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Re: When did you guys let your kids start playing for 'select' teams?
« Reply #25 on: January 06, 2010, 10:27:23 AM »
Imo let a kid follow his/her natural inclinations.  They're born curious and active and you really can't go wrong unless the kid turns into a complete bookworm, jock bully, or video game addict (the biggest danger these days). 

Children are prone to lose interest in things fast but it's always replaced by a new fascination.  Parents often interpret this as fickleness or ADD but it seems perfectly healthy to me.  New discoveries is what childhood is all about and should be encouraged imo, although tempered with a sense of responsibility toward commitments like school, household responsibilities, and personal relationships.

But wtf do I know, I haven't had the chance to screw one up yet.  :D

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Re: When did you guys let your kids start playing for 'select' teams?
« Reply #26 on: January 06, 2010, 10:31:59 AM »
my main concnern is the guy asks strangers on the internet for advices about raising his kid. It means he didnt find someone in his close "entourage" to answer his question. It's also obvious he's obsessed with sports and almost dont talk directly with his daughter which is a bad sign of poor communcation skills.
He prefers to find "ready to use/consume answers" that fit in the general mainstream TRENDS of society,  instead of building genuine and more adapted, suitable answers talking with his daughter, and teaching her to do the same later in her life with other people as a result.

And tre, dont even come here whining about how harsh we are cause you asked for it.

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Re: When did you guys let your kids start playing for 'select' teams?
« Reply #27 on: January 06, 2010, 10:41:44 AM »
People who have kids just love talking about them.  I'll probably be the same way.  Heaps of guys announce marriages/births/etc on here.  Tre probably figured he'd just throw it out there and see what he got, seeing as how we give eachother shit but there's a lot of family guys hereabouts.  If he gets a bunch of crap I'm sure he'll just disregard it. 

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Re: When did you guys let your kids start playing for 'select' teams?
« Reply #28 on: January 06, 2010, 10:44:57 AM »
Stop wasting her time with a useless sport like soccer.  What are your hopes?  That she is 1 of maybe 20 girls that make it out of millions to play on the Olympic team?  Have her concentrate on studies and school and do something with her life via an education, maybe use soccer as a means to get her a scholarship but don't have her waste that opportunity worrying about sports.


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Re: When did you guys let your kids start playing for 'select' teams?
« Reply #29 on: January 06, 2010, 10:47:47 AM »
Stop wasting her time with a useless sport like soccer.  What are your hopes?  That she is 1 of maybe 20 girls that make it out of millions to play on the Olympic team?  Have her concentrate on studies and school and do something with her life via an education, maybe use soccer as a means to get her a scholarship but don't have her waste that opportunity worrying about sports.


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he 's obviously puting way too much emphasis on the "sport" "physical" part of HER life (especially considering she's not a HE ...smells like a typical case of a father who wished he got a SON...)
If enjoying a sport that keeps her healthy and develops her social skills is obviously OK, being extreme about it or any other physical activity is Not. What about she just keep playing the sport she "chose" (  ::) ) and keep it that way. As simple as that.  More than 2/3 hours a week of physical activity for a 7 y/o GIRL ? please.

Like there' s nothing else in her education that requires as much emphasis from her father... Maybe he thinks that's all he has, and all he can give her...

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Re: When did you guys let your kids start playing for 'select' teams?
« Reply #30 on: January 06, 2010, 10:54:01 AM »
Have her 'use' soccer as a source of enjoyment and a chance to interact with friends.  This kid is 7, no?  Childhood is not an audition that you have to pass.  Everything is not a test, gentlemen.

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Re: When did you guys let your kids start playing for 'select' teams?
« Reply #31 on: January 06, 2010, 10:57:00 AM »
I can hear her in therapy in 20 years: "I had 87 dads!  And they were all Getbiggers!  Arrrrgh!"

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Re: When did you guys let your kids start playing for 'select' teams?
« Reply #32 on: January 06, 2010, 10:58:45 AM »
I can hear her in therapy in 20 years: "I had 87 dads!  And they were all Getbiggers!  Arrrrgh!"
more like " if i didnt spend 20 hours a week in a locker with women since i'm 5, i wouldnt be enjoying licking clitorises as much as i do today and would even find some apeal into men's reproductive appendices instead"

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Re: When did you guys let your kids start playing for 'select' teams?
« Reply #33 on: January 06, 2010, 11:05:41 AM »
Sherief Shalaby: Cute pic!

Tre: I'd put her in the most advanced level you can.  She'll make friends and have fun at any level, and if she is talented, she will rise to top of the team quickly no matter what level she is at.

Getbig: My kid is 3.  he has clearly defined abs and some pretty good shoulder separation.  He drinks whey and eat a pile of fruit each day while his friends are eating cookies.  he pwns all the other kids at the kiddie pool.

