I was surprized because I have never ever in the 15 years that I have known them talk about being nudists or even interested in that lifestyle. I later found out that they have been to this resort several times throughout our friendship.
I did ask why and I got an answer.
Short answer: He thought I would not go if I knew it was a nudists resort. He knew once I got there I would see that it was totally innocent.
It was very innocent (if you can stand being around folk in the buff), not a swinger haven at all. There were whole families there kids and pets included. They played volley ball, tennis even bingo in the buff. No one was staring.
Innocuous is the only word to discribe this resort.
The reason why I left out the "F", no one cares about fathers and the point is some folk are off limits, e.g. wives husbands in-laws etc. comprehende?
Wow HM,
I gotta tell you... that sets off some serious red flags for me. While his intentions may have been good, he sounds to me like someone NOT to be trusted. If that were me I would be furious at such an obvious omission made with a manipulative intent. I'm glad you enjoyed the experience, ...but you were manipulated into it. If you had said 'NO' because of your preconceived prejudices then it would have been your loss... and rightly so. I don't believe ANYONE has the right to make someone do something against their wishes... even if it is something they would enjoy.
If someone's own prejudices and biases cause them to miss out... so be it. I don't think anyone has the right to trick or manipulate someone into doing something or making a choice they otherwise wouldn't make if they had all the facts, ...regardless of how benign the result... it's still manipulation, deception, ...and an abuse of trust. That's just plain wrong. just my opinion.
If they had, through their ease & comfort with the lifestyle, simply
'forgot' to mention it, ...that's one thing,
...but their's was a deliberate omission with the intent to deceive and manipulate (albeit not maliciously), ...it was still deception, and a theft of your own personal power & autonomy... a theft of your freedom to make choices for yourself. If that were me, I'd be giving them a good piece of my mind, ...and re-evaluating the level of trust they enjoyed in my life! Friends don't purposely deceive friends, or take away their freedoms, ...friends instead allow you to make educated empowered decisions based on truth, not lies, manipulation, or deception.
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