How long do YOU wait to call a chick after a successful FIRST date?

[chaos]

she is in her early 30's

bench

She's 27. I'm 32.

[JOHN MATRIX]

shes already seeing/doing other guys.

its always up to the girl, all she has to do is sit there and let as many suitors as she wants line up before her, then all she has to do is look at the lineup and say 'hmmmm...i think ill take THAT one!' and she gets whatever she wants.

therefore the only way to be sure is to take out all the other guys.

[Danimal77]

but what impression did she give that guy on the date 4 days before you?....does she still talk to him?...trust me if she gave you a answer it was only to make the date go smoother.....are you just the next guy in line?

she is in her early 30's and with multiple guys a week, not saying she is sleeping with them or anything....but she is putting herself out there for a reason.....and you as of yet dont know what that reason is......

she is power dating off of a social networking site.......dont get too wrapped up in this

bench

Bench, that's really over generalizing and man. She's 27. I'm the one in my early 30's. I asked her how the "site" is treating her. She said there are some creeps and some nice people. I asked her in a joking manner if I popped her cherry. She said no, I had a date last Wednesday with a guy (took her to a hockey game). I saw her on Sunday.. I cracked my knuckles and in a joking and cocky manner, I said: "competition huh, just the way I like it" . She said she had fun with him, but is having more fun with me. You have to understand, a good looking girl, will be bombarded by guys sending her dozens of emails a day. Personally, I think she's on there to find a boyfriend. That's my impression. I met my ex on a site like that. When we got serious, she pulled her ass of the site and became exclusive to me. This girl may see the other guy again. She may not. I have no idea and have no control over that at this early stage. She's entitled, but that being said, if it comes down to her juggling both of us, I'm not playing that game. Ultimatum and then I'm gone.

[Danimal77]

shes already seeing/doing other guys.

its always up to the girl, all she has to do is sit there and let as many suitors as she wants line up before her, then all she has to do is look at the lineup and say 'hmmmm...i think ill take THAT one!' and she gets whatever she wants.

therefore the only way to be sure is to take out all the other guys.

And what's YOUR strategy in accomplishing that task?

[Parker]

Funny John Matrix, but oh so true.

DAnimal, what effs it up is that we as men overthink shit. You can't overthink a hunt. You have your weapons, a plan, now you have the prey. Enact plan, shoot prey, prey is killed, enjoy prey. It's that simple. Don't worry about the next man, because the next man ain't the n###a with the plan.
Don't overthink it, just Nike and you got it. I used to and sometimes still do, overthink and talk myself out of getting with a chick, running scenarios thru my head, that gets you nowhere and alone.
Call her up, small talk, and set it up...be nonchallant, like you got your spare Ferrari in the shop.
Have faith, and the second, third, and fourth date is yours...

[Danimal77]

Worst case scenario, she declines, you're nailing a $40 whore Friday night.
Either way Dan wins.

Dan wins if he escapes that Friday night STD free

[Danimal77]

Funny John Matrix, but oh so true.

DAnimal, what effs it up is that we as men overthink shit. You can't overthink a hunt. You have your weapons, a plan, now you have the prey. Enact plan, shoot prey, prey is killed, enjoy prey. It's that simple. Don't worry about the next man, because the next man ain't the n###a with the plan.
Don't overthink it, just Nike and you got it. I used to and sometimes still do, overthink and talk myself out of getting with a chick, running scenarios thru my head, that gets you nowhere and alone.
Call her up, small talk, and set it up...be nonchallant, like you got your spare Ferrari in the shop.
Have faith, and the second, third, and fourth date is yours...

It really is that simple though, isn't it? Why the fuck do we complicate it so damn much?

[HTexan]

Whenever i feel like it.

[GroinkTropin]

two things

1)never ask for this type of shit on the main board...take it to the female board and get a good answer...

2)why in the hell didnt you ask her out on a 2nd date at the end of your 1st date with her

bench

Quoted for truth.

[Montague]

Had a really good first date with this girl last night. Best one I've had in over 2 years. Broke up with my ex of 1.5 years last October. Been on this single chat line since December and I've had one and after another shitty dates with a string of different girls. So, last night, I went in with an open/positive attitude, but with NO expectations and DAMN son, I was blown the fuck away. We have a lot in common and the chemistry was there. It really felt 2-sided. I was the second guy she met off the site. She said she saw this other guy a few days earlier, but is having a lot more fun with me. She wanted to be honest and you know what? I respected her for it...

Anyway, it was fun, chill and easy going. She even came up to my place at the end of the date, but because I liked her, I made out with her and that was that, confident that there'll be more in the future..

