Do you ladies think...

[Hustle Man]

Men as a class are irreformable?

One of my female co-workers made this claim today during a long discussion.

This all came about because I opened the door for her as we were entering our office building; She did not appreciate the chivalrous gesture. She would not go through the door first and gestured me to go in ahead of her. I don’t get it, has (male to female) courtesy become obsolete in today’s society? I thought women wanted to be shown respect?

I was raised to open doors and give my coat to a woman if she is cold. I was taught to let women and children go first, to cover all expenses for an evening out, what has happened?

Has man-kind disappointed woman-kind to this point?

Do you find these types of gestures disrespectful?

I can only assume that she thought my intention was disingenuous and that I had other reasons for letting her through first, I don't know what but I don’t get it!

Irreformable Man

[w8m8]

She has issues 


You're a gentleman and it's appreciated by people who matter

I can't understand her reaction and won't try to

I'm glad you are the way you are 

[~flower~]

 I've held doors open for men, and I've held doors open for women.  It is a sign of courtesy or maybe just wanting to do something nice for someone else you don't even know just because it makes humans a bit less assholish and might make someones day.

  Hell I have even opened a door for a guy who then went to the next set of doors and held them for me and we both had a chuckle over it.

     Tell her it's just a fucking door and not to let it hit her in the ass on the way out. 

     Or better yet if you get the opportunity to go through a door before her turn around and make sure it shuts completely so she can open it herself.

             


     flower teh hepful has given her advices   

[Playboy]

Men as a class are irreformable?

One of my female co-workers made this claim today during a long discussion.

This all came about because I opened the door for her as we were entering our office building; She did not appreciate the chivalrous gesture. She would not go through the door first and gestured me to go in ahead of her. I don’t get it, has (male to female) courtesy become obsolete in today’s society? I thought women wanted to be shown respect?

I was raised to open doors and give my coat to a woman if she is cold. I was taught to let women and children go first, to cover all expenses for an evening out, what has happened?

Has man-kind disappointed woman-kind to this point?

Do you find these types of gestures disrespectful?

I can only assume that she thought my intention was disingenuous and that I had other reasons for letting her through first, I don't know what but I don’t get it!

Irreformable Man

Nope...you did the right thing brother. The same thing happens to me I would say at least  once or twice a week. And where? They gym. Some people are just too intimidated and insist that you go ahead and some people are just not into that. I always thought it was common courtasy to hold a door open for anyone in general walking close behind me rather then slam the damn thing in their face.

[24KT]

She has issues 


You're a gentleman and it's appreciated by people who matter

I can't understand her reaction and won't try to

I'm glad you are the way you are 

ditto.

[twigs87]

Men as a class are irreformable?

One of my female co-workers made this claim today during a long discussion.

This all came about because I opened the door for her as we were entering our office building; She did not appreciate the chivalrous gesture. She would not go through the door first and gestured me to go in ahead of her. I don’t get it, has (male to female) courtesy become obsolete in today’s society? I thought women wanted to be shown respect?

I was raised to open doors and give my coat to a woman if she is cold. I was taught to let women and children go first, to cover all expenses for an evening out, what has happened?

Has man-kind disappointed woman-kind to this point?

Do you find these types of gestures disrespectful?

I can only assume that she thought my intention was disingenuous and that I had other reasons for letting her through first, I don't know what but I don’t get it!

Irreformable Man

there used to be an expectation for men to act "like a gentleman" and open doors, pay for dinner, etc. since then however there has been a change in society with women becoming "independent" and insisting that she needs no man to take care of her. personally, i appreciate gestures like that, but i wouldn't get insulted if a man didn't open a door for me. i also find myself opening doors for other people, and sometimes i take the check at dinner. i dunno. maybe everyone should act like a gentleman.

[Butterbean]

I agree w/all the responses although I when talking directly to the woman I may phrase this one just a tiny bit differently

     Tell her it's just a fucking door and not to let it hit her in the ass on the way out. 

 

[w8m8]

there used to be an expectation for men to act "like a gentleman" and open doors, pay for dinner, etc. since then however there has been a change in society with women becoming "independent" and insisting that she needs no man to take care of her. personally, i appreciate gestures like that, but i wouldn't get insulted if a man didn't open a door for me. i also find myself opening doors for other people, and sometimes i take the check at dinner. i dunno.



maybe everyone should act like a gentleman.

great thought twigs   that seems like a fine idea , it could only improve things  

[ripitupbaby]

 I've held doors open for men, and I've held doors open for women.  It is a sign of courtesy or maybe just wanting to do something nice for someone else you don't even know just because it makes humans a bit less assholish and might make someones day.

  Hell I have even opened a door for a guy who then went to the next set of doors and held them for me and we both had a chuckle over it.

     Tell her it's just a fucking door and not to let it hit her in the ass on the way out. 

     Or better yet if you get the opportunity to go through a door before her turn around and make sure it shuts completely so she can open it herself.

             


     flower teh hepful has given her advices   

 

[JosephineD]

Men as a class are irreformable?

One of my female co-workers made this claim today during a long discussion.

This all came about because I opened the door for her as we were entering our office building; She did not appreciate the chivalrous gesture. She would not go through the door first and gestured me to go in ahead of her. I don’t get it, has (male to female) courtesy become obsolete in today’s society? I thought women wanted to be shown respect?

I was raised to open doors and give my coat to a woman if she is cold. I was taught to let women and children go first, to cover all expenses for an evening out, what has happened?

Has man-kind disappointed woman-kind to this point?

Do you find these types of gestures disrespectful?

I can only assume that she thought my intention was disingenuous and that I had other reasons for letting her through first, I don't know what but I don’t get it!

Irreformable Man

I see nothing wrong with a man being a gentleman.... if the gentleman doesn't mind my being a lady