Arkansas teen accuses mom of Facebook harassment

[Dos Equis]

This boy needs a beat down.  The Mom is right:  will be open season on parents if they permit this kind of complaint.   

Arkansas teen accuses mom of Facebook harassment 
Posted 4/7/2010

By Tom Parsons, Associated Press Writer

LITTLE ROCK, Ark. — The mother of a 16-year-old boy said she was only being a good mom when she locked him out of his Facebook account after reading he had driven home at 95 mph one night because he was mad at a girl. His response: a harassment complaint at the local courthouse.
"If I'm found guilty on this it is going to be open season" on parents, Denise New said Wednesday.

New, of Arkadelphia, a small college town an hour southwest of Little Rock, said many of her son's postings didn't reflect well on him, so after he failed to log off the social networking site one day last month, she posted her own items on his account and changed his password to keep him from using it again. But her son claims what she posted wasn't true, and that she's damaging his reputation.

"The things he was posting in Facebook would make any decent parent's eyes pop out and his jaw drop," Denise New said. "He had been warned before about things he had been posting."

Lane New, who lives with his grandmother, filed a complaint with prosecutors who approved a harassment charge March 26. Neither New would say Wednesday which items on his Facebook site the boy had found slanderous.

"I probably made maybe three, maybe four actual postings -- the rest of it was a conversation between my son, me and his personal friends," Denise New said.

In his handwritten complaint to prosecutors, Lane New asked that his mother have no contact with him and wrote, "Denise first hacked my Facebook and changed my password. She also changed the password to my e-mail so I could not change it. She posted things that involve slander and personal facts about my life."

Denise New acknowledged changing both passwords to keep her son from getting access to his Facebook page. She denied hacking into the account.

"He left it logged in on my computer," she said. "It's not like I stole his laptop."

Denise New said the boy had written on his Facebook page that he had gone to Hot Springs one night and drove 95 mph on the way home because he was upset with a girl. Several other posts on his site also bothered her, but she refused to elaborate.

She said he has since opened a new Facebook account.

Prosecutor Todd Turner declined to comment because the boy is a minor. His office issued a statement later saying the woman's alleged statements about her son justified the harassment charge -- though he would not describe the comments.

Denise New said Lane moved in with his grandmother about five years ago, after she went through a difficult divorce, was having mental health problems and didn't feel she could provide her son with the supervision he needed.

She faces a hearing on the misdemeanor at the Clark County Courthouse on May 12.

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[24KT]

Arkansas teen accuses mom of harassment for postings on his Facebook page
Wed Apr 7, 7:32 PM
By Tom Parsons, The Associated Press

 
LITTLE ROCK, Ark. - The mother of a 16-year-old boy said she was only being a good mom when she locked him out of his Facebook account after reading he had driven home at 95 mph (150 kph) one night because he was mad at a girl. His response: a harassment complaint at the local courthouse.

"If I'm found guilty on this it is going to be open season" on parents, Denise New, the mother, said Wednesday.

New said many of her son's postings didn't reflect well on him, so after he failed to log off the social networking site one day last month, she posted her own items on his account and changed his password to keep him from using it again. But her son claims what she posted wasn't true, and she's damaging his reputation.

"The things he was posting in Facebook would make any decent parent's eyes pop out and his jaw drop," Denise New said. "He had been warned before about things he had been posting."

Lane New, who lives with his grandmother, filed a complaint with prosecutors who approved a harassment charge March 26. Neither New would say Wednesday which items on his Facebook site the boy had found slanderous.

"I probably made maybe three, maybe four actual postings - the rest of it was a conversation between my son, me and his personal friends," Denise New said.

In his handwritten complaint to prosecutors, Lane New wrote "Denise first hacked my Facebook and changed my password. She also changed the password to my email so I could not change it. She posted things that involve slander and personal facts about my life."

Denise New acknowledged changing both passwords to keep her son from getting access to his Facebook page. She denied hacking into the account.

"He left it logged in on my computer," she said. "It's not like I stole his laptop."

Denise New said the boy had written on his Facebook page that one night he drove 95 mph (150 kph) on the way home from another town because he was upset with a girl. Several other posts on his site also bothered her, but she refused to elaborate.

She said he has since opened a new Facebook account.

Prosecutor Todd Turner declined to comment on the case because the boy is a minor.

Denise New said Lane moved in with his grandmother about five years ago, after she went through a difficult divorce, was having mental health problems and didn't feel she could provide her son with the supervision he needed.

