What do you consider to be the WORST FORM of cheating - physical or emotional?

[Pollux]

Well, ladies? Let's hear it. I say emotional is the worse. Sex is sex. Fucking is fucking. But when you develop feelings and/or find yourself giving your heart and soul to someone else other than your significant other, that takes it to another level and makes it worse!

Discuss...

[danielson]

Can't help the way you feel, sometimes by abstaining from sex it shows how much you truly care about your partner.

[Butterbean]

Can't help the way you feel, sometimes by abstaining from sex it shows how much you truly care about your partner.

To nurture an emotional affair would be wrong imo but agree w/danielson also.  Emotional affairs are less black and white than physical ones.  Once the physical contact has occured there is no question as to if there has been cheating or not.

Plus many women may not feel that sex is just sex because some (most?) women seem to become more emotionally invested before engaging in sex...so we may project our feelings upon a man that in order for him to engage in physical cheating he must be emotionally invested as well. 

[Laura Lee]

Both are seriously wrong IMO.  If you feel the need to be involved with someone other than you s/o in either, you don't belong in that relationship as you really don't love/care for that person as much as you should.

I just can't understand why people cheat.  There really isn't any good reason to do so.  If you are unhappy in your relationship and feel it can't be fixed in a way that would make you happy, then get out of the relationship.  The other person may be hurt, but it is less pain than they would endure if they found you betrayed them with someone else (regardless of it being just sexual or emotional) and the end result would still be the same, broken up...but with just more pain and most likely the other would harbor/carry a lot of emotional baggage into their next relationship(s).  And that's just not fair. 

[Faust]

To nurture an emotional affair would be wrong imo but agree w/danielson also.  Emotional affairs are less black and white than physical ones.  Once the physical contact has occured there is no question as to if there has been cheating or not.

And what is "physical contact"?

Is kissing cheating?

[Laura Lee]

And what is "physical contact"?

Is kissing cheating?

Yes   

[Pollux]

Yes   

You and Michael have been together for quite some time. Hypothetically speaking, if he kissed a girl - and nothing else - you'd drop him like a hot potato just like that?

[danielson]

You and Michael have been together for quite some time. Hypothetically speaking, if he kissed a girl - and nothing else - you'd drop him like a hot potato just like that?

Laura kissed a girl and she liked it! It was more the taste of her cherry chapstick though.

[Laura Lee]

You and Michael have been together for quite some time. Hypothetically speaking, if he kissed a girl - and nothing else - you'd drop him like a hot potato just like that?

I would as there is absolutely no excuse for him doing such.  I would also expect him to do the same of me if I ever were to do such.

[powerpack]

Laura kissed a girl and she liked it! It was more the taste of her cherry chapstick though.

LOL they are killing that song over here.
It is starting to give me a cramp now

[danielson]

LOL they are killing that song over here.
It is starting to give me a cramp now

I must hear it like 6 times a day! Hate that fkn song!

[Laura Lee]

Hm, i think it's more complicated than that.

When travelling i met a girl and we hung out for 5 days or so. We would be a great couple but i knew she had a bf and we're from differente countries... But at a party we were both a bit drunk and kissed. Basically kissed and talked all night, but nothing more because she had a boyfriend.

If i was her boyfriend i wouldn't like it, but i don't feel we did anything wrong honestly.

It's not complicated at all.  It's betrayal (kissing is still an intimate act).  Neither of us drink so we couldn't USE that excuse, not that it is a good one anyway (but seems to be the number one excuse  ).  Also, you stated "she" had a boyfriend so you were on the opposite side of the situtation.  What if she was your girlfriend and you found out she made out with another guy all night while away....are you saying you would be alright with that?  Could you trust her to be traveling again, or would you start assuming that now that you let that go...what would she do next and would you ever find out?

[Deicide]

How about masturbating to porn whilst in a relationship...is that cheating too?

[Pollux]

I would as there is absolutely no excuse for him doing such.  I would also expect him to do the same of me if I ever were to do such.

I think it's a lil silly and over-the-top if you invested time and years into the relationship, and just because he made a mistake by kissing a girl - and NOTHING else - that you'd drop him or any other guy for that matter.

[Pollux]

How about masturbating to porn whilst in a relationship...is that cheating too?

Speak on this, Laura. What IF a guy masturbates to porn or has phone sex with someone else while he's in a relationship. You seem to be hung up on the whole "physical contact" issue, surely you don't consider these two things cheating, do ya?

[Laura Lee]

How about masturbating to porn whilst in a relationship...is that cheating too?

Although one would hope that they take care of their partner sexually enough that they wouldn't have the need to view porn (alone), but if you're just masterbating at the excitement of sex...I think that is one thing (just a release), but if your actually desiring/fantasizing about having sex with who ever is in the porn...well, although it's not cheating, I do think there might be a problem with the "intimate" part of their relationship and should be address BEFORE it ends up being something that's eventually "acted" upon.

If that makes any sense (it did while I was writing it, lol).

[Hereford]

Well, ladies? Let's hear it. I say emotional is the worse. Sex is sex. Fucking is fucking. But when you develop feelings and/or find yourself giving your heart and soul to someone else other than your significant other, that takes it to another level and makes it worse!

Discuss...

Not a lady, but thought I'd chime in on this one...

Either way is wrong on the most deepest levels. If a woman is 'emotionally' interested in another person it is only a matter of time before she physically cheats on her mate.

In the world today, cheating has become the norm, whether physical, emptional or otherwise. Some people can work thru the temptation, most cannot.

And also of note.... If you cheat... you WILL get caught sooner or later.

