whats the problem,it is every real mans duty to keep his pimp hand strong 
Man tried to replace "pimp hand" with "diplomacy hand", which preferred avoidance then negotiation, before contact.
But, thanks to the role model our govt has provided - preemptive wars and "hitting them first", a new technique of "pre-emptive pimp slapping" has come into play. Essentially, you deliver the smack BEFORE the woman has a chance to offend.
Blame Bush.
Also, the use of an "inside job", IE: spilling Cristal on your own sports coat and blaming the girl, is commonly justified after the 911 debacle. Enjoy!