Women are court ordered to pay child support as well so it may not be their choice per se. They even face jail time for not paying.
How about this, give us a scenario that hits all of your points starting from having sex so we can sort this all out.
yes but guess what? they choooooossseeee to have the child, men in the same situation may have choosen to walk away if legally given the choice...
A couple has concentual sex
woman gets pregnant
she wants the child, the man doesnt
she is presented with a choice to have THEIR baby or not, not her baby THEIR BABY
the man is relegated to depending on her decision b/c he is not given a decsion to walk away like she is
2 choices > 1 choice I think youd agree
the only option is to present the man with another choice, give up parental rights in return for not paying child support...either that or limit the womans back to 1 choice same as the man