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Re: Dan Decker lost his dad.....
« Reply #25 on: April 30, 2010, 07:05:49 PM »
No worries.....lets just think of Dan. The day I lose my Dad or Mom I am going to be an emotional mess.......

Grant I understand what you mean, that is why we have to enjoy our parents every day..noone is getting younger and life is to short

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Re: Dan Decker lost his dad.....
« Reply #26 on: April 30, 2010, 07:07:55 PM »
Sorry to hear it.

Stay strong Dan.

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Re: Dan Decker lost his dad.....
« Reply #27 on: April 30, 2010, 07:09:33 PM »
Because Dan Decker is a friend of mine and is very well known in bodybuildying/Fitness circles.  He used to post here and we all know him. I don't care about the other 10 000 that die in America each day. I only care about my friends.

Please show some compassion? One day it might be your dad?



From the impression I get from you I don't believe that. You strike me as a caring and compassionate guy. I'm sure when you read about a tragic death you care. Maybe it doesn't hit you in a personal way but you care. There was a news story last week where some enraged man was having a custody battle with his wife so he grabbed his seven year old child and threw her off an over pass onto on coming traffic. A 13 year old girl was walking home from school and eight gang bangers who were getting high in an abandon house grabbed her as she was walking by. They each took turns raping her then lit her on fire as well as setting the house on fire. I don't know the girl from Adam but she is someone's daughter, niece, sister... and they just treated her like a piece of meat. Like she was nothing. I can just imagine what it was like seeing the crime through her eyes. These animals laughing and lining up for their turn egging each other on.  

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Re: Dan Decker lost his dad.....
« Reply #28 on: April 30, 2010, 07:09:57 PM »
No worries.....lets just think of Dan. The day I lose my Dad or Mom I am going to be an emotional mess.......
You will be just fine.  Take it from someone with two dead parents.  ;)

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« Reply #29 on: April 30, 2010, 07:11:09 PM »
From the impression I get from you I don't believe that. You strike me as a caring and compassionate guy. I'm sure when you read about a tragic death you care. Maybe it doesn't hit you in a personal way but you care. There was a news story last week where some enraged man was having a custody battle with his wife so he grabbed his seven year old child and threw her off an over pass onto on coming traffic. A 13 year old girl was walking home from school and eight gang bangers who were getting high in an abandon house grabbed her as she was walking by. They each took turns raping her then lit her on fire as well as setting the house on fire. I don't know the girl from Adam but she is someone's daughter, niece, sister... and they just treated her like a piece of meat. Like she was nothing. I can just imagine what it was like seeing the crime through her eyes. These animals laughing and lining up for their turn egging each other on.  


That just breaks my heart, both stories

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Re: Dan Decker lost his dad.....
« Reply #30 on: April 30, 2010, 07:11:32 PM »
Oh, well — he wasn't going
to write Beethoven's Ninth Symphony anyway.

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Re: Dan Decker lost his dad.....
« Reply #31 on: April 30, 2010, 07:12:14 PM »
Sooner or later all of our peepholes will close.  :-\

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Re: Dan Decker lost his dad.....
« Reply #32 on: April 30, 2010, 07:13:13 PM »
You will be just fine.  Take it from someone with two dead parents.  ;)

Some of us have a bit more sensitivity.

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« Reply #33 on: April 30, 2010, 07:14:38 PM »
Some of us have a bit more sensitivity.
Trust me, you will live, no matter how sensitive you are. 

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Re: Dan Decker lost his dad.....
« Reply #34 on: April 30, 2010, 07:15:27 PM »
Oh, well — he wasn't going
to write Beethoven's Ninth Symphony anyway.


I knew this was coming. Maybe you should just keep quiet when a person loses someone close to them instead of trivializing it. Just out of respect. People feel things different than you do. Just show some respect.

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« Reply #35 on: April 30, 2010, 07:16:05 PM »
Trust me, you will live, no matter how sensitive you are. 

That is not the point.

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Re: Dan Decker lost his dad.....
« Reply #36 on: April 30, 2010, 07:20:00 PM »
I knew this was coming. Maybe you should just keep quiet when a person loses someone close to them instead of trivializing it. Just out of respect. People feel things different than you do. Just show some respect.
Hey, I take a light-hearted approach to death.  Its no big deal.  We all die.  Its only our selfish interest, for whatever reason, that wants someone back when they die

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« Reply #37 on: April 30, 2010, 07:21:04 PM »
Dan Decker lost his Dad today.  For those of you that know Dan you'll know is one of the good guys. Please send him condolences on his loss...... (he used to post here once).....
Grant, i have no idea who he is, but i like you ( no homo), and if you respect Dan so much, then he must be a great guy. Send him my condolence.

