Author Topic: Advice needed on how to deal with a Christian girlfirend, getting serious  (Read 6755 times)

Raymondo

  • Getbig V
  • *****
  • Posts: 6928
  • I broke Excel
What denomination does she and her family belong to? Are they wacked-out fundamentalists?

Parker

  • Getbig V
  • *****
  • Posts: 53475
  • He Sees The Stormy Anger Of The World
What denomination does she and her family belong to? Are they wacked-out fundamentalists?
Green Shirt Fundamentalists.

Howard

  • Competitors
  • Getbig V
  • *****
  • Posts: 15401
I'm in a serious relationship with a girl that I love and want a future with. We agree on almost all topics with the exception being Christianity. She has talked about how it means a lot to her and she would want to raise children as Christian, the other day I asked her if she could ever accept it if I was never going to be a Christian and she said "she would have a hard time with that". I kept my mouth shut and told her that I'm still unsure of what to believe and she said she was ok with that. But there's no way in fuck I'll ever have a genuine belief in Christianity!

Almost every other aspect of her is perfect, she is exceptionally intelligent but it's like she's fucking so deluded nothing will get through to her on Christianity and she makes every single bullshit excuse/justification for all the bullshit in the bible and I hate how I feel like 2nd place to God in her life. I even agree with most of the views she derives from Christianity but I just believe in them as an intelligent human being not because there's an invisible man in the sky.

Should I just keep bullshitting her and say I may be a Christian one day or even lie and say I am one? Anyone else been in this fucked up situation? I've had some harsh discussions with her lately where I said I don't know how she can believe it by bring up the parts where it says the world is 6k years old/adam and eve etc. and she almost cried. Then I took my foot off the gas since it would be fucked up to lose her over this dumb shit.

I even asked her "what happens to people who are never exposed to Christianity or the bible in their whole life but the way they lead their life is totally altruistic" she said that the bible says they will burn in hell anyway for never believing and she believes that.
 ::) ::) ::)

Great post and good question.

It's possible to both maintain your own religious views and have a great relationship.
The key is MUTUAL respect for the other's religious belief.
I suspect you're willing to accept her Christian faith right?
Sooooo.....It all comes down to her willingness to accept you , as is.

Sadly, most people feel a strong need to convert others to their belief.


Raymondo

  • Getbig V
  • *****
  • Posts: 6928
  • I broke Excel

spiro

  • Getbig IV
  • ****
  • Posts: 2239
Complaining because you found a great Christian girl sounds like you hit the lotto dummy. Would your rather date some liberal atheist trash. A girl with actual morals who will probably cook clean and raise kids the right way ya lot to complain about smh.

Griffith

  • Getbig V
  • *****
  • Posts: 8833
  • .......
Maybe just tell her you believe in God (if you do) and not any specific religion, but you respect her values and beliefs and generally agree with the Christian message and way of life?

Also maybe tell her that going to Church is a personal choice, if you don't want to go and are only there because you are forced to, it has no meaning.

Wiggs

  • Getbig V
  • *****
  • Posts: 40903
  • Child of Y'srael
A house divided against itself cannot stand. Don't be unequally yoked.
7

Chidoman

  • Getbig IV
  • ****
  • Posts: 1401
  • Me Like'em All!! #Team Kwon All The Way!!
Great post and good question.

It's possible to both maintain your own religious views and have a great relationship.
The key is MUTUAL respect for the other's religious belief.
I suspect you're willing to accept her Christian faith right?
Sooooo.....It all comes down to her willingness to accept you , as is.

Sadly, most people feel a strong need to convert others to their belief.



You're right, and it sounds all dandy, but the kicker will be when they have children, if they do remain together.
Women have a tendency of getting very moral and possessive once there are children in the picture and depending of the indoctrination She had by her parents, you're almost guaranteed she'll transmit it to them, whether you like it or not and that's when the shit will hit the pot! She will use your children to make you feel guilty of your "moral irresponsibility" and the in laws stick their nose and brainwash her even more, You'll be the Bad Guy every time!
Unfortunately, in most situations like this, the guy is in the losing end, and winds throwing the towel and leaving.

Once indoctrination about any religion is embedded in any individual, it's there for life, just look at them moozzies and their fucked up beliefs, it's a bad seed that has been implanted from very early on, and it will stay with them till the end of their pathetic brainwashed lives....

Rearden Metal

  • Competitors II
  • Getbig V
  • *****
  • Posts: 4348
  • Team Honey Badger cuz he don't Care.
But I agree with 95% of the values she has due to Christianity I just reach the conclusions with rationality rather than belief so I feel like if I just pay lip service to the more crazy spiritual elements then it would be fine since every other aspect of the relationship is great.

I bet there's a shit load of guys who just go to Church on a Sunday to keep their wives happy and spend half the time there rolling their eyes and daydreaming.

Yeah, they're called cucks.

Seriously though, what kind of man wants a life of lying to appease a woman's stupid beliefs? For fucks sake man just lay it out for her and make HER make the hard decision.

If you have kids who's going to run the house you or her?