Your post reminds me of a situation that occurred several years ago on a different board. A bodybuilder/escort croaked and several guys were making catty comments about him on an escort site that he used to frequent. His sister, of all people, logged on to say that she and her family were very distressed by the nasty messages and admonished the posters to stop their hostile commentaries. Apparently, she found her way to the site by looking at his computer. Alas, her comments were not welcome.
Why, various people wondered, would she (and members of her family) be trolling around reading messages on an escort board? Didn’t she have better things to do with her time than trying to police the conversations of people she did not know and would never meet? The fact is her brother was a whore and no John was going to suddenly sit up and respect him just because he recently died. Her concern for her brother would have been better shown by steering him out of escorting and other self destructive behaviors. Was trolling message boards really the best way to handle her grief?
I felt bad for her loss and the flack she took on that board, but what did she expect to get from a bunch of johns? Real sympathy? 
None of this is necessarily a reflection on Mike Bell, but it does represent a potentially similar dynamic.
We have a saying where I come from, “when someone shows you who they are . . . believe them.” 
I dont think Mark Bell would come on here looking for sympathy, and I am damn sure he knows his brother had issues, but what do you gain by saying negative comments about his dead brother, of whom you probably knew nothing about?? By the way, your comparison of this to the escorting site is totally irrelevant.