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« Reply #38 on: April 30, 2010, 07:24:02 PM »
From the impression I get from you I don't believe that. You strike me as a caring and compassionate guy. I'm sure when you read about a tragic death you care. Maybe it doesn't hit you in a personal way but you care. There was a news story last week where some enraged man was having a custody battle with his wife so he grabbed his seven year old child and threw her off an over pass onto on coming traffic. A 13 year old girl was walking home from school and eight gang bangers who were getting high in an abandon house grabbed her as she was walking by. They each took turns raping her then lit her on fire as well as setting the house on fire. I don't know the girl from Adam but she is someone's daughter, niece, sister... and they just treated her like a piece of meat. Like she was nothing. I can just imagine what it was like seeing the crime through her eyes. These animals laughing and lining up for their turn egging each other on.  

I have to admit you got me.  I am very compassionate.  I actually do care about these crimes that I see on the news ....especially with children.  It's deeply upsetting to me and I get angry at myself for being so sensitive.  But I am what I am I guess.  I think it is rooted back to all the death I witnessed in Africa.....




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Re: Dan Decker lost his dad.....
« Reply #39 on: April 30, 2010, 07:24:50 PM »
do you have a back shot of Dan?

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« Reply #40 on: April 30, 2010, 07:25:56 PM »
"The most important thing I learned on Tralfamadore was that when a person dies he only appears to die. He is still very much alive in the past, so it is very silly for people to cry at his funeral. All moments, past, present and future, always have existed, always will exist. The Tralfamadorians can look at all the different moments just that way we can look at a stretch of the Rocky Mountains, for instance. They can see how permanent all the moments are, and they can look at any moment that interests them. It is just an illusion we have here on Earth that one moment follows another one, like beads on a string, and that once a moment is gone it is gone forever.
When a Tralfamadorian sees a corpse, all he thinks is that the dead person is in bad condition in the particular moment, but that the same person is just fine in plenty of other moments. Now, when I myself hear that somebody is dead, I simply shrug and say what the Tralfamadorians say about dead people, which is "So it goes."


Excerpt from Slaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut

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« Reply #41 on: April 30, 2010, 07:27:26 PM »
Hey, I take a light-hearted approach to death.  Its no big deal.  We all die.  Its only our selfish interest, for whatever reason, that wants someone back when they die

So what? Is it selfish that you want a new car? Is it selfish that you want your relationship with your wife or girlfriend to last? If you have any desires whatsoever is it just because you are selfish? Sure we all die but how we die matters a lot. So did you take a light-hearted approach to people killed in war or a natural disasters. Was the genocide of the Jews or the Cambodians by Pol Pot no big deal because they weren't going to write Beethoven's 9th? Or the brutal murders in the Congo or Darfur?

I'm not going to let you high-jack Grant's thread  but you sound like a selfish, self-absorbed, spoiled and miserable human being.

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Re: Dan Decker lost his dad.....
« Reply #42 on: April 30, 2010, 07:29:05 PM »
Grant, i have no idea who he is, but i like you ( no homo), and if you respect Dan so much, then he must be a great guy. Send him my condolence.

Dan Decker is just a class act.  Super nice guy. Humble and yet has a Pro class physique. Should have got his Pro card years ago!  Thanks for your wishes to Dan.  I hope he reads them here.

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« Reply #43 on: April 30, 2010, 07:29:36 PM »
"The most important thing I learned on Tralfamadore was that when a person dies he only appears to die. He is still very much alive in the past, so it is very silly for people to cry at his funeral. All moments, past, present and future, always have existed, always will exist. The Tralfamadorians can look at all the different moments just that way we can look at a stretch of the Rocky Mountains, for instance. They can see how permanent all the moments are, and they can look at any moment that interests them. It is just an illusion we have here on Earth that one moment follows another one, like beads on a string, and that once a moment is gone it is gone forever.
When a Tralfamadorian sees a corpse, all he thinks is that the dead person is in bad condition in the particular moment, but that the same person is just fine in plenty of other moments. Now, when I myself hear that somebody is dead, I simply shrug and say what the Tralfamadorians say about dead people, which is "So it goes."


Excerpt from Slaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut

So for the good of society can you please appear to die. And aren't you the one who doesn't believe in an after life?

So it goes....

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Re: Dan Decker lost his dad.....
« Reply #44 on: April 30, 2010, 07:29:42 PM »
So what? Is it selfish that you want a new car? Is it selfish that you want your relationship with your wife or girlfriend to last? If you have any desires whatsoever is it just because you are selfish? Sure we all die but how we die matters a lot. So did you take a light-hearted approach to people killed in war or a natural disasters. Was the genocide of the Jews or the Cambodians by Pol Pot no big deal because they weren't going to write Beethoven's 9th? Or the brutal murders in the Congo or Darfur?

I'm not going to let you high-jack Grant's thread  but you sound like a selfish, self-absorbed, spoiled and miserable human being.

