what am I doing wrong

[bigsweeney]

Hey girls,
              I need some answers and what better place than this board. I date all the time but after a few dates it never seems to work out. when I take a woman out ,I listen and am real respectful. Im also told im a really funny guy but I dont think so. even girls i have known for years and been friends with- when it gets into a relationship, it ends pretty quick. my two brothers look just like me and everyone says we all have the same personality but they are always in a long term relationship! what the hell am I doing wrong? Ask me any questions,I'll answer. Or any input would be nice.   thanks girls,
                                                                                                                   bigs

[Laura Lee]

Hey girls,
              I need some answers and what better place than this board. I date all the time but after a few dates it never seems to work out. when I take a woman out ,I listen and am real respectful. Im also told im a really funny guy but I dont think so. even girls i have known for years and been friends with- when it gets into a relationship, it ends pretty quick. my two brothers look just like me and everyone says we all have the same personality but they are always in a long term relationship! what the hell am I doing wrong? Ask me any questions,I'll answer. Or any input would be nice.   thanks girls,
                                                                                                                   bigs

You might have the same personality as your brothers big, but maybe you come accross as a "friend" to these girls instead of a love interest.  What are ya doing on your dates?

[Lord Humungous]

Stop dating hookers.

[ripitupbaby]

Bigs, you sound just like our boy mahg. 


Do you have any pics?   

[Playboy]

You might have the same personality as your brothers big, but maybe you come accross as a "friend" to these girls instead of a love interest.  What are ya doing on your dates?

My thoughts exactly. If you go on a date and you act as a friend, you will get treated as just a friend in return. You need to make a move and or do something that will let her know that you are romantically interested in her. It will save you a lot of torment and heart ache.

[bigsweeney]

You might have the same personality as your brothers big, but maybe you come accross as a "friend" to these girls instead of a love interest.  What are ya doing on your dates?

well, for instance, on my last date, which was the first time we went out; I chartered a plane and we went on a scenic 45 minute flight and then I went to the grocery store after and made her porterhouse steak, baby new potatoes with a dill sauce and homemade ceasar salad. and then after dinner I asked her to show me her photo album and we looked at pics of her family and talked about our past. the only reason i didnt bust a move was because I liked her. If it wasnt someone I was interested in then I would have just slept with her but Im a different person with someone i like. maybe too nice

[bigsweeney]

Bigs, you sound just like our boy mahg. 


Do you have any pics?   

dont know how to put pic on here. tell me how and ill paste one

[tu_holmes]

I totally hear this too damn much.

You act cool and confident, you put your hands on them... you use your wit... fuck with them... be nice, but don't be their pal... I've got enough friends so I don't treat chicks like friends.

That way, they know where you stand out the box... you don't want to go on a few dates for them to give you the "I thought we were friends" line.

Screw that... Remember... A sexual relationship can become more, but once a woman sees you as just friends, you're stuck there.

[ripitupbaby]

dont know how to put pic on here. tell me how and ill paste one

Under your post, you will see "Additional Options"...click that, and a place to attach pics will appear.  Just browse and click on the pic you want to attach, it can be up to 300 KB, I think.  You can click "more attachments" and attach up to four pics. 

 

[bigsweeney]

Bigs, you sound just like our boy mahg. 


Do you have any pics?   

[drkaje]

Hey girls,
              I need some answers and what better place than this board. I date all the time but after a few dates it never seems to work out. when I take a woman out ,I listen and am real respectful. Im also told im a really funny guy but I dont think so. even girls i have known for years and been friends with- when it gets into a relationship, it ends pretty quick. my two brothers look just like me and everyone says we all have the same personality but they are always in a long term relationship! what the hell am I doing wrong? Ask me any questions,I'll answer. Or any input would be nice.   thanks girls,
                                                                                                                   bigs

You're giving women too much credit.

Do the exact opposite and see how much better the results are.

[gtbro1]

  Beat the hell out of em and quit your job.

   They will never leave.












                                                             DISCLAIMER
   please don't beat them up I was joking because all guys that do that seem to have a woman all the time.

[drkaje]

  Beat the hell out of em and quit your job.

   They will never leave.

                                                             DISCLAIMER
   please don't beat them up I was joking because all guys that do that seem to have a woman all the time.

Why do guys like that always have women?

[gtbro1]

Why do guys like that always have women?

  I don't know, but I have 3 sisters and when they were younger 2 of the three went for those types. They finally wised up but it does seem like the worse you treat a woman the longer they stay.

[Parker]

Why do guys like that always have women?

Low self esteem on the women's part, plus they blame themselves. Many times the hot woman, that this happens to will go down hill in terms of upkeep. She doesn't keep her hair and face up, but she will cook that dude a meal...It is mostly out of fear.


I good friend from college  had this happen to her, it's sad that a dude has to put his hands on a woman just to keep her.   

I agree with what dudes are saying, if you present yourself as a friend, you will be treated as a friend. I know from experience. 

[trab]

well, for instance, on my last date, which was the first time we went out; I chartered a plane and we went on a scenic 45 minute flight and then I went to the grocery store after and made her porterhouse steak, baby new potatoes with a dill sauce and homemade ceasar salad. and then after dinner I asked her to show me her photo album and we looked at pics of her family and talked about our past. the only reason i didnt bust a move was because I liked her. If it wasnt someone I was interested in then I would have just slept with her but Im a different person with someone i like. maybe too nice

Your coming off as a chump that'll be easy to use. Women are programed to genetically select against that trait.
You dont need be an abuser, but need be reasonable aggressive in your own way.
Throwing money is disgusting and a turn off. But some will use you for it.

