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Female Eating Disorders
« on: August 13, 2010, 10:54:12 AM »
  I am trying to understand female eating disorders. I have had two girlfriends that were both thin but gorged and purged everything they eat = Bulimia. Now if a person is fat I may understand this more than as a thin person. Both of these people which I was with just got started doing this activity as it progressed they became very controlling and jealous to the point I couldnt stand them anymore. What drives a person to do this type of activity are they mentally ill and see themselves different than others see them? Now I have known some fat women but they usually use determination and diet to lose weight it seems to me they would be the ones throwing up food. Confusing.

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #1 on: August 13, 2010, 11:32:53 AM »
number of different reasons bro, you alluded to one of them which is control this is a common one as they sometimes feel that things in their lives are out of control and this is one aspect of their life that they can have control over. Often times they will seem perfectly normal at the beginning and ppl wont see them as having no control but they feel that way...personal life is in distress, professional life mix of the two etc...

self image is another some of these ppls idea of what they look like is warped beyond what you would believe. One technique that therapist use is to ask them what celebrity they would like their body to look like? when they answer they show them the size of the garments that they wear and many of these ppl still refuse to believe it.

I saw this one where the girl choose brittney spears and I think brittney wore like a size 6 or something and this girl was in disbelief and just wouldnt accept that brittney wore that size pants...

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #2 on: August 13, 2010, 11:43:16 AM »
number of different reasons bro, you alluded to one of them which is control this is a common one as they sometimes feel that things in their lives are out of control and this is one aspect of their life that they can have control over. Often times they will seem perfectly normal at the beginning and ppl wont see them as having no control but they feel that way...personal life is in distress, professional life mix of the two etc...

self image is another some of these ppls idea of what they look like is warped beyond what you would believe. One technique that therapist use is to ask them what celebrity they would like their body to look like? when they answer they show them the size of the garments that they wear and many of these ppl still refuse to believe it.

I saw this one where the girl choose brittney spears and I think brittney wore like a size 6 or something and this girl was in disbelief and just wouldnt accept that brittney wore that size pants...
I always heard it was a control thing so these two started the activity when I got involved with them so in effect what you are saying the felt they couldnt control me? So in turn went to purging as they one they could control. I hate to say this but the purging dont bother me its the damn jealousy and controlling behavior thats starts afterwards.

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #3 on: August 13, 2010, 12:19:11 PM »
im eating a hamburger

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #4 on: August 13, 2010, 12:23:25 PM »
im eating a hamburger

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I thought you were on a diet dawg?

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #5 on: August 13, 2010, 12:25:59 PM »
I thought you were on a diet dawg?
not yesterday and today.....the diet was only suppose to last a month....i got to my goal body fat% in 2 weeks....now i am just seing how far i can take it before i die....

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #6 on: August 13, 2010, 12:28:28 PM »
I always heard it was a control thing so these two started the activity when I got involved with them so in effect what you are saying the felt they couldnt control me? So in turn went to purging as they one they could control. I hate to say this but the purging dont bother me its the damn jealousy and controlling behavior thats starts afterwards.
LOL im no therapist and Ive never talked to either one of these girls so I wouldnt want to speculate as to what IF ANY role you played their behavior...chances are they had control issues before hand maybe their parents were divorced or they had been cheated on in the past or any other host of issues that were unresolved.

not to be mean bro but the best thing you could do is make sure they are looked after and RUUUUNNNN!!!!!!!!!!!! RUN AWAY as fast as you freaking can man...

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #7 on: August 13, 2010, 12:35:41 PM »
not yesterday and today.....the diet was only suppose to last a month....i got to my goal body fat% in 2 weeks....now i am just seing how far i can take it before i die....

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Well you are burning all those calories up since you cant sleep. I'm not a good sleeper either but on a diet it's worse I saw your thread on G&O. I have been taking melatonin it has no effect just flushing my dollars down the toliet. Now I'm going for a hamburger.

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #8 on: August 13, 2010, 12:44:06 PM »
LOL im no therapist and Ive never talked to either one of these girls so I wouldnt want to speculate as to what IF ANY role you played their behavior...chances are they had control issues before hand maybe their parents were divorced or they had been cheated on in the past or any other host of issues that were unresolved.

not to be mean bro but the best thing you could do is make sure they are looked after and RUUUUNNNN!!!!!!!!!!!! RUN AWAY as fast as you freaking can man...
Excellent on having issues before with childhood. I wonder why fat women dont usually do the purging its always the slim women? I have already ran couldnt handle it.

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #9 on: August 13, 2010, 12:44:33 PM »
Like Tony said, there could be lots of reasons. People with eating disorders are often perfectionists and overachievers. They’re the “good” girls  excel in everything they do, and focus on pleasing others. They may appear to have it all together on the surface, but inside they feel helpless, inadequate, and worthless.  In their eyes, if they’re not perfect, they’re a total failure.  Low self-esteem. Often becomes body dis-morphia (like guys and their "big-orexia").

Then there's the social pressures to be thin including participating in  activities that demand "slenderness", like ballet, gymnastics, or modeling. Also, having parents who are overly controlling, or put a lot of emphasis on looks, diet themselves, or criticize their children’s bodies/appearance.

Many girls people with eating disorders also can be depressed or anxious, or have other mental issues such as OCD.  They often trade one compulsion for another - ie: once fat - over eating food for the extreme opposite.

