How important do you think common interests are in a relationship?

[Deicide]

And if you listen to her Biology talk and she listens to your Chemistry talk everything is perfect!

I don't think common interests are THAT important, what is important is to respect the other person.
For example, to bite on your tongue and survive 2 hours in a fucking stage play but on the other hand she goes to cinema with you for any science fiction / action movie.

Yeah, I went to a rather shitty New York Ballet performance, horrible stuff but like I said, she can't even remember the name of the uni I am studying at, let alone what I am studying. I realise it's not important to her but you'd think she would at least take note of the name.

[Deicide]

Some common interest is nice but it's also a good opportunity to get each other interested in other things.

I take interest in her art and design things but...sie kann mit meinen Sachen gar nix anfangen. Naja, ist fraglich, ob Liebe alleine ausreicht.

[ironneck]

Translation: Can a relationship function if the girl doesn't share your love for men in thongs?

exactly this deicide seem to love huge men in thongs

[spinnis]

100 percent.

x1


Everyone is like "I guess opposites attracts right honey?"

and BOOM 4 months later is a done deal.

Well I would say Caring is more importaant that actualt interest, she cares about what you do, asks a few questions once in a while. Doesnt have to SHare the same interests but could at least care.

without that its doomed.

[spinnis]

Yeah, I went to a rather shitty New York Ballet performance, horrible stuff but like I said, she can't even remember the name of the uni I am studying at, let alone what I am studying. I realise it's not important to her but you'd think she would at least take note of the name.

this is the "caring" Im talking about, you dont have tp share interests, but you should Care.

you should pretend forgetting her name.

"when you remember my uni I remember your name"

[Deicide]

this is the "caring" Im talking about, you dont have tp share interests, but you should Care.

you should pretend forgetting her name.

"when you remember my uni I remember your name"

Well, she is quite young so many improvements can be made with time.

[spinnis]

Well, she is quite young so many improvements can be made with time.

just explain what you feel to her. About as easy as that =)

[Deicide]

just explain what you feel to her. About as easy as that =)

Det er samt!

[Parker]

Yeah, I went to a rather shitty New York Ballet performance, horrible stuff but like I said, she can't even remember the name of the uni I am studying at, let alone what I am studying. I realise it's not important to her but you'd think she would at least take note of the name.

She is an idiot, end of story....Time to open a new book, or amend (edit) the chapter.

[wavelength]

She is a idiot, end of story...

 

[Parker]

Yep, "an"...

[Deicide]

No, she is just not a very intellectual person, which is fine. She is more an artsy person but she really has no clue about my interests or studies.

[spinnis]

No, she is just not a very intellectual person, which is fine. She is more an artsy person but she really has no clue about my interests or studies.

Do like this.

Put on her favorite movie, sit down and watch it with her.

thenm our of nowhere GIVE HER THE BIGGEST FUCKING BITCH SLAP you can while switching what you're watching do an olympia contest and then you say "Its time for you to like what I like now bitch".

That will solve it, so will too shocked to even react and her brain will be re-programmed 

[WillGrant]

If she is intersted in my Johnson, I am into her poontang, THAT is common interest.

I thought you were an old gay ass muncher

[Playboy]

Or how important do you think it is for your gf/partner to be interested in what you do?

Opinions?

The more you have in common, the better you'll get along because you share common interests. opposites only attract in mathematics. Not real life with real people.

[Tapeworm]

A hell of a lot less important than character, disposition, and emotional maturity.  Oh, as well as communication and conflict resolution.  Have you two hashed this out?

[wavelength]

No, she is just not a very intellectual person, which is fine. She is more an artsy person but she really has no clue about my interests or studies.

I hope you know what I meant, see Parker's response.

[Princess L]

No, she is just not a very intellectual person, which is fine. She is more an artsy person but she really has no clue about my interests or studies.

Move on.  She sounds very self-absorbed.

[Princess L]

yeah, I think it will annoye me a bit soon if she keeps being that way.

I have way too much control over her, but in some ways I like it.

like if I talk to some girl at the gym and she asks "who was that, how do you know her blablabla", I just say "You really don't want to go there, stop with the jealousy right now". And then she apologize 

 Pretty different than my ex(es) who would NEVER stop arguing about every fucking thing !

That's sad.  Does she come from an abusive background?

[w8m8]

Yeah, I went to a rather shitty New York Ballet performance, horrible stuff but like I said, she can't even remember the name of the uni I am studying at, let alone what I am studying. I realise it's not important to her but you'd think she would at least take note of the name.

