Agreed. Babs, you do sound like you are all over the place. You said you had a plan but does not sound like you are following it very well. One thing I have learned over the years, is if you are listening to bunch of differant people, you will get confused!!
Contest prep, on or off season, is all about consistancy so follow that plan you had and if it does not work after at least 8 weeks, make some changes!