Of course there's also the possibility of a traumatic event like sexual abuse or rape, physical violence, emotional abuse, parents divorce, death of a loved one, serious illness in the family or peer pressure.
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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #10 on: August 13, 2010, 12:46:22 PM »
and RUUUUNNNN!!!!!!!!!!!! RUN AWAY as fast as you freaking can man...

hate to say it, but I gotta agree.
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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #11 on: August 13, 2010, 12:50:52 PM »
Like Tony said, there could be lots of reasons. People with eating disorders are often perfectionists and overachievers. They’re the “good” girls  excel in everything they do, and focus on pleasing others. They may appear to have it all together on the surface, but inside they feel helpless, inadequate, and worthless.  In their eyes, if they’re not perfect, they’re a total failure.  Low self-esteem. Often becomes body dis-morphia (like guys and their "big-orexia").

Then there's the social pressures to be thin including participating in  activities that demand "slenderness", like as ballet, gymnastics, or modeling. Also, having parents who are overly controlling, or put a lot of emphasis on looks, diet themselves, or criticize their children’s bodies/appearance.
Many girls people with eating disorders also can be depressed or anxious, or have other mental issues such as OCD.  They often trade one compulsion for another - ie: once fat - over eating food for the extreme opposite.

Of course there's also the possibility of a traumatic event like sexual abuse or rape, physical violence, emotional abuse, parents divorce, death of a loved one, serious illness in the family or peer pressure.

Now good point right there in bold Princess both these ladies had controlling parents. But again why dont fat girls purge or maybe they do I dont hear of that very much?

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #12 on: August 13, 2010, 12:59:08 PM »
Now good point right there in bold Princess both these ladies had controlling parents. But again why dont fat girls purge or maybe they do I dont hear of that very much?
i hear you here.....my last ex was crazy this way.......her dad was crazy/controling....his nick name around the county was mad max...her mom left her when she was 6 cause her family didnt approve of her having kids.....she always went on these insane diets, and started picking her face.......i ran as far and as fast from her as i could....

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #13 on: August 13, 2010, 01:00:32 PM »
Now good point right there in bold Princess both these ladies had controlling parents. But again why dont fat girls purge or maybe they do I dont hear of that very much?
some ppl use food as a crutch as well ever heard of "comfort food"

If i had to speculate Id say that the skinnier girls are in general more conscious of their looks and that might be why it expresses itself in the way it does...the ones that use it for comfort food may be more concerned with how they feel not based so much on their looks and use food as comfort...

im just speculating though...

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #14 on: August 13, 2010, 01:01:26 PM »
LOL and here I was thinking I was the only one who attracted the crazy ones  ;D

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #15 on: August 13, 2010, 01:03:59 PM »
LOL and here I was thinking I was the only one who attracted the crazy ones  ;D
bro, i feel you on this shit......if a female is from harris county, galveston county, or brazoria county........she is going to be insane.....me and you are on this crazy train together ;D

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #16 on: August 13, 2010, 01:07:01 PM »
bro, i feel you on this shit......if a female is from harris county, galveston county, or brazoria county........she is going to be insane.....me and you are on this crazy train together ;D

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #17 on: August 13, 2010, 01:13:15 PM »
LOL and here I was thinking I was the only one who attracted the crazy ones  ;D
My original thought on this thread seems I have attracted two of these in the past looks like bench, you and I have a target on our heads... ;D

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #18 on: August 13, 2010, 01:35:09 PM »
My original thought on this thread seems I have attracted two of these in the past looks like bench, you and I have a target on our heads... ;D
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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #19 on: August 15, 2010, 05:02:59 PM »
Somehow I just can't seem to feel sorry for an anorexic ::) Rich c**t don't wanna eat? F*** HER! >:(
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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #20 on: August 15, 2010, 11:26:24 PM »
Eating disorders are always an iffy topic. I did a research paper on anorexia a long long time ago and it just depends on a lot of factors like everyone else has said.  I have also noticed that a lot of chunky girls that I have known are perfectly content or actually work towards a weight goal, while normal size girls are the ones who resort to anorexia/bulima/starvation. It's just all in the way they see themselves. Those who suffer from BDD see themselves totally different than the rest of world. When they look in the mirror, all they can see is fat and failure.

Here is an interesting commercial about anorexia.


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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #21 on: August 16, 2010, 05:22:16 AM »
They had an episode of Dr.Phil with a woman that had been battling anorexia for years on end. She weighed about 70 lbs soaking wet. Really sad.

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #22 on: August 16, 2010, 06:05:54 AM »
Eating disorders are always an iffy topic. I did a research paper on anorexia a long long time ago and it just depends on a lot of factors like everyone else has said.  I have also noticed that a lot of chunky girls that I have known are perfectly content or actually work towards a weight goal, while normal size girls are the ones who resort to anorexia/bulima/starvation. It's just all in the way they see themselves. Those who suffer from BDD see themselves totally different than the rest of world. When they look in the mirror, all they can see is fat and failure.

Here is an interesting commercial about anorexia.



now that is a great commerical, why isn't this on TV more. Especially on MTV or something.

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #23 on: August 18, 2010, 04:30:11 AM »
Guys (with domineering mothers) can get eating disorders, too.

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Re: Female Eating Disorders
« Reply #24 on: August 18, 2010, 03:41:02 PM »
Guys (with domineering mothers) can get eating disorders, too.
Do you know someone that this happened to thats interesting.