I wouldn't mind if my partner thought the NY Ballet performance was shitty ... I'd appreciate he went along even though he wasn't keen on it .. I wouldn't expect him to go anymore .. I wouldn't become dis-interested in it but I'd save it for times I do things without him

I would be fine also if upfront he said no way to the Ballet .. so if she isn't into languages it's fine .. it doesn't negate the fact you love them and shouldn't hinder you in continuing that ..  unless you really need someone to be very similar to you  .. having things that much in common isn't imperative

I would want to accompany him in what he likes to do as well .. if I wasn't liking it I would say so .. and we could just try something else the next time


I would feel quite unimportant and not connected to my partner if he didn't recall where I was studying / working  .. I don't think people have to be totally enthralled with everything about each other .. but in the beginning stages it sure is natural to want to learn all you can and enjoy each other as much as possible .. including trying new things together

Sadly this seems like you are a lot more into her and she isn't really putting much into doing the same for you  ..... it's fine as long as you accept that is how she is .. because I'm betting she may not change much

You say she is young .. is she mature for her age ? .. a lot of girls in their 20's are not really ready for a forever love kinda thing .. they usually are the ones that want "more" when they hit 30 or so

I wish you luck .. it seems like you are quite taken with this girl 

[Fatpanda]

Or how important do you think it is for your gf/partner to be interested in what you do?

Opinions?

what interest is this to a fag like you ?

you should be more interested in getting rid of the beasties infesting your body, getting that lazy eye fixed, hair implants and perhaps a lip reduction.

[CalvinH]

I wonder how many people in this thread that are giving advice are actually in a relationship

[Earl1972]

Still going strong after 10 years .
                                                    I hope this helps

like i said, lets see if you are still together when you are old and gray

E

[Deicide]

It's not meanness on her part, it is generational and cultural. I have to admit, the stuff I do is quite arcane to most people so it's understandable that she might not be very interested. Normally I would agree with you that most girls in their twenties are not ready for that sort of thing but I think in her case, partially cultural, partially based on character, she is. At least, she has convinced me of such and I ran some pretty hard tests in the beginning because I simply don't trust people and it takes a long time for me to trust someone. She does do a lot in her own way. She made a hand made picture frame for a picture of us and she is very caring as a person. The lack of intellectual interests could be a generation thing; not many people her age are interested in much and I think ultimately that is not that important as I have plenty of friends I can shoot the shit with. The ballet was ok but I was there more as a favour to her and she knew it and appreciated it and let me know that. I think I painted the wrong picture here. She is really is a great girl, by far the best girlfriend I ever had. We never fight, which is a blessing and emptionally we have a great rapport as we are quite similar in some ways. As I said I think I might have painted the wrong picture in some way.

I wouldn't mind if my partner thought the NY Ballet performance was shitty ... I'd appreciate he went along even though he wasn't keen on it .. I wouldn't expect him to go anymore .. I wouldn't become dis-interested in it but I'd save it for times I do things without him

I would be fine also if upfront he said no way to the Ballet .. so if she isn't into languages it's fine .. it doesn't negate the fact you love them and shouldn't hinder you in continuing that ..  unless you really need someone to be very similar to you  .. having things that much in common isn't imperative

I would want to accompany him in what he likes to do as well .. if I wasn't liking it I would say so .. and we could just try something else the next time


I would feel quite unimportant and not connected to my partner if he didn't recall where I was studying / working  .. I don't think people have to be totally enthralled with everything about each other .. but in the beginning stages it sure is natural to want to learn all you can and enjoy each other as much as possible .. including trying new things together

Sadly this seems like you are a lot more into her and she isn't really putting much into doing the same for you  ..... it's fine as long as you accept that is how she is .. because I'm betting she may not change much

You say she is young .. is she mature for her age ? .. a lot of girls in their 20's are not really ready for a forever love kinda thing .. they usually are the ones that want "more" when they hit 30 or so

I wish you luck .. it seems like you are quite taken with this girl 

It's not meanness on her part, it is generational and cultural. I have to admit, the stuff I do is quite arcane to most people so it's understandable that she might not be very interested. Normally I would agree with you that most girls in their twenties are not ready for that sort of thing but I think in her case, partially cultural, partially based on character, she is. At least, she has convinced me of such and I ran some pretty hard tests in the beginning because I simply don't trust people and it takes a long time for me to trust someone. She

[Tapeworm]

I wonder how many people in this thread that are giving advice are actually in a relationship

Haha, busted!