Alright, so I'm here tonight, wondering what you guys think in regards to how long YOU would wait to call her? She is definitely the kind of girl who likes the guy to take the lead and initiate. Having spent 4 hours with her last night, I got that impression. So, the next move has to be from me. I want to see her again. I was thinking of this Wednesday night. Is calling the day of, for that night, too short notice? It's either that, or I call her tomorrow, asking her for Wednesday. Is waiting 2 days too eager?

Anyways, give me your thoughts guys. How long would you wait and how would you ask her out for a second date? Just direct? This girl has quality and gf material written all over her.

By your age, you don’t count the number of days to wait before calling a girl after a date.
You don’t worry about making yourself appear “too available” or eager.
And, FFS, don’t call to ask her out 3 hours ahead of time!
Show her some courtesy & consideration.
If she’s mature & serious, she’ll respect that, and - more importantly - YOU.

IMO - you should have just called her today, told her thanks and that you had a great time with her last night.
Then you could’ve said something along the lines of, “Hey, how about I call you sometime Thursday, and if you‘ve got some time over the weekend, maybe we can meet up again."

This avoids putting her on the spot.
If she does like you, at least she’ll know you’re interested in her & she won’t write you off and make other plans.
If she’s not into you, she’ll have time to make a decent excuse as to why she can’t make it.

And, an excuse is not automatically a rejection - sometimes, shit happens that cannot be helped.
If she truly regrets the missed date, she’ll propose some type of solution - like another time.
If she expresses no regret or attempts no compromise, fukkit…
Time to move on.

Whatever you do, just don't let her string you along.

[benchmstr]

Bench, that's really over generalizing and man. She's 27. I'm the one in my early 30's. I asked her how the "site" is treating her. She said there are some creeps and some nice people. I asked her in a joking manner if I popped her cherry. She said no, I had a date last Wednesday with a guy (took her to a hockey game). I saw her on Sunday.. I cracked my knuckles and in a joking and cocky manner, I said: "competition huh, just the way I like it" . She said she had fun with him, but is having more fun with me. You have to understand, a good looking girl, will be bombarded by guys sending her dozens of emails a day. Personally, I think she's on there to find a boyfriend. That's my impression. I met my ex on a site like that. When we got serious, she pulled her ass of the site and became exclusive to me. This girl may see the other guy again. She may not. I have no idea and have no control over that at this early stage. She's entitled, but that being said, if it comes down to her juggling both of us, I'm not playing that game. Ultimatum and then I'm gone.

i am just saying dont get wrapped up in it........the fact that she would pick you up would also kinda bother me.....sound kinda like desperation on her behalf....i dont know a lot of women that would go pick up people they met on the internet cause he doesnt have a car...

not this thread, but in others you seem like a guy who gets into this shit to fast, and always gets fucked....just watch out...

bench

[HTexan]

two things

1)never ask for this type of shit on the main board...take it to the female board and get a good answer...

2)why in the hell didnt you ask her out on a 2nd date at the end of your 1st date with her

bench

Trying to play hard to get  

[benchmstr]

Trying to play hard to get  

he should have asked her on the second date a long time ago......he is a grown man, and men arent suppose to play games...

bench

[Hulkotron]

Sounds like a whore imho.

[Danimal77]

By your age, you don’t count the number of days to wait before calling a girl after a date.
You don’t worry about making yourself appear “too available” or eager.
And, FFS, don’t call to ask her out 3 hours ahead of time!
Show her some courtesy & consideration.
If she’s mature & serious, she’ll respect that, and - more importantly - YOU.

IMO - you should have just called her today, told her thanks and that you had a great time with her last night.
Then you could’ve said something along the lines of, “Hey, how about I call you sometime Thursday, and if you‘ve got some time over the weekend, maybe we can meet up again."

This avoids putting her on the spot.
If she does like you, at least she’ll know you’re interested in her & she won’t write you off and make other plans.
If she’s not into you, she’ll have time to make a decent excuse as to why she can’t make it.

And, an excuse is not automatically a rejection - sometimes, shit happens that cannot be helped.
If she truly regrets the missed date, she’ll propose some type of solution - like another time.
If she expresses no regret or attempts no compromise, fukkit…
Time to move on.

Whatever you do, just don't let her string you along.

I'm going to call her tomorrow. She's an elementary school teacher and she teaches at a school that is coincidentally in my backyard (almost). Anyway, I'll call her in a light and fun manner tomorrow. I may get the machine. I'll propose Wednesday. If she comes back with an "I can't", "I have plans", I'll let her propose an alternate date. If she doesn't, then, I'll say that's cool and I'll let her know I'll be in touch. I think if she likes me and IS free Wednesday, she'll accept. If she likes me and legitimately has plans on Wednesday, she'll suggest an alternate day. If she doesn't, she's not into me and I'll know.

