Advice

[Nordic Superman]

Feel a bit gay posting this but I need some advice with the women

Basically last two times I've been out on a night out with the lads I've managed to meet 2 women on each occasion (at the displeasure of my mates).

The first one I is a nice girl, problem is, the one I met most recently blows my mind. She's educated, attractive and just does it for me.

I've only been out with her a few times, including last night. We went to a swanky bar in Manchester then went to her house to watch a movie

I don't realistically believe I stand a chance with hitting up a relationship with her because she's studying to join the military among other reasons such as her being from a wealthy family. I've already lied to her about my educational credentials (pathetic I know ), my only excuse is I was pissed at the time.

I'm very monogamous and I don't know how to handle the situation.

I'm meeting the other girl tonight for a meal, so that's 2 nights on the run with 2 different women. As gay as this sounds I almost feel a little ill this morning

Ladies, any suggestions on how to handle this?

[drkaje]

That's an easy one. Do them both at the same time. You'll feel less guilty.

[Nordic Superman]

That's an easy one. Do them both at the same time. You'll feel less guilty.

No mate, that's exactly what I don't want to do.

The date last night went too well. I like the girl, it's just that the otherone is amazing. I'll admit I'm too much of a coward to tell the other I just want to be friends

[davidpaul]

Go with the one with the better ass.

[Nordic Superman]

Go with the one with the better ass.

Well I've already got my mind set on one, and she does indeed have the best arse.

I need help on how to handle the situation.

[ripitupbaby]

You're still pretty early on in terms of a relationship with either one of them, so I wouldn't worry too much about that.  Unless you have already made a commitment to be monogamous with one or the other, I would date both of them for a little while and get to know them better.  Maybe you should tell them that you are dating other people and see if either one of them acts unhappy about that?
If you still end up liking the second one that much better after a few more dates or whatever, then talk to her about the possibility of a relationship and come clean with her about whatever it is you lied to her about.   
If it doesn't look promising and you still like the first girl, then at least you got backup lols...depending on whether or not you are interested in having a relationship with her.  But at that point, you should come clean with her too and tell her what your intentions are.

[Lord Humungous]

Date them both variety is the spice of life! When the hot one finally gives in you can get rid of the other one. No need to feel guilty until your married!

[Nordic Superman]

Thanks for the input ripitupbaby, I'll think about what you've said.

Humungous, problem is, I think I must be genetically programmed to feel guilty or something cause I can't help it

You see I don't really like the lying part. I've already had to lie to them both about what I'm upto so that I could see the other one.

[Butterbean]

Thanks for the input ripitupbaby, I'll think about what you've said.

Humungous, problem is, I think I must be genetically programmed to feel guilty or something cause I can't help it

You see I don't really like the lying part. I've already had to lie to them both about what I'm upto so that I could see the other one.

First, stop lying!  You'll only have to lie more to cover them!  Plus when you do finally get caught, you'll probably be dumped. Like rip said you should tell them both that you're "kind of" seeing another person and see how they react.

Also, you say you lied to the hot one about your education.  You should come clean w/that immediately IMO.  That thing could mushroom to an unfixable state.  What did you actually say?  Unless you stated an all out lie, we could possibly help you "Clintonize" it and it would be true!

[Nordic Superman]

First, stop lying!  You'll only have to lie more to cover them!  Plus when you do finally get caught, you'll probably be dumped. Like rip said you should tell them both that you're "kind of" seeing another person and see how they react.

Also, you say you lied to the hot one about your education.  You should come clean w/that immediately IMO.  That thing could mushroom to an unfixable state.  What did you actually say?  Unless you stated an all out lie, we could possibly help you "Clintonize" it and it would be true!

Bacially I lied about my grades at college and university.

She told me the night we met she went to private schools since nursery through to college, I was honestly humbled and intimidated and lied by inflating up my grades

I don't think it's possible for me to tell them I'm seeing other people. Women intimidate the hell out of me, I'm such a fucking coward it's unbelieveable.

You're probably right about the mushrooming thing. I keep running it through my head if she ever met my family and it came out she'd be like "WTF"?

I haven't tried to have a relationship for a while so I'm rusty as hell and telling more lies than pinocchio

[ripitupbaby]

LOL the lies you have told are not THAT bad...at least not yet!  As long as you don't let it get any worse!

You don't necessarily HAVE to tell them that you are dating other people, until it gets to the point with one or both of them where that is an important issue, like if they express that they want you to be monogamous with them and/or if they ask you about it (in which case you do not want to lie! )  If I went out with a guy a few times, I would not assume that I am the only one he is dating unless he told me that.  And if he didn't tell me that, I would only ask if it got to the point where I cared if he was monogamous or not.
And if it gets to that point, then you should be beyond the point where you are intimidated or shy or whatever in front of them...you can't build a successful long-term relationship with ANYONE like that.  You have to get to the point where you are comfortable with them and feel like you can talk openly to them about this shit. 
If it doesn't get to that point, then it's nothing to worry about, as it can't be much of a relationship.  know what I'm sayin'? 