[Deicide]

Not a lady, but thought I'd chime in on this one...

Either way is wrong on the most deepest levels. If a woman is 'emotionally' interested in another person it is only a matter of time before she physically cheats on her mate.

In the world today, cheating has become the norm, whether physical, emptional or otherwise. Some people can work thru the temptation, most cannot.

And also of note.... If you cheat... you WILL get caught sooner or later.

Word...word...word...

Last year I unwittingly had an affair with a girl who was engaged; midway into it I found out it was engaged but by then the feelings were too intense to resist; it kept promising me it would leave the dude for me and I was the one it really loved...eventually it left and MARRIED him, after a year long affair with me. And now it stalks the hallowed halls of Columbia university in MY home town whilst the husband (wholly unaware of the whole affair to this day) is paying for half of its studies (can we say marriage of convenience?). It kept on writing me e-mails THIS year...up until June or thereabouts, how it couldn't forget me even though it wanted to, blah, blah, blah...it got off scot free, but eventually it will cheat again; it's in its nature. It wanted the breadwinner (the husband) and the interesting, unusual guy (me) at the same time but ultimately it chose the bread winner...good riddance to bad rubbish. I just hope something comes to light...haha...husband withdraws financial support...something like that...

[Laura Lee]

Word...word...word...

Last year I unwittingly had an affair with a girl who was engaged; midway into it I found out it was engaged but by then the feelings were too intense to resist; it kept promising me it would leave the dude for me and I was the one it really loved...eventually it left and MARRIED him, after a year long affair with me. And now it stalks the hallowed halls of Columbia university in MY home town whilst the husband (wholly unaware of the whole affair to this day) is paying for half of its studies (can we say marriage of convenience?). It kept on writing me e-mails THIS year...up until June or thereabouts, how it couldn't forget me even though it wanted to, blah, blah, blah...it got off scot free, but eventually it will cheat again; it's in its nature. It wanted the breadwinner (the husband) and the interesting, unusual guy (me) at the same time but ultimately it chose the bread winner...good riddance to bad rubbish. I just hope something comes to light...haha...husband withdraws financial support...something like that...

I'm guessing you know "it's" husband's name.  Why not forward all those emails to him?  And I don't mean for revenge (although that would be dessert) but because he shouldn't be used like such. 

[michael arvilla]

KATY PERRY LYRICS

I Kissed A Girl

This was never the way I planned,
not my intention.
I got so brave,
drink in hand.
Lost my discresion
Its not what, I'm used to.
Just wanna try you on.
I'm curi-ous for you,
caught my attention.

I kissed a girl and I liked it,
the taste of her cherry chapstick.
I kissed a girl just to try it,
I hope my boyfriend don't mind it.
It felt so wrong,
it felt so right.
Don't mean I'm in love tonight.
I kissed a girl and I liked it.
(I liked it)

No, I dont even know your name,
it doesn't matter.
Your my experimental game,
just human nature.
It's not what good girls do.
Not how they should behave.
My head gets, so confused.
Hard to obey.

I kissed a girl and I liked it,
the taste of her cherry chapstick.
I kissed a girl just to try it,
I hope my boyfriend don't mind it.
It felt so wrong,
it felt so right.
Don't mean I'm in love tonight.
I kissed a girl and I liked it.
(I liked it)

Us girls we are so magical.
Soft skin, red lips, so kissable.
Hard to resist,
so touchable.
To good to deny it.
Ain't no big deal,
it's innocent.

I kissed a girl and i liked it,
the taste of her cherry chapstick.
I kissed a girl just to try it,
I hope my boyfriend don't mind it.
It felt so wrong,
it felt so right.
Don't mean I'm in love tonight.
I kissed a girl and I liked it.
(I liked it)

[Deicide]

I'm guessing you know "it's" husband's name.  Why not forward all those emails to him?  And I don't mean for revenge (although that would be dessert) but because he shouldn't be used like such. 

I'm a bit paranoid about shaking things up; I think it is terrified of me for this reason; I have the power to ruin its life, but I am trying to be a man and just walk away; it is not worth it.

[Laura Lee]

I'm a bit paranoid about shaking things up; I think it is terrified of me for this reason; I have the power to ruin its life, but I am trying to be a man and just walk away; it is not worth it.

If you were the other guy who married her, would you want "it" exposed?  I certainly would.  I wouldn't want to put to much time, love and effort into a person that didn't love and respect me and only used me for my $.  But that's me.

[Deicide]

If you were the other guy who married her, would you want "it" exposed?  I certainly would.  I wouldn't want to put to much time, love and effort into a person that didn't love and respect me and only used me for my $.  But that's me.

That man is not my friend; granted I feel bad for him, but he is a bit of a dick I think anyway...so maybe the two deserve each other...

[Hereford]

That man is not my friend; granted I feel bad for him, but he is a bit of a dick I think anyway...so maybe the two deserve each other...

Dude, tell this fool what is going on woth his lay.  That's rediculous. If you aren't going to get any more play with this female, he gets to know. Even if the guy's a dick he shouldn't be run thru by a female like this.

How did it get away with this activity for over a year now? Must be a good operator....

[Laura Lee]

That man is not my friend; granted I feel bad for him, but he is a bit of a dick I think anyway...so maybe the two deserve each other...

You "think" he's a bit of a dick and presume they might deserve each other.  I hope you aren't basing your opinion of him on "its" words because I'm sure that "it" would say what ever it took to make you think that "its" a victim...which is probably why you stayed in the relationship with it even after knowing they were engaged.  It used you and is still using the other guy.   And I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that "its" probably got another sucker on the side now.