those of you with kids.. re physical discipline?

[funk51]

what is your opinion of physical discipline?

i dont have kids yet but can see myself giving a good brain duster when they do something really stupid, although im not fond of the epic beatdowns some of the parents apply when ive caught their kids stealing candy and drink in my stores.  thoughts on this?  i really cant stand the idea that kids dont need a wake up call every once in a while.  i can say with complete honesty that i prolly deserved a few ass whoopings when i was a kid.. would have kept me out of a doing a lot of dumb shit.

spare the rod and spoil the child, hopes this helps apooo {brutal simpson quickie mart ref}

[newmom]

I love parents that make 5 meals until the little ones are satisfied with whats in front of them. Whatever she gets she gets. The other night made stuffed shells, she goes I wanted spaghetti, I gave the "LOOK" she looks at me, and says "I know mom, this isn't a restaraunt and I get what I get and don't get upset"..

[Cardfan]

 shut up. If you're typing on getbig then you are NEGLECTING your offspring. Shut up and PARENT. Fucking losers.

[Eyeball Chambers]

I don't agree hiting... but pulling sideburns or whiping on the ass don't hurt at all... there has to be consequenses, a kid has to know that parents are the ultimate authority, and that's it.

*waiting super liberal scum fucks to exaggarate my claims and totally miss the point  *

Uhhh... Something is seriously wrong if your child has sideburns. 

[dov]

shut up. If you're typing on getbig then you are NEGLECTING your offspring. Shut up and PARENT. Fucking losers.

Hmm, kinda what I was thinkin too...

[Mr Nobody]

I love parents that make 5 meals until the little ones are satisfied with whats in front of them. Whatever she gets she gets. The other night made stuffed shells, she goes I wanted spaghetti, I gave the "LOOK" she looks at me, and says "I know mom, this isn't a restaraunt and I get what I get and don't get upset"..

Sounds like alot of work new whats the pay rate on this?

[newmom]

Sounds like alot of work new whats the pay rate on this?

Zilch, but its more of a reward I guess. Cant put a price tag on being a mom.

[benchmstr]

"nothing say's love like a open hand slap"

i went to college with a guy from romainia that used to always say that

bench

[Luv2Hurt]

shut up. If you're typing on getbig then you are NEGLECTING your offspring. Shut up and PARENT. Fucking losers.

What an idiot.  So if you dont give you spawn your attention 24/7 you are neglecting them?  Get a life twat.

[newmom]

What an idiot.  So if you dont give you spawn your attention 24/7 you are neglecting them?  Get a life twat.

LMAO

[Ron]

Kids are not stupid - they learn very quickly what is right and wrong. You should never hit a kid, period.  Of course, there are going to be times when things dont go your way, or they do something wrong. But you learn other way of discipline.   No television, no computer, no desserts, time out corners, stay in your room, no going to you favorite places, etc.   Hitting is just plain wrong.

Your kids are smarter than you think.  You need to spend time being with them, teaching them, reading with them, instead of just getting angry and lashing out.  If you discuss things with kids, they do undertand. 

I have a 6 1/2 year old daughter and a 4 year old son.  It does work.

[Purple Aki]

I don't have any children of my own, but I do like to spank the neighbour's kids occasionally. (no paedo)

[devilsmile]

Uhhh... Something is seriously wrong if your child has sideburns. 

yeah I guess having hair and a proper hormonal activity is not normal for you, tits   

[Cleanest Natural]

never ever beat slap or be physical with your kid

those who did were reenacting abuse they suffered themselves because they cannot nor do they know how to deal with it

[big14]

Let me put it this way.
Imagine you are living with Ronnie Coleman.
Every time you make a mistake,
he sit on you and hammerfist you in the face
or
he tells you what you did wrong, you
have to say you are sorry and fix it.

Which do you preffer?

[Tapeworm]

I don't have any children of my own, but I do like to spank the neighbour's kids occasionally. (no paedo)

Will be strafing the next kid convo I overhear with this!

[Purple Aki]

Will be strafing the next kid convo I overhear with this!

It won't end well. Parents are humourless these days.

I recently made a witty remark in front of my friend's wife about their son having ginger hair - this has resulted in my mate not being allowed out to play anymore.

[#1 Klaus fan]

I only waterboard them. Leaves no marks. Only hit the legs and whatnot, phhhfff, waterboarding is the way to go.

[James Blunt]

Does anybody else want to kick this kid in the face ? And the mother for letting the shithead get that way?

[Oldschool Flip]

Haven't had to lay a hand on my 5 year old at all since birth. She'll act up every once in awhile, but all it takes from me is to talk sterner and louder. Totally different from the way I was raised, but it seems more effective since I have better communication with her and she isn't afraid to tell me if she did something wrong.
Many here will disagree, but I believe hitting just teaches your kid how to hit others to try to prove a point or get their way.

[tbombz]

Zilch, but its more of a reward I guess. Cant put a price tag on being a mom.

cant put a price tag on having total control over another person, one who you can shape and mold into whatever you like... like a slave.. well, i guess slaves did used o have price tags... but, none of the slaves resembled their masters in appearance nor intellect lol

[Luv2Hurt]

Does anybody else want to kick this kid in the face ? And the mother for letting the shithead get that way?

Yes!

[spinnis]

Does anybody else want to kick this kid in the face ? And the mother for letting the shithead get that way?

I actually think the mother pisses me off more, she has done a HORRIBLE job raising him for him even do Dare doing something like that.

[Eyeball Chambers]

Kids are not stupid - they learn very quickly what is right and wrong. You should never hit a kid, period.  Of course, there are going to be times when things dont go your way, or they do something wrong. But you learn other way of discipline.   No television, no computer, no desserts, time out corners, stay in your room, no going to you favorite places, etc.   Hitting is just plain wrong.

Your kids are smarter than you think.  You need to spend time being with them, teaching them, reading with them, instead of just getting angry and lashing out.  If you discuss things with kids, they do undertand. 

I have a 6 1/2 year old daughter and a 4 year old son.  It does work.

Good post!

[Ursus]

Smacking a kid does not teach a kid to be violent I do not think.

Also, whether we choose to ignore or accept this or not, violence is a way of the world. We are competitive animals. We encounter violence and physical confrontation all our lives.

To shy away from such a basic and primal instinct is silly. We do not have to embrace it but to ignore it is a bit daft IMO.

As a kid if my mum or dad tried to put me in a corner for 6 minutes or something stupid I would have been laughing my ass off. Smacking and getting sent to room was a punishment. I was just a bad kid and in hindsight I needed to be smacked otherwise I would have turned out to be a real turd IMO.

Also when I got smacked I respected the authority and never once lashed out back - the combination of respect and fear of reprisals was there always. I was never beaten or bullied. Simply disciplined.

I cannot say with certainty as I will not know until the time, however if I have my own kids I will realise that smacking is not the worst thing in the world to do and it has no lasting harm on a child.