[Nordic Superman]

Thanks ripitupbaby.

I just met up with the one I think is awesome again. She's immense, I feel like i'm back at school.

I told her I thought she was awesome and that she intimidated me, she kinda understood but probs thinks I'm a big pansy now...

The friends I hang out in CA when I'm living there do that dating more than one women thing. It just seems very alien to me.

You're right about acting like a pansy, I think it's just cause I haven't wanted a relationship to happen for a long time.

[Butterbean]

Bacially I lied about my grades at college and university.

She told me the night we met she went to private schools since nursery through to college, I was honestly humbled and intimidated and lied by inflating up my grades

I guess I don't understand why you'd even talk about grades? 

I agree w/rip though, lying about grades isn't anything irreparable.

I told her I thought she was awesome and that she intimidated me, she kinda understood but probs thinks I'm a big pansy now...

Seems like telling her the above would take guts and also be flattering to her.  But make sure you exude some confidence.  Then she'll think you're charming

[ripitupbaby]

Seems like telling her the above would take guts and also be flattering to her.  But make sure you exude some confidence.  Then she'll think you're charming

Indeed!   

[Nordic Superman]

I guess I don't understand why you'd even talk about grades? 

I agree w/rip though, lying about grades isn't anything irreparable.

Dunno, it just came up, I was put on the spot and drunk.

I won't see her again till after Christmas now, I have to goto India for two weeks and she's spending Xmas in South Africa.

Talk about shit timing to meet someone I think is awesome.

More proof the God you pray to doesn't exist Stella!

Anyhow, thanks for all the help ladies, I appreciate it.

[24KT]

First, stop lying!  You'll only have to lie more to cover them!  Plus when you do finally get caught, you'll probably be dumped. Like rip said you should tell them both that you're "kind of" seeing another person and see how they react.

Also, you say you lied to the hot one about your education.  You should come clean w/that immediately IMO.  That thing could mushroom to an unfixable state.  What did you actually say?  Unless you stated an all out lie, we could possibly help you "Clintonize" it and it would be true!

STella,
'Clintonizing' isn't a problem. It's when the 'Bushsh*t' starts flying when all hell breaks loose. 

[Deadpool]

lie about grades....why?  To impress?  who wants to date a nerd?

[gtbro1]

 I just want to be friends

   homo
























                jk

[gtbro1]

lie about grades....why?  To impress?  who wants to date a nerd?

   maybe he  really got A's and B's and claims to have gotten C's and D's.

[Deadpool]

at any rate, you should correct that before it becomes a problen (ie she finds out the truth)

[Nordic Superman]

lie about grades....why?  To impress?  who wants to date a nerd?

maybe he  really got A's and B's and claims to have gotten C's and D's.

She, she went to private schools from nursery onwards.

I told her I got straight B's at college... It's her own fucking fault I lied... intimidating me like hell

[24KT]

She, she went to private schools from nursery onwards.

I told her I got straight B's at college... It's her own fucking fault I lied... intimidating me like hell

{giggle} You really should straighten that out with her ASAP. She might even find it flattering,
...but I wouldn't advise you to lie to her again. That's a mjor red flag for most women.

[Playboy]

{giggle} You really should straighten that out with her ASAP. She might even find it flattering,
...but I wouldn't advise you to lie to her again. That's a mjor red flag for most women.

Jag! Long time no speak.....just wondering. Are you getting hit with snow in your area? We got it good in Concord for about 15 minutes and now its bright and sunny. Hope your having a great day

[knny187]

This is way to easy....

first of all...she's from a wealthy family & she's going to join the military?

gee....what does that tell you?


secondly.....what's wrong with just going out & having a good time?  If it's meant to be....it will happen all on it's own.  If it doesn't....then it saves you time & money spent on trying to make it work with someone thats not compatible with you.  All in all....just sit back...& enjoy the new company. 

[24KT]

Jag! Long time no speak.....just wondering. Are you getting hit with snow in your area? We got it good in Concord for about 15 minutes and now its bright and sunny. Hope your having a great day

Yep, we got blasted too, but I'm grateful it wasn't as bad as Bracebridge. They got 4 feet of it.  

Was freezing my boobies off for a few days, but I finally managed to get my bedroom fireplace lit,
so I've been toasty warm ever since. Not too fond of the high winds, but I've got my balaclava so it'll be bearable.

Right now I'm just bracing myself for the weekend. They're predicting some seriously nasty weather for Sunday.

ps - You're in Concord? ...I thought you were in Mississauga?