What is your view on this topic, do the over the top flamers bother you?
When I was younger and more insecure the flamers bothered me a lot, but the more self-esteem I developed the less they bothered me. Now, I don't mind them at all and have no problem chatting them up in a club or including one or more in my social group. I still don't want to be intimate with any of them, but other than that, I'm very cool with them. I feel the same way about drag queens (no dick for you), but other than that we're cool.
Many years ago, I was sitting at a bar when this drag queen named Misery (lots of drag queens have a name that begins with "Mis(s)" came and sat down next to me. We got to talking and I learned quite a bit about her and how she found her way into the drag scene… basically she was a dancer at Julliard and dropped out for lack of $$. Anyhow, what I really learned from her (the first drag queen I had a real conversation with) is that behind all the make up and drama is a real person.
I had a similar experience with this huge inked muscle dude I met in a leather bar. Almost everyone is scared of him or intimidated by him, but after brunch one morning he took me to his city garden where he grew fresh fruit and flowers…. then we went home and I ate all 260lbs of him.
Mannerisms aside, drag queens and the big muscle dudes have more in common than you might think.