Male is the protector and provider in our deep primordial wiring.

You'll be surprised how many women like to be roughed up to their own limit. I'm not talking abuse.
Women want a man they know is in control. I'd love to get graphic...
 
Your to young to have achieved the ability to provide all the above wants and needs unless it fell in your lap,was given to you, or our modern distorted society put you in that postion to throw money like that with a nerd job..

Our ancestors of many millennium didn't work in computer tech.... Its deep in our makeup.

Show some spine, and dont be a pup. Dont flaunt money. Make it a surprise if your fortunate enough to have it.
SHowing you waste it will net you a fool of a girl at best.
County fair will get you further than that above act.

[gtbro1]

Your coming off as a chump that'll be easy to use. Women are programed to genetically select against that trait.
You dont need be an abuser, but need be reasonable aggressive in your own way.
Throwing money is disgusting and a turn off. But some will use you for it.

Male is the protector and provider in our deep primordial wiring.

You'll be surprised how many women like to be roughed up to their own limit. I'm not talking abuse.
Women want a man they know is in control. I'd love to get graphic...
 
Your to young to have achieved the ability to provide all the above wants and needs unless it fell in your lap,was given to you, or our modern distorted society put you in that postion to throw money like that with a nerd job..

Our ancestors of many millennium didn't work in computer tech.... Its deep in our makeup.

Show some spine, and dont be a pup. Dont flaunt money. Make it a surprise if your fortunate enough to have it.
SHowing you waste it will net you a fool of a girl at best.
County fair will get you further than that above act.

   good advice. Now go bust her lip.

[trab]

   good advice. Now go bust her lip.

No, but a double wrap of ponytail in your fist and .....

[ripitupbaby]

Sweeney, you look like a sweetie pie, and you also look very young.  I assume that most of the women you are dating are very young as well?  They probably don't know what they want or need yet.
TBH, my husband and I were friends for a loooong time before anything else, and I don't think it would ever have worked out so well any other way.

For the most part, I agree with trab and I think he provides pretty damn good advice. 
Read this thread too...

http://www.getbig.com/boards/index.php?topic=165903.0


 

[gtbro1]

  see there ...RIRITUPBABY thinks you are a chump. 







                  jk  don't try to bust her lip she may bust yours.

[trab]

I was kind of harsh, but he reminds me of a old friend who had a high pay'n computer job straight out of HS.

Well, he couldnt score in the womens prison....

He was a "Nice Guy". Watching him try and get on with a new girl, or having him around one of ours was
outright painfull.

He'd also lay on the special treatment that money to burn allows. Hot air ballon rides, The Most Spendy restaraunts in the city. It was allways a waste.

He died in his early 40s never married and no kids. Left a $1,000,000.oo+ Estate.
Too bad some girl didnt pick up on him. After all, He was a NICE GUY.


BTW the absolute king of scoring chicks Ive ever know is (if not dead now) a young Bad Boy latino Const worker.  Long Black pony-tail &  hopeless taste for crack binges. Charming, handsome, funny, and absolytley no good for them. His assets basicly consisted of the clothes on his back, a tool bag and hard hat. But, It didnt stop him from scoring more (very attractive) girls than all the rest of us on the crew.
(WHere's Parker, he gonna Love theis  )

Chicks are kind of attracted to him like insects commiting suicide flying into a light. Even tall blone white girls from rich families (His favorite "Because they are usually Dumber than F---!" in his words)


But No, treating women like crap is not the key to a good long term relationship. Being a bit of a  jerk that can make fun of yourself is ammusing to new girls.,
Have a high self-value and  stand up for what you believe in and not be manipulated. Including her when she goes over the line. Letting any mate walk on you is a mistake. Stop it immediatly.
What side of the sink you put the soap is not worth a Divorce, but your selfrespect and freedom is if they
use that kind of thing over and over to control your life.
SHow your not easy game everywhere. I guess thats easier if youve had to in order to survive.

Just because a guy has a wallet & bank full dont mean he looks like a good long term bet if hes weak.
ANd I dont mean physical strength. Never let people game you.
Esp in front of your woman.

I think he should look for a older recently divorced woman, early thirties, who wants a young sex toy pup.   Learn a lot about life. I did.

[ripitupbaby]

Have a high self-value and  stand up for what you believe in and not be manipulated. Including her when she goes over the line. Letting any mate walk on you is a mistake. Stop it immediatly.
What side of the sink you put the soap is not worth a Divorce, but your selfrespect and freedom is if they
use that kind of thing over and over to control your life.
SHow your not easy game everywhere. I guess thats easier if youve had to in order to survive.

Just because a guy has a wallet & bank full dont mean he looks like a good long term bet if hes weak.
ANd I dont mean physical strength. Never let people game you.
Esp in front of your woman.

I think he should look for a older recently divorced woman, early thirties, who wants a young sex toy pup.   Learn a lot about life. I did.

See, very good advice...esp the last part.   

[gtbro1]

See, very good advice...esp the last part.   

  better than my advice ?   

[drkaje]

Trab,

Younger girls are more trainable and haven't developed too many bad habits.

[trab]

Trab,

Younger girls are more trainable and haven't developed too many bad habits.

Possibly,
<  around 28yr old American girls are just nice to look at.

From what I remember most are head-cases and frustration. Many have no idea of WTF they want in life and live in fantasy land.

Best Sex? Early 30s, no contest. Also clued into The Real World by then, realistic. ANd great body if they keep in shape.