She faces a hearing on the misdemeanour on May 12.


Good for him! Sometimes, parents do overstep their boundaries.
Just because she pooped him out, doesn't giver the right to humiliate him.
She's not even a custodial parent. I hope the judge tosses the book at her.   

[Hugo Chavez]

are you for real?

[Eyeball Chambers]

WTF? 

........

Really, WTF?


April Fools Jag?

[24KT]

are you for real?

yes.

Please tell me how her actions were justified or how she was "just being a good mom".

[Hugo Chavez]

yes.

Please tell me how her actions were justified or how she was "just being a good mom".

because i said so

[24KT]

because i said so

Seriously... I see no justification or anything to bolster her case of being a good mom.
I do see someone who instead has become a source of embarassment & humiliation for her son.

[Dos Equis]

because i said so

Yep.  The most powerful words in a parent's arsenal.

[Option D]

Yep.  The most powerful words in a parent's arsenal.

Retarded....


My Parents explained everything to me. Every decision was accompanied by a "because x.y.z"  My mother always hated "because i said so" because she said "how will the kid learn the reasons not to do something and the outcomes?" Because i said so is a lame close minded Cop Out.

[Eyeball Chambers]

This boy needs a beat down.  The Mom is right:  will be open season on parents if they permit this kind of complaint.   

Arkansas teen accuses mom of Facebook harassment 
Posted 4/7/2010

By Tom Parsons, Associated Press Writer

LITTLE ROCK, Ark. — The mother of a 16-year-old boy said she was only being a good mom when she locked him out of his Facebook account after reading he had driven home at 95 mph one night because he was mad at a girl. His response: a harassment complaint at the local courthouse.
"If I'm found guilty on this it is going to be open season" on parents, Denise New said Wednesday.

New, of Arkadelphia, a small college town an hour southwest of Little Rock, said many of her son's postings didn't reflect well on him, so after he failed to log off the social networking site one day last month, she posted her own items on his account and changed his password to keep him from using it again. But her son claims what she posted wasn't true, and that she's damaging his reputation.

"The things he was posting in Facebook would make any decent parent's eyes pop out and his jaw drop," Denise New said. "He had been warned before about things he had been posting."

Lane New, who lives with his grandmother, filed a complaint with prosecutors who approved a harassment charge March 26. Neither New would say Wednesday which items on his Facebook site the boy had found slanderous.

"I probably made maybe three, maybe four actual postings -- the rest of it was a conversation between my son, me and his personal friends," Denise New said.

In his handwritten complaint to prosecutors, Lane New asked that his mother have no contact with him and wrote, "Denise first hacked my Facebook and changed my password. She also changed the password to my e-mail so I could not change it. She posted things that involve slander and personal facts about my life."

Denise New acknowledged changing both passwords to keep her son from getting access to his Facebook page. She denied hacking into the account.

"He left it logged in on my computer," she said. "It's not like I stole his laptop."

Denise New said the boy had written on his Facebook page that he had gone to Hot Springs one night and drove 95 mph on the way home because he was upset with a girl. Several other posts on his site also bothered her, but she refused to elaborate.

She said he has since opened a new Facebook account.

Prosecutor Todd Turner declined to comment because the boy is a minor. His office issued a statement later saying the woman's alleged statements about her son justified the harassment charge -- though he would not describe the comments.

Denise New said Lane moved in with his grandmother about five years ago, after she went through a difficult divorce, was having mental health problems and didn't feel she could provide her son with the supervision he needed.

She faces a hearing on the misdemeanor at the Clark County Courthouse on May 12.

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Another one of those awkward occasions where I completely agree with beach bum...

[Eyeball Chambers]

Retarded....


My Parents explained everything to me. Every decision was accompanied by a "because x.y.z"  My mother always hated "because i said so" because she said "how will the kid learn the reasons not to do something and the outcomes?" Because i said so is a lame close minded Cop Out.

That's how my parents did, always explained, never (rarely) hit me... 

This kid is an idiot though, and I hope he's laughed out of court...

[Hereford]

Another joyous result from great American liberism.

Throw the kid into state care, lets see how he fares there if he's too good for momma...

[Dos Equis]

Retarded....


My Parents explained everything to me. Every decision was accompanied by a "because x.y.z"  My mother always hated "because i said so" because she said "how will the kid learn the reasons not to do something and the outcomes?" Because i said so is a lame close minded Cop Out.

