most men unconsciously marry a copy of their mother, reproducing the exact same kind of relationship they had with their mother with their gf/wife and keeping themselves stuck in a relationship based on dependancy.
If you didnt cut ties with your mother and simply spend your life reproducing the relationship of your parents (you being your father, or the little kid dependant on your mother you were in the past, your gf being your mother) sooner or later you ll have to consult a psychiatrist or psychologist to find out how to end the repetition of the vicious, unconscious circle.
Women are also interested in men who are a mix of their father and brothers personnalities . The way you are educated in your childhood and teenage years conditions the rest of your life and the way you will interract with other men and women.
Men who didnt have a father are looking for a substitutive father figure their whole life until they find one and live in a constant state of anxiety, insecurity and despair, same with women who didnt have one, and the same goes if you didnt have a mother too.
Ambivalent relationships with older brothers or sisters who saw you as a rival when you were born , stealing their mother, and end hating you and trying to erase you considering you are an ennemy also conditions how you will interact with other men and women, especially the way you will manage your friendships.
Fathers cheating on their wives teach their sons to reproduce the same behavior later as adults, and teach their daughters to pick men who will cheat on em unconsciously.
Well i could go on and on based on what im studying, but one thing is sure most men marry their mother and stay in an immature relationship based on dependancy (they left the dependancy from their mother to replace it with a dependancy from their gf/wife) until they figure it, and want to stop the cycle which kept repeating itself unconsciously. As long as they re in this cycle they re not grown up automous men/adults. They re kids.
Most traits of personnality that make us select one women among others are the same traits of personnality we can find in our mother.
Once we figure we married our mother (and when she symbolically kills our mother once and for all when she gets pregnant) it's very difficult for the man to accept his wife becomes a mother and he becomes the father, ending by force the immature, childish reproduction of the pat relationship with her in which he was a kid and she was his mother, that lasted for the past years if not decades. This is how you become a man. Lots of men, who come from dysfunctionnal families cannot comprehend, cannot face this dilemma. You need brains or parents who stayed together to go thru this as an adult, and not a child.
