One variation of the suicide and forgiveness notion I have read is that you don't need forgiveness for suicide. We are all taught that God has a plan for us. If you kill yourself, then obviously that was God's plan. Or else it wouldn't have happened. Why do you need to be forgiven for what God mapped out for you? This has been used in a sort of "real talk" and "tough love" intervention. To make people accept responsibility for their own actions.
That being said, suicide is sad thing. I don't think any of us on this board (excluding anyone that purposefully attempted suicide that I may be unaware of) understand how bad a person can be hurting on the inside to make them want to end their life. Yes, in some notes that people leave behind we can look at the reasons that they chose to take their life over - relationship ending, financial problems, etc...- just seem so trivial to some of us when we hear of it. What we consider to be minor problems appear nothing of the sort for people that have them combined with depression. It is just so sad that a person will look at the next month, the next week, the next day and only think it is going to be worse than the present day. We are taught as children that "things are going to get better".. but some people just see things only getting worse and worse each day and decide being dead forever is a much better solution. I realize that an exception may be made for people who are facing life altering situations like going to prison for a long time, or having a terminal illness, or being maimed and crippled to the point that they really have no life due to the physical limitations they are suffering from. But most people have the thoughts and attempts coming from emotional and/or mental suffering.
There was a girl here in the hospital that killed herself years ago. She was 26, was a beautiful girl, great body, was one of the most popular RNs around, had just got engaged, and was selected for a fully paid ride to get her CRNA. And she killed herself. Everyone was stunned. You would have thought she would be the last person to ever do this because she was so bright and had a fantastic personality and attitude. She had so much to live for. You never saw her sad or troubled. But underneath that facade, she was extremely depressed. No one really understood what she was going through and it made her feel even more alone.
To be honest, I am surprised that more BBers - or people who risk (and sometimes lose) everything they have (health, career opportunities, family relationships, retirement security, etc..) for a plastic trophy don't do this more often.
