Them shutting up about it would make the world a better place. I don't actually care but hope they get it so there's one less lame issue for people to argue over. Personally, I wonder what the desperate need for the state and society to legitimize same sex relationships says about the community as a whole.
The fact is that a LOT of the gays and their supporters
would be quiet and go home if the rights, privileges, and protections were the exact same for civil unions/domestic partnerships as they are for marriages AND if that was true for every state.
One suggestion being tossed about is to get the state
completely out of the business of marriage. Anyone who wants to can register with the state as a DP (pay the fee, etc), but then anyone who wanted to get 'married' - after all, churches are claiming they own all that turf - would do so at the church of their choice.