManBearPig...]

Yes, I found out the hard way...Don't worry, I'm getting my things in order and financially preparing to move asap.

yes, because "getting shit done" is your MO.

I'm guessing you're moving out first thing in 2014.