How does this 3 year waiting period work anyway? What happens to pregnant couples? Are the kids shuffled into foster care till the counseling is over? Are they exempt, and get fast-tracked, in which case anyone who wants to bypass the waiting period simply has to start a family?
And who wants to receive sexual fulfillment counseling from the neighborhood nerd pastor?
What makes you think the pastor is a nerd or that he would be unable to provide such counsel? Furthermore, if you look at that list I mentioned, I didn't limit such to pastors. As for pregnancy issues, one factor in many divorces is the "shotgun wedding" (i.e. marrying a girl, simply because you knocked her up). If you're weren't prepared for marriage beforehand, a baby isn't going to change things. Back in the day, people stuck it out, for the good of the family. That ain't happening in the "it's-all-about-me" generation that has dominate the late 20th/early21st century.
Besides, if a couple in such a situation still legitimately wanted to get hitched, they'd still benefit from marriage counseling.
Would you agree that marriage counseling should be facilitated to couples, whether the marriage occurs at a church or not?
Regarding the waiting period, I mentioned that the bethroment period in marriage, in OT times was a year. Loco mentioned that people should date for at least two years before getting married, as it is during that period that the "euphoria" wears off and the real work to sustain the relationship begins.
If I'm not mistaken, the one-year bethroment occured AFTER the dowry changed hands, as a prepatory period to get things ready for marriage (i.e. securing finances, living arrangements, etc.).
What's wrong with Jesus's rule that you get one kick at the can and that's it, ergo, abolish divorce?
Better still, if people want to divorce, why not institute a law that all their worldly belongings then go to the Church? All those messy, extended court battles would be a thing of the past, and it would benefit the needy. Of course, in both cases the murder rate would go up, but nothing's perfect.
One of the reasons that Israelite men were instructed not to intermarry with the other "-ites", around them is because they picked up a lot of their bad habits, including friviously dumping their wives. Divorce was instituted for the women's sake so that, should they get dropped for trivial reasons, they can find a better hubby.
In the passage where Jesus mentioned divorce, the folks asking Him the questions are trying to trip Him up, hoping that he says something, contrary to OT law, so that they can nail Him for being a false prophet. He explained to the that the reason Moses authorized divorce is because the Israelite men were mistreating their wives. But, if they're so concerned about the rules, they should go back to the highest standard (i.e. adultery being grounds for divorce).