For freedom and personal responsibility; reliance on others particularly marriage partners is a dangerous way to go.
Marriage, like many other things in like, requires risk. But, also like other things, there are calculated risks and there are wreckless ones.
Most men put more research and effort into buying a car or a house, than they do in choosing a wife. There may be plenty of women with whom you want to get buck wild. But how many of them would you want to:
- Represent you in business and financial affairs
- Raise your children
- Entrust with your most valued possessions
- Carry your name and legacy
There are other factors to consider:
- How's the relationship with her family (contrary to popular belief, you DO marry the family, when you pick a wife)?
- How does she resolve conflict?
- Does she understand her role in the marriage? Does she understand your role?
- Are you "equally yoked"? As I heard years ago (from a joke from Chris Rock), you can both be saved or you can both be crackheads; but, you can't be on your way to church, while your spouse is about to hit the pipe.
Some guys use the wrong "head" to pick their bride, which will be to their detriment. As the saying goes, "You can't turn a ho into a housewife".