one for the guys.............

[kreator]

since this board is also regularly visited by the male population of getbig,here's one for you, would you ever be with or even get married to a very hot girl you love that never was that much into you emotionally , but feels very secure when with you since you're a provider and a well educated guy, nice to her.......more like her second father? girls can chime in as well......

[drkaje]

No!

[Cap]

since this board is also regularly visited by the male population of getbig,here's one for you, would you ever be with or even get married to a very hot girl you love that never was that much into you emotionally , but feels very secure when with you since you're a provider and a well educated guy, nice to her.......more like her second father? girls can chime in as well......

I have a feeling I have been in a number of these relationships already...Lol.

[Parker]

since this board is also regularly visited by the male population of getbig,here's one for you, would you ever be with or even get married to a very hot girl you love that never was that much into you emotionally , but feels very secure when with you since you're a provider and a well educated guy, nice to her.......more like her second father? girls can chime in as well......

I know a chick in this type of relationship. He's 47, she's 26, if a dime piece was worth 11 cents, that would be her, a dime plus 1. And she is not happy either, last time I saw her. Had nice dreads, now her hair looks  . But he maketh the money. And she taketh the security...She never had a father figure in her life, and he's it...a sugar DADDY in the truest sense of the word.

[kreator]

a friend of mine just got married but she can't even imagine spending the rest of her life with her husband.............she's very dependent on him though and was told that feeling secure around somebody is the most important thing for women in a marriage

[flexingtonsteele]

Having second thoughts there Kreator?

[kreator]

Having second thoughts there Kreator?

  no, trust me, it wasn't me who got hitched, but if it were me no way i could be with somebody who doesn't feel the same way and I allready have a pet, a dog to be precise........

[flexingtonsteele]

oh ok............just asking, cos its quite normal to second guess A LIFETIME decision. But hey, u gotta make the plunge sometime and you'll never know whats going to happen til you do it.

So do whats in your heart and what u think is best.

[ChestBrockwell]

since this board is also regularly visited by the male population of getbig,here's one for you, would you ever be with or even get married to a very hot girl you love that never was that much into you emotionally , but feels very secure when with you since you're a provider(old age pensioner or on  disability) and a well educated guy guy with no education, nice to her.......more like her second father?(or grandfather) girls can chime in as well......

Where I live in Thailand this is par for the course. 99% of the guys dont realise this is their relationship either because they dont speak the language, dont know the Thai mindest and are majorly on the rebound or never got laid at home, add in the fact that they were drunk when they met their "darling" in the bar and there u have it.

[Butterbean]

a friend of mine just got married but she can't even imagine spending the rest of her life with her husband.............she's very dependent on him though and was told that feeling secure around somebody is the most important thing for women in a marriage

From your description it seems like she probably shouldn't have married him but they are both adults.  Do you think she's actually made a commitment here or is just going along for the ride for the time being?  Do you think he is a good man kreator?  Maybe it will work out better than she ever dreamed

And being dependent on someone and feeling secure w/them are 2 diff things.

Was her husband clearly aware how she feels and was he aware before the wedding?

Is there a big age difference?

[drkaje]

Doesn't that make her a live-in 'professional'?

[freespirit]

Marriage is a business agreement. But this particular girl has nothing to offer besides being hot, so that's not much of an agreement. I would not marry her eventually.

[kreator]

From your description it seems like she probably shouldn't have married him but they are both adults.  Do you think she's actually made a commitment here or is just going along for the ride for the time being?  Do you think he is a good man kreator?  Maybe it will work out better than she ever dreamed

And being dependent on someone and feeling secure w/them are 2 diff things.

Was her husband clearly aware how she feels and was he aware before the wedding?

Is there a big age difference?

1. no, he's clueless......
2.no, they're the same age

i don't think he's a bad person, he messed around with some other girl once, she found out,they broke up but she took him back after 3 months,she was afraid she wouldn't find anybody else as nice as he was, as capable...........a guy most girls dream of raising a family with, they've been together for ten years now, she didn't marry cause she wanted to but cause she didn't dare say anything against it, couldn't sleep at night, doesn't know if he's the right guy for her, she never felt anything special towards him emotionally, no ''chemistry''........

[drkaje]

Everyone makes compromises in a relationship but selling yourself for security seems over the top.

[Monster_Everything]

no , never .....as a species we seek to gratify ourselves, eventually the need to be happy with someone you want to be with would eventually outwiegh all the perks .....

[drkaje]

no , never .....as a species we seek to gratify ourselves, eventually the need to be happy with someone you want to be with would eventually outwiegh all the perks .....

That's when she gets a divorce and takes half his stuff.

[24KT]

That's when she gets a divorce and takes half his stuff.

...if he's lucky. Given enough time, she might start to really resent him, as well as her dependance on him,
and if that boils over into rage, ...she might go for more than half, as well as a lb of flesh, ...you know where. 


...or maybe not. She may come to develop a love for him that goes beyond the physical,
but if she is a product of North American culture, ...chances are highly unlikely IMO.

[Playboy]

since this board is also regularly visited by the male population of getbig,here's one for you, would you ever be with or even get married to a very hot girl you love that never was that much into you emotionally , but feels very secure when with you since you're a provider and a well educated guy, nice to her.......more like her second father? girls can chime in as well......

Absolutely not. Especially with the divorce rate today. you need to make 100% sure that you are both in sync. Otherwise it is a divorce waiting to happen. She needs to be into you as much as you are into her.