you can see what's going on in this vid: people project their own beliefs on others and the way they pick someone is based on looks AND what they believe the person could, would be. It's a matter of visual perception, the recognition of healthy physical attributs, but also a matter of cognitions, mental perceptions, that can be on target or decieving. Intellegent people tend to project on target psychoanalysis of the people they meet while less intelligent people can be lured because they have a lower emotionnal intelligence, they are more naive and gullible. Most of the time they are women who had no father, a father who if present would have taught her what men really think. They re immature, still live in fantasyland , the whole "disney-ducation" with the good prince and princess.
There are also men who ve been raised without a father figure and also believe in the myth of the princess.
Basically when there s a father with enough balls everything is balanced and more realistic.
Every psychological anomaly originates into the lack of a father figure and the overinvestment of the mother during the development of the pre child, child and adolescent.
What men, and women want?
Women want a good looking muscular guy with money, who s autonomous, confident enough -to earn his own money- but not too much, a mix of a beast in bed and a good father with values.
And men want the exact same thing in a woman. A facially good looking, attractive women who s thin with big boobs, who s autonomous ,confident enough -to earn her own money- but not too much, a mix of a beast in bed and a good mother with values.
This is what women and men want.
Now, there s also the importance of the original model learned from your own parents, that you will mimic and reproduce mostly unconsciously once mating and being a parent, the way you ve been loved by your mother, father, brothers and sisters that matters a lot in the way you will interract with others. The way you ve been loved or hated defines your self esteem, what you think you can get, do, and what you think you cant. There are also social classes that have to be taken into consideration.
Whole books have been written on the subject especially in psychogenealogy. We all know what we want, but where we come from defines what we truly can get, period.