[jk]I've looked all over for a youth bodybuilding program - I'd like to get him in a pair of posing thongs [no pedo] before he starts grade school.  Can anyone recommend a good youth BBing program?  Thanks in advance.[/jk]

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Re: When did you guys let your kids start playing for 'select' teams?
« Reply #34 on: January 06, 2010, 11:07:01 AM »
my main concnern is the guy asks strangers on the internet for advices about raising his kid. It means he didnt find someone in his close "entourage" to answer his question. It's also obvious he's obsessed with sports and almost dont talk directly with his daughter which is a bad sign of poor communcation skills.

He prefers to find "ready to use/consume answers" that fit in the general mainstream TRENDS of society,  instead of building genuine and more adapted, suitable answers talking with his daughter, and teaching her to do the same later in her life with other people as a result.

And tre, dont even come here whining about how harsh we are cause you asked for it.

What makes an 'entourage' member's opinion or suggestion any more valid than a stranger's?  I know a lot of GetBiggers personally and despite how crazy we may all act on the site, there are a lot of really bright people here with a lot more experience than you or me in various things.  I wasn't an elite-level athlete myself and her mother never played sports at all, but there are guys on GetBig who can offer valuable advice, because they either were and know what their parents did right/wrong or because they've already raised star athletes. 

I do love sports and while I wanted her to play soccer to help develop her balance and footwork for other sports, I certainly did not come into this expecting to have a superstar on my hands.  So, her mom and I are not exactly equipped to make all the right parenting decisions without garnering more information from people who can bring more perspective.   

Kiddo and I talk about various things all the time, but she's 7.  She likes the challenge of possibly playing select, but doesn't want to leave her friends.  There is no one right answer that I'm hoping to get from GetBig and no matter what she/we choose(s) moving forward, she'll have to give something up.  That's an important life lesson, but knowing which route is best for her now vs long-term does create a dilemma and it's only natural to want to hash it out by discussing as many possibilities as we're aware of.

Imo let a kid follow his/her natural inclinations.  They're born curious and active and you really can't go wrong unless the kid turns into a complete bookworm, jock bully, or video game addict (the biggest danger these days). 

Children are prone to lose interest in things fast but it's always replaced by a new fascination.  Parents often interpret this as fickleness or ADD but it seems perfectly healthy to me.  New discoveries is what childhood is all about and should be encouraged imo, although tempered with a sense of responsibility toward commitments like school, household responsibilities, and personal relationships.

But wtf do I know, I haven't had the chance to screw one up yet.  :D

You're so right and thanks, man. 

Believe me, I knew a LOT more about raising kids before I actually had one.  ;D

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Re: When did you guys let your kids start playing for 'select' teams?
« Reply #35 on: January 06, 2010, 11:20:14 AM »
Let her play what and when she wants to, I see no future harm to the child if it's her decision. I have a 3 year old daughter that likes gymnastics, but when she gets older I will assure you that her education will come way before any sport. Children are too often taught sporting activities are more important than their education, and then they struggle throughout life without a decent educational background.

I have seen some of the pushy soccer parent types and I can't stand it (I hope you are not one of these people). A education will bring about many more opportunities  99.99% of the time...

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« Reply #36 on: January 06, 2010, 11:41:19 AM »
Stop wasting her time with a useless sport like soccer.  What are your hopes?  That she is 1 of maybe 20 girls that make it out of millions to play on the Olympic team?  Have her concentrate on studies and school and do something with her life via an education, maybe use soccer as a means to get her a scholarship but don't have her waste that opportunity worrying about sports.

If she just did the standard one practice/one game per week deal, she'd be fine for now.  Looking ahead, she could probably coast along playing rec and then play for the high school just on pure talent alone.  But one thing I *do* know is that kids who have talents need to be taught that they still have to WORK HARD if they want to be the best...and this is true in athletics, just as it is in the classroom. 

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he 's obviously puting way too much emphasis on the "sport" "physical" part of HER life (especially considering she's not a HE ...smells like a typical case of a father who wished he got a SON...)
If enjoying a sport that keeps her healthy and develops her social skills is obviously OK, being extreme about it or any other physical activity is Not. What about she just keep playing the sport she "chose" (  ::) ) and keep it that way. As simple as that.  More than 2/3 hours a week of physical activity for a 7 y/o GIRL ? please.

Like there' s nothing else in her education that requires as much emphasis from her father... Maybe he thinks that's all he has, and all he can give her...

We left a great situation in SoCal and chose to move here just prior to kindergarten because this area's schools were among the highest-rated in California.  I couldn't get her mother to leave CA and move to the east coast, so I had to go with the best possible compromise for our daughter. 