My relatives were sent to Concentration Camps.  I think I understand a little bit about how to feel regarding the Holocaust.  :-\

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« Reply #45 on: April 30, 2010, 07:32:13 PM »
I have to admit you got me.  I am very compassionate.  I actually do care about these crimes that I see on the news ....especially with children.  It's deeply upsetting to me and I get angry at myself for being so sensitive.  But I am what I am I guess.  I think it is rooted back to all the death I witnessed in Africa.....





true... i've seen people die. its one thing to read in the paper, its one thing to see someone die. 4 years ago i was working at the club as hed of security, some gang bangers came in the club and started causing shit, we had to kick them out and thins got ugly. They waited outside and as our bouncers left, they shot one of my boys ( i was head of security i had to do some shit in the office). by the time i got upstairs the shot had been fired, my boy was bleeding. i tried my best to save him, i cant forget the image of him looking me in the eyes so helplessly fighting for his life, i could see fear in it, like he didnt know what the fuck just hit him.

he didnt actually die in my arm, but he took his last breaths there, he was pronounced dead on the way to the hospital.


so yeah, once you relate to a real death, you wont just skim through stories about peoiple dieing, cuz you know how it feels for someone out there

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Re: Dan Decker lost his dad.....
« Reply #46 on: April 30, 2010, 07:33:44 PM »
So for the good of society can you please appear to die. And aren't you the one who doesn't believe in an after life?

So it goes....
All we get is this life, but the past will always remain and the future will continue, with or without you.  8)

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Re: Dan Decker lost his dad.....
« Reply #47 on: April 30, 2010, 07:35:17 PM »
All we get is this life, but the past will always remain and the future will continue, with or without you.  8)
shouldnt you be in Cali debating?on a serious note, i cant make up my mind if jezzbelle is hot or not. any more pics of her?

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« Reply #48 on: April 30, 2010, 07:36:58 PM »
true... i've seen people die. its one thing to read in the paper, its one thing to see someone die. 4 years ago i was working at the club as hed of security, some gang bangers came in the club and started causing shit, we had to kick them out and thins got ugly. They waited outside and as our bouncers left, they shot one of my boys ( i was head of security i had to do some shit in the office). by the time i got upstairs the shot had been fired, my boy was bleeding. i tried my best to save him, i cant forget the image of him looking me in the eyes so helplessly fighting for his life, i could see fear in it, like he didnt know what the fuck just hit him.

he didnt actually die in my arm, but he took his last breaths there, he was pronounced dead on the way to the hospital.


so yeah, once you relate to a real death, you wont just skim through stories about peoiple dieing, cuz you know how it feels for someone out there


That's some deep stuff you posted. Thanks for sharing!   I've been there at a very young age too..... I will post a story from my book shortly......


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Re: Dan Decker lost his dad.....
« Reply #49 on: April 30, 2010, 07:58:43 PM »
Here it is:


Mason ...a true story.


I have told some friends here about the screenplay I have written.  It's about the Zimbabwean war .... and how I ended up here in America.

My movie screenplay is pretty heavy.   I included all my childhood memories in which I saw way too much death for a young boy .... so here goes:

Most poignant in my early memories was that of our huge black foreman on our farm Mason.  Mason was from Malawi by birth and was basically my father's right hand man on the farm. He was a very large man ... maybe 6 foot 4 ...and very wide ... with seemingly giant hands ... but was truly a gentle giant. He often carried me... me at just 6 years old... Lifting me effortlessly onto his broad shoulders through the African bush as he pointed out the African wildlife. 

Every day with Mason was a new adventure!  My Dad trusted Mason implicitly. Mason taught me so very much about the African bush and how we must respect it. We saw so much wildlife during that time. Mason was a good husband and father and his five children adored him.

One day Mason saved me once from a very large African Puff Adder which had decided it wanted to slip it's fangs deep inside my lower calf. I was only seven years old at the time. We were walking along a river bed searching for a lost Afrikaaner male calf that had strayed from the herd and we never even saw the snake. Mason pulled the large snake off me with his bare hands and proceeded to twist it's neck until it cracked and broke. Had Mason not been quite so fast the Puff Adder would have injected it's deadly poison into my young body and I would not be here today.  I have the bite marks to this day...and can show you them to you.  They say death by a Puff Adder is the most painful way to die.... the nervous system goes into convulsions and then paralysis as you bleed from the nose and eyes as the body hemorrhages internally.

It was mere months after that President Mugabe's thugs came in the dead of the night and punished Mason for not having the voting card for Mugabe's political party(ZANU-PF). They knew he was the foreman of our farm and they wanted to make an example of him. So they dragged him behind their truck on a tar road..... until he had no skin left on his body.

Then they dumped Mason on our doorstep at 4 o'clock in the morning. It looked like they had peeled him with a potato peeler. I could see every muscle fibre, every vein and every sinew in his body.  But it was somewhat blurred by the heavy crimson bleeding that continued to well up and drip everywhere.  I was frozen in shock as to what I was witnessing.  My mother and father did their very best to stop the bleeding .....but it was simply too much.

Despite his agony Mason remained surprisingly calm and still as my parents worked furiously on him.... and he gently grabbed my tiny hand in his giant hand ....and told me to stop crying. He looked at me with his tired eyes and told me to draw nearer to him .... where he finally whispered in my ear "Bwana, be a brave man and hold my hand. I am dying now."

He stopped breathing merely moments after that. His giant hand stayed tight over my little tiny hand ....even long after he had stopped breathing...

I cried for days and days.  I still miss Mason, the gentle giant, to this very day.
 

True story.