[HTexan]

he should have asked her on the second date a long time ago......he is a grown man, and men arent suppose to play games...

bench

sure?

[Danimal77]

i am just saying dont get wrapped up in it........the fact that she would pick you up would also kinda bother me.....sound kinda like desperation on her behalf....i dont know a lot of women that would go pick up people they met on the internet cause he doesnt have a car...

not this thread, but in others you seem like a guy who gets into this shit to fast, and always gets fucked....just watch out...

bench

She didn't strike me as desperate, but you know man, there are a lot of desperate girls out there and in 2010, women want to be equals, so if she has no problem with picking me up (I obviously got the check), then that's okay. We did speak prior to our date, so something in how I spoke made her trust me. Who knows.

Not looking to rush this, but when there's chemistry, it's kind of like a boost of adrenaline. Especially when what came before was complete and utter shit.

[Danimal77]

sure?

Easy there big guy.

[Thin Lizzy]

By your age, you don’t count the number of days to wait before calling a girl after a date.
You don’t worry about making yourself appear “too available” or eager.
And, FFS, don’t call to ask her out 3 hours ahead of time!
Show her some courtesy & consideration.
If she’s mature & serious, she’ll respect that, and - more importantly - YOU.

IMO - you should have just called her today, told her thanks and that you had a great time with her last night.
Then you could’ve said something along the lines of, “Hey, how about I call you sometime Thursday, and if you‘ve got some time over the weekend, maybe we can meet up again."

This avoids putting her on the spot.
If she does like you, at least she’ll know you’re interested in her & she won’t write you off and make other plans.
If she’s not into you, she’ll have time to make a decent excuse as to why she can’t make it.

And, an excuse is not automatically a rejection - sometimes, shit happens that cannot be helped.
If she truly regrets the missed date, she’ll propose some type of solution - like another time.
If she expresses no regret or attempts no compromise, fukkit…
Time to move on.

Whatever you do, just don't let her string you along.

I going to have to respectfully disagree, here.

Women don't want what they can have too easily. That's what happens when you make yourself too available. It also gives the negative impression that you have nothing else going on. Call her later in the week and say, "Sorry, I meant to call you sooner, but I've been really busy."

Put her on the spot. Don't give her an out. That's how you'll find out if she's into you. If she's not, in the words Thin Lizzy lead singer Phil Lynott, "If the chick don't wanna know, forget her."

[Danimal77]

I going to have to respectfully disagree, here.

Women don't want what they can have too easily. That's what happens when you make yourself too available. It also gives the negative impression that you have nothing else going on. Call her later in the week and say, "Sorry, I meant to call you sooner, but I've been really busy."

Put her on the spot. Don't give her an out. That's how you'll find out if she's into you. If she's not, in the words Thin Lizzy lead singer Phil Lynott, "If the chick don't wanna know, forget her."

The boys are definitely back in town .

I agree in not seeming too eager. It's not a turn on for either of the sex's imo. We seem to want what we can't have, or at least want what we think we might not be able to have very easily. It makes us a. want to put in more effort (try harder) and b. appreciate it a hell of a lot more.

Not sure if I'll be apologizing for not having called her sooner, seeing nothing at all was established as to whether or not I'd be calling her. I'm shooting to ask her out for Wednesday. Will probably get in touch with her tomorrow FOR Wednesday. Again, if she can't, she better propose an alternate date. If not, well, then at least I know where I'll stand with her.

[HTexan]

Easy there big guy.

yeah, you right that was uncalled for. peace my getbig brother.

[Danimal77]

yeah, you right that was uncalled for. peace my getbig brother.

It's cool.

[GroinkTropin]

I going to have to respectfully disagree, here.

Women don't want what they can have too easily. That's what happens when you make yourself too available. It also gives the negative impression that you have nothing else going on. Call her later in the week and say, "Sorry, I meant to call you sooner, but I've been really busy."

Put her on the spot. Don't give her an out. That's how you'll find out if she's into you. If she's not, in the words Thin Lizzy lead singer Phil Lynott, "If the chick don't wanna know, forget her."

Rule # 1 right here- NEVER SAY YOU ARE SORRY TO A FEMALE. EVER!!!! Good lord are we educating a 15 year old here? Never ever ever say you are sorry directly. The word is hereby stricken from OP's vocabulary.

[Topskin69]

two things

1)never ask for this type of shit on the main board...take it to the female board and get a good answer...

2)why in the hell didnt you ask her out on a 2nd date at the end of your 1st date with her

bench

This...always set up a concrete date, phone call, etc, before ending the first date.

[James Blunt]

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catabolism is no joke - she must respect that.

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