I used to feel the same way until I read what child psychologist John Rosemond had to say.  He believes in a "benevolent dictatorship."  He talks a lot about the "because I said so" line.  He says that almost 100 percent of the time when a kid asks "why" when being ordered to do something, the kid simply wants to argue and isn't really interested in an explanation.  I've found that to be absolutely true.  That guy is pure gold.  I'd recommend him to anyone who has (or is thinking about) kids.  Start with John Rosemond's Six Point Plan for Raising Healthy, Happy Children.  Great book.     

There are some things you need to try and explain, but with others you have to just lay down the law.  I think you relax that "rule" as the kid gets older.  But parents don't need to argue with their kids.   

[Option D]

I used to feel the same way until I read what child psychologist John Rosemond had to say.  He believes in a "benevolent dictatorship."  He talks a lot about the "because I said so" line.  He says that almost 100 percent of the time when a kid asks "why" when being ordered to do something, the kid simply wants to argue and isn't really interested in an explanation.  I've found that to be absolutely true.  That guy is pure gold.  I'd recommend him to anyone who has (or is thinking about) kids.  Start with John Rosemond's Six Point Plan for Raising Healthy, Happy Children.  Great book.     

There are some things you need to try and explain, but with others you have to just lay down the law.  I think you relax that "rule" as the kid gets older.  But parents don't need to argue with their kids.   

I guess we are talkin about different ages then. a 16 year old...is not a kid..he needs to know why. I think by the age of 7 Detailed explinations are in order

[Dos Equis]

I guess we are talkin about different ages then. a 16 year old...is not a kid..he needs to know why. I think by the age of 7 Detailed explinations are in order

A 16 year old is a kid.  Still has no clue what life is all about.  Still has a ton of maturing and growing up to do.  Much to learn. 

I think in the broader sense, everything needs to be explained to a kid regardless of age, but when it comes to day-to-day decisions, you lay down the law.  You don't let the tail wag the dog.

[Option D]

A 16 year old is a kid.  Still has no clue what life is all about.  Still has a ton of maturing and growing up to do.  Much to learn. 
.

how is he to learn if a decision is explained to him as "because i said so" that dosent teach a thing

[Dos Equis]

how is he to learn if a decision is explained to him as "because i said so" that dosent teach a thing

The kid learns by the parents establishing rules and guidelines, explaining the purpose of rules and guidelines, enforcing them, and setting a good example.  The kid does not learn by arguing with the parent.  The kid controls the parent when the parent allows arguments. 

"Because I said so" ends unnecessary arguments.  You don't need to explain everything to a kid, particularly when you're doing what you believe is in their best interests. 

[Hereford]

So whos in charge when you get smacked in the head with a football?

[Dos Equis]

So whos in charge when you get smacked in the head with a football?

Me, because that little maggot has to eventually get in the car and come home.   

[Hereford]

Dunno man... there ain't nowhere on the Oahu that isn't walking distance...

[Dos Equis]

Dunno man... there ain't nowhere on the Oahu that isn't walking distance...

Are you kidding?  You ever hear of the perimeter run (or ride)?  Over 130 miles. 

[Hugo Chavez]

how is he to learn if a decision is explained to him as "because i said so" that dosent teach a thing

because I said so is a simplified statement of the event.  I'm sure nobody is against teaching why it was wrong.  A partent will probably reach saying, "because I said so" after other means are used.  If you've explained out the ass why you're not going to let them do something then what's wrong with, because I said so.  Because I said so is a concept, not an absolute that only means saying that and nothing else.  The parent it responsible.  The parent sets the rules.  The parent sets consequences for breaking the rules.  All these things done right prepare your kid for a society they have to live in with the same rules but even harsher consequences for breaking them.  What this mother did to her kid isn't jack shit compared to what he would get most of the time for breaking the law as an adult.

[Hereford]

That's why you take the H1. straight shot, much better than walking all the way around...

[Dos Equis]

That's why you take the H1. straight shot, much better than walking all the way around...

H1 will get you from A to B, but not from C to D, or E to F.  That's why we have H2, H3, Farrington Highway, etc. 

[Hugo Chavez]

16 year old pissed off kid blazing down the road at high speed, chances of killing one or more people?  Probably about the same as firing a gun off in the air in a populated area but only one will be killed by the stray bullet.  What this kid did is serious, can't say I blame the mother for being pissed.  What would they all being doing now if her kid had killed a family on the road?