How so?
In general, I try to bring it up subtly but I don't want to hurt her feelings either. I will try to encourage more but if it gets to me more then yes I think I will bring it up more bluntly. I don't just care about looks but being younger they do still matter.
Don't be blunt and tactless, cappie, but realize that tiptoeing around the issue won't help here.
It is what it is.
If her gaining weight is affecting your desire for her, you need to be real about this.
It's all in the delivery, but you still need to be honest or this problem will linger and lead to larger ones down the road.
Thats a very touchy subject in a relationship. You can't just tell her she gained weight because for one it'll hurt her feelings and really discourage her and two it'll piss her off and you'll be sleeping in the dog house for a while.
PB, I think he needs to confront the issue headon.
He can address it without making her feel badly, but he does need to relay the fact that it is an issue.
I don't know what kind of women you date, but the type I attract tend to prefer the honesty, albeit with tact.
I am not the type to let an issue fester, that is only counterproductive.
If he's sincere and gentle and she still overreacts and gives him the passive-aggressive treatment, there are bigger issues at work and her losing weight is the least of them.
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