I really don't think you understand what I'm up against with the whole Mormonism thing.  TBMs want Mormonism to dominate your life from a very early age and learning how to combat that is a learning process for me that has required a great deal of adaptability.  If I wasn't proactive in getting her involved with sports (something she truly wants to do, not for me, but because it's more fun than other things), then she'd do the typical Mormon thing, by default and that's all she'd ever know, especially with regard to social stuff.  Her mother almost never allows her to play with non-Mormon kids after school, so I have to take her to practice or to the gym in order to broaden her social network.
 
Kids have to remain active.  I remember playing outside 15-20 hours a week as a child, regardless of the weather.  They don't do that here.  It's weird.  Lots of fat kids walking around with their hand-held video games...kids who'd be less fat if they played more.

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Re: When did you guys let your kids start playing for 'select' teams?
« Reply #37 on: January 06, 2010, 12:34:42 PM »
Sherief Shalaby: Cute pic!


thank you!.. one day he will be uncrowned mr. olympia 3x (at least) ;)

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Re: When did you guys let your kids start playing for 'select' teams?
« Reply #38 on: January 06, 2010, 01:28:07 PM »
Let her make her own decision, let her make the decision it to play a particular sport as long as it doesn't run into consecutive seasons. My son has played baseball since he was in Tee Ball and when he went to pony made the travel ball team as a starting catcher every year. Now I'm devistated this year because he said he wants to wrestle for his school team (they are #5 in our state with 4 National champions) but since I do all the S&C for the school I can't say no nor would....but it hurts....it was ultimately his decision!

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« Reply #39 on: January 06, 2010, 04:37:47 PM »
Let her make her own decision, let her make the decision it to play a particular sport as long as it doesn't run into consecutive seasons. My son has played baseball since he was in Tee Ball and when he went to pony made the travel ball team as a starting catcher every year. Now I'm devistated this year because he said he wants to wrestle for his school team (they are #5 in our state with 4 National champions) but since I do all the S&C for the school I can't say no nor would....but it hurts....it was ultimately his decision LIFE !

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Re: When did you guys let your kids start playing for 'select' teams?
« Reply #40 on: January 06, 2010, 04:53:22 PM »
How about just asking the kid what she wants to do?

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« Reply #41 on: January 06, 2010, 04:56:25 PM »
Push her like there is no tomorrow.  Follow the Earl Woods, Agassi's dad, school of thought.  Force her to practice so that you can have a nice early retirement built on her back and hard work.

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« Reply #42 on: January 06, 2010, 05:06:24 PM »


No, I make his LIFE decisions, he can make the decision on what sport he want's to play.

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« Reply #43 on: January 06, 2010, 05:09:51 PM »
How about just asking the kid what she wants to do?

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« Reply #44 on: January 06, 2010, 09:26:43 PM »
How about just asking the kid what she wants to do?

She wants to try out for the select team, but I'm not in favor of it right now.  I did agree to take her to a tryout, though, to WATCH.  If she still wants to try out after seeing how serious it is, then I told her we'd discuss it with her mother and decide as a family.  Why? Because it requires a family commitment when the kid accepts an offer to play, because you're talking three practices per week, which is a significant time obligation, in addition to fundraising and other club-related activities.  Naturally, the point would be moot if she didn't make the team, but it's smarter to discuss the what-ifs in advance. 

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« Reply #45 on: January 06, 2010, 09:32:49 PM »
My kid is a kick-ass soccer player. 




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« Reply #46 on: January 06, 2010, 09:38:24 PM »
Imo let a kid follow his/her natural inclinations.  They're born curious and active and you really can't go wrong unless the kid turns into a complete bookworm, jock bully, or video game addict (the biggest danger these days). 

Children are prone to lose interest in things fast but it's always replaced by a new fascination.  Parents often interpret this as fickleness or ADD but it seems perfectly healthy to me.  New discoveries is what childhood is all about and should be encouraged imo, although tempered with a sense of responsibility toward commitments like school, household responsibilities, and personal relationships.

But wtf do I know, I haven't had the chance to screw one up yet.  :D

Have her play a sport that isn't so hard on her knees. If she keeps playing throughout the years, her chances of getting Osgood Schlatter go up significantly and being a female her chances of an ACL injury are almost twice as great as a male. I personally try and talk parents out having their kid play soccer.

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« Reply #47 on: January 06, 2010, 10:41:53 PM »
Have her play a sport that isn't so hard on her knees. If she keeps playing throughout the years, her chances of getting Osgood Schlatter go up significantly and being a female her chances of an ACL injury are almost twice as great as a male. I personally try and talk parents out having their kid play soccer.

Don't more women get injured on antiquated hard turf fields than men? 

Would you agree that playing *any* sport hard is hard on the body?  (the reason swimming isn't a 'sport' ;) )  I cannot imagine American life without women's college soccer.


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« Reply #48 on: January 06, 2010, 10:57:17 PM »
I commend you Tre for taking the time to allow your kid to play a variety of different sports.  It will help them develop goals for the future and teach them discipline and the value of hard work.